5 Tips for dating a Thai - understanding culture

[CharlieH]

 

[Nemises]

The 5th tip sounds great!! Just gotta hope the Mrs approves…

[HappyExpat57]

I think the most important tip - Understand where you stand in the family pecking order. As a farang, you are just below the soi dog that occasionally stops by to pee on your motorbike tires.

[BangkokReady]

Rule number 1: Money = love in Thailand

 

 

Rule number 4: Thai people still seem out of touch when it comes to how much PDA is seen in public

Rule number 5: A lot of degeneracy still in Thailand

[alien365]

For those who prefer to read rather than watch videos:

1. Thai's want/like gifts. 

2. Thai's share food. 

3. Thai family is number 1.

4. Thai people don't like public displays of affection. 

5. Thai people are open to having relationships with others/giks. 

[alien365]

It's a joke to say they're okay with open relationships. How many news stories do we here about the wife attacking her husband for cheating? You'd get your balls chopped off for doing that. They'd only be okay with it if they lost no face and there's no real love in the relationship. In which case, why stay together? Because she wants your money of course. 

[Gsxrnz]

6. Thai women don't understand timeliness. This can be solved in the Pavlovian manner by leaving them stranded with no phone, no money, and no luggage for 18 hours in a place where they don't know anybody, because they didn't arrive at the car at the arranged time (plus 45 minutes).

 

Suddenly timeliness becomes important, and now she's always early.  Go figure.  

 

 

[brianthainess]

25 minutes ago, alien365 said:

For those who prefer to read rather than watch videos:

1. Thai's want/like gifts. 

2. Thai's share food. 

3. Thai family is number 1.

4. Thai people don't like public displays of affection. 

5. Thai people are open to having relationships with others/giks. 

1. Buy me gold, lend me money I give back tomorrow....

2. They Order multiple expensive dishes of which many hardly get eaten to show face in a restaurant, You pay. 

3. My Mama sick stay hospital, My 'Brother' need new moto cyi. My sister is in debt she want Money......the buffalo is part of the family.....  

4. I give you BJ now (in dark bar), .......

5. I'll cut your dick off ! 

[OneMoreFarang]

Let's say what she describes are polite ways how Thais like to see themselves.

It seems reality is often very different from those ideals. 

[OneMoreFarang]

Rule number whatever: Don't try to treat your tilac as an equal, like feminists in western countries pretend to be.

You are the boss! She wants it like that, because she doesn't want to think, because thinking is headache.

You tell her to jump, and she jumps. And both of you are happy. 

[Peterphuket]

2 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Let's say what she describes are polite ways how Thais like to see themselves.

It seems reality is often very different from those ideals. 

Indeed the way she talks about hygiene and table manners concerns hygiene.

There is sometimes a problem with that, even washing hands is often too much.

[OneMoreFarang]

2 minutes ago, Peterphuket said:

Indeed the way she talks about hygiene and table manners concerns hygiene.

There is sometimes a problem with that, even washing hands is often too much.

 

And up country everybody seems to use their own spoon or their fingers for everything.

But then again, I guess she talks about the good, educated Thai people, just like herself. 😉 

[spidermike007]

Rule #6. Ignore their timetable, play things out exactly as you want to play things out, and take your time. If it's good it's only going to get better, if there are issues they're going to reveal themselves over time. Two years minimum, before you can call it serious. Never use the love word, within the first year or two. Do you love me baby? No. I do like you. There is potential here. But, I need time. Never allow yourself to succumb to her time table, as they always seem to want push things. Don't let that happen, push back, and do whatever you can to make her aware of this.

 

I am not a wallflower, and we're going to do things at my pace. Don't like that? OK, no problem. I am moving on. See ya. 

[Hummin]

My best tip

 

Find a mature realistic girl/woman who already had a relationship with a decent gentleman who teached her everything.

 

Good language and good etiquette! 

 

She will know and appreciate a good relationship. 

 

2. Know her family and friends

 

 

[VBF]

4 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

Rule #6. Ignore their timetable, play things out exactly as you want to play things out, and take your time. If it's good it's only going to get better, if there are issues they're going to reveal themselves over time. Two years minimum, before you can call it serious. Never use the love word, within the first year or two. Do you love me baby? No. I do like you. There is potential here. But, I need time. Never allow yourself to succumb to her time table, as they always seem to want push things. Don't let that happen, push back, and do whatever you can to make her aware of this.

 

I am not a wallflower, and we're going to do things at my pace. Don't like that? OK, no problem. I am moving on. See ya. 

So true!

[Celsius]

You could also marry a pure bred Chinese like I did and avoid the bs

[it is what it is]

5 hours ago, alien365 said:

For those who prefer to read rather than watch videos:

1. Thai's want/like gifts. 

2. Thai's share food. 

3. Thai family is number 1.

4. Thai people don't like public displays of affection. 

5. Thai people are open to having relationships with others/giks. 

 

i like gifts

i'm ok about sharing food

my family is extremely important to me

this one difficult as i'm happy snogging in public

i have been known to have a bit on the side.

 

am i so different from other foreigners here?

[alien365]

10 hours ago, it is what it is said:

 

i like gifts

i'm ok about sharing food

my family is extremely important to me

this one difficult as i'm happy snogging in public

i have been known to have a bit on the side.

 

am i so different from other foreigners here?

1. Are gifts important to your love for someone? Are they integral to your relationships?

2.Sharing food, fair enough. I don't have any problems either, but I wasn't /am not arguing that we are different on all counts  

3. Do you do what your mum and dad want you to do rather than doing what you want to do as an adult? If your parents did not like your gf would you dump her?  

4. The more I live here, the more difficult I find pda. I get a lot of stares anyway living in an area without many westerners. 

5. Did your gf/wife accept to you having a bit on the side. Would you be okay with your lady having sex with another man? 

 

Ultimately, the answers to the above make little difference, but for me there are some points I can accept and others not. If she expect gifts in return for love, this is a transaction, not a relationship to me. If she did what her parents wanted her to do rather than what we as a couple wanted to do, once again, end of relationship. If she want to bend over for other men on the side, once again it's not gonna work with me, but we all have our own boundaries. 

[GinBoy2]

Some of this agree with.

 

The gift thing, totally on board with, but it's little different in the West when you go visit you take a bottle of wine or the like.

 

I've never liked holding hand and certainly not kissing in public, so that for me is a given

 

I supported my parents in their old age, but maybe an Hispanic thing not totally Asian.

 

Food ditto

 

Gik thing. Well pretty sure my wife would chop off my balls in my sleep if I even thought about it!