Are You A Sexpat Or Do You Ride The Backwards Morality Train?

[RSD1]

10 minutes ago, Yagoda said:

Im a gentleman. Gentlemen dont post pictures

The way you describe yourself, describe your appearance, and the stories you post about what you like to get up to, I must admit, gentleman isn't exactly the first word that came to mind.  So please excuse me for my ignorance. 😂

[Yagoda]

4 minutes ago, RSD1 said:

The way you describe yourself, describe your appearance, and the stories you post about what you like to get up to, I must admit, gentleman isn't exactly the first word that came to mind.  So please excuse me for my ignorance. 😂

Gentleman cant be repulsively ugly and fat? What a bigot!

[RSD1]

24 minutes ago, Yagoda said:

Gentleman cant be repulsively ugly and fat? What a bigot!

You can be anything you want. You can even be a nutter who votes for Trump. Doesn't matter one bit to me.

 

In fact, this whole topic is about not judging people or attaching stereotypical names based on what people do on their own to be happy. So I would never refer to you as repulsively ugly, or fat, or anything else along those lines for that matter. But the image that you paint of yourself doesn't quite resonate with the word gentleman in my opinion, based purely upon your own depictions of yourself of course.
 

So it was simply an observation and not a bigot laden judgment. But "gentleman" it is if that makes you happy. I am even be pleased to refer to you as "boss", "sir", "chief", "captain, or "squire" if you prefer any one or all of those titles instead. 
 

Edited October 13 by RSD1

[Yagoda]

16 minutes ago, RSD1 said:

You can be anything you want. You can even be a nutter who votes for Trump. Doesn't matter one bit to me. In fact, this whole topic is about not judging people or attaching stereotypical names based on what people do on their own to be happy. So I would never refer to you as repulsively ugly, or fat, or anything else for that matter. But the image that you paint of yourself doesn't quite resonate with the word gentleman, based purely upon your own depictions of yourself of course. So it was simply an observation and not a bigot laden judgment. But "gentleman" it is if that makes you happy. I am even be pleased to refer to you as "boss", "sir", "chief", "captain, or "squire" if you prefer any one or all of those titles instead. 
 

I am a nutter who voted for Trump. I proudly wear the title, Scumbag, as you proudly wear your bigot one. After all, those who oppose Trump are essentially bigots.

[RSD1]

Just now, Yagoda said:

I am a nutter who voted for Trump. I proudly wear the title, Scumbag, as you proudly wear your bigot one. After all, those who oppose Trump are essentially bigots.

Is it possible to be a scumbag and a gentleman all at the same time? I didn't know that. I'm only asking because you have been so enlightening lately and I've been learning so much from you in these recent moments. 
 

But I'm not a bigot at all. Not in any sense of the word. You are also name calling now which isn't very becoming.

[Walker88]

Wow, so much virtue signaling in one thread! No doubt there’s a special place somewhere up there in a floating celestial country club ready to welcome all those pure-of-mind-and-body types visiting this thread.

 

And who knew there were so many guys who came to Thailand as single men just for the temples! Pay attention TAT; you’ve got your draw. Wats and wats of them!

 

As a lad back home, I did a good bit of dallying with the fairer sex. At university, working as a lifeguard at a large ocean beach in uni summers, and then when I entered the workforce, I certainly had more than my fair share of lovelies. I guess that is largely okay, save for among those who subscribe to certain superstitions about a final accounting for one’s life and dallying when one cannot pretend it’s love and intended on procreation. Since they were ‘my people’ and on home turf, I guess that’s respectable, like a Thai politician with a mia noi and a uni student on the side. Of course, there were a few visiting foreign students, too, whom I experienced back home…did I commit an infraction with the Danes and Israelis and French? If so, mea culpa. I didn’t have a rule book. I even went across racial lines. Bad boy!

 

On my visits to Thailand, I guess I brought my complete lack of sanctimonious Kristian morality with me, perhaps painfully unaware that one accumulates bonus points in life for abstaining from pleasures of the flesh. I guess I’ll have no points to cash in when I take my last breath. Woe is me! What will I do in the box for all eternity!

 

Now my experience---which seems to differ markedly from many here---is that it is as easy to experience carnal joy in Thailand as it was back home. Who knew people might be the same worldwide! Who knew people far and wide like to dally and release oxytocin!

