I sat at a bar and watched hundreds of old farang  guys with Thai ladies .

 

I sat and stared at one guy ,late 60's tubby wearing a collared shirt ,shorts and sandals ,grey balding hair .

I could hear him shouting to another farang something about his ex wife 

 

I watched and studied him ,where are his family back home?

I thought ,wonder what his I presume ex wife be doing now?

 

he was gyrating with the young Thai lady laughing as she bent over dancing in front of him.

 

I started to think of this man's past as I sat staring at him , I wonder what his life was like 20 years ago back in farang land ,where his ex wife is ? His kids he had 

 

Then  he went to the bathroom in the bar .

 

I followed him ,he said hello mate in his British accent

 

I immediately followed with a "where is your ex wife?

Did you leave your kids?

 

The shocked look on his face as he stood washing his hands ,his lower lip was quivering stunned as a mullet 

The strangest thing he said which doesn't make sense was 

"Oh I didn't see this coming !" did she send you ?

 

I again repeated the question, " you left your ex wife didn't you "

You left your kids ! 

 

 

Then I walked out of  the bar ,he was still inside I presume quivering hands under the tap bent over looking stunned ,  stunned as a mullet that a complete stranger would say such a thing to him !!

 

Hard to describe the shocked look on his face in the face as he just went into a shocked look ,it went from a happy drunk *hello mate" to a look like this emoji 😳😳 the little thing I remember was after he was shocked his hands were not rubbing together under the tap ,he just stopped looking sideways at me bent over the sink shocked , funniest thing I ever saw 

 

My regret is not going back to my seat in the bar to see if he left that bathroom with tears in his eyes !

 

And I asked you the sad question too

If you live in Thailand Philippines Vietnam Cambodia etc now .....where is your REAL family ?

 

What happened? Did you leave them, did you have a life family kids years ago ? , such sadness 

 

What happened between you and your then wife to split up ?

 

Have you ever made contact with her again ?

 

Do your children who obviously would be if adult age ever forgive you ?

Do they still make contact knowing you left them and the mother behind ?

 

Does she know where you are nowadays 

 

 

 

so it was YOU that I bumped into the other day then!!

 

bob.

I murdered  all my ex  wives and the kids, then ate  them, thanks for being there for me so I could get it  off  my chest last night.

My only regret was not staying in the bar to see what he was like after he left the bathroom.

 

Did he leave with sadness or tears ?

Did he go back to play dancing with the Thai bar worker?

George you are judging others ,you need to look at yourself first ,

what other people do is none of your business ,unless it effects

you , 

I think the guy was more worried about you following him into the bathroom,

whats going on here , move away.

 

The guy was obviously having a great time without his ex wife ,who would judge him

 

regards Worgeordie

3 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

My only regret was not staying in the bar to see what he was like after he left the bathroom.

 

Did he leave with sadness or tears ?

Did he go back to play dancing with the Thai bar worker?

Where is you ex wife? 

Stick to the mopping job, story telling isn't a calling

Look up the word, restraint, and it's meaning. I'm not sure of your age but asking someone a question like that, which isn't anyone's business at all, shows the lack of restraint associated with a teenager.For one thing, anyone's past is no one's business whatsoever. That's something friends talk about among themselves after they get to know one another enough to trust them and their intentions. For two, asking a stranger that question could get you decked, especially if it's a sore subject and he's drunk. Lastly, what bar were you at that has hundreds of farangs in it? Most bars wouldn't accommodate more than one hundred and maybe up to 250 total, including workers and locals. Been a long time since I've been in a rock bar so they might have grown by now. Asking people you don't know on a forum is one thing, but in person is totally different.

6 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Look up the word, restraint, and it's meaning. I'm not sure of your age but asking someone a question like that, which isn't anyone's business at all, shows the lack of restraint associated with a teenager.For one thing, anyone's past is no one's business whatsoever. That's something friends talk about among themselves after they get to know one another enough to trust them and their intentions. For two, asking a stranger that question could get you decked, especially if it's a sore subject and he's drunk. Lastly, what bar were you at that has hundreds of farangs in it? Most bars wouldn't accommodate more than one hundred and maybe up to 250 total, including workers and locals. Been a long time since I've been in a rock bar so they might have grown by now. Asking people you don't know on a forum is one thing, but in person is totally different.

When I said hundreds I meant other bars too ,wasn't hundreds but it looked a lot of farang in opposite bars too.

