Another one bites the dust (me)

[BritManToo]

7 hours ago, ThomasThBKK said:

If it's in her name and you didn't sign the paper at the land office that states it was all her money. Then yes you have a claim of 50% of the sale value of that asset, you would even get 50% of the land in your name which you can hold legally as a foreigner for up to 12 months.

Those 12 months you have time to search for a buyer.

 

i know of farrang that emptied their wifes family assets, company etc. on a divorce in thailand, well deserved in those cases tho (wife cheating).

If I've enjoyed the use of their body, I say, let them keep it.

Value for money is what I want, not profit, no matter what the circumstances.

[thaibeachlovers]

On ‎4‎/‎23‎/‎2019 at 11:26 AM, BritManToo said:

I spent 30 years doing what she wanted, and still didn't get it (much).

If she'd been a new car I'd have demanded a refund from the garage.

Stupid, stupid, stupid.

All men are stupid when it comes to the small head thinking. 

It's only when we get to the stage of no interest in them, that we realise just what plonkers we were to pander to them.

Had I been at that stage 40 years ago I'd have been richer, happier and living in LOS.

[thaibeachlovers]

21 hours ago, Thongkorn said:

Just leave, you will never win  any Mind games with Thai women, They just dont care , diffrent culture they live in the Now dont think about the future or past. best of luck 

True, IMO. When my wife dumped me she got a rotten life in exchange. She never thought about what her life would be like without the ATM.

[totally thaied up]

7 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

All men are stupid when it comes to the small head thinking. 

It's only when we get to the stage of no interest in them, that we realise just what plonkers we were to pander to them.

Had I been at that stage 40 years ago I'd have been richer, happier and living in LOS.

You got to be a bit plonkers to marry any women. Still, if you marry a Thai and are silly enough to bring everything into Thailand your crazy. 

[BritManToo]

8 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

True, IMO. When my wife dumped me she got a rotten life in exchange. She never thought about what her life would be like without the ATM.

It would be interesting if someone did a survey on if they thought their lives were more comfortable or happier after the divorce. I'm thinking not, in most cases, even though they got a free house and most of the money we earnt.

 

One woman I met in the UK confessed to me, she had dumped her husband and married the new guy, then 3 months later realised the new guy had effectively turned into the old guy, but she only had half the money she previously had.

[marcusarelus]

5 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

It would be interesting if someone did a survey on if they thought their lives were more comfortable or happier after the divorce.

I'm thinking not, in most cases, even though they got a free house and most of the money we earnt.

My wife got a multi millionaire new husband who gave her 3 houses and collects luxury cars and yachts and is well respected all over the world.  They are frequently in the newspaper for charity balls  and so on.  My daughter had to build a new garage for her son's toy cars and trucks that he rides around in during parades.  Plus new hubby's a nice guy and 10 years older than me so one foot in the grave. No prenup.  My X is a good talker. 

[Nemises]

You got to be a bit plonkers to marry any women. Still, if you marry a Thai and are silly enough

 

Why TF would anyone marry when living in pussy paradise...Amazing!!

[Kenny202]

On 4/22/2019 at 9:29 AM, Pravda said:

 

I probably would.... if my visa wasn't expiring in a week.

 

Great timing!

I know a guy here still married but separated and estranged for over 5 years. He goes to Savanakhet Laos with his marriage paper. Don't think he needs any ID's or Tabien baans etc. No money in the bank required. 12 month multiple entry marriage visa. Only difference is he has to leave and re enter every 3 months.

[Kenny202]

The older I get the less I see the point in long term relationships, even more so here. I just don't see how they can last the distance? The only farang Thai relationships I have seen that are successful are the ones where the guy has plenty of money and prepared to give the wife an allowance, take care of her family etc. If he believes he is getting something in return and it works for you more power to you. I just find any relationship that I have had with a Thai....(specifically Isaan) Doctors, teachers, nurses, ex whores they all have this unreasonable expectation of what they should be getting, for little or no return. It's like you have to pay for the priviledge of having the village princess. I always find myself way on the wrong side of the ledger as far as anything near equality. Not only financially either. Take care all of their needs, their life. Many can't drive. Some don't work. Usually poor housewives, and usually don't cook, buy all of their nasty food at the shops or markets. Have a couple of kids in tow and parents to support. with the only positive maybe she will take care of you in the future should things go wrong or you get sick. I have found a Thai promise to hold no value whatsoever. Talk about a leap of faith.

