I think I got scammed by a girl from a dating website!

[Satcommlee]

Can you share the name of the cultural restaurant, I have a business dinner coming up and wouldnt mind some kick-back myself.

[1FinickyOne]

2 hours ago, Hummin said:

so she went to your hotel first night with her friend to? 

 

8k is a nice evening at Goji Kitchen and bar at Marriot hotel for two persons. I never spent so much money in the beginning with my wife! 

 

Next time you know you are taken for a ride, normal girls is ok with a bbq restaurant, and even she brings her friend or two with her, it will never end up more than 1500,- baht. 

No - we dated for 2 months without physical contact - this was many years ago - you could go out to a place like Tewan Dang in Bkk order plenty of food and beer for 6 people and it was only 1000 baht - more favorable exchange rates then. It was never fancy restaurants and expensive stuff. It was always fun and I enjoyed meeting her friends this way... I was glad to be able to treat them to an enjoyable night out... 

 

ps - we are together about 22 years now... I would still be glad to treat any of her friends today. 

[daveAustin]

Don't waste any more of your time regards police. Looks like you got off lightly; if you'd have made it to the hotel with that misfit, would likely be in for a LOT more. Generally not a good idea to go out on the lash before a flight, too, but each to their own. ????

[Liverpool Lou]

 

7 hours ago, save the frogs said:

please use spacing in long paragraphs

Why are you trying to give directions to another member about how he presents his own OP?

[blazes]

4 hours ago, swm59nj said:

These types of scams are common all over.  Not just Thailand.  You just have to be careful. If it sounds too good to be true it usually isn’t 

It usually is, you mean!!

[Liverpool Lou]

4 hours ago, swm59nj said:

If it sounds too good to be true it usually isn’t 

Huh?  If it sounds to good to be true it usually is.

[Liverpool Lou]

1 hour ago, bendejo said:

The wine bar probably pays her a cut. 

Garbage. 

[redwood1]

Hey I would like to go to that Thai culture show....How can I contact her..

[mikeymike100]

2 hours ago, Smokey and the Bandit said:

Yes you got scammed, be thankful it was only 3k?

Yes could have been a lot worse if you had taken her back to your hotel?????

[n00dle]

8 hours ago, kaleyho said:

We agreed to meet at a western type restaurant whose main attraction was wine.

my local wine connection is a cesspit of first tinder date preteniousness and social lubrication

[n00dle]

wow, how naive can you be? 

 

[OneMoreFarang]

2 hours ago, NORDO said:

The majority of women on the dating sites are opportunists.  Granted, a few serious ones, but mostly scammers.   Its a game.  The cards are dealt to you and you need to be thinking with your upper brain, not the lower one.

 

The majority of Thai women are predators.  You are the predatee.    It is a fun game, much like poker.  So you need to think with a level head.    

 

If the situation sounds to weird and questionable, then pass it up.   They designed the rules to game I'm order to deceive you.   In the LOFS, lying and deceiving are normal business practices.

Get smart, quit taking a hosing.   

If the situation does not  sound right, then it is time to stop.

 

They are the Huntress, you are the Huntee.

I never played in the online dating world. From what I hear and read there are just lots of different expectations.

If two parties just want to have sex, fine.

If someone wants to get paid, also fine, if that is clear from the beginning.

If people are looking for a long-term relationship and maybe marry, fine. 

If people like to go on a night out and then let's look and see, up to them.

But if the expectations are different then it obviously becomes difficult.

 

Personally if I want company for a few hours, I go to gogo-bars. There is no misunderstanding what everybody expects. 

[wwest5829]

6 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

You have to be skeptical on those dates, i had one where she brought a friend, too many suckers out there who just pay for anything. The 3k invite should have been a big no thanks 

Agree with your last sentence (been there). The extra people thingy is usual, although in this case the friends should have appeared upon first meeting. When we met 7 years ago, yes it was out to a Thai restaurant, three of her girl friends and 11 year old Daughter came so ... a meal for six and as is culturally expected I knew I would be paying. As I had done my cultural reading, I knew what to expect and what to be watching for .... Fine experience as I was approved by her group. In fact one cute friend leaned over to her and said, if you don't want him ... I do. Ha! She is 26 years my junior (OK, I am ancient but still!), traditionally raised, no tattoos, etc. Married for several years and happy camper.