 

I actually felt good though when I left and jumped on a motorbike taxi to leave ,I felt like I had achieved something, but I will never know because I didn't see him leave the bathroom 

 

It's hard to explain but I felt like it was me that made a impact on someone's life ,it's almost I feel responsible, I could really see it "hurt" him as he left his hands under the tap as he looked at me stunned ,it felt good for me 

5 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Look up the word, restraint, and it's meaning. I'm not sure of your age but asking someone a question like that, which isn't anyone's business at all, shows the lack of restraint associated with a teenager.For one thing, anyone's past is no one's business whatsoever. That's something friends talk about among themselves after they get to know one another enough to trust them and their intentions. For two, asking a stranger that question could get you decked, especially if it's a sore subject and he's drunk. Lastly, what bar were you at that has hundreds of farangs in it? Most bars wouldn't accommodate more than one hundred and maybe up to 250 total, including workers and locals. Been a long time since I've been in a rock bar so they might have grown by now. Asking people you don't know on a forum is one thing, but in person is totally different.

I think he made the story up

Just now, georgegeorgia said:

When I said hundreds I meant other bars too ,wasn't hundreds but it looked a lot of farang in opposite bars too.

 

I actually felt good though when I left and jumped on a motorbike taxi to leave ,I felt like I had achieved something, but I will never know because I didn't see him leave the bathroom 

What did you achieve? 

1 minute ago, georgegeorgia said:

When I said hundreds I meant other bars too ,wasn't hundreds but it looked a lot of farang in opposite bars too.

 

I actually felt good though when I left and jumped on a motorbike taxi to leave ,I felt like I had achieved something, but I will never know because I didn't see him leave the bathroom 

Aren't you in Australia?

Better hook into those Muay thai lessons shorty, then try it in real life, ideally in my booza! 

2 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Aren't you in Australia?

Lala land.

4 minutes ago, Dolf said:

What did you achieve? 

I felt , I don't know exactly but a sense of making a difference I guess ,like almost creating a impact on someone', to see their "hurt" side or is the saying to touch a raw nerve ?

The fact he just stood there hands under the flowing tap... head turned to the left looking at me ,not moving , it was like ....I made this person think !

 

1 minute ago, georgegeorgia said:

I felt , I don't know exactly but a sense of making a difference I guess ,like almost creating a impact on someone', to see their "hurt" side or is the saying to touch a raw nerve ?

The fact he just stood there hands under the flowing tap head turned to the left looking at me ,not moving 

You touch a raw nerve to the wrong person and you might end up waking up in an emergency room.

41 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

I watched and studied him ,where are his family back home?

I thought ,wonder what his I presume ex wife be doing now?

You tink to mut. 

"Mind your own business, you f'ing nosey pillock" would have been the only reply necessary from him.

 

Some people receive a smack in the mouth for such and still wonder to themselves "what the hell did I do to deserve that?", then carry on judging others.

I've known several people whose move to Thailand happened after their home country wives had died.  I'm pretty sure none of them would have appreciated your unnecessary intrusion into their lives.

I would love to hear of some storiesd on here from guys who left it all behind .

Last year I was in a bar in Soi Bukhao I actually bought the bar owner 2 or 3 expensive drinks to hear him tell me how his 2 adult sons( in Belgium) had not spoken to him since 2017 when at the age of 57 he divorced and came to Pattaya.

 

One of his sons was a police officer in Belgium and he spoke highly of him until I made him sad to talk about him ,"you must be proud of him " I said to his smiling shaking head ,yes he said half sad half happy face

 

"Sad he thinks your a failure of a Dad " I said back to his facial expressions turning to sadness , "he will probably never talk to you again " I said to him to watching  his sadness , "you must of hurt him a lot as a Dad "

 

I then paid the bar tab his drinks included and he actually thanked me still tears in his eyes as I walked off into the distance looking back he was still sitting at the table staring into his wine glass , obviously reminiscing 😅

You follow a total stranger into the men's room and while they are urinating and without knowing their marital and family history, ask where his ex-wife and kids are? That is next level creepy, dude. I think I would call the cops if that ever happened to me.

 

12 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

I felt , I don't know exactly but a sense of making a difference I guess ,like almost creating a impact on someone', to see their "hurt" side or is the saying to touch a raw nerve ?

The fact he just stood there hands under the flowing tap... head turned to the left looking at me ,not moving , it was like ....I made this person think !

