Hi there, My 64 yo Thai wife has become totally addicted to her Iphone in recent years. Prior to that she was an extra good cook and was right on the ball when it came to normal household chores. Now every single thing is DIY but she still demands total financial support. She boots up her Iphone around 4am daily and it's still going till at least 9pm before it's shut down. I'm quite prepared to move out and not return but after being married for 22 years it's not easy.

 

My guess is she,s not the only one here or the world over doing similar...I would feel just the same a you...personally I would explain to her your feelings and unless there is a positive outcome I would walk away,too many women here looking for decent men why waste your time with someone who puts more value on her iphone than yourself

How old are you, Mason?

If "45" means 1945, the year you were born then you are too old to start over again with a new wife.

Try to deal with the problem in a reasonable way.

Maybe counselling would help if it came from her peer group.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

7 hours ago, TooPoopedToPop said:

How old are you, Mason?

If "45" means 1945, the year you were born then you are too old to start over again with a new wife.

 

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

You are never too old...why put up with this rubbish at any age

She is 64 and you still expect her to cook for you and to do household chores? Is she your slave? Employ a maid, for crying out loud. 

@ Mason,it only happens because you allow it to happen?

7 hours ago, Gweiloman said:

She is 64 and you still expect her to cook for you and to do household chores? Is she your slave? Employ a maid, for crying out loud. 

Yes she,s his wife and cooking/cleaning are part of the job description....he is her ATM and provides for her probably far better than if she were alone....

41 minutes ago, Mason45 said:

Prior to that she was an extra good cook and was right on the ball when it came to normal household chores.

What a misery you are your wife is entitled to retire as well.

 

Tell her straight up. Either you give me some attention or I will be very unhappy.

 

Give her a week to buck up. If she still will not listen, threaten to get advice on TVForum. That will sort her out.

I think many people - young and old - are addicted to or overuse their mobile devices. If you do move out and get involved with someone else, you'll likely encounter the same problem. I don't know what you mean by 'total financial support', but if she's not working, just negotiate to pay her less and tell her if she's unhappy she can leave, or you will. Either way, you'll have more money to spend on things you do like to do. 

 

Just throw it (the iphone not the wife!) in a bucket of water - problem solved.

I am curious tho what a 64 years old woman can be doing on her phone all day every day?

 

personally I'd walk if I tried to talk about it once or twice and nothing happened (or it got worse)

 

usually when you get to this point then the choice is already made in your head and looking for confirmation/a little push in the right direction

 

doesn't matter how long it's been. it of a sunk cost fallacy

do you prefer leaving after 22 years or after 25 or 30 years.. wasting 3-8 years more?

 

 

 

She's not your wife - you obviously just see her as your maid - maybe that's why she would rather look at her phone all day?

i had no idea the dinosaur convention was in town. my god some of the replies on here. 

8 minutes ago, Phuketshrew said:

Just throw it (the iphone not the wife!) in a bucket of water - problem solved.

First make sure not knifes are anywhere in the house.

 

19 minutes ago, owl sees all said:

Tell her straight up. Either you give me some attention or I will be very unhappy.

 

Give her a week to buck up. If she still will not listen, threaten to get advice on TVForum. That will sort her out.

Yes, perhaps we should do a poll, i would vote "run" or "divorce".

1 hour ago, Mason45 said:

but she still demands total financial support.

Easy! Shut down the money, take control! Money talks, BS walks!

Accidentally break it, I phones are dear, cannot afford another one.

you are paying at the end of the day, what she does is really"up to you"

I have been married to a Thai for 16 years and the attitude that works for me is ..."up to me"!

My gf is far away from perfect. But one of the best things about her is definitely her not phone use.

No fb, line, or any other social media. If she gets more than one or two calls a day she switches it off. And when we go out most of the time she leaves her phone at home. Great girl!

And she is also a great cook. ???? 

7 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

My gf is far away from perfect. But one of the best things about her is definitely her not phone use.

No fb, line, or any other social media. If she gets more than one or two calls a day she switches it off. And when we go out most of the time she leaves her phone at home. Great girl!

And she is also a great cook. ???? 

And "nookie" good also.....