[Berkshire]

8 hours ago, kaleyho said:

Then she told me she wanted to take me to a restaurant that has Thai cultural shows in Bangkok but that restaurant needed a deposit of 3000 Baht.

I'm amazed that anyone can believe this.

[tgw]

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a restaurant that has Thai cultural shows in Bangkok but that restaurant needed a deposit of 3000 Baht.

lol.

and there are people who believe that kind of thing ?

[pomchop]

I think a lot of Thai gals on dating sites are familiar with the old PT Barnum quote:  "There's a sucker born every minute".

[khunPer]

9 hours ago, kaleyho said:

Sometime during the conversation she mentioned it is for  4 people ( but we were only 2). She said a table's minimum was 4 people.

Which is quite common, if you are not four you still pay for four and get food and drinks for four. If the drinks comes in bottles, you can take the bottle(s) with you home with the remaining drink...????

However, in the present story, it seems like you meet a so-called gold-digger that lost interest in you, when the mine emptied...

[The Deerhunter]

6 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

That depends om the friend...

 

That is 3000 b of value right there.  Maybe all 8k. 555

[BritManToo]

My misses used to run a bar/restaurant scam in BK, she said almost every bar or restaurant would participate.

She'd enter alone, sit at a table alone with a new bottle of whiskey from the bar.

Along would come a Thai guy and ask through a waiter if he could buy her a drink.

She'd reply, can he pay for my bottle .......... which would disappear back behind the bar.

Then she'd eat and drink at his expense all evening, and the waiter would give her half the cost of the bottle which the bar would then sell again.

[fondue zoo]

6 minutes ago, The Deerhunter said:

That is 3000 b of value right there.  Maybe all 8k. 555

 

Those there are good girls, just trying to stay off the pole and getting that medical degree so that they can open a practice back in the village. Look at how surprised and confused they look after they accidentally took that photo.

 

[FruitPudding]

5 hours ago, swm59nj said:

These types of scams are common all over.  Not just Thailand.  You just have to be careful. If it sounds too good to be true it usually isn’t 

Please......I can just see such a scam happening in the UK. ????

[Chongalulu]

6 hours ago, 1FinickyOne said:

My wife was very traditional and we had many such dates. She would ask first and for me it was ok. I enjoyed the company and meeting her friends as well. There was no scam about it, we did not go to silly cultural shows as the OP, but it was expected that I pay the tab and I knew that when I asked her out. It was never expensive for me. 

"Expensive" ..? I bet it WAS in the end! ????

[FruitPudding]

48 minutes ago, n00dle said:

my local wine connection is a cesspit of first tinder date preteniousness and social lubrication

Indeed, you don't need Vaseline when you take a local bird to Wine Connection.

[simon43]

I think you 'dodged a bullet' there.  This 'woman' is well-known in the area for these scams.  Actually 'her' real name is Khun Ham Yai and she is reknowned for enticing western guys with her tasty Isaan sausage......

[bkk6060]

Never go out for a first time with a gal who wants an expensive dinner and drinks may well be a scam for freebies then they hit the clubs later for a real handsome man.  I would block them immediately. 

[SiSePuede419]

9 hours ago, kaleyho said:

Then she told me she wanted to take me to a restaurant that has Thai cultural shows in Bangkok but that restaurant needed a deposit of 3000 Baht

I would have asked her "Are YOU taking me to this restaurant or am I TAKING YOU?"

 

If she claims she's taking you then tell her she can pay.

 

If she says she's taking you, but YOU NEED TO PAY tell her to <deleted> off hoser. ????

[n00dle]

9 hours ago, kaleyho said:

I could have been scammed more or may have been taken to unknown place.....killed, mugged...who knows. 

What pathetic dramatics. she would have taken you for every penny she could and disappeared, not killed you, 

[OneMoreFarang]

44 minutes ago, The Deerhunter said:

That is 3000 b of value right there.  Maybe all 8k. 555

But I wouldn't rely on the idea that they count the payment for the food as down payment for other services. 

[n00dle]

7 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

That depends om the friend...

 

Why would you feel the need to post that?

[roo860]

3 minutes ago, n00dle said:

Why would you feel the need to post that?

Why not? They look simply lovely. Surprising what a bit of Sellotape can do.