What is a high quality man/woman?

[BritManToo]

So you get loads of guys looking for 'high quality' women posting in threads.

Are you a 'High quality' man, how do you define your high qualities, and why do you think you deserve a 'high quality' woman.

Is it a university education, wealth, dressing nicely that makes you 'high quality'.

 

Can I be 'high quality' if I dress nicely wear polished black shoes, shirt and tie, jacket and long trousers ..... and work as a unqualified schoolteacher in the 3rd world.

Am I 'high quality' if I've had less than 3 female sexual partners in my life?

 

And what is a 'high quality' woman?

University educated, half Chinese virgin from a rich family?

 

I define myself as 'low quality',

Sure I got the degrees, earned loads of money, live comfortably, but I'm a beer swilling, fat, bald old guy that never wears anything but a knock off Football shirt (Liverpool), shorts and flip flops. Don't care about museums, poetry, art, theatre and can't endure jazz.

 

[ezzra]

A wife goes to her husband and ask him, with how many women did you sleep before me? i only sleep with you my love replied the husband, with all the others i was pretty much awake... 

[jerrymahoney]

46 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

And what is a 'high quality' woman?

36C

[thaibeachlovers]

The only thing I know about people that think they are "high quality" is that I don't want to know them.

[tonray]

Yes

No

Not Sure

Don't Care : Check !

[Mac Mickmanus]

I was being rather diplomatic and sympathetic and agreeable .

In this instance , a "high quality woman" was a woman that doesn't have sex with everyman that she meets on the first meeting .

  Maybe "high quality " was being too diplomatic , what I did actually mean was higher than the bottom rung .

[CharlieH]

Hi quality woman =a pulse and  legal consent ! ????

 

High quality man = honest, polite, someone you can rely on.????

[BritManToo]

1 hour ago, Mac Mickmanus said:

Maybe "high quality " was being too diplomatic , what I did actually mean was higher than the bottom rung

But most of the posters on this forum are IMHO 'bottom rung'.

So why do we expect more from a woman?

[BangkokReady]

Interesting idea to think about.  Obviously it depends on what each individual person values or considers high quality.

 

I can think of ways that I am high quality and ways that I am not.  I can think of people who would value my facets that I consider to be high quality, and I can think of people that would ignore them and think that other features (or lack thereof) would make me low quality.

 

It seems likely that a man looking for a reliable and trustworthy friend to have an interesting conversation with might find a certain man to be high quality, while a woman who is looking for a high status guy who can provide a certain level of material wealth might find a guy who is kind, intelligent, humble and honest to be a low quality guy if his wallet is empty.

 

At the end of the day, it is pretty hard to change once you get to a certain point in life.  It's probably best to not compare yourself to others, but try and be "the best you you can be" and "compare yourself to who you were yesterday not what someone else is today".  A little cliched, but they sound good to me.  ????‍♂️

[BangkokReady]

2 hours ago, BritManToo said:

Sure I got the degrees, earned loads of money, live comfortably, but I'm a beer swilling, fat, bald old guy that never wears anything but a knock off Football shirt (Liverpool), shorts and flip flops. Don't care about museums, poetry, art, theatre and can't endure jazz.

This helps to illustrate my point above.  I won't give my opinion, but there are three "metrics" here that different people would probably make different judgements about your level of "quality", financial success, physical appearance and, I guess, cultural habits (not exactly sure what to classify that as).

 

What about morals?  Are you trustworthy?  Would you help someone without being asked to do so?  Do you have empathy for those worse off than you?  Would you cheat on your wife or have sex with another mans wife, or try to?

[Mac Mickmanus]

36 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

But most of the posters on this forum are IMHO 'bottom rung'.

So why do we expect more from a woman?

Most of the people do not expect any more from a woman .

The only thing that is required of them is that they can have sex and are willing to do so frequently . 

