7 hours ago, Mika78 said:

what risks might I run, especially regarding my bank account?

Absolutely none...unless you've been up to something untoward financially, of course.

like someone said: cut your losses and leave asap, or spend the rest of your life regretting you didnt

When i finished my exgf from kalasin i block her on FB.. change my number.Moved to another hotel.

She was crazy jealous .made hell on daily basis.She working in Bangkok and went to work everyday 9 am..back 7 pm.

She called me 5 times an hour to check what im doing.Asked the security if someone had visited me and so on..

I meet her again last trip in Bangkok but just talked a short time in the street.She get so far.

10 hours ago, Mika78 said:

I'm going through a pretty serious crisis with my girlfriend. My question is this: if I leave (also because she's seeing a Thai guy) and she, as she always does, threatens to report me (though I don't know for what, since I never raised a hand or hurt her in any way, when she asked for money, I usually gave it to her), what risks might I run, especially regarding my bank account? My fear is that any false accusation could lead to my account being frozen. Thank you.

What does she want to achieve by threatening you exactly? For you to continue to stay  (and pay) and simply to accept she got a lover on the side?

You wrote "(also because she's seeing a Thai guy)" so what else is going on?

 

Some thoughts to access the threat level:

Is she some „nobody“ , an inconsequential ex-bar-girl from Isaan? Or connections to police? Or from a good maybe even rich or connected family? Huge difference.

Would be more concerned about violence than the bank account (unless u've made yourself vulnerable by doing some illegal stuff) .

A friend of mine found himself with a screw driver in his arm during a similar "serious crisis" situation.

Guy I knew (not me and not asking for a friend :)) decided to go out with someone else and thinking about leaving the relationship.

One day she started to bash up her face really badly, then went to the police and blamed him. At the police station (unbeknown to her) he had been filming her antics and showed them the video. 🙂

 

Quetly prepare to leave, get a new phone number, work out how you will move anything you want to take with you and next time she is out for a few hours with her Thai bf, move!

 

Can move to a differant part of the city or move to a new city, block her on your social media, change the sim.

Done.

 

 

P.S do not belive any sob story that she will change an not see Thai bf

The fact that she is threatening to report you should be enough reason to get well away from her.  Nothing worse than a psycho girl.

5 hours ago, Liverpool Lou said:

What if she does meet another man, can a single girl not do that?

 

If she was single, there wouldn’t be any thread here at AN 😉

 

do you believe it is an imaginary relationship where he pay her?

4 minutes ago, Hummin said:

do you believe it is an imaginary relationship where he pay her?

 

do you think it's appropriate to ask OP if she is a former bar girl? 

 

13 hours ago, Mika78 said:

I'm going through a pretty serious crisis with my girlfriend. My question is this: if I leave (also because she's seeing a Thai guy) and she, as she always does, threatens to report me (though I don't know for what, since I never raised a hand or hurt her in any way, when she asked for money, I usually gave it to her), what risks might I run, especially regarding my bank account? My fear is that any false accusation could lead to my account being frozen. Thank you.

Leave unexpectedly, maybe when she's away for a while.

Put as much distance between you and her as is reasonable.

Don't answer calls or messages from her, no contact at all.

Expect anything you leave behind to be burned or broken.

 

Then if you get accused, you wouldn't have been there.

And will have witnesses you were somewhere else.

Nice beach resort for a week or two to start off, tip the staff frequently so they remember you.

 

Accusations are always a risk at the end of relationships.

Good luck!

13 hours ago, Mika78 said:

I'm going through a pretty serious crisis with my girlfriend. My question is this: if I leave (also because she's seeing a Thai guy) and she, as she always does, threatens to report me (though I don't know for what, since I never raised a hand or hurt her in any way, when she asked for money, I usually gave it to her), what risks might I run, especially regarding my bank account? My fear is that any false accusation could lead to my account being frozen. Thank you.

"threatens to report me (though I don't know for what, since I never raised a hand or hurt her in any way,"

 

So it sounds like you do know what she is saying.

Reporting you for violence.

If you didn't do should be no problem.

 

If you had immigration issues she was threatening about you might have a different story.

 

 

18 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

 

do you think it's appropriate to ask OP if she is a former bar girl? 

 

 

This is a scenario where only one good advise is good enough, and that is to leave and never look back. 

 

His worries about being reported is not a case as long she haven’t filed any reports previously with proofs he have done something that is worth investigating. If she is a bar lady or just a psychopath really doesnt matter. 

 

Getting involved with abused and hurt and damaged ladies with mental problems will always come with challenges. 

