Thai Relationships: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

[thecyclist]

That's quite a treatise. A book would be more appropriate than a post on a Thai forum. 

[Lacessit]

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

Met her in a bar, took her home that night, 1 week later living together, another week and married. 15 years and one son later, and it's still great.

 

Former British wife, courted for two years before marriage and it was a disaster.

I've seen photos of your Thai wife, and your British wife.

 

Less said about your British wife, the better. I can confirm your Thai wife was a stunner when you met her.

[GinBoy2]

32 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

I've seen photos of your Thai wife, and your British wife.

 

Less said about your British wife, the better. I can confirm your Thai wife was a stunner when you met her.

I kinda laughed a little bit about this assumption that all Western wives are whales and Thai women are stunning.

 

Right before before Christmas we went to San Diego for my Grandsons 2nd birthday.

 

Both my wife and my ex wife obviously were there.

 

Both of them almost exactly the same age, mature women, but equally I find them both stunningly good looking mature ladies,  but ln different ways.

 

They get on very well together, probably in their collective glee in bitching together about me

 

A difficult divorce doesn't  mean you need to believe every Western woman is an evil witch, they can both be beautiful

[persimmon]

They all want something , or else why would they be looking for a foreign partner ? Maybe the trick is to find one with realistic expectations , not one who wants a new 20 mill baht house and new Merc just because someone in the next village got that .

That`s the problem though - choosing a partner who`s just there for the $£ s - however much you give them , they always want more .

[GinBoy2]

4 hours ago, simon43 said:

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Should we all identify ourselves in your writing?

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Perhaps unsurprisingly, AI checkers advise that this article is 100% AI-generated.

 

Is it Charlie H?

 

If so, nothing wrong with that, except it would be 'good manners' IMHO, to identify it as such....

I would also agree with that.

 

I read it and my immediate reaction, was ChatGPT.

 

That being said wasn't a bad topic and I responded as if it had been written by a human.

 

But given that we all know an increasing number of these essay style posts showing up on AN are AI, maybe a little honesty and disclosure wouldn't be a bad thing

[portisaacozzy]

On 1/16/2025 at 11:10 AM, asdf1234 said:

Its possible to meet a thai girl interested in you and not your money, but you have to go while youre young. If youre old theres no chance for anything like that

Remember,love is lust cut up imto little pieces !!

[CharlieH]

Off topic posts removed

[Dan O]

On 1/16/2025 at 11:21 AM, OneMoreFarang said:

Dear @CharlieH,

 

What is the purpose of this?

Should we all identify ourselves in your writing?

Or do you want to warn new members about what could happen in Thailand?

Or what?

 

You are long enough here to know that whatever you write, it doesn't really matter. Because obviously "my one if different".

kinda a long winded tale that has been written about and discussed to no end and will continue long after we're gone from here

[DrMJA]

On 1/16/2025 at 2:46 AM, HappyExpat57 said:

I knew a Thai gal - absolute stunner! - who was juggling 5 sponsors at the time. I always thought, "Good for her."

As you say, I know of one woman in Bangkok who is an absolute stunner and a shrewd businesswoman.

 

When I met her in a nonsexual business setting, she was thirty-two. We became friendly, and as time went on (about three years), during our many conversations, it was revealed she had several sponsors from the West and Asia. She had managed to have them pay for her “rented” condo. However, she is, in fact, the landlord of two condos in Bangkok, one of which she lives in and one she uses with her various sponsors. When they came for a visit, she rearranged personal items concerning her and that particular visiting sponsor. Additionally, condos, vehicles, her parent’s home in Songkla province, a condo near Hatyai airport, and her younger brother’s education attending dental school at PSU-Hatyai are all paid for by sponsors.

 

One day, she told me she had never had a chance at an education. However, she said, “I have my looks, my figure, and only a few years of opportunity to use them, as I would have used a university degree.”  

 

I always think, “Good for her.”

[MeHere]

On 1/20/2025 at 6:27 AM, DrMJA said:

As you say, I know of one woman in Bangkok who is an absolute stunner and a shrewd businesswoman.

 

When I met her in a nonsexual business setting, she was thirty-two. We became friendly, and as time went on (about three years), during our many conversations, it was revealed she had several sponsors from the West and Asia. She had managed to have them pay for her “rented” condo. However, she is, in fact, the landlord of two condos in Bangkok, one of which she lives in and one she uses with her various sponsors. When they came for a visit, she rearranged personal items concerning her and that particular visiting sponsor. Additionally, condos, vehicles, her parent’s home in Songkla province, a condo near Hatyai airport, and her younger brother’s education attending dental school at PSU-Hatyai are all paid for by sponsors.

 

One day, she told me she had never had a chance at an education. However, she said, “I have my looks, my figure, and only a few years of opportunity to use them, as I would have used a university degree.”  

 

I always think, “Good for her.”

 

I always think, “Good for her.”

 

Really?

 

So she's lying to and scamming multiple guys out of their hard earned money and you think "Good for her"?

She is the epitome of the deceitful woman.

About these types, I always think "shame on them"!

[Hellfire]

4 hours ago, MeHere said:

 

I always think, “Good for her.”

 

Really?

 

So she's lying to and scamming multiple guys out of their hard earned money and you think "Good for her"?

She is the epitome of the deceitful woman.

About these types, I always think "shame on them"!

He sounds like a Trump supporter - morally challenged

[DrMJA]

On 1/23/2025 at 9:47 PM, MeHere said:

 

I always think, “Good for her.”

 

Really?

 

So she's lying to and scamming multiple guys out of their hard earned money and you think "Good for her"?

She is the epitome of the deceitful woman.

About these types, I always think "shame on them"!

