Do you hate your father

[Pattayabeerbacon]

Just spoke to my father.

He handed me alcoholic / Gambling genes and long with 0 support.

 

I told him im drying out over here and clearing my liver out and he scolded  me for asking for money.

He agreed to give me 2USD per day.

 

He also told me to get a  job working construction over here in cambodias 38º heat.

 

Meanwhile my thai friend was just handed a 30 million baht building in bangkok to renovate and turn inti a youth hostel.

 

We are not born equall.

 

There are reasons why i chose alcoholism

 

 

 

[marcusarelus]

Never met him and have no idea who he was. 

[faraday]

Nope, never.

 

He's also dead.

 

We have all had bad experiences, been treated unfairly & etc, etc.

 

Find a way to get over it, or live your life in the past full of suffering.

[richard_smith237]

You make your own choices....  yet you are continuing to choose to blame your parents for an inequality outside of their control, should your son blame you for the same things? (rhetorical question). 

 

 

On a personal level - if my child grows up with half the respect I have for my father, then I considered I have done a good job as a parent. The trouble is trying to find the right balance between healthy discipline and being overbearing... 

 

 

 

 

[canuckamuck]

No better man ever lived than my pa. Still hanging in there, although they got him in lockdown. He's re-living the 1950's when he was a cowboy and worked road construction in the Yukon. 

[sanemax]

You blame your Father for your drinking and gambling  ?

Why should he give you any money ?

[totally thaied up]

My Dads almost 80. Did a good job with me. Today he swam a kilometer in the pool and we spent all afternoon at a rock and roll club with Mum reliving the 1950’s. Can’t be much happier at the moment.

[madmen]

Extremely violent alcoholic east European father who beat both me and my mother senseless throughout my whole child hood . I celebrated when the pig died.

[473geo]

My parents were not rich, but offered everything they could that I may have a successful life. Sure when I was young I had to work hard on the farm, nothing was for free except lessons on life.

Both my parents were always there if I needed them, for that I will always be grateful, the rest of my life, good, and, not so good, is down to me.

I like to think my father was a good man, with the best intentions, which occasionally he did not quite meet, but over all did an excellent job providing a sound character base for me to make my own way in life.

He also created family values, a family who when required are there for each other.

Edited April 28, 2019 by 473geo

[Kwasaki]

18 minutes ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

Do you hate your father

Never best friend I ever had, will miss him always.

[BritManToo]

Didn't really get the chance to know him or my mother.

Both my parents were dead by the time I was 21, and as a child I was too busy doing my own stuff to pay them much attention.

[darksidedog]

5 hours ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

 

There are reasons why i chose alcoholism 

There are some who would say choosing to be an alchoholic was a very self centered thing to do, and a sign that you are a loser. However.

Not all of us have super rich parents, and most of us have had to graft at whatever option we had just to keep the ship afloat.

I just got back from Kampot. Nice place, but with super cheap beer, not the best place to dry out.

Your father would probably respect you more, if he could see you facing up to life, dealing with your problems like a man, regardless of the reasons why you have those problems. Life rarely drops massive fortune in our laps, and it is foolish to waste your years waiting for it to happen.

I often thought my father was a skinflint when I was younger, but in retrospect he always stepped in when it was needed, and let me deal with my mess by myself, when it wasn't. I am a better man because of my father.

You only get one life and it is short enough already. Good luck with kicking the grog, and best wishes in moving forward in life.

[Liverpudlian]

OP got my respect for having the gonads to post this here.

[Thaiwrath]

54 minutes ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

Just spoke to my father.

He handed me alcoholic / Gambling genes and long with 0 support.

 

I told him im drying out over here and clearing my liver out and he scolded  me for asking for money.

He agreed to give me 2USD per day.

 

He also told me to get a  job working construction over here in cambodias 38º heat.

 

Meanwhile my thai friend was just handed a 30 million baht building in bangkok to renovate and turn inti a youth hostel.

 

We are not born equall.

 

There are reasons why i chose alcoholism

 

At your young age, I suggest going home and getting a proper job, as you are still young.

Many posters on here, like myself, worked several jobs over the years, in order to be able to reduce our retirement age by a few years.

Too many youngsters, nowadays, like to have everything on a plate, and have the audacity to complain when things go wrong.

If you do as I suggest above, then, and only then, you may get a bit of respect off other people.

Oh, and if genes are handed down, how come my late father didn't pass me down his "teetotal" genes ?

If he had, I would be a very, very, rich man now. 

[BritManToo]

1 minute ago, Thaiwrath said:

At your young age, I suggest going home and getting a proper job, as you are still young.

Many posters on here, like myself, worked several jobs over the years, in order to be able to reduce our retirement age by a few years.

Too many youngsters, nowadays, like to have everything on a plate, and have the audacity to complain when things go wrong.

If you do as I suggest above, then, and only then, you may get a bit of respect off other people.

