Which is your priority, searching for pleasure or meaning?

[sidjameson]

One school of thought is that a life full of pleasures will never produce contentment. Man needs meaning.

What do the righteous posters of AN have to say?

Me, I prioritise meaning but fall back into the pleasures all too often.

[KannikaP]

It's Christmas Season FFS. Leave this until next year please.

 

[Lacessit]

Shelter, food and reproduction is the meaning of life. Pleasure is a bonus.

[KannikaP]

  On 12/26/2024 at 11:41 AM, Lacessit said:

Shelter, food and reproduction is the meaning of life. Pleasure is a bonus.

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Does one not get pleasure from good food, a nice place to live and, of course, trying to reproduce?

For me personally, in that order. 555

[RSD1]

Three meals a day 

Three dumps a day 

Three nuts a day 

Three chocolates a day 

Three joints a day

 

DONE.

 

Dont overthink it. 

[gearbox]

  On 12/26/2024 at 11:20 AM, sidjameson said:

One school of thought is that a life full of pleasures will never produce contentment. Man needs meaning.

What do the righteous posters of AN have to say?

Me, I prioritise meaning but fall back into the pleasures all too often.

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Most of the low class posting here is after pleasure, but many can't afford it. Myself, life needs to be difficult and uncomfortable to get sense of achievement. There is plenty of time to rest 2m under the ground.

[Will B Good]

  On 12/26/2024 at 11:20 AM, sidjameson said:

Man needs meaning........

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...and I mean to get as much pleasure as i can.

[OneMoreFarang]

I think if we are grown up humans, without too much mental damage, then we adjust our behavior constantly.

I like pleasure, I like meaning. I don't plan to do this a few hours or days, and then the other one.

I just do what feels right. And that's how I end up with meaning and pleasure.

[phetphet]

I just want an easy, stress free, comfortable life...but I have to go to Immigration next month.

[atpeace]

  On 12/26/2024 at 11:41 AM, Lacessit said:

Shelter, food and reproduction is the meaning of life. Pleasure is a bonus.

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I have shelter and an abundance of food.  At this point in my life both take no effort.   Pleasure is also not too difficult to find.  Pleasure seeking is fun but after a while ( decades for me 🙂 ) it became less enticing. 

 

I'm now doing things that aren't pleasurable in the moment because I anticipate they will provide long term satisfaction and more meaning.  I think I'm on the right path for this phase of my life but only time will tell...

[London Lowf]

  On 12/26/2024 at 1:52 PM, phetphet said:

I just want an easy, stress free, comfortable life...but I have to go to Immigration next month.

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Same here. I dread my twice yearly extensions more than going to the dentist, although they are both invariably quite painless and only take a couple of hours out of my life at most.

 

I look around me when I am in the UK and most people seem to get “meaning” from work, personal relationships and raising a family – I’m now retired and have never had the personality to make personal sacrifices and therefore I have no family and no circle of friends.

Up until a few years ago, I used to get “meaning” from competitive sport and exercise but am no longer fit or strong enough for that, although I do try to avoid a sedentary lifestyle – I am at am age where my main priority is keeping on top of my numerous minor ailments – quote: “Wake up every day, that would be a start!”

I am financially secure for the rest of my life and my overwhelming goal these days is avoiding the cold – I despise it and it screws up my body!  I still get immense enjoyment from casual sex with much younger women, albeit only once a week these days, and am more than happy to pay for it – spending six months each year in Thailand during the UK cold seasons is the perfect for me!

I’m hoping to come back as a cat!

 

[EVENKEEL]

A few cold beers, a joint, a cigar while sitting on the beach. A dip in the water between beers. All this gives me pleasure while contemplating life.

[scubascuba3]

Meaning? 555

[Hummin]

  On 12/26/2024 at 11:43 AM, KannikaP said:

Does one not get pleasure from good food, a nice place to live and, of course, trying to reproduce?

For me personally, in that order. 555

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Never had the need to reproduce. The world doesnt deserve a Mini Me. 

 

Meaning? Well nothing gives true meaning in this world, but trying to take care of the people and animals I care for and love, do give some pleasure and meaning. 

 

Clean food, air, water and exercise give meaning, as well learning something I didn't know or couldn't do. 

 

 

[KannikaP]

  On 12/26/2024 at 2:21 PM, London Lowf said:

Same here. I dread my twice yearly extensions more than going to the dentist

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Oh, I am so happy I only go to IO once a year, but get my teeth cleaned twice. I am SOOO lucky.

[bkk6060]

I think if people had a career with meaning and family as a priority for 30 + years, they have the right to seek pleasure now if the wish.  That is what I do.

[nikmar]

Not sure about meaning - I read a bit if that counts - but I concentrate on maintaining a healthy work / play balance. 

[Andre0720]

Oh, search for meaning... I once tried that.....

[parallelman]

Balance in all things

[Will B Good]

  On 12/27/2024 at 5:10 AM, parallelman said:

Balance in all things

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Moderation in all things....including moderation........OW

[klauskunkel]

  On 12/26/2024 at 11:20 AM, sidjameson said:

Man needs meaning.

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That's a trope propagated by religious types and politicians.

[BritManToo]

Life has no meaning!

[blaze master]

Life's a bitch. Then you marry one. Then you die. 

[Ralf001]

  On 12/26/2024 at 11:56 AM, RSD1 said:

Three meals a day 

Three dumps a day 

Three nuts a day 

Three chocolates a day 

Three joints a day

 

DONE.

 

Dont overthink it. 

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Thre dumps a day.... struth, Iam one a day and like clock work... 5.00am every morning.

 

I have to go easy on the booze and  smoko so I do not sleep in, keeps the rental happy !

 

[RSD1]

  On 12/27/2024 at 6:35 AM, Ralf001 said:

Thre dumps a day.... struth, Iam one a day and like clock work... 5.00am every morning.

 

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I wish it was only one a day. It used to be. But now the skies the limit!

 

It's only a problem when it becomes every other day or only two or three times a week. That's not healthy keeping all that digested waste and toxins in your body for so long. It increases the risk of intestinal cancers.

[fajita]

In the old scriptures there is a division in mainly three parts:

-  The most superficial, the fysical part, food, sex

-  Then the pleasures of the mind: music, art, beauty

-  And the last one is going beyond mind, meditation, religiousness

[Ralf001]

  On 12/27/2024 at 6:40 AM, RSD1 said:

I wish it was only one a day. It used to be. But now the skies the limit!

 

It's only a problem when it becomes every other day or only two or three times a week. That's not healthy keeping all that digested waste and toxins in your body for so long. It increases the risk of intestinal cancers.

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To be fair, I eat one meal a day.

[RSD1]

  On 12/27/2024 at 7:26 AM, Ralf001 said:

 

To be fair, I eat one meal a day.

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Really? Any other snacking throughout the day? A lot of beer? If I ate like you, I would be losing weight very fast. And not in a good way.

[Ralf001]

  On 12/27/2024 at 7:27 AM, RSD1 said:

Really? Any other snacking throughout the day? A lot of beer? If I ate like you, I would be losing weight very fast. And not in a good way.

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1 meal no snacks.

yeah I drink beer and scotch.... holiday atm... 700ml of JD a day !

[RSD1]

  On 12/27/2024 at 7:38 AM, Ralf001 said:

 

1 meal no snacks.

yeah I drink beer.

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It's probably the beer that's making up for the low calorie intake from food. Not the best type of calories, but it probably prevents you from going into rapid weight loss.