I just left my girlfriend and escaped because she did not give me free time

[Pedrogaz]

You sound as though you are really mature.

[Pouatchee]

12 hours ago, Hummin said:

Christ sake, how old are you? 

 

Call her and tell her it is over! 

 

Some of the topics here is deleted construction and click baits, but I know this happens irl. Some people should never be allowed a passport!

Beautifully said. My thoughts exactly. This guy should take care of his problems with friends or by himself rather than coming on here and telling his love life to anyone who will listen. Makes me realize what a duffuss I was for clicking this link. Much better nonsense to read elsewhere.

[Doctor Tom]

OP, you are a coward.  She is obviously insecure, probably to do with something in her history and you could have dealt with it, by talking it through and setting boundaries.  Instead, you put up with it, said nothing , used her and then left her for dead , sneaking out like a thief, without an explanation. Then you told the whole world on a public forum, what you should have been telling her!  At least have the common decency to meet with her and explain,. face to  face, like a real man, not an immature teenager. 

[Jenkins9039]

14 hours ago, Jan0 said:

I just left the aircon on and packed my important stuff and left the apartment while she was sleeping

I trust you did the gentlemanly thing and paid her room fees for a couple of months, and utility bills... and didn't just leave.

[murraynz]

13 hours ago, vinci said:

be a man and tell her you want to break up, things are not working out and wish her the best.

Exactly.. You need to grow up.. 

Get some guts,learn how to be honest and 'up front'.. You sound like a 12 year old.. 

[BritManToo]

4 minutes ago, Doctor Tom said:

OP, you are a coward.  She is obviously insecure, probably to do with something in her history and you could have dealt with it, by talking it through and setting boundaries.  Instead, you put up with it, said nothing , used her and then left her for dead , sneaking out like a thief, without an explanation. Then you told the whole world on a public forum, what you should have been telling her!  At least have the common decency to meet with her and explain,. face to  face, like a real man, not an immature teenager. 

Always impressed with the weakness of many western men.

You owe a girlfriend nothing, that's why they're gfs and not a wife.

No need to give her any explanations, or pay her any money (unless she's a prostitute, then you should pay her for the night).

 

Many women are very unpleasant, if not dangerous on your exit.

Best not to give them any chance to cause a scene, make false accusations, or even commit acts of violence upon you.

 

Moving without prior informing or a forwarding address is always the best way to go IMHO.

[Doctor Tom]

5 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Always impressed with the weakness of many western men.

You owe a girlfriend nothing, that's why they're gfs and not a wife.

No need to give her any explanations, or pay her any money (unless she's a prostitute, then you should pay her for the night).

 

Many women are very unpleasant, if not dangerous on your exit.

Best not to give them any chance to cause a scene, make false accusations, or even commit acts of violence upon you.

 

Moving without prior informing or a forwarding address is always the best way to go IMHO.

yes, well..............

[Wagga]

What a gutless wimp, and on a public forum at that.

She is better off without a pr!ck like you. And like someone has already stated, best keep a sharp eye out for any of her relatives or friends 

[spidermike007]

Congrats. When I first got with my Thai woman, it took alot of adjustment for her to start behaving like a mature woman. She was also very clingy, possessive and jealous. It just did not work for me. Never been my style. I explained to her, that I would not tolerate that kind of childish nonsense, and that if she wanted the relationship to work, she would need to figure out a way to modify her behavior. She did. She was amazing. Granted this will likely only work with a younger woman, as the older ones are far more set in their ways, less open minded, and less capable of change and improvement. The younger ones are more open minded, and less rigid. 

 

We now enjoy a very independent relationship, even though we live together. She hangs out with her friends most of the day. I hang out with mine whenever I want. I am able to enjoy alot of solo time, and need that. She takes trips and so do I, and we are sometimes apart for days at a time. We both love our independence, and have been together for many years now. It is a wonderful lifestyle, something NONE of my friends enjoy. 