Really, then you missed the whole idea of what I was writing about and the whole concept of a third-world country. A lot of Thai people can’t afford education and can’t afford to advance in life; however, they have a viable commodity “themselves.” I’m not the morals police; she put her brother through medical school and took care of her parents.

Stop being so high and mighty; if a guy doesn’t want her company, he doesn’t have to pay for it. It’s that simple. 

 

I think SHAME on you for being so judgemental!

[Hummin]

On 1/20/2025 at 2:27 AM, DrMJA said:

As you say, I know of one woman in Bangkok who is an absolute stunner and a shrewd businesswoman.

 

When I met her in a nonsexual business setting, she was thirty-two. We became friendly, and as time went on (about three years), during our many conversations, it was revealed she had several sponsors from the West and Asia. She had managed to have them pay for her “rented” condo. However, she is, in fact, the landlord of two condos in Bangkok, one of which she lives in and one she uses with her various sponsors. When they came for a visit, she rearranged personal items concerning her and that particular visiting sponsor. Additionally, condos, vehicles, her parent’s home in Songkla province, a condo near Hatyai airport, and her younger brother’s education attending dental school at PSU-Hatyai are all paid for by sponsors.

 

One day, she told me she had never had a chance at an education. However, she said, “I have my looks, my figure, and only a few years of opportunity to use them, as I would have used a university degree.”  

 

I always think, “Good for her.”

I read a simular story in a Bangkok book long time ago

[MeHere]

3 hours ago, DrMJA said:

I think SHAME on you for being so judgemental!

 

Interesting how you try to turn it around on me by calling me judgemental when actually my comment is about how impressed you are 🙃

She lied and deceived people to get where she got... and YOU are impressed.

[DrMJA]

11 hours ago, MeHere said:

 

Interesting how you try to turn it around on me by calling me judgemental when actually my comment is about how impressed you are 🙃

She lied and deceived people to get where she got... and YOU are impressed.

 

 

Congratulations. You’re the only one who's never lied or deceived anyone to benefit themselves in your entire life. Then again, I assume you did not grow up in a monastery.

Yes, I think she’s a shrewd businesswoman, and I am impressed.

 

By the way, YOU are judging me concerning my point of view!

[DrMJA]

15 hours ago, Hummin said:

I read a simular story in a Bangkok book long time ago

If you can find it, I’d love to read it.

I am not being facetious.

[Hummin]

21 minutes ago, DrMJA said:

If you can find it, I’d love to read it.

I am not being facetious.

It was 6 books bak then in early 2000, and I read all of them. 

 

Can't remember which one it was.

 

Collection at good read

 

https://www.goodreads.com/list/show/37389.Thai_Bar_scene

[wombat]

In summary ...

East is East and West is West,

Never the twain will meet.

[Kinok Farang]

I've had,

The good.

The  bad.

But am now stuck with the ugly.

[Kinok Farang]

On 1/24/2025 at 2:19 PM, Hellfire said:

He sounds like a Trump supporter - morally challenged

Congratulations for managing to turn this subject into a Trump hating rant.That took some doing.

Ps,you lot don't like losing do you?

[Kinok Farang]

On 1/20/2025 at 2:27 AM, DrMJA said:

As you say, I know of one woman in Bangkok who is an absolute stunner and a shrewd businesswoman.

 

When I met her in a nonsexual business setting, she was thirty-two. We became friendly, and as time went on (about three years), during our many conversations, it was revealed she had several sponsors from the West and Asia. She had managed to have them pay for her “rented” condo. However, she is, in fact, the landlord of two condos in Bangkok, one of which she lives in and one she uses with her various sponsors. When they came for a visit, she rearranged personal items concerning her and that particular visiting sponsor. Additionally, condos, vehicles, her parent’s home in Songkla province, a condo near Hatyai airport, and her younger brother’s education attending dental school at PSU-Hatyai are all paid for by sponsors.

 

One day, she told me she had never had a chance at an education. However, she said, “I have my looks, my figure, and only a few years of opportunity to use them, as I would have used a university degree.”  

 

I always think, “Good for her.”

All well and good but,did you shaag her?

[PopGun]

On 1/16/2025 at 4:37 AM, CharlieH said:

The purpose of the article is to provide insights into the complexities of relationships in Thailand. While seasoned expats like yourself may have valuable experience, the forum serves a much wider audience that includes many newcomers seeking information and guidance. Hopefully the article and contributions from members will provide that.

There are many books and articles, both truth and fiction, describing the the good and the bad, of Thai romantic encounters, with the intention of of fore-arming the uninitiated.

All of the good written advice,  I'm afraid, is erased by an erection.

[Chivas]

Several people somewhat "confused" over what I wrote over the "Line" translation service

 

You write your message in English and send it to your Thai Girl where its auto translated into Thai

 

Now get her to send that exact Thai script message back to yourself this time allowing it to be translated by the app back into English

 

Half the time the content is now wildly different to what you actually wrote

 

Try it yourselves

[NoshowJones]

On 1/16/2025 at 11:21 AM, OneMoreFarang said:

Dear @CharlieH,

 

What is the purpose of this?

Should we all identify ourselves in your writing?

Or do you want to warn new members about what could happen in Thailand?

Or what?

 

You are long enough here to know that whatever you write, it doesn't really matter. Because obviously "my one if different".

This topic would interest newer AN members and guys who are thinking of coming to Thailand to stay, that changes all the time. I have been here for about 20 years and topics like this still interest me.

[Expat68]

Only give one piece of advice live far away from her family has possible

[jimn]

On 1/16/2025 at 11:10 AM, asdf1234 said:

Its possible to meet a thai girl interested in you and not your money, but you have to go while youre young. If youre old theres no chance for anything like that

How about a man of 55 meeting a gogo girl of 19 years old and have been together 14 years, 11 of them married. Ordinary guy just pensions as income.