 

Where I’m still puzzled is the difference between women who will accompany me back to my condo, or me to theirs, on a first date, vs women who expect to receive compensation for doing the same. Horny is okay, but capitalism is bad? The difference is probably too subtle for this obtuse guy. And is 2nd or 3rd date better and acceptable? Since “love” is chemical based and largely undefinable, who’s to say when we dally out of love, and thus pass the border into the zone of moral rectitude, vs instinctual rutting? Experts, self-proclaimed or otherwise, please chime in!!!!!

 

Now I’ve not settled down with a Thai woman, despite the fact I have now chosen to live here and operate a business. If I ever decide to settle down, I really could not care less what the woman’s past is….brain surgeon, 7-11 cashier, or bargirl. I’m not a virgin, so it would be hypocritical of me to expect she should be. Anyway, I remember when I dallied with a virgin or two back when I first began to play the game of life, and it wasn’t exactly breathtaking and romantically memorable. Also, I know full well I was born lucky, and never walked in her flip flops. I cannot judge what she has done nor why, I can only take a chance on what she will be, and how she will behave from the point we commit solely to each other. I really don’t think her past has any bearing on how she will behave in the future. Marriages of all types are hurt by infidelity, no matter her profession...lawyer or demimondaine. I’m also confident enough in my own masculinity that I wouldn’t worry if some previous partner provided her more pleasure. I would just do my job in the best way I know how, and ideally, we’ll both enjoy.

 

Anyway, you do you...or is that onanism?

[Yagoda]

8 minutes ago, RSD1 said:

Is it possible to be a scumbag and a gentleman all at the same time? I didn't know that. I'm only asking because you have been so enlightening lately and I've been learning so much from you in these recent moments. 
 

But I'm not a bigot at all. Not in any sense of the word. You are also name calling now which isn't very becoming.

Got it. Nutter to a Trump supporter. Bigot to a bigot. Name calling.

[Hummin]

25 minutes ago, RSD1 said:

. You are also name calling now which isn't very becoming.

That was the right man to call out name calling 😂

 

[Yagoda]

16 minutes ago, Hummin said:

That was the right man to call out name calling 😂

 

OK, you too, tag you are it.

[4MyEgo]

On 10/12/2024 at 3:18 PM, Andrew65 said:

I lived from 1998-2018 in Thailand, and for probably the first 10 years I would say I was a sexpat. Certainly for the last 5 years of living there I didn't really bother with intimate relationships at all. This has carried on in the 6 years that I've now been back in the UK, I haven't even chatted anyone up!🙂  (60 in January, sex-drive almost totally diminished).

 

I have been here for over a decade, and not wanting to be one to be bragging, am in my 60's, with a big sex drive, believe it or not, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday of last week, Friday, Saturday,  Sunday this week.

 

The above is rare, very rare actually, as I am usually a once or twice a week kind of guy, but the latest chick, is a nymph, is much younger than me, and told me today after a good serve this morning, no more for one week now please 😍

 

My advice, get back here and increase your Zink intake, we don't have much time left here so enjoy it while it lasts, to think I won't be able to get a boner in my 70's as other have advised, worries the cr-ap out of me, it's basically all I live for, that and a few other things of course, like eating and sleeping. 

[save the frogs]

25 minutes ago, 4MyEgo said:

, to think I won't be able to get a boner in my 70's as other have advised, worries the cr-ap out of me,

that's one reason it might be a good idea to try to develop a deep emotional bond with another human being.

even as the sex drive wanes, you have someone in your life that is not just there for sex.

even if you have a high sex drive, sex is only 1 hour a day at most. that still leaves 23 hours - 8 hours of sleep to fill up.

 

[FriscoKid]

On 10/12/2024 at 2:05 PM, Andrew65 said:

even if they never get their leg over for their entire stay? (I spent 2 weeks in Thailand in March and never went with anyone).

So what did you come for? The temples and the pad Thai?

[FriscoKid]

1 hour ago, save the frogs said:

sex is only 1 hour a day

And the most important hour of the day. Maybe 2 or 3 hours of the day in fact. 

[FriscoKid]

3 hours ago, Yagoda said:

I proudly wear the title, Scumbag

Since when? I thought you were a gentleman? 

[FriscoKid]

9 hours ago, Kinok Farang said:

can you repeat that please?

I usually charge the second time, but I can give you a discount. 