 

I don't know what childhood scar you are carrying. Neglect possibly. I recommend sorting yourself out first before trying to have an "impact" on others.

51 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

I sat at a bar and watched hundreds of old farang  guys with Thai ladies .

 

I sat and stared at one guy ,late 60's tubby wearing a collared shirt ,shorts and sandals ,grey balding hair .

I could hear him shouting to another farang something about his ex wife 

 

I watched and studied him ,where are his family back home?

I thought ,wonder what his I presume ex wife be doing now?

 

he was gyrating with the young Thai lady laughing as she bent over dancing in front of him.

 

I started to think of this man's past as I sat staring at him , I wonder what his life was like 20 years ago back in farang land ,where his ex wife is ? His kids he had 

 

Then  he went to the bathroom in the bar .

 

I followed him ,he said hello mate in his British accent

 

I immediately followed with a "where is your ex wife?

Did you leave your kids?

 

The shocked look on his face as he stood washing his hands ,his lower lip was quivering stunned as a mullet 

The strangest thing he said which doesn't make sense was 

"Oh I didn't see this coming !" did she send you ?

 

I again repeated the question, " you left your ex wife didn't you "

You left your kids ! 

 

 

Then I walked out of  the bar ,he was still inside I presume quivering hands under the tap bent over looking stunned ,  stunned as a mullet that a complete stranger would say such a thing to him !!

 

Hard to describe the shocked look on his face in the face as he just went into a shocked look ,it went from a happy drunk *hello mate" to a look like this emoji 😳😳 the little thing I remember was after he was shocked his hands were not rubbing together under the tap ,he just stopped looking sideways at me bent over the sink shocked , funniest thing I ever saw 

 

My regret is not going back to my seat in the bar to see if he left that bathroom with tears in his eyes !

 

And I asked you the sad question too

If you live in Thailand Philippines Vietnam Cambodia etc now .....where is your REAL family ?

 

What happened? Did you leave them, did you have a life family kids years ago ? , such sadness 

 

What happened between you and your then wife to split up ?

 

Have you ever made contact with her again ?

 

Do your children who obviously would be if adult age ever forgive you ?

Do they still make contact knowing you left them and the mother behind ?

 

Does she know where you are nowadays 

 

 

 

Hope you do the same to someone who will teach you a lesson to mind your own business. Tell us all about the hospital experience afterwards.

16 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

I felt , I don't know exactly but a sense of making a difference I guess ,like almost creating a impact on someone', to see their "hurt" side or is the saying to touch a raw nerve ?

The fact he just stood there hands under the flowing tap... head turned to the left looking at me ,not moving , it was like ....I made this person think !

 

How old was this guy?

54 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

I sat at a bar and watched hundreds of old farang  guys with Thai ladies

Doubt there is a bar in Thailand with hundreds of foreign guys with Thai ladies.

 

The story is a bit far fetched.

5 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

I would love to hear of some storiesd on here from guys who left it all behind .

Last year I was in a bar in Soi Bukhao I actually bought the bar owner 2 or 3 expensive drinks to hear him tell me how his 2 adult sons( in Belgium) had not spoken to him since 2017 when at the age of 57 he divorced and came to Pattaya.

 

One of his sons was a police officer in Belgium and he spoke highly of him until I made him sad to talk about him ,"you must be proud of him " I said to his smiling shaking head ,yes he said half sad half happy face

 

"Sad he thinks your a failure of a Dad " I said back to his facial expressions turning to sadness , "he will probably never talk to you again " I said to him to watch his sadness 

Imagine you were put on trial, who in your life, from workplace to "friends" if you have any, even from this forum do you think would stand for your defence?

come on GG, you can be better than this!

2 minutes ago, Dolf said:

How old was this guy?

The tubby guy late 60's I would say but maybe looked older 

He dressed with a shirt with a collar but not tucked in 

1 minute ago, Dolf said:

How old was this guy?

Crikey we,ve got good cop/bad cop - or is it bum n bummer? 

22 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

I felt , I don't know exactly but a sense of making a difference I guess ,like almost creating a impact on someone', to see their "hurt" side or is the saying to touch a raw nerve ?

The fact he just stood there hands under the flowing tap... head turned to the left looking at me ,not moving , it was like ....I made this person think !

 

Pure fantasy 

1 minute ago, Olmate said:

Crikey we,ve got good cop/bad cop - or is it bum n bummer? 

Whatever floats your boat big boy