 

It started by being assertive, laying down some ground rules, and sticking with what works for me. Early on in our relationship my wife and I discussed the wonders and value of independence. She did not understand at first, as it is inherent within the nature of most Thais to be overly possessive, jealous and clingy. I told her I would much rather be dead, than live that life. She got it. And we both adore the independence we have to this day.

Some accept the nonsense. Some fight it and carve out their dream reality. It is possible. For the more docile guys, this kind of thing would never work, as they would allow the juvenile jealousy and possessive lifestyle of the woman to dominate their lives. No thanks. Would rather be single, than tolerate this kind of thing. 

[spidermike007]

2 minutes ago, Wagga said:

What a gutless wimp, and on a public forum at that.

She is better off without a pr!ck like you. And like someone has already stated, best keep a sharp eye out for any of her relatives or friends 

No, it appears you are the gutless one. We determine the lives we want to live, and then we set about to create that reality. Guys like you just get dominated and abused. 

[hellohello123]

Doesn't this website require you to be older than 12 ???

[PJ71]

1 hour ago, ThailandRyan said:

He risks being murdered by a family member for leaving her

hahahahahahahahahaha

[Wagga]

8 minutes ago, spidermike007 said:

No, it appears you are the gutless one. We determine the lives we want to live, and then we set about to create that reality. Guys like you just get dominated and abused. 

Well ya got me there. I have absolutely no idea what you are talking about. So you think it is not gutless to just run out on her with no explanation. That is truly a strange way to think  How in my post did you get the idea about being dominated and abused. I was stating (IMO) what a gutless wimp this guy is for not saying anything to the lady and then going on a public forum to whinge about his lack of courage and just running out on her with no explanation. I think you need to put the bottle down for awhile and reread my post

[Henryford]

15 hours ago, BritManToo said:

 

Don't tell her anything, don't read her messages, block her phone number.

When it's over best to end all communications.

To be fair just tell her you have left and why. Then block the phone.

[spidermike007]

3 minutes ago, Wagga said:

Well ya got me there. I have absolutely no idea what you are talking about. So you think it is not gutless to just run out on her with no explanation. That is truly a strange way to think  How in my post did you get the idea about being dominated and abused. I was stating (IMO) what a gutless wimp this guy is for not saying anything to the lady and then going on a public forum to whinge about his lack of courage and just running out on her with no explanation. I think you need to put the bottle down for awhile and reread my post

While I would certainly have offered her an explanation, and given her some modest cash to get re-settled, he did not feel the need to. Perhaps he felt that she would be easier to escape from, without giving her notice. I could understand why he felt the pressure. No man should have to live like that. We make choices in life. Alot of guys just let woman run them over. Some come from the West, and assume they have to be the same SIMP they were back there. Here, it is not required, nor do most Asian women respect a submissive man. 

[Cake Monster]

Just how old are you ?

Grow a pair, and deal with the situation like a Man.

[SomchaiCNX]

Check with a Doctor you need help.

No money, no job yet no free time? How do manage to stay in THailand, what kind of visa do I need to copy you. I'm planning my escape too.

 

[richard_smith237]

10 minutes ago, SomchaiCNX said:

Check with a Doctor you need help.

No money, no job yet no free time? How do manage to stay in THailand, what kind of visa do I need to copy you. I'm planning my escape too.

 

You'd first need reading comprehension... Op is in Philippines... 

[richard_smith237]

None of this post surprises me... 

 

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

Always impressed with the weakness of many western men.

You owe a girlfriend nothing, that's why they're gfs and not a wife.

No need to give her any explanations, or pay her any money (unless she's a prostitute, then you should pay her for the night).

The Op hasn’t described an evil character deserving of horrible treatment. He described a girlfriend who is overly clingy and perhaps desperate. 

 

Showing some basic curtesy and respect wouldn’t go amiss - there is nothing weak about being respectful.

 

A the very least the Op would give his Ex the curtesy of closure, walking out like that is spineless. 

 

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

Many women are very unpleasant, if not dangerous on your exit.

Best not to give them any chance to cause a scene, make false accusations, or even commit acts of violence upon you.

Depends on your choice of partner in the first place.