   That's the only thing that they need to be able to do to make her marriage material 

[actonion]

My Farang neighbours Thai wife  was angry with him one sunday while he was washing his car, he asked her what was her problem, she replied   people watching him wash  the car will think they are a low class family, her logic was  if he is washing his own car  then he cannot afford to take it to a car wash

[BangkokReady]

7 minutes ago, actonion said:

people watching him wash  the car will think they are a low class family, her logic was  if he is washing his own car  then he cannot afford to take it to a car wash

This is one of the most annoying things about cultures obsessed with "face", the fact that the reality doesn't matter, only what people think matters.  So people can be broke as long as they can pretend they are rich, or can be absolute scumbags as long as they can pretend to be good.  The thing is, this pretence actually leads to a lower quality of life for everyone involved.

 

The whole "I should do something that is bad for me so that people will think something good about me" is maddening.

[BritManToo]

14 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

What about morals?  Are you trustworthy?  Would you help someone without being asked to do so?  Do you have empathy for those worse off than you?  Would you cheat on your wife or have sex with another mans wife, or try to?

Morals are merely reflections of your religion ........ there are very few absolutes.

Mohammed was a very moral person, but had no problems marrying a 10 year old.

Joseph age 70, had no problems marrying a 14 year old.

 

Trustworthy ...... another difficult one.

I have no problems lying to my government and cheating on my taxes, if I think I can get away with it. But I wouldn't walk out of a bar without paying my bill, and I wouldn't steal from another person.

 

Cheating on my gf .......

At almost every opportunity, but then we never required fidelity of each other, so is it really cheating? Had plenty of sex with other men's women, but I didn't usually know about the other man, until he called her and she answered during sex (Asian women seem to like doing that, answering phone calls from their husband while having sex with another guy).

 

I've pretty much given up on Abrahamic derived morals/rules.

Why shouldn't I eat pork, shellfish, or wear mixed fibre clothing?

[KarenBravo]

8 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Morals are merely reflections of your religion ........ there are very few absolutes.

Mohammed was a very moral person, but had no problems marrying a 10 year old.

Joseph age 70, had no problems marrying a 14 year old.

 

Trustworthy ...... another difficult one.

I have no problems lying to my government and cheating on my taxes, if I think I can get away with it. But I wouldn't walk out of a bar without paying my bill, and I wouldn't steal from another person.

 

Cheating on my gf .......

At almost every opportunity, but then we never required fidelity of each other, so is it really cheating? Had plenty of sex with other men's women, but I didn't usually know about the other man, until he called her and she answered during sex (Asian women seem to like doing that, answering phone calls from their husband while having sex with another guy).

 

I've pretty much given up on Abrahamic derived morals/rules.

Why shouldn't I eat pork, shellfish, or wear mixed fibre clothing?

So, atheists can't have morals?

[BritManToo]

Just now, KarenBravo said:

So, atheists can't have morals?

Usually they espouse the same morals as their local religion, often in a slightly harsher form so as to appear as more moral than the religious people.

[RmcaIssan]

3 values .. (male and female)

Awareness

Intelligence and

Personality 

All in a good body !!

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Hummin]

High quality is those who do their best, question themselves how to become better and also respect others. 
 

what more can we do, than work with what we got, and improve. 
 

Be a good human
 

 

[1FinickyOne]

Everyone has their own definition... 

 

There is one regular poster here "L" who said that his GF thinks the sun shines out of his butt - - so, I guess he thinks she is high class/high morals - in other words, he likes the lies that she tells. And he seems to believe it. The sad part is that she thinks he is so insecure as to need such propping up... 

[Mac Mickmanus]

1 minute ago, Hummin said:

High quality is those who do their best, question themselves how to become better and also respect others. 
 

what more can we do, than work with what we got, and improve. 
 

Be a good human
 

 

 

   Being honest and trustworthy and truthful . 

Being trusted not to try and have sex with your Wife  or to interfere with your Daughter , the type of man whom you don't need to keep watching all the time 

[Calvin1976]

Don't force to do anything she don't like and always paid more than what she expected.

Considered "Quality Man" ? ????????????

[1FinickyOne]

2 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

The only thing I know about people that think they are "high quality" is that I don't want to know them.

likewise, I am sure. 

