If you were looking for a new relationship today what age gap would you aim for and why?

[Hanuman2547]

On 7/31/2023 at 1:30 AM, buddyy said:

Am i in the minority who have a partner older than he?
We met when i was in the late 20s and she was early 30s, roughly 6 years older than me. We have been together almost 8 years and happy.

You must have missed my post just up the page.  Met my Thai wife when she was studying at a university in my country.  She is 7 years older than me.

[thaibeachlovers]

16 hours ago, Hummin said:

Evidence where a younger woman is the care taker of an alcholic with low pention? I guess you have seen many toxic relationships as me, and also read some other men explain their view on the women they meet, and stay with. Barely support means they do not contribute to her or her family which is for many families is necessery. If you lived here long enough, you know kids support their parents, not only those who is married or living with a foreigner. 

Seen toxic relationships, been in 2.

Men IMO marry to get sex without having to go look for it, women marry for security and children, IMO.

My first partner was my age, second half my age. Both were as toxic as the other. IMO age has nothing to do with it. I've known school kids with more maturity than some adults I knew well.

 

BTW, far as I have seen, Thai female children support the parents while the boys go out drinking, gambling and fornicating. My Thai wife's first husband did that on her money till she divorced him. Apparently her father forced her to marry him.

[Hummin]

3 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Seen toxic relationships, been in 2.

Men IMO marry to get sex without having to go look for it, women marry for security and children, IMO.

My first partner was my age, second half my age. Both were as toxic as the other. IMO age has nothing to do with it. I've known school kids with more maturity than some adults I knew well.

 

BTW, far as I have seen, Thai female children support the parents while the boys go out drinking, gambling and fornicating. My Thai wife's first husband did that on her money till she divorced him. Apparently her father forced her to marry him.

Not everything is black and white! In toxic families yes, and thats why you need to know their families, before engaging in seriously relationships with the women! By knowing her siblings and parents, as aunties and uncles, you will most likely know your future in the family. 

[Captain Monday]

Minimum half my age plus seven

[thailandsgreat]

Rapinoe was mentioned in the thread. She is a model for Victoria's Secret lingerie. She now missed a crucial penalty for US but just laughed at it. US got eliminated.

 

 

Women's ideals have changed so much we have to work to keep up with them. ????

 

She was also fittingly signed by Nike that, according to senator Ted Cruz, "only want to sell shoes to those who hate the American flag" (Kaepernik, Semenya ...)  ????

 

Edited August 7, 2023 by thailandsgreat

[0james0]

On 7/30/2023 at 10:46 AM, OneMoreFarang said:

So why do you think she stays with you?

Update-Well we’re still together and she wants to marry and have kids, I’m not sure if I want to marry again-probably not. Still hasn’t ever bothered me for money, she works. I still don’t know why she’s hanging on me except she is obviously head over heels for this old fart.

[GinBoy2]

Well this a forum favorite. 

 

15 pages pretty sure lots of bickering and stab wounds along the way!

 

But on the original question. 

 

Me and MrsG are 5 years apart, and should anything happen and I was 'back in the game' so to speak I'd be looking for something similar, if indeed I could even be bothered frankly.

 

I would have no desire to be an ATM to some woman old enough to be my daughter, and who probably couldn't hold a conversation with me, since we would be worlds apart.

 

So, I'd be looking for a woman of my own generation who I could feel comfortable with, share similar life experiences, had our kids and grandkids, and not have some pressure to 'perform' so to speak.

 

Those days are over thank God, and I just want to be myself

[Neeranam]

On 7/28/2023 at 10:58 PM, KhunLA said:

At 67 now, I don't think I'd be looking for another relationship, and simply enjoy being single again.

 

No sense in starting something that won't last that long.  I'm on borrowed time already.

 

I agree, why would someone want to get married if over 50? Makes no sense to me.

Married 36, wife 24. 22 years late, going well in all areas.

If something happened to my wife, I'd stay single and have sex with 20-year olds if I could.

[Neeranam]

On 1/25/2024 at 4:09 PM, 0james0 said:

Update-Well we’re still together and she wants to marry and have kids, I’m not sure if I want to marry again-probably not. Still hasn’t ever bothered me for money, she works. I still don’t know why she’s hanging on me except she is obviously head over heels for this old fart.

Maybe after an inheritance?

[Neeranam]

6 hours ago, GinBoy2 said:

Well this a forum favorite. 

 

15 pages pretty sure lots of bickering and stab wounds along the way!

 

But on the original question. 

 

Me and MrsG are 5 years apart, and should anything happen and I was 'back in the game' so to speak I'd be looking for something similar, if indeed I could even be bothered frankly.

 

I would have no desire to be an ATM to some woman old enough to be my daughter, and who probably couldn't hold a conversation with me, since we would be worlds apart.

 

So, I'd be looking for a woman of my own generation who I could feel comfortable with, share similar life experiences, had our kids and grandkids, and not have some pressure to 'perform' so to speak.

