Have You Turned into Your Dad?

[GinBoy2]

I was talking to some of the kids at work, and I happened to say, enjoy your hair while you have it. It may not last, look at your Dad.

 

It got me thinking, how many of us now look in the mirror, and think "My God I've turned into my Dad"

 

My Dad, as I suspect for most on here, is long dead, but sure as sh**t every morning I look in that mirror and I see him staring right back at me

[nikmar]

Im bald - my Ol' Fella was not!! Milkman of the time - unknown!!

 

Sometimes i catch myself repeating my Dad's go to phrases to my own son. "Not too much sugar - do you know what they call it - the White Death!!!!!!"

[Sticky Rice Balls]

I turned into my mother, who raised me.......

 

 

[JimTripper]

One thing I won’t inherit from my father is a cue ball. Family has hair right up to the end on my fathers side.

 

I did inherit some strange mannerisms though, like using clothes pins to secure bags of food and chips or close curtains. I look back and see my father in those small strange things.

[GarryP]

Externally, no, with the exception of a big schneb. Internally, yes (all the same health positives and negatives). 

[GammaGlobulin]

HEAVY, Man!

 

HEAVY.

 

This is a sore subject with me.

And, hair is not the issue.

 

This is a topic I never enjoy thinking about.

And, here it is!

 

Just too heavy for me, at the moment.

I am trying to enjoy a nice day.

 

 

 

Edited July 18, 2023 by GammaGlobulin

[Lacessit]

No. My father worked all his life in a job he hated, I loved the work I did. In retirement, his life was barren, mine is not.

 

He did pass on some useful knowledge, such as avoiding debt like the plague. He used to say if you look after any equipment you own, it will look after you.

 

I suppose he did pass on a gambling gene. He used to punt on long shots with the horses, I do it with stocks and shares.

[bignok]

Exciting topic. No.

[connda]

Have You Turned into Your Dad?

Pretty much.   Look up "Entropy."

Edited July 18, 2023 by connda

[transam]

I hope I have..........????

[peter zwart]

As two drops of water. 1 big difference, bank account. He did much better.

[BritManToo]

2 hours ago, GinBoy2 said:

My Dad, as I suspect for most on here, is long dead, but sure as sh**t every morning I look in that mirror and I see him staring right back at me

I look nothing like my dad, or anyone in my mom or dad's family.

My eyes are a different colour, hair a different colour, skin much whiter, he went bald and I didn't. But my daughter looks like my mom and grandma.

Edited July 18, 2023 by BritManToo

[Doctor Tom]

No, not anywhere near.  My Dad was a damaged man following WW2, where he served in UK Bomber Command. He was quiet, accepting, hated any kind of confrontation, almost a weak shadow of a man and he was never able to reach his undoubted potential, at work,  or as a parent and husband. Many of that generation had their character irretrievably damaged by their experiences and were never able to overcome the trauma.  

[4MyEgo]

2 hours ago, GinBoy2 said:

It got me thinking, how many of us now look in the mirror, and think "My God I've turned into my Dad"

Dad was European, so from the looks of things I can say I did take from his hanhom genes so to speak, but I don't look like him, now that would be scary.

 

He started balding early 50's while I still have good hair into my 60's.

 

I swore that I wouldn't go down his path, i.e. alcoholism, although I do like to drink in moderation. Women on the side as he did, occasionally without a doubt, yes, I'm only human ????

 

He was unemployed at 55 after being dismissed for never being around at work, mainly at the pub during working hours or smelling of alcohol when at work. He received unemployment benefits till he reached the old pension age and then lived off of that for a few more year, no assets, pitiful existence in my opinion after raising, 4 kids, if you could call it that.

 

I retired at 55, with enough to last me till I'm 101 and raising 5 kids, the latter not easy, but taught them the important stuff, right from wrong, etc, etc, but a totally different generation with different outlook of life, that said it does help when you have your finances in place to enjoy your life in your retirement years. As for the kids, well, no hand outs, they have to work as I did, save as I did, invest as I did, and when I'm gone, well, mum can sort it out with them, but she's pretty much like me, no spoiling them, got to learn to work to survive.