Social media and news addiction are a growing problem for many people around the world but I believe that here in Thailand and in other less developed countries there are factors that make people particularly susceptible.  Consider that until the advent of the internet, and in particular smartphones, people outside major cities had virtually no access to news and opinions that were reliable and not filtered through government censors.  Suddenly, the world of YouTube is there in the palm of their hands and they feel rightly or wrongly that their eyes are open for the first time.  People new to this are easily fooled into believing that anyone and anything in a "clip" must be real and authoritative - try exposing something your wife has just "discovered" as fake news!

 

That's only YouTube - the social media platforms are designed to be addictive and particularly to those who may have married outside their culture and be remote from where they grew up, they offer the lure of easy friendships real or imagined.

 

Addiction of any sort is very destructive both for the addict and those around them.  Practical consequences such as keeping house are no small inconvenience but more damaging is the message that Facebook, YouTube, Twitter et al are much more interesting and important than real life family, friends and even children.  At its most extreme I think it's pretty much tantamount to abandonment.

 

Good luck with sorting it out.

I think my wife is also addicted to the phone, BUT at least she wears

it,talking to her friends while she works,gardening,cleaning,cooking,

that's her job,and she is OK with it,mine is fixing stuff,helping her

where I can,and taking care of finances,and its been like that for

more than 30 years.

Those that post the OP should not expect his wife to do cleaning,

cooking,and looking after him, what do they expect their wives to do

allday ?,it's a partnership both doing what they are best at.

regards Worgeordie

 

of course she needs to clean and cook...i mean why would he be married to him, any love is obviously long gone.....and she probably talks with other potential sponsors....

but the fact is that even a 100 yo falang can find a new girlfriend in thaialand.....it is the easieste place in the world to find a partner i think, perhaps phillipines is easier.....

 

37 minutes ago, Phuketshrew said:

Just throw it (the iphone not the wife!) in a bucket of water - problem solved.

From the iPhone 7 onwards I think they were made water resistant...iPhone 7 could be submerged in up to a meter of water for up to 30 minutes

1 hour ago, Mason45 said:

Thai wife has become totally addicted to her Iphone in recent years.

Absolutely no pun. It is not just Thai wife, ubiquetous. That's the primary reason I like to stay single for the rest of life. My phone rings once every other week for 3 minutes talk with my buddy. I am so puzzled why female specie glue their ears to the phone. 

Just now, Retarded said:

Absolutely no pun. It is not just Thai wife, ubiquetous. That's the primary reason I like to stay single for the rest of life. My phone rings once every other week for 3 minutes talk with my buddy. I am so puzzled why female specie glue their ears to the phone. 

my girlfriend is on her phone too when she has free time....but i am on my laptop all the time, so it is a mutual obsession.....i hate phones, smal screen radiation etc.....but laptop has been my best friend for years now.....i recommend you start playing games, go to learn to cook...it is so easy....i hate when a man cant even wach his clothes, or cook something for himself.....i saw this in my father, totally useless for house chores.........he cant even bake an egg, all he can do is cook frozen sausage....

Fell out of her pram ? ????

 

 

Stop stroking her...

 

Metro's wife is more married with her phone, a old phone that is.

Playing rogue games till the battery deplete.

And still, many charge cables unusable, worn because playing while charging.

Facebook, IG and all sort are unusable, Metro puts a block in the wifi.

 

Still.. she cleans and nurse Metro. And I cook and leave her to play.

In her eyes: her hubby, sitting all day in his chair in his office wriggling with all

sorts of wires and switches and hours of staring to a screen.

A screen with a little blue white durian that is.

 

My last Thai wife, an educated woman told me when we met that she hates when people just chat on phones and ignore eachother, 1 year later when passion and sex dried up she would spend all her time in iPad. The thing is I didn't even mind being ignored, but I noticed that when we interacted she would become more irritated until one day she threw me out of her house. 

 

Now my Chinese wife only uses her phone for work and is up my ears 80% of the time.

 

I don't know which is worse, to be honest.

I simple cannot believe what i am reading on here!

People spouting insidious remarks like Wifes should not cook or clean ..why do you  buy fridges, cookers  and frying pans

 

Frankly its offensive disgusting reprehensible i feel i must report it to the milk monitors????????????