1 hour ago, Liverpool Lou said:

Does he?  Are you sure about that?

 

If he married her or went through child legitimatization, yes 

6 hours ago, fredwiggy said:

Malcolm, again, you know nothing about families with children, nor about the children themselves, so why ask? Her first daughter was living with a man, her eventual husband, at 14. Her second daughter was 5 when I met her, and her dad didn't care. When I moved here, she put her daughter with grandma 1/2 kilo away because she didn't want to take care of her. She is now living with the first daughter. My daughter told me last week, her sister, the second daughter, wants to live with me, as she was close to me when I was married to her mom, but "don't tell mom I said that". Now this time try to remember so you don't twist this around later.

Were those two daughters fathers the same or different?

 

5 hours ago, fredwiggy said:

Seeing you look at women as objects, where did you learn this?

Hugh Hefner.

I have been reading Playboy since I was 8

5 hours ago, fredwiggy said:

Do you know if a man isn't married by the time he's 35, there's something ingrained in him about women.

You are not married right? 

9 hours ago, Gottfrid said:

I think you really need to read Thai law. What you are doing here, is to 100% base your believe in rights on your home country law. This is Thailand. Read, man!

For start, even if your name as a father stands on the birth certificate, does not make you a legal father or guardian in Thailand. The mother has all the custodian rights for birth automatically.

 

The base case under Thai family law is that, if the father is recognized as the father, which is automatically the case, if the parents were legally married at the time of birth, both parents have equal custodianship.  If there is a divorce and custodianship is disputed, the family court will award custodianship and visitation rights using the best interests of the child.  The OP says the father is an ex-husband but doesn't say if they were actually legally married or divorced and, if so who had custody. 

 

Thai courts prefer to give custody to the mother, if they can, but will not do this, if it does not appear to them to be in the best interests of the child.  I have a friend who divorced a Thai wife from hell - prostitution, drugs, booze, gambling, toy boys  and child abuse, you name it.  The court awarded sole custody to the farang father without rights of visitation for the Thai mother.  

9 hours ago, Gottfrid said:

I think you really need to read Thai law. What you are doing here, is to 100% base your believe in rights on your home country law. This is Thailand. Read, man!

For start, even if your name as a father stands on the birth certificate, does not make you a legal father or guardian in Thailand. The mother has all the custodian rights for birth automatically.

This is not totally true. If they were married, and stayed married, and the child was born,  and he is the father. Thai law or any law, he has full rights like the mother.  

I know, I when through this in a Thai court.

In addition, according to "Thai law", any parent without the other consent can take that child.

If the other parent wants custody, either joint, shared, or full custody that parent has to go to court and the court will decide. 

If he is the father, married and that child was born, he knows Thai law.

My best advise is to get all the evidence on the Thai mother, being not fit to be is mother. When all are correct, take her to court to get full custody so his child. That way he can take the child out of Thailand anytime without the mother consent.

But be warned, she will put up a fight with the appeal court.  But an appeal in Thailand is no big thing, one do not have to attend court, they just made a decision, and the person that bring the appeal has to pay the appeal court. 

On 10/31/2025 at 9:18 AM, snoop1130 said:

her ex-husband, apart from allegedly abusing her, has a criminal record related to drugs.

All those defending the father must have missed this bit ^

 

Better the kid stays in the Thai family unit than with a druggie 

6 hours ago, gravity101 said:

So so so many assumptions. What do they say about making assumptions....

I am not the one who made assumptions. You did. The person I responded to has assumed that the man's story was accurate. I have only pointed out the  reality of a custody dispute.

9 hours ago, Nick Carter icp said:

 

   The heading would be what the story consists of .

His claim would be the headline 

Come now. You can't really mean that you accept these compilation stories as reliable?

1 hour ago, FruitPudding said:

3 hours ago, Liverpool Lou said:

Does he?  Are you sure about that?

 

If he married her or went through child legitimatization, yes 

So you don't know and you're not sure about it.

9 hours ago, FruitPudding said:

 

Most got pregnant once or twice before their 18th birthday....at least out in the rural areas.

