This thai girl

[mogandave]

I hang out at cheap hotels and bars with cheap women!

Yes, but but do you lay around the lobby reading books?

[Hummin]

On 6/8/2018 at 5:04 AM, simoh1490 said:

What to say here? Thailand is a different world than the Europe you know and the people have different drivers. One of the key drivers of your lady friend is to support her parents and probably a larger family, this is her mission and she takes it very seriously. Another driver is to make sure she secures herself a reasonable future, one that gives her security so it appears in her case that means a farang husband rather than a Thai who will not treat her the same way, may beat her and will almost certainly be unfaithful. She could go and work in a bar and potentially make decent money and that would help her satisfy the part about looking after her family - but that's a tough life and not everyone can or wants to go that route. It's tough being a female in Thailand, future options are limited unless you're connected or have a good education.

 

So what are your options? You could carry on as you are, getting drunk in clubs and not giving her any money, if she hangs around in that situation she's a fool and eventually, she will tire of your drinking. You could recognise her plight, give her something every now and again or if you're not serious about her, part company and let her move on and find what she's looking for. You ask if you're being played, from the sound of things it's her that's being played because she's not getting much out of the relationship that she really needs, just something to think about.

 

It takes a while for most people to understand the way things and people are here, the way it all works and fits together. 

 

 

First page, and you managed to say it all he needed to hear. Well done and well said.

 

now Im going out to buy popcorn, and sit down and read the rest! Cant wait

Edited June 14, 2018 by Hummin

[BritManToo]

5 minutes ago, mogandave said:

Yes, but but do you lay around the lobby reading books?

 

Today I'm lying on the sofa reading 'Memory Man 4 - The Fallen by David Baldacci'

(I read the first 3 earlier this week).

Next I will be reading 'Outsider - Stephen King'

But it's on my phone so may not count as 'reading a book'.

Edited June 14, 2018 by BritManToo

[bermannor]

4 hours ago, mogandave said:

 

Yes, but but do you lay around the lobby reading books?

 

Cheap hotels have no Lobby!

[bermannor]

4 hours ago, BritManToo said:

Today I'm lying on the sofa reading 'Memory Man 4 - The Fallen by David Baldacci'

(I read the first 3 earlier this week).

Next I will be reading 'Outsider - Stephen King'

But it's on my phone so may not count as 'reading a book'.

He asked where you read not what you read!

[XB12X]

15 hours ago, BritManToo said:

Today I'm lying on the sofa reading 'Memory Man 4 - The Fallen by David Baldacci'

(I read the first 3 earlier this week).

Next I will be reading 'Outsider - Stephen King'

But it's on my phone so may not count as 'reading a book'.

I recommend George Pelecanos. Had a run of them. American crime writer.

[poanoi]

On 6/14/2018 at 5:27 PM, BritManToo said:

Today I'm lying on the sofa reading 'Memory Man 4 - The Fallen by David Baldacci'

(I read the first 3 earlier this week).

Next I will be reading 'Outsider - Stephen King'

But it's on my phone so may not count as 'reading a book'.

youporn got more pics & less text

[XB12X]

See below.

Edited June 16, 2018 by XB12X

[XB12X]

40 minutes ago, poanoi said:

youporn got more pics & less text

Idiot.

[Kadilo]

On 6/14/2018 at 5:27 PM, BritManToo said:

Today I'm lying on the sofa reading 'Memory Man 4 - The Fallen by David Baldacci'

(I read the first 3 earlier this week).

Next I will be reading 'Outsider - Stephen King'

But it's on my phone so may not count as 'reading a book'.

How about you read the thread title. 

[bwpage3]

Regardless of anything, if she means something to you, she should be treated no differently than any other girlfriend from your own country.

 

TV is full of posters stating they are well off, then act like cheap Charlies around their GF's

 

If she means something, take care of her

 

Pretty simple idea really

[marcusarelus]

4 minutes ago, bwpage3 said:

Regardless of anything, if she means something to you, she should be treated no differently than any other girlfriend from your own country.

 

TV is full of posters stating they are well off, then act like cheap Charlies around their GF's

 

If she means something, take care of her

 

Pretty simple idea really

Yup.  Pretty simple.  There is another thread running with a guy who would not financially take care of his wife and when he had to move back to Canada she refused to join him.  Now he's back in North America whinging about how bad Thailand is. 

[Rhys]

...take the challenge and man up .. figure it out and act.. move on...

[Hummin]

On 9/7/2018 at 9:06 PM, marcusarelus said:

Yup.  Pretty simple.  There is another thread running with a guy who would not financially take care of his wife and when he had to move back to Canada she refused to join him.  Now he's back in North America whinging about how bad Thailand is. 

Well, for us who is still here, it just mean we are better to suck it up, live with it! It doesnt mean Thailand is perfect! 

 

 

[BritManToo]

On 9/7/2018 at 9:00 PM, bwpage3 said:

TV is full of posters stating they are well off, then act like cheap Charlies around their GF's

I act like a Cheap Charlie with me too, throwing money around is for fools.

[BritManToo]

On 6/9/2018 at 12:03 AM, Beechboy said:

These girls are generally and genuinely very hard up.

 

Usually, they have smartphones that cost 10k+

[marcusarelus]

21 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Well, for us who is still here, it just mean we are better to suck it up, live with it! It doesnt mean Thailand is perfect!

