2 hours ago, Gottfrid said:

First, you live in an illusion. I am pretty sure that 25%, minimum, of the members here are under 60. besides that, did you mean almost everyone 65 or 60? That´s just confusing!

That's because this forum doesn't seem to appeal to many under 65.

But the people active in town seem to be 60+.

1 hour ago, ColeBOzbourne said:

But if you take that too far it's called wallowing in your own misery. And misery loves company, so are you here now looking for others to wallow with you?

Why do I have to be miserable about death?

I've had my time and I'm OK with it.

But I do feel sorry for my pals that didn't make 50 or 60.

1 hour ago, angryguy said:

If given the chance would you want to see how the world turns out in 10 or 20 years britman?

It'll be bad, so I don't really want to see how bad.

1 hour ago, KhunLA said:

Anyone else had a 'death scare' ?

 

Thinking this is it, and did a quick reflection, while being wheeled into the the operating theater, and came to a happy conclusion, 'damn, life was good, no regrets, if this is the end, so be it, I'm ready'.

 

Then when wake up, think, 'damn, that was cool'.  Appreciate your past life a bit more, and think, hmm, 'let's not F'up what time is left', and try to squeeze in some more smiles & chuckles.

 

"Honey, pack the car, I found a cool looking coffee shop with awesome view.  It's only 700 kms away"  

Hit and run two years back, they even told my wife I might not survive the collapsed lung.

In the end it all turned out well, the 200k compensation bought me my Neta EV.

Lung capacity seems to have returned, and it's just a few scars left on my leg.

2 hours ago, oxo1947 said:

 

You must have had a very sedate life up to 69 then........

 

For those who've spent decades winning, the 60s and 70s aren't a finish line - they're a launch pad, where success meets freedom and life gets even more exciting..... 💥😉

I imagine that death really hurts - a lot.....

3 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

When the reaper decides it's time, there is nothing you can do. I am not afraid of death. Don't think about it much. I've had a good life. I won't do chemo, and if the time comes, so be it. 

The Dr tried very hard to get me on chemo in 2018 after a C operation.My kidneys were also weak and I flatly refused.The Dr was taken back because the Thai mentality is the Dr is god like and must be obeyed.I'm now 74 and survived just fine and even paid for a PET Scan in Bkk and came out clean and clear. No way on earth will I submit to chemo.IMHO all it does is buy you a bit of time in pain and discomfort. I know there are cases where it has "fixed" some folks but not me. 

33 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Hit and run two years back, they even told my wife I might not survive the collapsed lung.

In the end it all turned out well, the 200k compensation bought me my Neta EV.

Lung capacity seems to have returned, and it's just a few scars left on my leg.

Me ... couple stents places, 3 yrs ago, actually a low risk procedure, but you never know, a twitch by the doc, and could easily be a bleed out.   A one off, and nice to know, no stenosis, and the rest of the vessels are in decent shape.

 

Did point out, if having an oops, minor or major, where we live, might be the end.   As the closest cardiologist was 1.5 hrs away       Daytime ER nurse was excellent.  After 1st shift, and I think I know more than the attending interns.

 

Hence my attention to healthier eating, with minor adjustment, and nothing really missed.  Seems I was doing OK eating all the crap I was, just cut back on sugars.  Easy diabetes avoidance, as was close to pre diabetic, 6.3 glucose, now 5.3.

4 hours ago, BritManToo said:

Almost everyone posting on this forum is over 65, almost everyone I encounter is over 60.

The next major act in all our lives is death, but nobody dares talk about it, and everyone seems to think they've got lots of time left.

 

At 70 I freely admit I'm almost dead, all I have in front of me is increasing aches, pains, odd and more frequent illnesses, my mobility reducing and my body failing.

Is it a form of delusion or fear that stops people thinking about their soon to come death?

You have talked about death since I first became aware of you at the forum, and it seems comes and goes with your mental state, and it can be labeled as change in moods. 

 

Everything hurts, and everything becomes more difficult by time, it is how it is, but what you can change is your daily routines to easy your problems, as well how you think. Not done in a day, but with a strict plan and willing to do the work, you can actually do something about it. it starts with positive thoughts even you feel like horse pie

9 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Everything hurts, and everything becomes more difficult by time, it is how it is, but what you can change is your daily routines to easy your problems, as well how you think. Not done in a day, but with a strict plan and willing to do the work, you can actually do something about it. it starts with positive thoughts even you feel like horse pie

If it ain't raining, I walk 4-5Km around my local park nearly every day.

1 minute ago, BritManToo said:

If it ain't raining, I walk 4-5Km around my local park nearly every day.

 

That’s perfect, and for rainy days, a rowing machine, ski erg, a stationary bike and some kettle bells. 

 

A good start of the day is the start with your brain, and some easy movements. Find someone to follow at YouTube and get daily reminders of simple exercises and also food for brain. 

 

 

 

 

Maybe because time is  precious like wasting time leaving a comment here.

 

12 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

If it ain't raining, I walk 4-5Km around my local park nearly every day.

Park or surfside everyday, maybe, for me also.  If raining, then local soi & beyond, till WonderDog drops a land mine 

5 hours ago, BritManToo said:

Almost everyone posting on this forum is over 65, almost everyone I encounter is over 60.

The next major act in all our lives is death, but nobody dares talk about it, and everyone seems to think they've got lots of time left.

 

At 70 I freely admit I'm almost dead, all I have in front of me is increasing aches, pains, odd and more frequent illnesses, my mobility reducing and my body failing.