 

 

[BritManToo]

37 minutes ago, 4MyEgo said:

DaI retired at 55, with enough to last me till I'm 101 and raising 5 kids, the latter not easy, but taught them the important stuff, right from wrong, etc, etc, but a totally different generation with different outlook of life, that said it does help when you have your finances in place to enjoy your life in your retirement years. As for the kids, well, no hand outs, they have to work as I did, save as I did, invest as I did, and when I'm gone, well, mum can sort it o

Got to say, us having money in our old age is more about when we were born (1950-1960) than anything else.

We were born into a golden age never seen before and probably never to be seen again.

[Tropicalevo]

3 hours ago, Sticky Rice Balls said:

I turned into my mother, who raised me.......

 

 

Ditto.

Dad did a runner when I was a wee mite (and no regrets on my part).

[BritManToo]

3 minutes ago, Tropicalevo said:

Ditto.

Dad did a runner when I was a wee mite (and no regrets on my part).

That's what your mom told you.

The reality is she drove him away and never let him have contact with you again.

 

Seen it many times, same as happened to me.

[Tropicalevo]

14 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

That's what your mom told you.

The reality is she drove him away and never let him have contact with you again.

 

Seen it many times, same as happened to me.

That is not what happened, but I am sure that you think that you know best.

[JimTripper]

4 hours ago, BritManToo said:

That's what your mom told you.

The reality is she drove him away and never let him have contact with you again.

 

Seen it many times, same as happened to me.

Lots of guys leave because the mother is over demanding. They can’t take it anymore and bail. You just never hear the other side of the story. Typically communication is cut off and the mother does not want the kids and the dad in touch. If asked they won’t talk about it or refuse to discuss what happened.

 

the mother ends up still controlling the kid and father by restricting access and phone calls.

 

sometimes they will reconnect in later life and it’s like, huh, never thought of that, he had real reasons but I always thought he was just some awful dude for leaving for no reason.

Edited July 18, 2023 by JimTripper

[still kicking]

never knew my dad 

[chickenslegs]

Hereditary baldness is passed on X chromosome, so it's more dominant on the mother's side of the family. Look at your maternal grandfather for the best indication.

 

My dad was lean and tough as nails. He was also a great story-teller and very popular with the ladies, though I'm pretty sure it was never more than flirtation. I miss him.

 

Unfortunately, the only attribute I inherited from him is my thick head of hair.   

[AgMech Cowboy]

I'm the youngest of 5 men (boys once for a number of years). We all have the same nose and eyes, but I'm the only one who really looks like Dad. Scary sometimes... when I look in the mirror.

[Stocky]

15 hours ago, still kicking said:

never knew my dad 

Likewise, he died when I was eight, so only vague memories. 

[BritManToo]

19 hours ago, Tropicalevo said:

That is not what happened, but I am sure that you think that you know best.

You may be right, but if you only ever heard what your mom told you, you're probably wrong.

[xylophone]

16 hours ago, still kicking said:

never knew my dad 

Me neither, nor my birth mother, although I did look her up when I was around 40, but she disowned me again a bit later on over something very petty on the phone.

 

I was conceived via a randy taxi driver getting his leg over an equally randy 19-year-old and what research I could do on my birth father (this randy taxi driver) I found out that he was a pretty good musician, loved red wine and also the women, so we have some things in common!

 

Just a few months ago I was able to get a photograph of him, and I can't see any of my facial features his photograph – – maybe the wrong taxi driver!!!!!!

[shackleton]

No 

[Skeptic7]

Nope but my bro kinda has in being ornery❗

Edited July 19, 2023 by Skeptic7

[Gandtee]

I never had the chance. During part of the war I was evacuated. Then he was in the Royal Navy for five years. Then I went in the army for my National Service and he died aged forty one in 1953. His last words to me were "Look after your mum." I suppose I'm more like my mother. I brought her here to Thailand to live out her days and she died here aged eighty eight. I've outlived her so maybe I'm more like her as regards longevity, so far.????

[sirineou]

Not only have I turned int my Dad , I catch myself doing that little smug laugh he used to make. that I hated so much. 

He has passed away a few years now, and If I had one wish it would be to have one more day with him so I can apologies for being such an A-hole to him in my teens and  twenties. 

[transam]

Just now, sirineou said:

Not only have I turned int my Dad , I catch myself doing that little smug laugh he used to make. that I hated so much. 

He has passed away a few years now, and If I had one wish it would be to have one more day with him so I can apologies for being such an A-hole to him in my teens and  twenties. 

At times, I do my dads near silent whistle, it always reminds me of him, so a blessing in disguise...????