 

And we do not know the OP, only his version of the story. I do not doubt there is many who are living in abusive relationships in Thailand, and have also seen it first hand. Also met a few who showed their real face early, but had to decency for both part and end it right away when red flags appeared. 

 

So should we speculate if she is a bar lady or not? Does it matter really ? 

12 hours ago, CallumWK said:

Money can't buy a happy life, not for a single or a married person.

 

If I may I should like to respectfully disagree.

 

Like my old friend Goldstein was always telling me, '50 million [USD] is about right for a single guy.'

13 hours ago, Will Iam Not said:

So you give her money to get  seconds. Jeeez! There are two words in English, and the second one is OFF.

Ohh I don't know about that.... Lots of men in here pay ridiculous amounts to have 2nds and even 3rds or 4ths from bar girls. the little head talks and they listen. 

 

As for this mans situation. I had a Thai woman similar previously, and I jsut left and blocked her from all my chat apps. Seemed to do the trick. I do not think immigration will do anything if she goes there as a dumped lover. Unless you are doing something illegal they will not care. They may pull your name up on the computer to make sure you are doing your reports and your address is listed.. But that is probably all they would do. 

I would break off contact with anyone who issues threats

43 minutes ago, thesetat said:

As for this mans situation. I had a Thai woman similar previously, and I jsut left and blocked her from all my chat apps. Seemed to do the trick. I do not think immigration will do anything if she goes there as a dumped lover. Unless you are doing something illegal they will not care. They may pull your name up on the computer to make sure you are doing your reports and your address is listed.. But that is probably all they would do. 

And after pulling up your address, may hand that address to her for a small consideration. So it's best if your new address is an inconvenient distance away.

14 hours ago, Mika78 said:

I'm going through a pretty serious crisis with my girlfriend. My question is this: if I leave (also because she's seeing a Thai guy) and she, as she always does, threatens to report me (though I don't know for what, since I never raised a hand or hurt her in any way, when she asked for money, I usually gave it to her), what risks might I run, especially regarding my bank account? My fear is that any false accusation could lead to my account being frozen. Thank you.

Nope, that´s not serious! It´s a damn joke! Run Mike, Run!

14 hours ago, hotandsticky said:

 

 

Those 'seconds' are probably better than your firsts.........................if indeed they are  -  I have yet to meet a virgin in Thailand.

I met one once, in Soi Cowboy

She told me she was, so I guess she was telling the truth 

 

I met a Latina gal in NYC who told me she was "almost a virgin."  I laughed, It was not the response she expected.  If I controlled myself I could have had a good time making her explain how that works.

Oh, and she told me this after she had proven to me that she most definitely wasn't.

 

Take her to eat. Tell her how great she looks. Take some photos of her. Pack up and leave that night. If she bashes herself or has someone do it for her you have evidence she looked fine hours before and all was well. 

Lots and lots of older virgins or just 1 2 bfs in Thailand early twenties. Most of you are just mixing only with the trash. 

There is fifty ways to leave your lover, Said Paul Simon, sneak out the back, make a new plan, and set yourself free...

16 minutes ago, MarcusAurelius said:

Lots and lots of older virgins or just 1 2 bfs in Thailand early twenties. Most of you are just mixing only with the trash. 

You think women who aren't virgins are trash?

Are you a virgin?

Just now, BritManToo said:

You think women who aren't virgins are trash?

Are you a virgin?

 That's not what I'd stated. 

You can also start making noises about criminal penalties for filing false police reports, countersuing for slander, and having a friend who says he knows a good lawyer.

I would guess that she has absolutely no recourse and she's just throwing out threats because she doesn't want her ATM to dry up.

 

You don't really have a choice, you must leave and the sooner you do it the better, and the longer you wait the more you're going to hate yourself and the lower yourself esteem is going to get. It's best not to let yourself be trampled upon like a dog, and since you've already determined that she's a low caliber woman and you guys don't fit together, if it were me I'd be out within 24 hours, and if it was my place I'd have her out within 24 hours. 

 

On the plains of hesitation bleach the bones of countless millions who at the dawn of victory sat down to rest, and resting perished. 

5 hours ago, Hummin said:

10 hours ago, Liverpool Lou said:

What if she does meet another man, can a single girl not do that?

 

If she was single, there wouldn’t be any thread here at AN

She is single, as is he.

17 hours ago, Mason45 said:

For a single guy move on and cut all contacts even if it means changing your phone number and where you stay in Thailand.

Just kick her out of your house and take a new girlfriend. Why so afraid? 

Run Forrest Run

5 hours ago, henryford1958 said:

The fact that she is threatening to report you should be enough reason to get well away from her.  Nothing worse than a psycho girl.

There all nuttier than squirrel schit,,if put in the right environment..