Oh, and if genes are handed down, how come my late father didn't pass me down his "teetotal" genes ?

If he had, I would be a very, very, rich man now. 

Times have changed, working and saving in the west really doesn't work any more.

You just end up on a treadmill trying to keep your head above water and accomplishing nothing.

I'm all for jumping ship as young as you can get the air fare and trying out something different in the 3rd world.

[mike787]

Some will not want to, or cannot understand this kind of thinking...and some are on a path in life for whatever reason will or feel compelled to continue on until such a time requires change...wish everyone a safe journey and hope it's worth the sacrifice.

[BritManToo]

3 minutes ago, mike787 said:

Some will not want to, or cannot understand this kind of thinking...and some are on a path in life for whatever reason will or feel compelled to continue on until such a time requires change...wish everyone a safe journey and hope it's worth the sacrifice.

Rule 1. Everyone you love is going to betray you, and steal from you.

Personally I would be totally happy with them dying before the betrayal and stealing stage.

Edited April 28, 2019 by BritManToo

[Bang Bang]

“When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much he had learned in seven years.”

Mark Twain

[brokenbone]

yes, he was a bully, may he burn in hell eternal

[Pattayabeerbacon]

1 hour ago, darksidedog said:

There are some who would say choosing to be an alchoholic was a very self centered thing to do, and a sign that you are a loser.

Not all of us have super rich parents, and most of us have had to graft at whatever option we had just to keep the ship afloat.

I just got back from Kampot. Nice place, but with super cheap beer, not the best place to dry out.

Your father would probably respect you more, if he could see you facing up to life, dealing with your problems like a man, regardless of the reasons why you have those problems. Life rarely drops massive fortune in our laps, and it is foolish to waste your years waiting for it to happen.

I often thought my father was a skinflint when I was younger, but in retrospect he always stepped in when it was needed, and let me deal with my mess by myself, when it wasn't. I am a better man because of my father.

You only get one life and it is short enough already. Good luck with kicking the grog, and best wishes in moving forward in life.

Your correct , Kampot is the worst place for drying out.

 

 

[Pattayabeerbacon]

35 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Rule 1. Everyone you love is going to betray you, and steal from you.

Personally I would be totally happy with them dying before the betrayal and stealing stage.

This is so correct, in 2019 we really do need to put our selfs first.

 

 

I told my father i was in thailand last week and He suggested getting a job on a fishing trawler or stacking shelfs in the local supermarket for a few quid.

 

This is the type of father im dealing with, He is clueless to the world outside of his small town in rural australia.

 

 

[BritManToo]

Just now, Pattayabeerbacon said:

This is so correct, in 2019 we really do need to put our selfs first.

I told my father i was in thailand last week and He suggested getting a job on a fishing trawler or stacking shelfs in the local supermarket for a few quid.

This is the type of father im dealing with, He is clueless to the world outside of his small town in rural australia.

You can love someone without following their suggestions.

In fact telling him "I love you dad, but that route's not for me" wouldn't do you any harm at all, and might do you some good in the long term.

[sidjameson]

Britman 2, does that mean you betrayed and cheated on everyone you loved?

[sidjameson]

Pattaybacon man, would you advise any girl to start a relationshop with you? 

[Pattayabeerbacon]

2 minutes ago, sidjameson said:

Pattaybacon man, would you advise any girl to start a relationshop with you? 

 I could not find a girlfriend if i tryed.

 

 

[Pharoticus]

13 minutes ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

 I could not find a girlfriend if i tryed.

 

 

You'd do so well to go back home asap and get professional help.

 

SE Asia is full of deadbeats, bums, dropouts, losers and no-hopers, and life never gets better for them.  

 

Running away from problems doesn't work.

 

Your dad isn't the reason you're an alcoholic, and SE Asia isn't the cure. 

[reenatinnakor]

Alcoholism and gambling are not hereditary. I should know since I'm an addicted gambler and my parents are not. You make your own choices in life, no one else is to blame apart from yourself.

[marcusarelus]

4 minutes ago, reenatinnakor said:

Alcoholism and gambling are not hereditary. I should know since I'm an addicted gambler and my parents are not. You make your own choices in life, no one else is to blame apart from yourself.

Among the behavioral traits parents can pass on to their children is a predisposition toward alcohol abuse and addiction

 

https://www.addictioncenter.com/alcohol/genetics-of-alcoholism/

Edited April 28, 2019 by marcusarelus

[Mavideol]

shouldn't blame your father for your problems, so he was an alcoholic but you don't have to follow that, cheap excuses, there is another guy that said his father was a serial killer, he turned things around and he become a priest... easy to finger point and blame others for our weaknesses. Father have no obligation whatsoever to hand us money, their obligation (because they gave us life) is to raise and feed us to the best of their abilities, the rest it's up to us individuals... do as I say don't do as I do

[Dumbastheycome]

Better than looking to blame keep the energy to concentrate on your current initiative !