So anyway, I am in a pool at our village in Phuket. Son and I are swimming...

Wife is playing with, what else, LINE.

This older Thai lady, maybe 60ish, comments to her grandson, 7 ish...in Thai...."doo, yaak kao". Loosely translated to white skinned fat dude, or something to that effect.

Wife turns her head and calls her (she ain't slim herself) yaak dumm! Dark fatso...

Anyways, granny lost her knickers and had a shouting match with wife.

I actually had to get out of the pool just in case wife and her go at it.

We were both in complete disbelief. Ok for her to insult and worst of all, teach her grandchild wrongly. But it was wrong for wife to shoot it back at her.

We both cannot get over it... And she is Thai!

Assume it was "yak" = "giant"

Not exactly a slur.

Yep, look at the white giant ..... not all that rude.

"Look at the black giant", on the other hand...look out.

Yes there is much insensitivity here.

The other day on an elevator, some Thais holding a very chubby and shall I say UGLY baby. The baby is looking at me. I am smiling at the baby trying to be a sport.

The baby starts crying. Oh well!

The Thais then start insulting me: calling me fat (in Thai), calling me UGLY (in English).

Wow.

Yes I know Thais call people fat all the time but this was malicious.

It's like being regarded as a thing with absolutely no feelings.

Yes there is much insensitivity here.

The other day on an elevator, some Thais holding a very chubby and shall I say UGLY baby. The baby is looking at me. I am smiling at the baby trying to be a sport.

The baby starts crying. Oh well!

The Thais then start insulting me: calling me fat (in Thai), calling me UGLY (in English).

Wow.

Hope you said, "not as ugly as your black, fat baby".

So the wife instantly recognised that the description applied to you.

Assume it was "yak" = "giant"

Not exactly a slur.

Okay, a better translation than "white-skinned fat dude," but something must be missing here, or his wife's Thai is poor.

Assume it was "yak" = "giant"

Not exactly a slur.

Okay, a better translation than "white-skinned fat dude," but something must be missing here, or his wife's Thai is poor.

Yep, the return wasn't spot on either.

Female giant is 'Yak sinee', I would have replied 'Doo Yak sinee dam pit pee'

Yes there is much insensitivity here.

The other day on an elevator, some Thais holding a very chubby and shall I say UGLY baby. The baby is looking at me. I am smiling at the baby trying to be a sport.

The baby starts crying. Oh well!

The Thais then start insulting me: calling me fat (in Thai), calling me UGLY (in English).

Wow.

Yes I know Thais call people fat all the time but this was malicious. 

It's like being regarded as a thing with absolutely no feelings. 

 

Don't worry about it. The only thing they got left is that most of them are slim so they call everybody fat. Besides I dont know when they are going to notice that they are not slim because they are in good shape but they are simply skinny fat so they should just stay quiet.

I'm not worried. I've encountered that group before and noticed how vulgar they are. My feelings can't be hurt by people I don't respect. I didn't react at all except to smile actually at how idiotic they were. Their baby is definitely going to be an obese child. I'm sad for him about that but he's stuck with limited intelligence parents. Such is fate. Can't be helped.

I'm not worried. I've encountered that group before and noticed how vulgar they are. My feelings can't be hurt by people I don't respect. I didn't react at all except to smile actually at how idiotic they were. Their baby is definitely going to be an obese child. I'm sad for him about that but he's stuck with limited intelligence parents. Such is fate. Can't be helped.

My feelings can't be hurt by people I don't respect. - awesome saying.

Really who gives a toss what morons may say ....! Dogs may bark, but the caravan moves on as the saying goes!!!

Assume it was "yak" = "giant"

Not exactly a slur.

My wife often uses "yak" for too fat or fat and walk like a yak, etc, etc.

Never heard it as something polite. But that might differ from person to person from area to area.

Here they often tease themself.

Call one child E-Dum. Someone other E-uon, etc etc but all laugh about it and the victim tries to get a revenge later by finding some other mistake like "better black than stupid" etc etc.

Jokes I would never make. But they do and no one is angry.

Easy answer.

I can lose the fat.

You can't stop being ugly.

They can get beautiful at Yanhee...

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At least she didn't call Greenpeace!

Should have hopped out of the pool, and started doing this:

That would have gave her some gossip.

Assume it was "yak" = "giant"

Not exactly a slur.

It was a slur. The OP. wife is thai. You thai apologists should wise up, and think before you chime in.

You're right. Let's form a posse.

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So OP, I hope you don't mind me asking.

Are you fat?

I got this tonight off our kid.

"No Kow Pad for Daddy, Daddy fat." Wouldn't let me in the kitchen.

Daddy spent two hours preparing this burnt flavourless offering.

What I am getting from the OP is that his wife stood up for him (whether or not he is a fat farang is immaterial).

She's a keeper.

I took it from the title that you were doing some thing to stop it. But no one would listen to you.

Good thing there is no Thai word for lard ass.

Yes there is much insensitivity here.

The other day on an elevator, some Thais holding a very chubby and shall I say UGLY baby. The baby is looking at me. I am smiling at the baby trying to be a sport.

The baby starts crying. Oh well!

The Thais then start insulting me: calling me fat (in Thai), calling me UGLY (in English).

Wow.

Yes I know Thais call people fat all the time but this was malicious.

It's like being regarded as a thing with absolutely no feelings.

It is only getting a tiny bit worse, step by step, drip by drip every day. Basic daily nicety and simple human respect is getting eroded here every day.

What I am getting from the OP is that his wife stood up for him (whether or not he is a fat farang is immaterial).

She's a keeper.

I must admit, I try and look for the positive and could think of one until this comment ... thanks.

For your wife to 'stand up' for you against her Mother should be commended and possibly that action rewarded. Particularly when this was done in public.

Is it "... wrong for wife to shoot it back at her." ... maybe, but that also is testament to the frustration your wife felt towards her mother.

That takes balls great courage for a Thai Daughter.

The trick is to have a wallet that is fatter than you are

We've only the OP's word on the implied offense. I'd probably ignore and move on.

The trick is to have a wallet that is fatter than you are

...and short arms.

What I am getting from the OP is that his wife stood up for him (whether or not he is a fat farang is immaterial).

She's a keeper.

I must admit, I try and look for the positive and could think of one until this comment ... thanks.

For your wife to 'stand up' for you against her Mother should be commended and possibly that action rewarded. Particularly when this was done in public.

Is it "... wrong for wife to shoot it back at her." ... maybe, but that also is testament to the frustration your wife felt towards her mother.

That takes balls great courage for a Thai Daughter.

the wife and the old hag are not related