Suck it up or learned to function at a high level in Thai culture.  I don't suck it up I do fine.  I'm thinking about giving lessons. 

[soistalker]

On 6/8/2018 at 7:19 AM, cgphuket said:

You feel its your birthright to live in a poor country and the local girls are obligated to come offer you free sex.   

Free sex? Like as in not with a prostitute? Is it your opinion that every sexual relationship in Thailand is a transaction?

[The manic]

On 6/8/2018 at 6:15 PM, samsensam said:

 

who are '

 

who are ' these girls'?; do you mean lower class, lower educated girls working in, or on the edge of, the sex industry? or are you generalising that all thai girls need money?

 

i dont understand the bubble that some foreigners live in here, they don't seem to know anything about thailand, thais or thai culture.

 

every thai girl/woman i have dated has had an education, a career, an apartment, usually a car or even two, plenty of money and they certainly didnt date me for financial gain. this is not boastfulness, this is, for me, normality and it makes me a normal person - it doesn't make me 'ignorant or having a self-satiating attitude'.

 

 

Ive never dated a girl in the hope of free sex. Whats the point this is Thailand.

[The manic]

14 minutes ago, soistalker said:

Free sex? Like as in not with a prostitute? Is it your opinion that every sexual relationship in Thailand is a transaction?

Every honest one...Yes.

[The manic]

On 6/14/2018 at 3:57 PM, bermannor said:

He asked where you read not what you read!

What is a lobby?

[NanLaew]

22 minutes ago, soistalker said:

Free sex? Like as in not with a prostitute? Is it your opinion that every sexual relationship in Thailand is a transaction?

Todays 'red rag to a bull' post of the day award goes to...

[BritManToo]

1 hour ago, soistalker said:

Free sex? Like as in not with a prostitute? Is it your opinion that every sexual relationship in Thailand is a transaction?

Why limit your comment to Thailand?

[Stevemercer]

Well...Thailand is a transactional culture/society, so every service creates obligations and counter-obligations. Money is acceptable payment in Thai culture for most transactions. It's just the way it is.

 

Those who don't, or won't, recognise their obligations (e.g. free sex with no obligations) are either bludging off society or are so up themselves they don't give a sh%t about anyone else.

[marcusarelus]

7 minutes ago, Stevemercer said:

Well...Thailand is a transactional culture/society, so every service creates obligations and counter-obligations. Money is acceptable payment in Thai culture for most transactions. It's just the way it is.

 

Those who don't, or won't, recognise their obligations (e.g. free sex with no obligations) are either bludging off society or are so up themselves they don't give a sh%t about anyone else.

I googled transactional culture and get nothing relevant.  Where did you get the term and definition? 

[Stevemercer]

Try transactional relationships/society or similar. I pulled the following quotes after a few minutes googling:

 

A transactional relationship is a relationship where both (or all) parties are in it for themselves, and where partners do things for each other with the expectation of reciprocation. 

 

Cutting across rural and national strata [in Thailand] is the system of patron- client relationships that ties specific households or individuals together as long as both patron and client sees benefits in the arrangement. In many respects, the dynamics of political and economic life are comprehensible only in terms of patron-client relations or, in western terms, transactions.

 

Transactional sex (common in Sub-Sahara Africa and SE Asian countries) refers to sexual relationships where the giving of gifts or services is an important factor. Transactional sex implies that the exchange of gifts for sex includes a broader set of (usually non-marital) obligations that do not necessarily involve a predetermined payment or gift, but where there is a definite motivation to benefit materially from the sexual exchange.^[1] The participants do not necessarily frame themselves in terms of prostitutes/clients, but often as girlfriends/boyfriends.^[2][3] Those offering sex may or may not feel affection for their partners.

[mogandave]

What county is not “transactional”

[pgrahmm]

3 minutes ago, mogandave said:

What county is not “transactional”

At surface level = the one's with no freedom.....

[marcusarelus]

10 minutes ago, Stevemercer said:

Try transactional relationships/society or similar. I pulled the following quotes after a few minutes googling:

 

A transactional relationship is a relationship where both (or all) parties are in it for themselves, and where partners do things for each other with the expectation of reciprocation. 

 

Cutting across rural and national strata [in Thailand] is the system of patron- client relationships that ties specific households or individuals together as long as both patron and client sees benefits in the arrangement. In many respects, the dynamics of political and economic life are comprehensible only in terms of patron-client relations or, in western terms, transactions.

 

Transactional sex (common in Sub-Sahara Africa and SE Asian countries) refers to sexual relationships where the giving of gifts or services is an important factor. Transactional sex implies that the exchange of gifts for sex includes a broader set of (usually non-marital) obligations that do not necessarily involve a predetermined payment or gift, but where there is a definite motivation to benefit materially from the sexual exchange.^[1] The participants do not necessarily frame themselves in terms of prostitutes/clients, but often as girlfriends/boyfriends.^[2][3] Those offering sex may or may not feel affection for their partners.

Basically how a guy feels about sex before the PC indoctrination course. 

[Hummin]

6 hours ago, marcusarelus said:

Suck it up or learned to function at a high level in Thai culture.  I don't suck it up I do fine.  I'm thinking about giving lessons. 

Interesting please eloborate your idea, so we can understand, how you think giving lessons will be helpfull.