[BangkokReady]

 

4 minutes ago, Mac Mickmanus said:

Being honest and trustworthy and truthful.

 

Being trusted not to try and have sex with your Wife  or to interfere with your Daughter , the type of man whom you don't need to keep watching all the time 

Based on what is reported on this forum, I sometimes wonder if we're in the wrong country to hope to expect this.

[Lacessit]

My only morals/ethics nowadays are to be fair in my dealings, and to avoid hurting anyone. I don't think about whether I am high or low quality, I tread my own path.

I was a member of a very prestigious golf club in Australia. I found there were very wealthy people there, some had class. It showed in the way they treated people of lesser standing. OTOH, there were members who I regarded as total scumbags.

I've had sex with many women here who would be regarded as low class, so I guess that makes me low quality too, as if I care. They were giving me what I wanted, I saw no reason to treat them badly.

IMO some women who regard themselves as high quality are more likely to be high maintenance.

 

[scubascuba3]

Low quality man

Poor education

Poor jobs

Yobbo mentality

Tattood up

Anger management issues

 

Low quality women

Gold diggers

Karen types

Obese

[Mac Mickmanus]

1 minute ago, BangkokReady said:

 

Based on what is reported on this forum, I wonder if we're in the wrong country to expect this.

I dont think that your morality changes when you move to another Country.

If you are a cheater or a molester in your home Country  , you will be the same in another Country .

   If you wouldn't do those things in your home Country , then you wouldn't do it abroad either 

[BangkokReady]

41 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Morals are merely reflections of your religion ........ there are very few absolutes.

This whole topic is highly subjective, so what is morally right to one person is not to another.  We could say that morals are linked to religion, or we might suppose that religion is informed by morals, or that each evolved and shaped each other over time.  (It's fairly clear that a lot of religion is about trying to make people live a good life and treat each other with some level of respect and kindness.)  We could also suggest that as people moved from living in tribes and solving their problems by smashing each others heads in, it was only natural that some sort of laws or rules of how we should treat each other to get along and survive and prosper as a community.  (And, of course, religion, laws and morals are fairly intertwined, with religion and law only relatively recently being separated in the West.)

 

There is of course the "golden rule", do unto others as you would have done unto you.  I think most people, even the immoral ones, know there are ways that they would like themselves to be treated and it seems that even without religion, there's a chance that people would come to the conclusion "if I don't want X to happen to me then perhaps I shouldn't do X to anyone else".  I suppose the problem here is that "immoral people" would simply ensure that no one found out about them doing X, hence religion has the element of "God is watching you all the time".

[worgeordie]

Oh ! dear , I will be worrying about this all week ,now, what kind

of person am I , low or high quality ,how do I find out , whom

do I ask ? ,  .............. either way ,I dont give a F#ck .....????

 

High quality (in my mind)  Worgeordie

[BangkokReady]

30 minutes ago, Mac Mickmanus said:

I dont think that your morality changes when you move to another Country.

If you are a cheater or a molester in your home Country  , you will be the same in another Country .

   If you wouldn't do those things in your home Country , then you wouldn't do it abroad either 

I think, at least in the case of cheaters, access and consequences could put them off back home.  Coming to Thailand, they probably find that access to women is a lot easier, along with the ability to keep it quite.  Depending on their relationship there may also be lesser consequences and their partner may even be OK with it.  The attitude to cheating seems to be that it is tolerated a lot more here.

 

And, of course, the above could specifically attract cheaters/philanderers to Thailand.  ????

[Old Croc]

To me,  quality comes from within, for either men or women. It has nothing to do with breeding, schooling, wealth, employment, the way they dress or even their  achievements in life.  

Some of the people I regard as very low quality are leaders of  countries, have royal titles, great wealth, lead religions or can drive racecars very fast. I consider any of the above to be more prone to despicable or illegal behavior to advance themselves, than the average person in the street.

 

Quality flows from respect and honesty for themselves and others they come in contact with. I've met very few people in that category, but cherish those that I have.

 

(I don't consider myself to be in that category)