has your life been what you wanted

[Chris.B]

56 minutes ago, Sparktrader said:

Who is Dave Watts?

https://www.google.com/search?q=David+Watts&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8

 

[LaosLover]

Quite the rave up on David Watts on their early 80's live album, One for the Road.

 

 

They were bored, soon to break up again, but that was a barnstormer for an audience who never heard It before.

 

The Jam's version -Did anyone ever really need The Jam?

Edited March 12, 2022 by LaosLover

[jerrymahoney]

So the hands down winner for the most clichés in one post this topic goes to (hush-yo-mouth).

 

However my cliché contribution as the family ne'er-do-well is:

 

If life gives you lemons, give them back.

[1FinickyOne]

8 hours ago, Sparktrader said:

My life gets worse the harder i try

Then maybe you are trying too hard - - learn to relax...

 

ps. I assume David Watts is Allan Watts? 

[cobra]

David Crosby said it best, in the end, time is the final currency,

 

As many have said, it's not what you've done, but what you didn't,

If I'm learning anything, it's better to go out with as little regret as possible,

 

So I'm trying to say yes more than I say no.

(per the Yes Man movie, Jim Carrey)

[bunnydrops]

I am happy with my life. Lots of big mistakes, lots of what if"s. But would have been that way no matter what other decisions I made in the past. There was a great movie about a dying man telling his life story. But the stories didn't make sense because they all hinged on a one decision he made when he was 8.

[daveAustin]

15 hours ago, Sparktrader said:

No its been <deleted>

Ditto. Aside from travelling in last century and earlier fun in Thailand, I’ve come to the conclusion that the physical plane (on a societal level) is an utter shower of shiite. Boomers got a good deal but feel sorry for the young uns with the current state of affairs. At least there’s the dmt realm. 

[thaibeachlovers]

16 hours ago, timendres said:

My life has been virtually nothing that I "wanted". Thank God.

LOL. The only time I ever thought about what I wanted my life to be it was to get married and have a family. Thank the deity that didn't happen. I did get married eventually but was spared the "family" bit.

I know very few children of friends that I'd have liked to parent, and in my twenties/ thirties I'd have been a terrible father, so mine would have turned out rotten too.

 

As for my real life, Occasional years of fantastic adventure and wonder interspersed with many more years of mind destroying tyranny from employers and the wrong partner. Sadly the good times are gone and there's nowhere to move on to.

 

I'm with the poster that says his life is <deleted>.

[BritManToo]

Just now, thaibeachlovers said:

As for my real life, Occasional years of fantastic adventure and wonder interspersed with many more years of mind destroying tyranny from employers and the wrong partner. Sadly the good times are gone and there's nowhere to move on to.

Hey, but you admit you had a few fantastic years .........

Most of my pals in the UK had ZERO fun years, and almost ZERO sex.

 

Dude, you're a winner in the game of life, I doubt anyone enjoys the tail end of their life much.

[thaibeachlovers]

1 hour ago, cobra said:

David Crosby said it best, in the end, time is the final currency,

 

As many have said, it's not what you've done, but what you didn't,

If I'm learning anything, it's better to go out with as little regret as possible,

 

So I'm trying to say yes more than I say no.

(per the Yes Man movie, Jim Carrey)

Agree, but unfortunately my regrets can't be fixed.

However, I don't think that it's possible to not make mistakes if one doesn't risk regret.

[thaibeachlovers]

1 minute ago, BritManToo said:

Hey, but you admit you had a few fantastic years .........

Most of my pals in the UK had ZERO fun years, and almost ZERO sex.

 

Dude, you're a winner in the game of life, I doubt anyone enjoys the tail end of their life much.

I would have been a winner if I'd not have had my cancer treated and passed over in my early 60s. Unfortunately it was too young to accept death, but it's been a downward spiral since.

 

Don't get me wrong; I do appreciate all the great years I had, but I've had a <deleted> life since for longer that I had a great one. I might be happier if I could actually remember the good times, but old age has robbed me of my memories as well.

[thaibeachlovers]

13 hours ago, BritManToo said:

I never really had any aims/wants/ambitions, and just drifted through life.

Sure I did the 'famous people' bit in London from age 23-45, it wasn't that exciting.

What was exciting was my 'Asian hooker' period from age 52-66 where I drifted aimlessly around Thailand/Cambodia/Philippines banging a random assortment of 30 year old females.

 

But even that's become dull now.

Woah dude- bored with bonking!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That's a tragedy. You must have long time covid.

Take it from one that had a sex life destroyed by prostate cancer that you should do it just because you can.

 

We had similar lives apart from the long marriage and children to the wrong woman. I didn't get married early or have children, and I did escape the wrong partner even if I did have to start from scratch at 25.

I don't remember ever having a life plan ( beyond getting married and having a family ). I started as a farm hand after school, but joined up because a guy I worked with had been in the service before and it sounded more adventurous. I didn't even know what I wanted to do when I signed up, and just lucky I got offered an apprenticeship.

I decided to go to Antarctica just because I knew a guy from skiing that had been there. Never even thought about it before. Pretty much the same with every life decision I made, or perhaps didn't make but allowed to happen. I guess I just went with the flow.

The only times I ever made a decision about what to do with my life I regretted it.

[tonray]

1975 was a very good year....it's been downhill since then

[OneMoreFarang]

Yes

Since I am about 25 my hobby is my job. I like to play with computers and get paid for it. So in a way I didn't work much in my whole life.

