I'm no longer married, so simply playing devil's advocate here.

 

With the various visa and financial requirements in Thailand, some expats are moving to live in Cambodia.  If you're single, the decision may not be too difficult.  But if you are married to a Thai women, and financial considerations force you to move to a neighbouring country, would your Thai wife willingly move with you?

 

You moved from your home country to live with your Thai wife in Thailand.  Would she do the same for you?  (I mention Cambodia because it's not too difficult for a Thai person to live in Cambodia, still close to Thailand etc. Moving back to your home country might be a hard task - visa requirements etc).

 

To ask the question more bluntly, did your Thai wife marry you out of love, or is it all about money and security?

She'd be happy to move to Oz with me, but Cambodia no. Nor would I expect her to. She loves me because I provide her with money and security.

I think if we went to Laos she would go.  She was ok in America but missed her family.  In Laos she would be close enough, still speaks the local language and the food would be the same.  She would be okay there i think, if i ever had to make the move. 

if she thought cambodia would be ok enough,

-we would be too different to live with each other

No.

My missus would be happy to move back to the UK, or move to Laos.

But not Cambodia. She's been there on holiday with me, does'nt like the country that much, nor the food. People are ok and there is also a language barrier.

Cambodia is a big come down, end of story.

No she wouldn't because I wouldn't move to Cambodia..

 

Back to the states no problem, Sicily yes.  

I guess what I am saying is my wife would move anywhere with me but it would be discussed. 

I'm sorry but this is tough to answer because are you the guy that makes 100,000 baht every month teaching English online ( sorry but you / he invariably mentions this so I wanted t be sure you are the same person )

who has recently relocated to Laos because it suits you better ( having already built and run hotels in Phuket , tought English in Burma and generally done just about all there is to do in Asia that a person can do ?

 

Why are you posting threads here when quiet clearly you know it all already and are obviously ahead of the game and have very little to learn here ?

 

I don't ask for this clarification lighty. I have always read and been interested in your periginations I just can't understand why you are asking us about something when obviously we should be asking you !!

Cambodia? - no from both of us.  Wife is now PR in Australia and we enjoy both Oz and Thailand.

yes

I couldnt imagine moving to cambodia or having a Thai wife.

No way, Thais see Cambodia as a big drop down in class

No, because my Thai GF would be abandoning all her networks.

It's all about money and security, not just in Thailand.

44 minutes ago, madmen said:

No way, Thais see Cambodia as a big drop down in class

 

98% True.  Thais are quite spoiled infrastructurally in their home turf:

 

• Paved main roads and major side roads, fairly good maintenance with filling potholes and occasional repavement.
• regular trash pickup 
• running water + potable water that is cheap/accessible.
• electric grid that is up 99% of the time,
• Hospitals in nearly every district (Amphur); nearly every sub-districts (Tambon) have at least 1 health clinic. 
• Fiber internet that's pretty good (200+Mbps down on the basic plan)
• Mobile phone coverage from at least one of the carriers (if you are near the "main road").
• Postal service or private carrier (Kerry et al) that can get expedited package from drop off to delivery point (one end of Thailand to the other) with 2-3 day delivery.  Regular/registered parcel mail 3-5 days.
• wet/floating markets with regular turnover
• convenience stores away from the downtown districts that you can buy most staples without making the trip "to the town" all the time.
• well banked, with ATMs, CDMs et. all over as well as alternative methods to pay most bills (mobile apps, convenience stores, etc)

 

The overwhelming majority of Thais would not want to move there.  Visit?  Sure on occasion.  That would actually be an interesting reality TV show: To select a few Thais and challenge them to live in Cambodia for 30-90 days.

 

Nothing against Khmer people btw.

I asked my Thai girlfriend if you wanted to go to Cambodia for a vacation.

 

This is what she said. "Cam-boo-de-ah people bad. No like Thai people. Cannot."

