2 hours ago, Lucky Bones said:

What a strange thing to say.🙃🙃

This was in response to

"Trying to spend all the money I've accumulated over the years."

It isn't strange if you understand that it is bragging.

10 hours ago, SoCal1990 said:

When people talk about getting older, the usual concerns are money, health, security. Makes perfect sense. If you do not have financial stability or basic health, everything else becomes much harder. But let’s assume you have those boxes reasonably ticked. Then what then becomes the real concern?

For me, it is mobility. I think about it more and more everyday. The ability to move freely, confidently, independently, with agility and speed. Once we stop moving enough, the body responds fast in a bad way after the age of 50. Muscles weaken. Balance slips. Joints stiffen. Strength fades. Before long, simple tasks can feel like a lot more effort. I see people around my own age who already look hesitant in their movements, lacking confidence because of an absence of basic balance and core strength. It makes you realize how quickly function can decline if it is not maintained.

On the plus side I think much of it seems preventable. Regular movement does not have to mean marathon training. A daily walk. Some light resistance training. Stretching. Basic bodyweight exercises. 30-45 minutes of consistent exercise 4-5 times a week can go a long way. The old saying about using it or losing it seems especially true as you age. After the age of 50, consistency is far more important than intensity.

What do you think? After finances and general health, what worries you most about aging? Do you think much about mobility and physical independence, or is that not something even on your radar?

"For me, it is mobility. I think about it more and more everyday. The ability to move freely, confidently, independently, with agility and speed."

I agree.

I have found that exercises like we learned in Physical Education in school have helped me.

Calisthenics, body weight exercises, and low weight high repetition have helped me a lot.

I invested in some exercise stuff, a stationary bike, a smart scale, recently a bargain smart watch from Amazfit. I don't wanna go to the gym and all of these were reasonably inexpensive.

I had gained a shameful amount of weight and I have reversed that trend.

In my experience you can approach it as a gradual change and it works well.

1 hour ago, fredwiggy said:

Have quite a few friends around here, although don't see them much as they're scattered until there's a get together. Most go to bars which I don't. I see foreigners in the local Lotus every time, known many but always nod or say hi. Most reciprocate but some turn away, looking like they do have something to hide or are just not sociable.

One I met in Lotus I was talking to for a few minutes and he was very friendly until his wife came over, looked at me, took him by the arm and led him away. He gave me an "I'm sorry " look walking away. I think he liked talking to another foreigner, and also thinking she didn't want him talking to other foreigners who might give him some negativity about things here.

There is one thing in life you shouldnt use to much energy on, and that is overthinking! It makes life more effortless and less complications. People are people and here in Thailand there is more rarities than other places for some strange reason. Or maybe not, since Thailand seems to attract quite a bit of what we would say weird back home.

Walking, running stairs, working hip and ankle joints. All that is fine. But you should worry first about the quality of air you take in continuously every day.

10 hours ago, Lucky Bones said:

Clothes?

Really?

Sounds a bit effeminate.

5 star hotels?

Get out into the small sois & backroads.🙃🙃

Yes really. Wearing nice collar shirts and such is now girly is it? 555

14 minutes ago, EVENKEEL said:

Yes really. Wearing nice collar shirts and such is now girly is it? 555

Wifey buys them for me, special events, if I need them or not.

Likely 25 in the cupboard.

Certainly don't go shopping.

Local markets?🙃🙃

the only thing that matters to me is NO MORE maiming and torture,

i cant take any more

Dying?

1 minute ago, GammaGlobulin said:

Dying?

Coping with the "concern" of the inevitable is maybe an expression of personal failure?

Stay busy each week. Never stop reading or exercising. Stay away from bad people.

1 hour ago, Lucky Bones said:

Wifey buys them for me, special events, if I need them or not.

Likely 25 in the cupboard.

Certainly don't go shopping.

Local markets?🙃🙃

Checkered shirts I'd wager. 555 Expat uniform.

1 hour ago, EVENKEEL said:

Checkered shirts I'd wager. 555 Expat uniform.

Yup. No need to look like Elvis Presley or Just-In Beaver in Thailand.🙃🙃

7 hours ago, 0ffshore360 said:

7 hours ago, GammaGlobulin said:

Dying?

Who said I was coping?

The collapse of the financial system when all your regular income pensions and savings are wiped out.

41 minutes ago, Bannoi said:

The collapse of the financial system when all your regular income pensions and savings are wiped out.

Hemmingway saw this happen about 100 years ago in France. He used to buy a liter of wine, bread and a piece of sausage and watch people who had no idea of the financial catastrophe heading their way:

"Travel writers wrote about the men fishing in the Seine as though they were crazy and never caught anything; but it was serious and productive fishing. Most of the fishermen were men who had small pensions, which they did not know then would become worthless with inflation, or keen fishermen who fished on their days or half-days off from work."

I have most of my boxes checked that I planned for in my ageing life and consider myself very "Lucky and Blessed", but I seemed to be going to more funerals losing friends that are much younger aged than me that die in a violent or sudden way.

15 hours ago, mordothailand said:

the only thing that matters to me is NO MORE maiming and torture,

i cant take any more

Tell your wife you dont want to use the gag ball anymore ?

On 3/2/2026 at 10:59 AM, bunnydrops said:

Nearing 80, I think more about how I will handle the ending. I have had high blood pressure and high cholesterol since my 40s. I have never taken anything for them. No philosophy, just chose not to pop pills every day. Family history of heart attacks and strokes. But here I am. Just last week, I moved 5 cubic yards of topsoil around to the back of the house in a wheelbarrow. A massive heart attack would be great, but I worry about cancer. Will I spend my last days in and out of hospitals trying to stall the inevitable or accept my fate?

I like your philosophy. In my opinion its all about quality of life.@ 75 I've given my Dr the "living will" form already. But what will reality bring? Like you say ,maybe in and out of hospital trying to put off our fate? Who knows whats around the corner. In a perfect world one may just go to bed one evening and just not wake up.Time will tell.

Mine is not so much a concern but almost fear of losing my marbles.

A few weeks ago some people we know came to visit us,usually the guy is all right but within 5

minutes we almost were in a fist fight!

He absolutely was making no sense and then it hit me, his mind left him.

He is suffering from dementia,for me the worst thing that can happen to a person!

He was mixing facts with fiction and basically just forgetting what he said two minutes ago.

He does not even seem to be aware of it and his wife said it was getting really difficult to live

with him.

I hope that will never happen to me and luckily there is non in my family but you never know.