Not a Bar girl! but little confused

[yrushme]

simple question I don't want to sound like every Foreigner or  farang, living in Thailand I've been here for about a year I've been lucky to work for the airline for 30 years and did a lot of traveling so I'm not new to dating foreign women but I have a question about my Thai lady,  she's 45 she has a nail salon she never worked in a bar scene she doesn't smoke don't drink we met online  we get along very well she's from isaan, I met her family  I've known her for 2 years I did build a small little house in her land, question is this, I think like most foreigners here we have pity  for Thai girls, like in my situation she probably makes 200 baht a day if that..  I'm 53 so there's not too much of a big age Gap, I just feel like I'm spending  out more money than I want to, for her family, I don't mind helping but are they really with us for the money? the reason I say is because everything I've read about bar girls she does  exactly that!  but she's never hidden the phone  I can reach her all times, she never  asked me for money,I actually taught her some English, her seeing other men something like that I'm not concerned, she has not asked me for Penny since being  together 2 years i just always  give her money, believe me when I say this she never worked bar scene, but I feel her traits are as if someone that acts like she did in the past, I asked  her  just tell me she never did? so that's why I'm confused?

[zzaa09]

Think too much. 

[Nomoneynohoney]

How can you know for sure she never worked in the bar scene?you only know here for 2 years so anything before could be up to here.A salon which only generates 200 baht a day I wouldn’t really call a succes.My GF makes more selling plants and flowers from home.Why would you give money to the family.my Thai family isn’t rich or have big pockets but never asked me 1 baht.

[Nomoneynohoney]

 Like you say yourself everything she does I like an ex bargirl so probably she is.good luck

[Nomoneynohoney]

Oh and BTW maybe she has 2 simcards

[Nomoneynohoney]

Maybe you give to much that’s why she never asks you

[Kenny202]

You are going to cop flak here for sure, but best advice I can give you is follow your own instincts in Thailand. If it smells like shet it probably is. We pass too much stuff off when we first come here as cultural. If her parents seem greedy in your mind, put the brakes on it. They will suck you dry and its probably all going up the wall on grog, gambling and gambling debts. It's your money, do what you feel comfortable with. Whether she has been in the entertainment industry or not is a mute point. Better to find a girl that doesn't know the ropes so to speak with only one goal in mind, but in some ways many are like that whether they have been in the sex trade or dating sites. Its just the experience level that's different. Experience at wealth transfer....yours to hers. If you are not living here I would be more concerned she has another Thai boyfriend or husband. It is so common here you could just about guarantee it. If your girl is earning 200 baht a day she has probably not much more than a 6th grade education so you can not give her the reigns. Like letting a kid loose with your wallet in a candy shop. I have seen so many guys go down the tubes here trying to appease them, only to find out the whole thing was a farce and the girl never had any real feelings for them. You are just a commodity. Isaan rural type people are easy come easy go and that's probably ok for them, they seem to like living the simple life and can live largely off the land but that wont be so easy for you when the monies gone. Don't let yourself be a doormat. They wont respect you anymore or less for it, in fact probably think you are stupid for throwing money at them. Same with your girl. if they are Isaan they will never stop asking. Just remember it is ok to say no. If that isn't good enough for her plenty more fish in the sea here that's for sure. 

[jaiyenyen]

Would finding out that she worked in a bar sometime before she met you, change your feelings for her?

If your feelings are the same, then why worry.

If she makes you happy, then who cares/ Live in the now and future......Not the past.

[Dan O]

It's a little confusing because you say she never asks for money you just give it to her. If she doesn't ask and you just give then she doesn't have to ask. So stop giving it to her and see her reaction. Also what is she doing that is "just like a bar girl" if she doesn't ask for money, doesn't drink, doesn't smoke doesn't see other men. 

[bbko]

Maybe she worked the bars when she was younger and maybe she didn't. I don't understand the part about her never asking for money yet you're worried you're spending too much, if she's not asking you must be just giving it away, maybe you've spent too much time in the Thai bars yourself, eh?  Slow down the money give away and see if it affects the relationship.

[2long]

I reckon this is ANOTHER troll thread from an existing member who has just made a new account and now us sad Muppets are all going to queue up to offer our advice, because none of us have been anywhere near a bar girl but we all know someone who has. .????????

 

I reckon if the mods are able to check IP addresses, this profile would come up as the same as a TV member. ????

 

It might as well be a copy-pasted post that we have seen time and time again on here.

Please close it, mods! Save us all a load of wasted time.

[Maha Sarakham]

Feels like an obvious troll...

[worgeordie]

19 minutes ago, Maha Sarakham said:

Feels like an obvious troll...

Yes, first time poster with woman problems........

regards Worgeordie

[OneMoreFarang]

What difference would it make to you if she would have worked in a bar from 20 to 40?

It seems that is a problem in your mind.

And somehow you seem to think Thai women who didn't work in bars don't want money. Think again!

 

And last but not least keep in mind that many Thai people tell everybody what they think those people want to hear. I.e. you want to hear that she is a good woman and never worked in a bar. Guess what she will tell you. 

 

You should make up your mind with what kind of person you want to share your life. Look at her now and not at her past. Do you like what you see? Do you love what you see? If not, then move on. There are more than enough Thai women who are available. 

 

And about age: Don't think old women are grateful because you picked her up and not a sexy teenager. She has 25 years more experience how to get what she wants. Over to you.

[Dogmatix]

If she pressures you for more money than you can afford or want to give (without actually asking for it) and that is unacceptable to you, move on because it will only get worse.  If you are only worried about whether she worked in a bar or not, and everything else about her is fine in your eyes, stop worrying about it.  If she worked in a bar and you visited bars and took girls out, you are equal.  Have you told her all the stuff you have done with girls in Thailand and around the world? 

[Pravda]

Remember everyone.... You trust airline pilots with your lives

[bbko]

6 minutes ago, Pravda said:

Remember everyone.... You trust airline pilots with your lives

Are you suggesting the OP is a pilot? I didn't know pilots had such terrible grammar.

[Chris.B]

How comes these types of posts are always from newbies? ????

 

Won't even bother to read it all, just put a sad smiley on it and on to the next thread.

[Airalee]

It’s not the job, it’s the woman.  
 

I’ve known uneducated massage girls that are low maintenance and women with masters degrees and high(ish) paying jobs (and commensurate debt levels) that seem to only be happy with 5 star restaurants and resorts, ฿2,000 baht spa/hair treatments etc. etc.

[CharlieH]

Well, regulars and old hands probably know which bridge this was born under.

 

3/10 for effort.

 

CLOSED.