 

No, most do not get "pregnant once or twice before their 18th birthday..." in bahn nawk.

5 hours ago, CG1 Blue said:

All those defending the father must have missed this bit ^

 

Better the kid stays in the Thai family unit than with a druggie 

 

The father's alleged association with drugs is irrelevant, same as the earlier allegation about the mother's HIV infection.

14 hours ago, kevin612 said:

Stay with the father is better, otherwise end up like useless when he grows up. 

The father doesn't look like the perfect role model 

7 hours ago, MalcolmB said:

You are not married right? 

Check your files

7 hours ago, MalcolmB said:

Hugh Hefner.

I have been reading Playboy since I was 8

Sounds exhausting, Did you never progress to Larry Flynt?

8 hours ago, Liverpool Lou said:

So you don't know and you're not sure about it.

 

Sure of what? His marital status? 

3 hours ago, NanLaew said:

 

No, most do not get "pregnant once or twice before their 18th birthday..." in bahn nawk.

 

Ever lived in a little rural village? It's a very common age to reproduce.

 

On 11/1/2025 at 5:43 AM, watchcat said:

 

Agree, but he has himself to blaim, why did he married a hooker?

Do you know if she was a hooker before he met her...or if he knew if she was... let's use a bit more thinking.

21 hours ago, MalcolmB said:

No woman has ever got pregnant by a facial.

As far as disease I always shower after making love and urinate.

Being circumcised also helps.

Medical science must learn from you...oh wait, I can hear them laughing.

2 hours ago, FruitPudding said:

6 hours ago, NanLaew said:

 

No, most do not get "pregnant once or twice before their 18th birthday..." in bahn nawk.

 

Ever lived in a little rural village? It's a very common age to reproduce.

 

Yes I have, and most 18 year olds don't. Some do several times but most do not.

 there are lot of guys who like to brag about how they never use condoms and even pay a girl more not to use one....how does that work out with dear ole dad  when the gal gets pregnant and dear ole dad doesn't care.

On 10/31/2025 at 5:18 PM, FruitPudding said:

 

I would tend to believe this. 

 

I have a US acquaintance,lived in Pattaya many years. He has a 12 year old son, mother still works in a bay which mainly has loud ignorant gatoey staff. The mother of the by is as described just above very loud and ignorant and has brought the 12 y o boy to the bar many times. i'm told this always turns into a party with the other gatoey all putting their hands inside the boys shorts/ underwear and groping him. Seems that many of the gatoey hold the boys arms and body so he can't defend himself.

The boys real father has tried several times to get full legal care of the boy along with court order that his mother cannot be near him. None of this has worked.

The boys real father is now in the process of trying to get a Thai court order which could be the needed back up to get avisa for the boy to enter the US.  Seems that it's all in process right now. 

On 11/1/2025 at 4:43 AM, FruitPudding said:

 

Even when you don't marry a hooker, you often get the same result in Thailand.

 

Believe me, I know. Thai parenting is often quite bad to say the least, by Western standards. 

Believe me, I know. Thai parenting is often quite bad to say the least, by Western standards.

 

Really? You really expect everyone to believe you? Seriously ?

 

11 hours ago, FruitPudding said:

 

Ever lived in a little rural village? It's a very common age to reproduce.

 

Fair call. My little village, (maybe 1,000) population, fits this observation. Anywhere from 14+.🙃🙃

All sounds llike a couple's hissy-fit and nothing other than J'accuse... no evidence or proof, just heresay on both sides.

16 hours ago, fredwiggy said:

Check your files

According to my files all three ran off with other men and are now happily married.

A post with an offensive word for a woman who is thought to have a lot of sexual partners has been removed.

7 hours ago, MalcolmB said:

According to my files all three ran off with other men and are now happily married.

One is alone and miserable. One died from a heart attack brought on by doctor over prescribing, and this last one is married and still wants to be back with me. Might want to update those files. 

Thailand is not a party to the Hague Treaty. The case is almost closed.