[save the frogs]

2 hours ago, FriscoKid said:

And the most important hour of the day. Maybe 2 or 3 hours of the day in fact. 

look whos back.

it's bob smith's sidekick

[Stargeezr]

I am like a lot of posters on this forum, a senior, who escapes the cold Winter of their homeland. In my case Canada.

I like the tropical weather of Thailand, as well as a lot of the food, the banking system is okay

compared to Central America countries, and even mexico.

Big plus is the cost of accomadation is much better.

[FriscoKid]

4 hours ago, save the frogs said:

look whos back.

it's bob smith's sidekick

How is bob? I recall you and him were close mates. Is he still frequenting Soi 6?

[FriscoKid]

1 hour ago, Stargeezr said:

I am like a lot of posters on this forum, a senior, who escapes the cold Winter of their homeland. In my case Canada.

I like the tropical weather of Thailand, as well as a lot of the food, the banking system is okay

compared to Central America countries, and even mexico.

Big plus is the cost of accomadation is much better.

Looks like you caught the wrong discussion thread. Seems you were meaning to post that message in a discussion about what you like about Thailand. This topic is strictly for sexpats and sex tourists. 😉

[SAFETY FIRST]

3 minutes ago, FriscoKid said:

How is bob? I recall you and him were close mates. Is he still frequenting Soi 6?

I recently read a comment from another member he's often seen soi 6/1.

 

[thaibeachlovers]

On 10/12/2024 at 5:48 PM, BritManToo said:

While we're at it .........

The numbers of posters slamming pensioners who live in Pattaya, small rooms and spending all their time in bars ...... why? Seems like a decent retirement to me!

I'd be like a sandboy in a very large pile of sand to be able to live in a small room in Pattaya, as long as it had an ensuite and AC. Unfortunately the bureaucrats in home location decided not to give me the pension in LOS and that meant I couldn't afford medical insurance, and that meant I had to go back to home country.

Even without monging, Thailand was a better place to live for me, by far.

Home country is only good for those with loadsacash.

[1FinickyOne]

13 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

no shirt people are mostly older guys

I guess that might be true in Pattaya but not what I have seen throughout Northern/Central Thailand... 

[Yagoda]

9 hours ago, FriscoKid said:

Since when? I thought you were a gentleman? 

Since I voted for Trump and I was told that all Trump voters are scumbags. Wear it proudly

[madone]

On 10/13/2024 at 10:26 AM, SAFETY FIRST said:

I get your point and I reckon you guys are the majority on this forum, there's a lot of people here who like the kinky stuff, anal etc. I'm not into that. 

 

I see quite a few guys talking about shagging sex workers and I'm sure they'd love the experience spending time with a porn star. 

I read a comment from one guy recently said he had a regular who comes to his house, gets a massage and shag for a 1000 baht. I couldn't be intimate with her, I'd be thinking about the guy she blew and screwed an hour earlier.

 

I like to have my gf, permanent partner. We experiment but I don't ask her to do something weird or kinky that we saw watching a porn movie together. 

 

 

thanks fer sharin'

[madone]

5 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

spending all their time in bars

they are not spending all their time in bars, the rest of the time they are hungover and courting dementia.

i can't count the number of old alcoholics I've watched die here over 30 years

[madone]

20 hours ago, GammaGlobulin said:

 

 

I have never noticed that Thai people are promiscuous, however.

 

 

 

Re promiscuity,  i suspect the issue is that they just don't show an interest in you.

[Rampant Rabbit]

On 10/12/2024 at 6:10 AM, scubascuba3 said:

More and more riffraff will come to Thailand, they love those with criminal records. Personally i would deport tattoo and no shirt people

Don't forget anyone with piercings in their nose/lips/eyebrows or who can't string a sentence together without including "like" every 2 seconds.

[Rampant Rabbit]

7 minutes ago, madone said:

they are not spending all their time in bars, the rest of the time they are hungover and courting dementia.

i can't count the number of old alcoholics I've watched die here over 30 years

wouldnt have the patience to watch dying  people for 30 yrs myself

[madone]

2 minutes ago, Rampant Rabbit said:

wouldnt have the patience to watch dying  people for 30 yrs myself

I have managed to fit in other activities

 

Edited October 14 by madone

[FriscoKid]

5 hours ago, Yagoda said:

Since I voted for Trump and I was told that all Trump voters are scumbags. Wear it proudly

I don't see anyone calling you a scumbag in this topic. I only see you referring to yourself as one.