Is it a form of delusion or fear that stops people thinking about their soon to come death?

I have no problem in talking about it. It is natural and comes to everyone. I am 75 and exercise 5 days a week. Walk everywhere and in general in pretty good health but it will come to me and I don't care. What is inevitable should not be worried about

2 hours ago, oxo1947 said:

Yes, this is very true, and I'm surprised no-one has mentioned religion.

 

When my young niece died of TB a few years ago, she was completely lucid until just her final day.  On the eve of her final day, a nurse came to talk with her and explained that the life that she was living right now would end very soon, but no problem because as a Buddhist she knew that this was just the first of many lives.

 

She accepted all this with complete calm, with no fear of death, and passed relatively peacefully the next day.

 

I'm not religious, but as one gets older, any fear of death dimishes.  I'm not an Immortal Octopus 🙂

4 hours ago, giddyup said:

I'm 83 so know my time left is short, I accept the inevitable, but don't dwell on it. Be nice to die in my sleep without pain.

Interesting, may not happen

2 hours ago, BritManToo said:

That's because this forum doesn't seem to appeal to many under 65.

But the people active in town seem to be 60+.

I'm 55, in real life i know many people 40s, 50s, 60s

8 minutes ago, simon43 said:

Yes, this is very true, and I'm surprised no-one has mentioned religion.

 

Atheist here, so nothing for me to think about, and I won't talk about it, as hard core.  Nothing going to change that, so avoid wasting time talking about it.  Respect their beliefs, so again, avoid that conversation.

5 hours ago, BritManToo said:

I've always found accepting reality, whatever it is, makes me happier than trying to live in denial.

Declining health is one thing.

Death is another.

I am inclined to talk about ways to address declining health.

 

Thing is, about death, I have no information.

5 hours ago, fredwiggy said:

No one knows when their time will come, unless you have a terminal illness and you have a general idea. My two parents passed at 79, Dad, who smoked 3 packs a day for 60+ years, and Mom, at 84 who never smoked. My brother passed at 67, but had Diabetes and didn't lose weight when it was recommended by the doctor, so a heart attack came his way. Genetics is a lot of it but not everything. Why talk about it? We all know it comes, so live the best you can, as you can make it to 100, or not. Why bring others down because you think your time is coming soon? I have a bucket list of many things, so that's what I look forward to.

Curious. Could you tell your age and a few items in that bucket.

Asking because at 57 I used to have the same feelings but recently noticed I don't any more.

1 minute ago, sidjameson said:

Curious. Could you tell your age and a few items in that bucket.

Asking because at 57 I used to have the same feelings but recently noticed I don't any more.

69  Catching a big Marlin. Shooting a record book Whitetail Buck, catching a 13+ pound Bass. Seeing at least 7 European countries. Seeing my youngest daughter married and with a good career. Walking to the edge of a volcano. Hunting Africa for a Kudu. 

4 hours ago, angryguy said:

If given the chance would you want to see how the world turns out in 10 or 20 years britman?

Always something positive to say, right? You are a fountain of happiness!

3 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

69  Catching a big Marlin. Shooting a record book Whitetail Buck, catching a 13+ pound Bass. Seeing at least 7 European countries. Seeing my youngest daughter married and with a good career. Walking to the edge of a volcano. Hunting Africa for a Kudu. 

You've given up on finding a woman that loves you for yourself?

Another good subject is why do people want to continue with life when they have various serious illnesses and life is miserable

13 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

69  Catching a big Marlin. Shooting a record book Whitetail Buck, catching a 13+ pound Bass. Seeing at least 7 European countries. Seeing my youngest daughter married and with a good career. Walking to the edge of a volcano. Hunting Africa for a Kudu. 

So a lot of killing things then. I wonder who hurt you in the past.

Yes, I now see the tremendous benefits of having children.

6 hours ago, Nemises said:

 

At 70 I freely admit that the best chapter of my life has just begun

Would you mind sharing what your daily routine I like? Please 🙏 

1 minute ago, sidjameson said:

So a lot of killing things then. I wonder who hurt you in the past.

Yes, I now see the tremendous benefits of having children.

No one hurt me in my past. Ever. I'm a hunter and fisherman. I would release the Marlin anyway, but use the meat from any deer I shoot to feed my family and others. If you eat meat, others are killing those animals for you. 

14 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

You've given up on finding a woman that loves you for yourself?

No, I'll have that when I return home. Also had it before. I'm good to women, so finding one isn't hard. Finding one that loves you more for yourself than what you can buy isn't easy. but likely if you never give up.

6 hours ago, BritManToo said:

Almost everyone posting on this forum is over 65, almost everyone I encounter is over 60.

The next major act in all our lives is death, but nobody dares talk about it, and everyone seems to think they've got lots of time left.

 

At 70 I freely admit I'm almost dead, all I have in front of me is increasing aches, pains, odd and more frequent illnesses, my mobility reducing and my body failing.

Is it a form of delusion or fear that stops people thinking about their soon to come death?

Ego (the human brain's security device) is the thing that has us exasperating and holding on to the nth degree. Generation below you boomers but completely get the aches & pains thing. We're living way too long now--50y should be tops. On death, would say don't worry about it. It is inevitable and completely natural. Shut ego up by welcoming when it comes, for one is going home... when you 'wake up' surrounded by your mates saying "so, how was it for you?". 😉

6 hours ago, BritManToo said:

So you're sorted then!

D I Y job eh?