Should I Tell My Friend That His Girlfriend Is Trans?

[bradiston]

7 minutes ago, novacova said:

Well then good for him, he can go marry his guy. I had no idea that the law had changed, if it did.

It was quite recent here, like this year. I think it was an MFP initiative. Not sure when the UK legislation dates from.

[arick]

Yes tell him and then you'll find out your friend already knows

[andyman57]

Who cares his life if he's happy 😁 

[Freddy42OZ]

3 hours ago, oxo1947 said:

 

Well he can't marry her can he..... doesn't matter what surgery she/he has had---The ID card will still show male.

Gay marriage is now legal in Thailand.  

[john donson]

trans post-op or still with the extra appendix hanging out

[crazykopite]

He she has had full surgery so what is the concern, as the saying goes let sleeping dogs lie don't get involved let them both enjoy life .

[john donson]

5 minutes ago, crazykopite said:

He she has had full surgery so what is the concern, as the saying goes let sleeping dogs lie don't get involved let them both enjoy life .

 

hope he/she does not get PROSTATE cancer later in life...

 

or very moody from the high estrogen

[connda]

Another Thailand expert with sub-100 posts.  These types of posts read like they are created with a template. 

[bendejo]

darling, if you really care

don't touch me there

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0w-HpBPJC1I

 

[Kinok Farang]

Not a bad attempt for first time trolling.

keep at it,you have potential.

[Briggsy]

@JK-Trilly How sure are you that 'John' is a born male?

[simon43]

Ask your 'friend' if his 'GF' likes nerdy hobbies, like ham radio(!), tinkering with computers and old car engines - that sort of thing.  Sure sign that she is a he.

 

Or just ask if 'she' has a large di ck.....

[GinBoy2]

I 'thought' the definition of Trans was a person still maintaining their birth anatomy, but 'identifying" as the opposite sex 

 

But the whole OP is yet another BS probably AI generated clickbate story, which it appears we've all fell for

[cjinchiangrai]

He already knows. Don't worry about it.

[Peabody]

4 hours ago, oxo1947 said:

Well he can't marry her can he..... doesn't matter what surgery she/he has had---The ID card will still show male.

Not until January.  🙂

[oxo1947]

9 minutes ago, Peabody said:

Not until January. 

 

Maybe Peabody---I hope so but who knows, you have a new government in that feels that the Cannabis laws where to liberal & want to wind them back.

 

We live in interesting times............

[Thingamabob]

Say nothing. None of your business. That's assuming this is not fake news...

Edited 3 hours ago by Thingamabob

[Ebumbu]

If you say anything, you could get blamed as being a home wrecker. Let the buyer beware! 

 

Otherwise, clandestinely get a copy of the ID card. Need proof, not speculation. 

[JK-Trilly]

I just saw some photos of the two of them together in Phuket on the beach in swimsuits on my friend's Instagram. 
 

I'm sure of two things now. His partner is definitely a post-op lady boy. And I'm still sure that he doesn't know that she is a he as I said in my first post. 

[UWEB]

7 hours ago, JK-Trilly said:

I’ve got a bit of a situation that I’m hoping to get some advice on, especially from others who’ve navigated life and friendships in Thailand.

 

About 8 months back, I met a fellow expat here in Bangkok—let’s call him “John.” We get on really well; he’s got a good sense of humor, we have a lot in common, and over time, we’ve become good friends. We started meeting up regularly for drinks, sometimes for a meal, sharing stories about our experiences in Thailand, and just talking about life in general.

 

After we’d known each other for a while, John opened up a bit about his personal life and mentioned that he’s in a serious relationship. He seemed really smitten with his girlfriend, saying he’s planning to marry her and even start a family someday. Naturally, he wanted me to meet her. I was looking forward to it, as he seemed genuinely happy, and it’s always nice to meet the people who mean the most to your friends.

 

So, we all met up for dinner. His girlfriend, whom I’ll call “Lek,” was charming, confident, and seemed like a genuinely lovely person. It was clear they were really into each other. But as the night went on, I started to realize that Lek might be a ladyboy. She had a couple of subtle mannerisms, and through our conversation, there were a few strong cues that raised my suspicions.

 

From everything I observed, it seemed likely that Lek has had gender-affirming surgery and presents now fully as a woman. But I’m quite sure that John doesn’t realize this. He talked about having children with her and seemed so confident about their plans for a family, which makes me certain he has no idea.

 

So here’s the dilemma. I’m torn—do I say something, or do I keep quiet?

 

On the one hand, it feels like it’s none of my business. Their relationship is their own, and everyone deserves the chance to handle these things in their own way. Maybe Lek plans to tell him when she’s ready. Outing someone is a serious breach of trust, and it could end our friendship if he feels like I’m meddling in his personal life. Plus, there’s always the chance I could be wrong, and I’d hate to create an issue where there isn’t one. But I'm 99% sure she was a he. 

 

On the other hand, I worry about the future he’s envisioning. John’s thinking about marriage, and he’s openly planning for kids, which makes me think he’s not aware of her situation. If that’s the case, then isn’t it better for him to know sooner rather than later? If he finds out much later on, after he’s committed to her for life, it might be a much bigger blow. He may end up resenting Lek or feeling blindsided, which could lead to a messy and painful breakup down the line.

 

But again, maybe it’s up to Lek to disclose that information, and I’d be crossing a line by interfering. I wouldn’t want to ruin what seems to be a good thing for him right now, especially if they’re genuinely happy together.

 

So, expat friends, what would you do in my position? Do you think I should tell John what I know, or should I stay out of it? I’d love to hear from anyone who has been through something similar, or just anyone who has an outside perspective.

 

Thanks in advance for any advice or insight. It’s a tough one, and I’m really struggling with deciding what’s the right thing to do.

And what happens with your Friendship if you tell him she is a Ladyboy, but at the end she isn't?

[LALes]

Is that you, Big Mike?

[ModdaPunk]

Tell him.

He might be about to get f*cked over.

He should know by now.

If he doesn't, his fake pussy ain't being straight with him.

If you care about him, tell him.

I hope your assessment is correct though :D

 

[Keeps]

Ask your mate whether he has ever seen he/she stand up to take a wizz or asked to borrow his razor in the morning...

[Nick Carter icp]

Should I Tell My Friend That His Girlfriend Is Trans?

 

I know a Trans guy who a Thai girlfriend called Yinn and then he claims she turned out to be a man 

[harryviking]

🤣🤣🤣Of course he should know! Or it may end up in a disaster down the road.....

Best advice is to tell the "Girlfriend" to inform your friend "Herself"! Let "her" have the first chance. 

Edited 2 hours ago by harryviking

[couchpotato]

11 minutes ago, Nick Carter icp said:

Should I Tell My Friend That His Girlfriend Is Trans?

 

I know a Trans guy who a Thai girlfriend called Yinn and then he claims she turned out to be a man 

Not one of your finest posts Nick

[phetphet]

If he is talking about having children with her, he obviously doesn't know. Unless they are planning adoption.  

If it was me, I would want to know.  Maybe he has no idea. Or maybe he doesn't care, but if he is 100% heterosexual, he probably wouldn't like being led up the garden path by this partner. And that is the problem here, the possible deception if she hasn't told him.

 

I knew a guy that was seeing a ladyboy here while on holiday, and had no idea. Once he returned home,  he invited her to go visit him in his country, and asked for a copy of her passport to aid getting her there.

 

Once he received said copy he  said "There must be some mistake, this is a man's passport. I need your one."  This led to some shock on his part when the light finally went on in his head. Needless to say, communication went dead from his end after that.