It wasn't me. 

 

We run a small business, and years ago, the mother (AAA) of the child (BBB) who recently got pregnant-  used to work for us. She was a nice kid who played with our child. She quit after a few yrs but 2 yrs ago came back to ask me for a loan to pay BBB's school fees at the EP program of a govt school. I said to her she can work it off by coming back part time in the evenings and doing cleaning. She accepted the offer and I remember saying to her that she should make BBB come here and do her homework. It never really happened. She just let the girl stay at home alone. She is a single mum. They divorced a long time ago. Father is an alcoholic with no contact. 

 

To describe AAA:

- Nice person but simple with low IQ

- Earlier this year she asked me for more money. She hadnt paid her moped finance. 3 months behind. She stupidly did finance on a 55k moped and total loan was 133k or something like that. 

- We were going away for a holiday and I offered her fresh fruit and vege from our fridge. No thanks she said. 'We only eat meals from 7 11

- Recently AAA decided to come work full time with us again. The deal was I would clear the loan 25k to zero. Pay her 20k a month plus OT. She quit after 3 weeks and now back to doing low paid market job and coming back working for us part time paying off the debt. She is financially irresponsible and stupid. We have a very happy work environment with 6 staff. Its all a good laugh and vibe and busy business. Unsure why she quit. 

- Several months ago AAA told us that her daughter was screaming and fighting with her at the village room where they stay. The landlord said no more noise or they are both out. 

 

BBB:

- Obviously had no father

- Hopeless mother who is not strong with discipline

- Overweight with her ultra processed food diet

- After the screaming incident above AAA asked my wife and I to talk to her. I told her that if she is a good girl and studies hard I would pay for her school fees for free and send her to university as well. I said no boyfriends though until she is older. We later found out that she was already having sex with the 27 yr old thai guy (boyfriend) at the time of that meeting.

 

My wife and I found out she was pregnant via one of our staff members whose friend knows the 27 yr old. I sent some assertive messages to AAA stating my disapproval and that its illegal and the guy should go to prison. AAA doesnt talk to me now when she comes back to work part time.

 

My wife said stay out of it and dont report anything to the police. The guy or his family could come after me. The wife said to me that I should not intervene in anyone else's problems

 

In a western country I would not hesitate to go to the police and report this. But here I think its too dangerous. Its weak of me I know but I have to think about my safety and my family's well being. 

 

The abortion was done at the big local govt hospital. The dr's said she is too young to keep it. 

 

I feel that, in the future, this girl might end up in soi 6 pattaya one day whilst AAA looks after the next baby. 

 

Another depressing day in Thailand. The 27 yr old pedo will get away with it. 

 

 

 

 

How about this; mind ur own f business in TH

And then they complain about Thailand's critically low fertility rate

 

 

 

23 minutes ago, ubonr1971 said:

Another depressing day in Thailand

This also happens in other countries. 

 

The world is depressing at times. 

 

DON'T SINGLE OUT THAILAND. 

 

You want to be a hero, join the UN. 

 

 

Another gallant Western male comes galloping on his white horse to save a poor brown Asian girl in distress.

Well, get somebody to teach her how not to get pregnant in future. Maybe pay for her pill if she is a "good" Girl in future. 

But in the end, its not your problem. Don't make it one for you.

Her parents are worse than the pedophile.  A near legal age of 15 relationship is one thing.  Premeditated murder is another.

51 minutes ago, ubonr1971 said:

In a western country I would not hesitate to go to the police and report this. But here I think its too dangerous. Its weak of me I know but I have to think about my safety and my family's well being. 

The standard you walk past is the standard you condone.

 

Let's see, get your daughter a GED or more booze, glue and a little bit of gambling on the phone?  Tough choice.

Its not your place to police the girl's personal behavior or comment on it unless the mother asks you to. The most you should be involved is offering whatever help financially you feel is appropriate for school under conditions that are acceptable to you ie: the girl or mother working it off. Trying to dictate personal relationship acceptability isn't your place even if that's the correct view or position to have for yourself. If you don't accept the behavior then remove yourself or them from the situation unless asked to stay involved. As for contacting the police that's up to you. The standard Thai view is what your wife quoted and not accurate in most situations, but they hate to confront anything like this and prefer to act like they dont know. If the mother doesnt want to then its a difficult position to stay involved in. Is there no other family members that can get involved on the girls behalf and she clearly need that.

Because she is 14 a well-researched AN member will tell you the correct term of "hebaphile" or some such age region term....they know their target audience well. 🤩

 

YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE.

BBB will definitely end up in Pattaya and so it continues

It's just your normal Thai dysfunctional family life.

 

You see versions of this everyday in rural Thailand. 

As weird as it might sound; let it be. It is not your issue and whatever you do, you will not change anything. Worst case scenario is that some in-laws of the 27yrs old will hunt you down with all possible consequences. 
The girl is psychologically damaged goods already and there is absolutely nothing you could do to stop/reverse that. Follow the advice of your wife as she is - regretfully - absolutely right. 

15 hours ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

This also happens in other countries. 

 

Not in the eyes of those with a "Hi, Me Mr Ultra-Perfect, Ultra-Superior Westerner With A Sneeringly Patronising Contempt For Everything And Everyone Thai" attitude, though.