You carry your misogynistic bitterness into every thread about females. Given your positing history and obvious disrespectful attitudes towards women as nothing more than a commodity it would be a surprise that any female beyond the most financially desperate are pleasant to you at all beyond ‘professional curtesy’... 

 

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

Moving without prior informing or a forwarding address is always the best way to go IMHO.

What was that about weakness again?

 

You think doing a runner shows strength ?....  It highlights utter cowardice. 

 

 

[SomchaiCNX]

32 minutes ago, richard_smith237 said:

You'd first need reading comprehension... Op is in Philippines... 

Sorry, I thought he was comparing a Thai girl with a Filipino. I  did not realize it was in this subforum. THank you for pointing this out. Still advize to see a doctor ????

[BritManToo]

44 minutes ago, richard_smith237 said:

Depends on your choice of partner in the first place.

You carry your misogynistic bitterness into every thread about females. Given your positing history and obvious disrespectful attitudes towards women as nothing more than a commodity it would be a surprise that any female beyond the most financially desperate are pleasant to you at all beyond ‘professional curtesy’... 

I'm not sure how 'curtesy' definition: holding a wife's  inherited property after her death, came into this thread?

 

But I did like your suggestion that another poster needs better reading comprehension skills.

[richard_smith237]

10 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

I'm not sure how 'curtesy' definition: holding a wife's  inherited property after her death, came into this thread?

 

But I did like your suggestion that another poster needs better reading comprehension skills.

Autocorrect is perhaps becoming somewhat Freudian !!!... 

 

Courtesy, of course...

 

Now I need better proof reading skills before pulling the trigger !

[Troy Tempest]

Ditch The Bitch!.....Ain't it Da Truth Man?

[DBath]

You’re a great catch, aren’t you? 4x job changes per year? Not even the guts to ‘face up’ and tell her it’s over, but instead slink off like some dog with your tail tucked between your legs? 

 

Your GF doesn’t know how lucky she is…TO BE RID OF YOU.

[DBath]

4 hours ago, Tarteso said:

Why you left the air con on?

My guess is he did so to cover the sound of his slinking away. 

[Kalasin Jo]

16 hours ago, Denim said:

The problem is all inside your head", she said to me
"The answer is easy if you take it logically
I'd like to help you in your struggle to be free
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover"
She said, "It's really not my habit to intrude
Furthermore, I hope my meaning won't be lost or misconstrued
But I'll repeat myself at the risk of being crude
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover"

You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free
Ooh, slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
You just listen to me
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free

She said, "It grieves me so to see you in such pain
I wish there was something I could do to make you smile again"
I said, "I appreciate that and would you please explain
About the fifty ways?"
She said, "Why don't we both just sleep on it tonight?
And I believe in the morning you'll begin to see the light"
And then she kissed me and I realized she probably was right
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover

You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Oh, you hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free
Slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
You just listen to me
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free

 great song, so true.

[xtrnuno41]

How many men are divorced or have broke down relations and dont have a clue what so ever?

It just happens and women dont tell.

So is this guy wrong then in doing like this? Nope, it is just a way.

In all my life and relations, i found out women have or create hidden agendas.

And it doesnt matter how good you are or were and did. 

[JayBird]

What you did was cruel and undignified.

 

You need to talk to your partner, explain what is wrong.  Tell them what needs to be done or you will need to end the relationship.

 

If she can not understand and accommodate your needs, then you end the relationship as politely as you can.

 

 

[Mark Nothing]

We are in Thailand where loss of face is to be avoided. Rejection by the sucker who is supposed to supply a dowry, house, car can cause irrational behavior.

 

I have tried it both ways.  No explanation is far superior.

[hotchilli]

20 hours ago, Jan0 said:

so I decided not to let that happen to me because I really dont want to have a baby as I would have no life and no money and no proper job(I have a new job aroud 4 times a year or more)

Sounds more like you're not committed to a relationship anyway.

You don't want a family,  you want every penny for yourself and can't hold down a job?

Everything is about you... 

Live out of your suitcase, travel around doing part-time work and forget having a g/f.