 

And even with all of that burden you have saddled yourself up for you are supposed to pay up front some huge dowry and build a house and land...all in her name and for the rest of your life have you kahonas in her pocket. Should you not fulfil these requirements you are Kie Neow. All for what? To get shackled to an unreliable, needy, whining, sometimes uneducated (or educated) cretin who couldn't hold a sensible conversation about anything nor has any real interest in your life or wellbeing. Any relationship to survive long term each person needs to get some value or at the very least happiness.

 

Even the Thais. I have lived here a while now and I don't see too many Thai relationships where they actually seem happy or friendly together although many do endure. They seem to be a lot better matched financially where the wife and husband equally contribute. But the wife has her work, and friends...and so does the husband...probably has a GF or two on the side.... and they seem to be together more out of necessity or duty rather than personal satisfaction. 

 

I really don't get it??

 

 

[Pravda]

1 hour ago, Kenny202 said:

I know a guy here still married but separated and estranged for over 5 years. He goes to Savanakhet Laos with his marriage paper. Don't think he needs any ID's or Tabien baans etc. No money in the bank required. 12 month multiple entry marriage visa. Only difference is he has to leave and re enter every 3 months.

 

I came back from Savannakhet a week ago and I definitely needed all these things - signed.

[Kenny202]

 
I came back from Savannakhet a week ago and I definitely needed all these things - signed.

Things cant be that bad, even if she really didnt want to live with you that she wouldnt help you out signing a few papers to renew your visa surely.

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[Pravda]

17 minutes ago, Kenny202 said:

Things cant be that bad, even if she really didnt want to live with you that she wouldnt help you out signing a few papers to renew your visa surely.

Sent from my SM-J730GM using Thailand Forum - Thaivisa mobile app
 

 

Well, I am still in her townhouse. She did sign the papers.

 

I'm looking for a place and not really sure which part of the city to go.

 

Thinking Nonthaburi.

[yogavnture]

no money no honey. its like a car if you dont keep the car fueled up . it runs out of gas

[Pravda]

30 minutes ago, yogavnture said:

no money no honey. its like a car if you dont keep the car fueled up . it runs out of gas

 

No offense to anyone who's paying to be in a relationship, but I'd rather slash my wrists than be a cash cow for anyone especially a Thai woman who's family is better off than mine and has rights and privileges in Thailand unlike me who has none.

 

[BritManToo]

1 minute ago, Pravda said:

No offense to anyone who's paying to be in a relationship, but I'd rather slash my wrists than be a cash cow for anyone especially a Thai woman who's family is better off than mine and has rights and privileges in Thailand unlike me who has none.

The cow I'm renting has great udders!

[sanemax]

5 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

The cow I'm renting has great udders!

What is so great about your pay-as-you-go girlfriends breasts?

[Pravda]

7 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

The cow I'm renting has great udders!

 

I mean getting married than paying once a month for the privilege of being with a Thai woman.

 

Forget about it

[thaibeachlovers]

2 hours ago, sanemax said:

What is so great about your pay-as-you-go girlfriends breasts?

If you have to ask, you'll probably never understand what the attraction is.

I'm not attracted to huge mammaries, so Thai ladies were a delight for me. So much so, I wanted to live there for the rest of my life, rather than farang land.

[Pravda]

So, for the past week she's been in a better mood. Her parents come several times a year to Bangkok to visit a hospital and out of the blue she tells me she will "talk to them about our situation". This is literally 30 minutes after I booked a nice hotel next weekend for us.

 

I guess she will spew her version of the story and her parents will now hate my guts. I have to say that this really upsets me and honestly I'd leave by now if it wasn't for my extreme curiosity of how all this is going to play out....so I'll stick around for a bit longer. Not that my life is exciting here anyway.

 

 

 

 

[BritManToo]

24 minutes ago, Pravda said:

I guess she will spew her version of the story and her parents will now hate my guts. I have to say that this really upsets me and honestly I'd leave by now if it wasn't for my extreme curiosity of how all this is going to play out....so I'll stick around for a bit longer. Not that my life is exciting here anyway.