And I experienced when I was young that money is nice but not everything. I had a bet with a friend and I ended up having a red Porsche cabriole for a weekend. It was nice and fun and lots of people looked at me and that car. But life didn't really change. My conclusion was that I don't want to work hard to make money to buy expensive things which don't really make my life much better.

And a couple of years later I made holiday in Thailand and I liked it a lot. And then I decided why should I live 11 month in the cold with ugly women when instead I can live all the time in Thailand with many beautiful girls.

 

Some time ago I read this story (there are many versions all over the internet). I really like this story.

The Mexican Fisherman

One day, a businessman on vacation was at the pier of a small coastal Mexican village. He looked out and noticed a fisherman rowing his boat to shore in the afternoon sun. The fisherman docked his boat and hopped out, resting his fishing pole on the side.

Inside the small boat were several large yellowfin tuna. The businessman complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them. The Mexican replied, “only a little while.”

The businessman then asked why he didn’t stay out longer and catch more fish?

The Mexican said he had enough to support his family’s immediate needs. The businessman then asked, “But what do you do with the rest of your time?”

The Mexican fisherman said, “I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take a nice afternoon nap with my wife, Maria, stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos. I have a full and busy life, señor.”

The businessman scoffed, “I am an American Investment Banker with a PhD in business management, and I could help you. You should spend more time fishing in deeper waters, and with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat. With the money you make from the bigger boat, you could buy several boats; eventually, you would have a fleet of fishing boats.

“Instead of selling your catches of fish to a middleman, you would sell directly to the processor and eventually own your own production plant for canned food. You would control the product, processing, and distribution of fresh fish to thousands of people. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then LA, and eventually New York City where you would run your expanding enterprise.”

The Mexican fisherman asked, “But señor, how long will this all take?” To which the businessman replied, “15-20 years.”

“But what then, señor?”

The businessman laughed and said, “That’s the best part! When the time is right you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich. You would make millions.”

“Millions, señor? Then what?”

The businessman said, “Then you would retire. Move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take a siesta with your wife, stroll to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos.”

[Jingthing]

No.

Didn't plan to live past 30.

[jaideedave]

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

Hey, but you admit you had a few fantastic years .........

Most of my pals in the UK had ZERO fun years, and almost ZERO sex.

 

Dude, you're a winner in the game of life, I doubt anyone enjoys the tail end of their life much.

A childhood buddy of mine probably had the same sort of life as your pals in the UK. We were both just about 18, he got a job at a GM car plant and retired there 40 years later.I joined the Navy and never looked back. I got out after 6 years and it opened a lot of doors. I got to work overseas and travel the world and am now pleasantly retired here in LOS. I doubt I'd change anything if I could..

[ThailandRyan]

2 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Agree, but unfortunately my regrets can't be fixed.

However, I don't think that it's possible to not make mistakes if one doesn't risk regret.

So as the messed up Tattoo shows you do have issues....

[Sparktrader]

1 hour ago, Jingthing said:

No.

Didn't plan to live past 30.

Bit grim

[Sparktrader]

My main regret not buying btc at 3c

[Nickelbeer]

No, but I got better than I deserved. I made every mistake possible but still retired in Thailand with a decent income.

[Jingthing]

9 minutes ago, Sparktrader said:

Bit grim

More like realistic.

 

I was a gay man in San Francisco in the 80's.

[vinci]

once you are married you have no life and it will never be the way you wanted, your life belong to your children

[Sparktrader]

Beers 10,000

Women 550

 

2/2 fun stuff

 

Zero on big achievements

[OneMoreFarang]

2 minutes ago, Sparktrader said:

Beers 10,000

Women 550

 

2/2 fun stuff

 

Zero on big achievements

How old are you? 20? What are you planning for the rest of your life? ???? 

[Sparktrader]

3 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

How old are you? 20? What are you planning for the rest of your life? ???? 

550 women by age 20? Come on

[OneMoreFarang]

1 hour ago, Sparktrader said:

550 women by age 20? Come on

That's less than 1 per day for two years. In Thailand that is almost reasonable. ???? 

I didn't count at that time but in my first weeks in Thailand I tried my best to have at least one per day.

And truth to be told it's better that I don't remember all those details.

[ThailandRyan]

Just now, OneMoreFarang said:

That's less than 1 per day for two years. In Thailand that is almost reasonable. ???? 

I didn't count at that time but in my first weeks in Thailand I tried my best to have at least one per day.

And truth to be told it's better that I don't remember all those details.

So no threesomes or foursomes like a buddy of mine did in Phuket.  He had a large duffle bag he had filled with over 1000 condoms and his goal was to use them all in a year......

[Sparktrader]

6 minutes ago, ThailandRyan said:

So no threesomes or foursomes like a buddy of mine did in Phuket.  He had a large duffle bag he had filled with over 1000 condoms and his goal was to use them all in a year......

Is he alive?

[rott]

Done most of what I wanted and many things that never occurred to me. Could have been better if I'd had some common sense and a bit more nous. Could have been worse if I hadn't been prepared to work so hard and had such a good upbringing. 

Spent 18 of the last 25 years in Thailand and DV will enjoy a good few more yet. 

[Sparktrader]

6 minutes ago, rott said:

Done most of what I wanted and many things that never occurred to me. Could have been better if I'd had some common sense and a bit more nous. Could have been worse if I hadn't been prepared to work so hard and had such a good upbringing. 

Spent 18 of the last 25 years in Thailand and DV will enjoy a good few more yet. 

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