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8 hours ago, Packer said:

But sometimes Thais make me want to pull out my hair.

 

It was my son's 11th birthday. We organized an ice cream cake at Swensen's at the shopping mall his friends and him hangout at every Saturday. He chose a 3lb chocolate ice cream cake, and arranged with his friends to meet him here at the specified time. More than enough for the 7 or 8 of his friends that showed up. First came one of their mothers, a loud busybody that never shuts up, straight away she was into dragging my son to the fridge to go through all the different cakes even though he had already chosen it. Then going through the entire menu with him even though he had already chosen it. Every one sits down, the plates and glasses of water arrive, everyone is chatting and laughing. The busybody comes down with the menus and is in everyone's face going through every page getting them to order sundae's etc. There's a big ice cream cake coming, why not just sit down and shut up. She's making them choose then double choose then triple choose pointing out extras. Everyone's settled and laughing and joking and then she declares we're going to move tables to the slightly wider table behind. Everyone has their bags and toys and phones and plates and glasses of water out on the table already, most don't even hear her because they're in the zone. She forces everyone up to move to the other table. The sundaes she made everyone order even though the big cake was ordered and coming started arriving and she was up trying to organize who gets what and what extras do they they want, maybe add this, maybe add that why not get this too etc just sit down and shut up. Each kid gets a big slice of the 3lb cake and loves it, none can finish the slice of cake and their sundae, of course. 

 

It came to the end and I got up to pay and told the waitress to bill me for the only the cake. Of course this simple request almost melted the minds, brains and computer system in the store and took 10 minutes and numerous managers and staff to figure out. 

 

I paid the 800 baht for the cake and left, leaving the rest of the 1,700 baht bill for the busybody motormouth to take care of. Maybe next time she'll sit down and shut up and let everybody enjoy their own time. 

 

It's now going round on group chat's that my son's father is tight and stingy and not good. 

 

 

Thailand. 

 

'tight', 'stingy', 'not good'... You're surprised about that?

 

Do you know as a fact who paid the 900Baht balance - the cost of the sundaes?

 

- was it the loud mouth woman - did she pay the whole 1,700Baht?

 

- Or did all the kids pay for their own sundaes, in total 900Baht? 

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Posted
Just now, scorecard said:
8 hours ago, Packer said:

It's now going round on group chat's that my son's father is tight and stingy and not good. 

 

'tight', 'stingy', 'not good'... You're surprised about that?

 

Probably perpetuated by the woman herself...   most people (Thai's) will ignore stuff like that and it will quickly pass....

 

No one really cares - they're too busy getting on with their own lives.

 

 

Posted
15 minutes ago, scorecard said:

 

'tight', 'stingy', 'not good'... You're surprised about that?

 

Do you know as a fact who paid the 900Baht balance - the cost of the sundaes?

 

- was it the loud mouth woman - did she pay the whole 1,700Baht?

 

- Or did all the kids pay for their own sundaes, in total 900Baht? 

 

Another angle - I wouldn't just pay the 800 and leave the bill for the balance of 900 unpaid.

 

Why? at that moment in time and later for quite a while my son would have been horrified about how he and me would be badmouthed. I wouldn't put my son in that situation. 

 

Perhaps I would have spoken privately / quietly to the loud  ordered an Ice cream cake which was my son's choice, and mentioned 'now I'm not sure how to handle the bill for a lot of extra ice cream which was not needed because a full cake was already ordered and did arrive'. 

 

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Posted
8 hours ago, Packer said:

It's now going round on group chat's that my son's father is tight and stingy and not good. 

There is no denying that £35

Posted
11 minutes ago, richard_smith237 said:

 

Probably perpetuated by the woman herself...   most people (Thai's) will ignore stuff like that and it will quickly pass....

 

No one really cares - they're too busy getting on with their own lives.

 

 

 Not always true - Thai's (like all people) s love gossip even when it's unimportant.  

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Just now, scorecard said:

 Not always true - Thai's (like all people) s love gossip even when it's unimportant.  

 

True - Thai's like all people can see the reality of something like this... 

 

Those who were there certainly saw this womans behavior and understood - others outside of the circle may not and only have that womans 'gossip' to go on...  they may believe it, but they'll be gossiping about the next thing in a few days.

Posted
8 hours ago, Packer said:

But sometimes Thais make me want to pull out my hair.

 

It was my son's 11th birthday. We organized an ice cream cake at Swensen's at the shopping mall his friends and him hangout at every Saturday. He chose a 3lb chocolate ice cream cake, and arranged with his friends to meet him here at the specified time. More than enough for the 7 or 8 of his friends that showed up. First came one of their mothers, a loud busybody that never shuts up, straight away she was into dragging my son to the fridge to go through all the different cakes even though he had already chosen it. Then going through the entire menu with him even though he had already chosen it. Every one sits down, the plates and glasses of water arrive, everyone is chatting and laughing. The busybody comes down with the menus and is in everyone's face going through every page getting them to order sundae's etc. There's a big ice cream cake coming, why not just sit down and shut up. She's making them choose then double choose then triple choose pointing out extras. Everyone's settled and laughing and joking and then she declares we're going to move tables to the slightly wider table behind. Everyone has their bags and toys and phones and plates and glasses of water out on the table already, most don't even hear her because they're in the zone. She forces everyone up to move to the other table. The sundaes she made everyone order even though the big cake was ordered and coming started arriving and she was up trying to organize who gets what and what extras do they they want, maybe add this, maybe add that why not get this too etc just sit down and shut up. Each kid gets a big slice of the 3lb cake and loves it, none can finish the slice of cake and their sundae, of course. 

 

It came to the end and I got up to pay and told the waitress to bill me for the only the cake. Of course this simple request almost melted the minds, brains and computer system in the store and took 10 minutes and numerous managers and staff to figure out. 

 

I paid the 800 baht for the cake and left, leaving the rest of the 1,700 baht bill for the busybody motormouth to take care of. Maybe next time she'll sit down and shut up and let everybody enjoy their own time. 

 

It's now going round on group chat's that my son's father is tight and stingy and not good. 

 

 

Thailand. 

 

Very nicely done. These Swensen places cost a fortune. I had the same with my daugthers birthday, but luckily no mothers, only very sensible kids, and they, out of themselves ordered very modestly. Apart from one little emperor. 

 

 

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1 minute ago, Cameroni said:

Very nicely done.

 

23 minutes ago, richard_smith237 said:

Op did well

 

59 minutes ago, dcalaska said:

You did the right thing.

 

2 hours ago, rattlesnake said:

nicely done.

 

1 hour ago, 4MyEgo said:

That is absolute gold, what a champion

 

Thank you. 🙂 

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Posted
10 minutes ago, scorecard said:

my son would have been horrified

 

Maybe your son is nosey and delicate? Gets overly emotional, like a little girl? Has he changed his pronoun already? 🙂 

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Posted
5 minutes ago, Packer said:

Gets overly emotional, like a little girl?

 

4 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

You are the one that has come out of this looking delicate.

 

You twirled your dress while typing that 55555

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When i meet my thai friends we allways share the bills.Sometimes i visit them and bring drinks etc and other times they visit me and they bring drinks etc We dont go eating in a restaurant or drink in a bar but have nice time together at my place or their place.Anyway i have experienced the topic where free riders try to make me pay for everything.I stop doing that years ago.

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51 minutes ago, Packer said:

 

Thank you. 🙂 

Forum has just set a new low.

Packers sons birthday party went over budget by about £1 per head and he refused to pay it. 
and he was cheered on by five others.

i spend about triple that just on myself on an average night out. 
Luckily they were drinking water at this event.
 

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