 

Those days are over thank God, and I just want to be myself

I'd most certainly not marry a Thai woman. 30 years living here they have lost their novelty exotiness. Swedish for sure, or Venezualan.

[GinBoy2]

10 hours ago, Neeranam said:

I'd most certainly not marry a Thai woman. 30 years living here they have lost their novelty exotiness. Swedish for sure, or Venezualan.

I'm not sure sure what I would choose if I had to do it all again.

I've always liked my women a little dark and dusky

 

First wife was half Jamaican, and my current wife from Isaan, so my tastes I think are pretty obvious.

 

I'm hispanic my family from Guadalajara, and every time we go visit my wife cant stop saying how sexy my female relatives are, so maybe next time it would be return to my roots!

[Dante99]

On 7/28/2023 at 9:26 PM, GinBoy2 said:

but being with someone roughly your own age brings that sense of common ideals.

You sorta like the same music, movies have lived through the same history so you actually have things to talk about, rather than a relationship just based around sex.

Oh really?  With a Thai partner?  

[Old Croc]

I'm 75 my wife is 58 so if I had to pick again, I'd go for a 20yo.

[zhounan]

I am 33 yeas old, but I like women older than me. 

[thaibeachlovers]

On 8/3/2023 at 4:42 PM, Hummin said:

Not everything is black and white! In toxic families yes, and thats why you need to know their families, before engaging in seriously relationships with the women! By knowing her siblings and parents, as aunties and uncles, you will most likely know your future in the family. 

I met her family and they seemed like hardworking good people. The truth only outed when we were already married.

[Ralf001]

3 minutes ago, zhounan said:

I am 33 yeas old, but I like women older than me. 

 

Nowt wrong with a bit of grab granny action, good chance she will have a daughter that could be persuaded to join in !

Edited January 27 by Ralf001

[thaibeachlovers]

33 minutes ago, Dante99 said:

Oh really?  With a Thai partner?  

Well pointed out. We farangs have nothing in common with Thai women, other than sex, IMO. Good enough for me though, as I had no desire to discuss philosophy with my wife.

 

Re the OP I'd be looking for someone under 25, so she'd always be beautiful till the day I died. I have never wanted to wake up next to a granny.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 8/2/2023 at 5:19 PM, NextG said:

Gosh you really love ‘ad-homs’ or you really are one of life’s victims. Give the phrase a rest ???? We’ve got the point by now. ‘Wokeness’ and feminism are all against you ????

 

Now, with regard to age… it’s not always an issue if you are actually compatible and I’m not talking about affordability here. 

 ‘Wokeness’ and feminism are all against you ????

 

If you think they are for the benefit of men you must have been sleeping the last 20 years.

[Ben Zioner]

12 minutes ago, zhounan said:

I am 33 yeas old, but I like women older than me. 

You are sick..

[connda]

I don't date based on age.  I date based on mutual interests.  But given that for most of my life I've looked at least 10 year younger than I am (most people comment on that when I tell them my age), I usually end up with women who are 5 to 15 years younger than me.  It just happens.  When I was younger I used to date older women.  Virtually all of them broke it off as they started looking significantly older than me.  It seems Western gals don't want partners who look like their sons.

 

 

Edited January 27 by connda

[4MyEgo]

43 minutes ago, Old Croc said:

I'm 75 my wife is 58 so if I had to pick again, I'd go for a 20yo.

 

All the way with you there Old Croc, even 18, or 19 the younger (legal) the better.

[brewsterbudgen]

12 hours ago, Neeranam said:

I agree, why would someone want to get married if over 50? Makes no sense to me.

Married 36, wife 24. 22 years late, going well in all areas.

If something happened to my wife, I'd stay single and have sex with 20-year olds if I could.

I got married at 55 as I, and more importantly my wife (25), wanted children.  

[NextG]

1 hour ago, thaibeachlovers said:

 ‘Wokeness’ and feminism are all against you ????

 

If you think they are for the benefit of men you must have been sleeping the last 20 years.

Another 🤡 who has no idea of the meaning of ‘woke’?

It’s just ‘weak’ men whining and co-opting a term for their own pathetic purpose. 
Staying ‘woke’ has nothing to do with losers finding excuses for their failures. 

[Chris Daley]

Twenty years older than me.  I want to take 100% of everything they own.

[retarius]

I'm 70, wife is 55. For me it is perfect. 

[brianthainess]

52 years younger than me would be fine. 

[zhounan]

2 hours ago, Chris Daley said:

Twenty years older than me.  I want to take 100% of everything they own.

They have at least 2mln baht waiting to be paid in 3-4 different banks.

[GinBoy2]

7 hours ago, Dante99 said:

Oh really?  With a Thai partner?  

Well if you've ever read my posts you'd know my wife is a bit of an odd Thai duck.

 

After her parents died she and her siblings were farmed out to relatives, and she ended up in Chicago with her aunt and uncle.

 

Went to High School and university in Chicago before going to Singapore to work, where we met.

 

So our life experiences are pretty similar, we laugh at the same movies, comedians, argue constantly about politics, the list goes on and on