Do you get asked to support the extended family or know of people who do? 

The trick is to go hard and go early and ask them to support my extended family before they have a chance to ask me to support theirs.

 

 

 

 

18 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

Do you get asked to support the extended family or know of people who do? 

We support each other 😉

 

They work for us and when we are not there they live on our farm and make sure everything stays the same as we where there. 

Just the good for nothing mother.

 

nope, and never would. 

8 minutes ago, it is what it is said:

 

nope, and never would. 

Neither did I

1 hour ago, Harrisfan said:

or know of people who do?

Sure, but this is expected of anyone successful living in Thai society. If you were a broke drunk with gambling debt they would probably care for you and not ask for money. You'd still be accepted in society though. I like this about Asian culture. 
 

When I was staying at a gfs family home her grandma gave me 1000 baht. They live in one of those open air farm houses and sleep on the floor with lizards and critters on the walls so hardly rich. I took them out for dinner to the most expensive restaurant in the nearby city but even that was a struggle to pay. I'm sure I broke some faces but whatever. 

Edit: age plays a huge role in this 

 

No one ever in Thailand.  

 

But then again I present myself as alpha male. My wife supports me and it feels great.

Somebody is getting the little bit of money they do have siphoned off by the rented wife's family. Another poor sod having to learn things the hard way. 

A lawyer friend of mine supports 6 of her family, kinda normal, even deadbeat druggie brother

I supported my step daughter and her bludging boy friend for 4 years. One afternoon they came home with a brand new Toyota pick up. So I quickly pulled the pin and gave them their marching orders. They haven't spoken to me since which is a definite plus. My wifes siblings treat me terrific, I've only been asked for money once in 25 years, her unmarried sister needed 2,000 baht to help with her sons school fees. She paid me back in 2 weeks, her son is now 27 yo and is going realy well. He has a wife, his own house and a 3 yo son and a very good job, there's not many young people like him in Thailand. Even if she hadn't paid me back I would've considered it money well spent.

7 hours ago, Harrisfan said:

Do you get asked to support the extended family or know of people who do? 

Yes.

6 hours ago, Celsius said:

No one ever in Thailand.  

 

But then again I present myself as alpha male. My wife supports me and it feels great.

 

3 guys supporting parasite family downvoted my post.

6 minutes ago, Celsius said:

 

3 guys supporting parasite family downvoted my post.

Maybe you shouldn't brag about being an alpha male. It isn't always something to be proud of, and your wife supporting you goes against what most believe in.And you can't assume the ones who down voted you are supporting anything. They just might not have liked what you said.

My family has always helped me out. When I built my house, my wife's brothers helped for free. My wife's sister gave us her truck to use for the first year. They take care of my house when my wife and I are out of the country. I have loaned money to them, they have always paid me back, and insisted on paying me interest. When one of my wife's brothers lost his leg, I offered to support him and his wife until they could figure out what to do. They refused, saying they would be alright on what his wife was making.

 

On the other hand, I know a guy who, after getting a divorce from his wife, had her parents come to his door wanting to know when they would be getting their monthly check.

9 hours ago, Harrisfan said:

Do you get asked to support the extended family or know of people who do? 

No, and I would say no. 

Nope.....

 

 

But I married an orphan!

2 hours ago, Celsius said:

 

3 guys supporting parasite family downvoted my post.

Poor thing

No chance, And never Buy /Rent  a House with more then 2 Bedrooms, other wise unlimited Family arrive for an extended Holiday, especially  at Songkran, Second bedroom no Air Con too

1 hour ago, Harrisfan said:

Poor thing

 

Not yet....still not paying 

From Orson Welles 'Citizen Kane 1941 -- Welles himself as Kane (not that I have millions):

 

Kane: You're right, I did lose a million dollars last year. I expect to lose a million dollars this year. I expect to lose a million dollars *next* year. You know, Mr. Thatcher, at the rate of a million dollars a year, I'll have to close this place in... sixty years.

 

Helped her family out with several loans to start businesses etc, but always paid back, albeit over a couple of years.

13 hours ago, Harrisfan said:

Do you get asked to support the extended family or know of people who do? 

16 years back paid off the loan on her family farm (100kbht), and promised her mom 3kbht/month.

In return our son gets the farm when mom dies (farm already in wifes name), and mom agrees not to live with us, ever!

 

Didn't think it was a bad deal.

Mother-in-law said to me, “can you help me out”?  I said, “sure,  what door did you come in”?  

55 minutes ago, Jack Hammer said:

Mother-in-law said to me, “can you help me out”?  I said, “sure,

 

We tried for a while, but stopped as it created too many issues.

 

My Missus is the youngest in a large family, and we helped with small amounts to tide them over until pay day or to clear debts to reduce the crazy interest rates charged by the local loan sharks.  My wife managed the larger amounts as interest free loans, and they all repaid on time.  But it was never enough.

 

The elder family members felt they had a right to be in a better position in life than their youngest sibling, so they expected her to give them everything to preserve their privileged position as the elders.  So helping them out with a few thousand baht, or even refinancing loans was not enough and it created intense resentment.  

 

One by one the jealous rage from family members forced my wife to stop all contact, which saved us money and hassle.

 

We still helped to support her Mother until she passed, but that's all.

 

My wife helps to run our business, so has her own money, and several of the younger generation works in our business part time, so they can earn extra money, but no more 'free money' to the family.

 

15 hours ago, MalcolmB said:

The trick is to go hard and go early and ask them to support my extended family before they have a chance to ask me to support theirs.

 

 

 

 

So that's how it's done in the gay community.

25 minutes ago, Kinnock said:

The elder family members felt they had a right to be in a better position in life than their youngest sibling, so they expected her to give them everything to preserve their privileged position as the elders. 

 

The eldest child issue is a  real thing, I have one girl who is the oldest daughter. She's taking it up on herself to support her mother, whilst the younger sister is dropping 20000 baht to get a nose job.

 

Unbelievable. I tell her, why do you bother, she left you to be raised by the grandmother? "Oh you no understand, you not  Thai".

16 hours ago, Harrisfan said:

Do you get asked to support the extended family or know of people who do? 

Who gave the emojis? 

1 minute ago, Harrisfan said:

Who gave the emojis? 

I saw they removed some negative emotions in a weed tread lately, you might get them removed if you report them. Your fan club expect you to write a few more lines and also tell us how you solve this delicate issue many faces in a relationship with a thai woman.