6 minutes ago, NCC1701A said:

I asked my Thai girlfriend if you wanted to go to Cambodia for a vacation.

 

This is what she said. "Cam-boo-de-ah people bad. No like Thai people. Cannot."

 

Well. There you have it in black and white. An honest straightforward opinion without any irrelevant sidetracking.

 

 

I'll tell you something NCC ( excuse the abridged informality ) You want to hang on to this one for at least a couple of days. Have a night in in front of the television with her. She sounds a lot more street wise than the usual fluff.

16 minutes ago, NCC1701A said:

I asked my Thai girlfriend if you wanted to go to Cambodia for a vacation.

 

This is what she said. "Cam-boo-de-ah people bad. No like Thai people. Cannot."

not 'same' thai people, surely. 

She'd be happy to move to Oz with me, but Cambodia no. Nor would I expect her to. She loves me because I provide her with money and security.

Very thai definition of “love”!


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I don't ask for this clarification lighty. I have always read and been interested in your periginations I just can't understand why you are asking us about something when obviously we should be asking you !!

 

LoL, read the title of my post ==> 'Move to Cambodia would your Thai wife go?'

 

Now why would I know the answer?  I'm not married! 

9 hours ago, NCC1701A said:

I asked my Thai girlfriend if you wanted to go to Cambodia for a vacation.

 

This is what she said. "Cam-boo-de-ah people bad. No like Thai people. Cannot."

That's funny, I get Cam-bo-shi-ah. lol

On 7/27/2019 at 10:30 AM, giddyup said:

She'd be happy to move to Oz with me, but Cambodia no. Nor would I expect her to. She loves me because I provide her with money and security.

Agree totally... after 2 visits to USA and before the 3rd time, I asked my wife where she preferred to live - US or Thailand... she scrunched her face - she didn't quite get the question - "wherever you are," she answered...

 

That said, romantic love like in your 20s is a fleeting thing... we have been together near 20 years now and love changes, in many ways deeper through time. Being stable, reliable, there in emergencies to help family, are important factors... my wife would not want to live in Cambodia, but neither would I... she would probably come to USA but I know she loves being in Thailand ad living in the village with her family... and being a caring husband, I do my best to make sure she can do that... 

On 7/27/2019 at 10:30 AM, giddyup said:

She'd be happy to move to Oz with me, but Cambodia no. Nor would I expect her to. She loves me because I provide her with money and security.

What you say she loves you COS you provide money and security is a shame. My thai wife and i both love each other after 15 years together, we are each others best friend. When my g/f now wife after 5 months together then we rented together, she still worked for 15 months then after a scooter accident where she was off work for 6 weeks i never wanted her to go back to work. Love came first. And cos of love WE SHARE a nice life style. No love i would never have shown her the world. 

On 7/27/2019 at 10:25 AM, simon43 said:

I'm no longer married, so simply playing devil's advocate here.

For what reason?

Yes. More business and profit for my new company, Somtam Supplies International (SSI).

1 hour ago, helloagain said:

What you say she loves you COS you provide money and security is a shame. My thai wife and i both love each other after 15 years together, we are each others best friend. When my g/f now wife after 5 months together then we rented together, she still worked for 15 months then after a scooter accident where she was off work for 6 weeks i never wanted her to go back to work. Love came first. And cos of love WE SHARE a nice life style. No love i would never have shown her the world. 

Providing money and security is all part of love in Thai culture. We have been together 9 years, but if I lost everything tomorrow I'm sure she's stick by me. She's 56 and I'm 77, so puppy love is no longer an option.

No.

Cambodia?  never for wife, she says "worse than China nowadays with all the lowly Chinese there in Khmer"

On 7/27/2019 at 10:30 AM, giddyup said:

She'd be happy to move to Oz with me, but Cambodia no. Nor would I expect her to. She loves me because I provide her with money and security.

so no money no security shes off then ? nice

 

1 minute ago, Tomahawk21 said:

so no money no security shes off then ? nice

 

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