Everyone else can see how it's gonna play out ................. badly.

Probably with physical damage (duck feeding) or death for you.

 

Are you expecting a shag in the 'nice hotel'?

Just wondering.

[Pravda]

1 minute ago, BritManToo said:

Everyone else can see how it's gonna play out ................. badly.

Probably with physical damage (duck feeding) or death for you.

 

If you need to spend money on a woman, get someone else.

 

That's a bit of a fear mongering.

 

Worst case scenario Thai Visa members can read about this train wreck in real time.

[473geo]

I don't really see this as a train wreck at all, the driver is asking you to get off, free ride over

 

[Skallywag]

20 hours ago, Pravda said:

 

No offense to anyone who's paying to be in a relationship, but I'd rather slash my wrists than be a cash cow for anyone especially a Thai woman who's family is better off than mine and has rights and privileges in Thailand unlike me who has none.

 

You are "paying to be in a relationship" in so many ways already, just not in baht.  Living with someone and constantly wondering, "will she be in a good mood today?"  or discussing who owns what, who deserves what, who works harder, whose family is better - there is no healthy relationship there  IMHO.... 

Although many other situations could be considered worse, like the one below.   Wish you good luck

Wife out of control

By Glorfindal, Yesterday at 01:45 AM in Marriage and divorce 

[Pravda]

5 minutes ago, 473geo said:

I don't really see this as a train wreck at all, the driver is asking you to get off, free ride over

 

 

Read the post below from a smart member.

 

Nothing is free.

[spidermike007]

Just be strong, and stick to your convictions. Do not grovel. Walk away. If you are not in a relationship where you are making each other better versions of yourselves, what is the point of being there? Just to pass the time? Whining, groaning, always moody. Who needs that? Why subject yourself to that? Her decision is a great blessing for you. It allows you to move on, and find someone who is worthy of your attention. Even if you give it a break, is she going to change, and become a better version of herself? Is she going to become someone who is delightful to be around? I seriously doubt it. Get out. Get out now, while you still have your self esteem. 

[Pravda]

This looks good

 

 

 

[Odysseus123]

1 minute ago, spidermike007 said:

Just be strong, and stick to your convictions. Do not grovel. Walk away. If you are not in a relationship where you are making each other better versions of yourselves, what is the point of being there? Just to pass the time? Whining, groaning, always moody. Who needs that? Why subject yourself to that? Her decision is a great blessing for you. It allows you to move on, and find someone who is worthy of your attention. Even if you give it a break, is she going to change, and become a better version of herself? Is she going to become someone who is delightful to be around? I seriously doubt it. Get out. Get out now, while you still have your self esteem. 

Err..because despite your frequent exhortations for western males to become Johnny Rambo's steroidal mate Sam the SEAL he prefers to bang on and on about..whatever..????????????

[473geo]

4 hours ago, Pravda said:

 

Read the post below from a smart member.

 

Nothing is free.

There are smart members on this board, most of them have managed both expectation, and financial input, absolute requirements in a relationship........the not too smart members blame Thai women for failing to achieve the same

[Pravda]

20 minutes ago, 473geo said:

There are smart members on this board, most of them have managed both expectation, and financial input, absolute requirements in a relationship........the not too smart members blame Thai women for failing to achieve the same

 

So, you're just another mug who pays his woman a salary to be with you and somehow that makes your reply intelligent? 

 

I'd rather follow britmans advice and pay per use than be in a pretend relationship. What's in it for me by giving a salary? Do I suddenly become more respected than her family? Or at least a soi dog?

 

I'm 45. Plenty of lovely horny women in their 30s with good jobs. This time I won't stick around at the least bit of craziness....I'll just move to the next one.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[473geo]

4 minutes ago, Pravda said:

 

So, you're just another mug who pays his woman a salary to be with you and somehow that makes your reply intelligent? 

 

I'd rather follow britmans advice and pay per use than be in a pretend relationship. What's in it for me by giving a salary? Do I suddenly become more respected than her family? Or at least a soi dog?

 

I'm 45. Plenty of lovely horny women in their 30s with good jobs. This time I won't stick around at the least bit of craziness....I'll just move to the next one.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Of course you will, not unusual to fail at something when still a wet behind the ears 45 year old - good luck