 

1st or 2nd pregnancy ?

16 hours ago, ubonr1971 said:

It wasn't me. 

 

We run a small business, and years ago, the mother (AAA) of the child (BBB) who recently got pregnant-  used to work for us. She was a nice kid who played with our child. She quit after a few yrs but 2 yrs ago came back to ask me for a loan to pay BBB's school fees at the EP program of a govt school. I said to her she can work it off by coming back part time in the evenings and doing cleaning. She accepted the offer and I remember saying to her that she should make BBB come here and do her homework. It never really happened. She just let the girl stay at home alone. She is a single mum. They divorced a long time ago. Father is an alcoholic with no contact. 

 

To describe AAA:

- Nice person but simple with low IQ

- Earlier this year she asked me for more money. She hadnt paid her moped finance. 3 months behind. She stupidly did finance on a 55k moped and total loan was 133k or something like that. 

- We were going away for a holiday and I offered her fresh fruit and vege from our fridge. No thanks she said. 'We only eat meals from 7 11

- Recently AAA decided to come work full time with us again. The deal was I would clear the loan 25k to zero. Pay her 20k a month plus OT. She quit after 3 weeks and now back to doing low paid market job and coming back working for us part time paying off the debt. She is financially irresponsible and stupid. We have a very happy work environment with 6 staff. Its all a good laugh and vibe and busy business. Unsure why she quit. 

- Several months ago AAA told us that her daughter was screaming and fighting with her at the village room where they stay. The landlord said no more noise or they are both out. 

 

BBB:

- Obviously had no father

- Hopeless mother who is not strong with discipline

- Overweight with her ultra processed food diet

- After the screaming incident above AAA asked my wife and I to talk to her. I told her that if she is a good girl and studies hard I would pay for her school fees for free and send her to university as well. I said no boyfriends though until she is older. We later found out that she was already having sex with the 27 yr old thai guy (boyfriend) at the time of that meeting.

 

My wife and I found out she was pregnant via one of our staff members whose friend knows the 27 yr old. I sent some assertive messages to AAA stating my disapproval and that its illegal and the guy should go to prison. AAA doesnt talk to me now when she comes back to work part time.

 

My wife said stay out of it and dont report anything to the police. The guy or his family could come after me. The wife said to me that I should not intervene in anyone else's problems

 

In a western country I would not hesitate to go to the police and report this. But here I think its too dangerous. Its weak of me I know but I have to think about my safety and my family's well being. 

 

The abortion was done at the big local govt hospital. The dr's said she is too young to keep it. 

 

I feel that, in the future, this girl might end up in soi 6 pattaya one day whilst AAA looks after the next baby. 

 

Another depressing day in Thailand. The 27 yr old pedo will get away with it. 

 

 

 

 

Unfortunately this happens every day in every country🥺

14 is past its sell by date in most Muslim Countries.

3 hours ago, OJAS said:

 

Not in the eyes of those with a "Hi, Me Mr Ultra-Perfect, Ultra-Superior Westerner With A Sneeringly Patronising Contempt For Everything And Everyone Thai" attitude, though.

 

 

There seems to be quite a few of them on AN nowadays.

Best not to make morally superior judgements about others, and best not to mind other people's business.

many moons ago, we had a maid, worked for us for years... she 40, got pregnant again, at the same time as ... her 16 year old daughter...

We have a was 13, now 14-year old girl living with an 21-year old boy in our residential block.

Not pregnant yet.......

21 minutes ago, john donson said:

many moons ago, we had a maid, worked for us for years... she 40, got pregnant again, at the same time as ... her 16 year old daughter...

 

same man impregnated them ?

21 hours ago, freedomnow said:

Because she is 14 a well-researched AN member will tell you the correct term of "hebaphile" or some such age region term....they know their target audience well. 🤩

 

YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE.

Looks as though it is you fulfilling that well-researched role!

7 hours ago, OJAS said:

 

Not in the eyes of those with a "Hi, Me Mr Ultra-Perfect, Ultra-Superior Westerner With A Sneeringly Patronising Contempt For Everything And Everyone Thai" attitude, though.

 

Hear, hear!

1 hour ago, Liverpool Lou said:

Looks as though it is you fulfilling that well-researched role!

Actually, no  - I read a couple members clarifying that in past 2 years.

Imagine not being able to afford a free education system.  Or was it that the mom was off her face at 3am and didn't take her kid to school? 

This is a fairly standard relationship in Thailand for some.  Best to keep out of it.  Including trying to help the woman or her kid.

22 hours ago, freedomnow said:

Because she is 14 a well-researched AN member will tell you the correct term of "hebaphile" or some such age region term....they know their target audience well. 🤩

 

And another user will respond, "Hebephile?!!  What a stupid made up meaningless ridiculous word!  He's a paedophile!!!"  🙄

 

(The stupidity here being that paedophile is a word coined in exactly the same fashion as hebephile.)

2 hours ago, john donson said:

many moons ago, we had a maid, worked for us for years... she 40, got pregnant again, at the same time as ... her 16 year old daughter...

 

Same father?