My wife has threatened to plant drugs in our house and have me caught by the police

[nicelee808]

Hi all,

 

I was looking for a law forum, but this is about the closest to my problem.

 

I have been married to my wife for 15 years, we have 2 children, we recently split up, my oldest daughter is 12, she is living with me because she hates her mum, my son is 3 and with his mother for now. Me and my daughter live in the family house which is in my wife's name, my wife is at her mum's. I am a teacher with non B visa and work permit my wife doesn't have a job. There has been a lot of arguing between me and my wife and my wife and daughter, my wife used to be on drugs, but I'm quite sure she has stopped, but yesterday an arguement escalated as they usually do and she threatened to plant drugs in the house, call the police and said they would arrest me, the crazy thing is she did it via text message which I have taken screenshots of.

 

Any advice appreciated.

Edited July 23, 2020 by nicelee808

[robblok]

Then at least you got proof.

 

Maybe you should find an other house for you and your daughter and not let your wife in ?

 

Maybe go to the police to have this on the record. 

 

It certainly is a bad situation. 

[2 is 1]

Don't know how big or small place you are living. But in our village police is drug dealer! If your wife use yaba not weed its much more bad thing. I think put secret cctv on house what you not tell nobody then you even know when she have visit in house when you not there. Keep all the evidence what you get!

But you know many people say things also what they not mean when angry.

 

Edited July 23, 2020 by 2 is 1

[Rookiescot]

Report it to the police. Ask the police to take a blood sample and test it. Show them the evidence.

 

[4MyEgo]

32 minutes ago, nicelee808 said:

Any advice appreciated.

I think you both need to cool down, sit, discuss, and look at amicable options, if at all possible.

 

To me, if she has already been on drugs, you are in a hard place, and she may not be able to be amicable, if that's the case, I suggest you seek legal advice to dissolve the marriage and go for child custody, and keep that text as that shows her state of mind and if she has ever been caught with drugs before, it would be on the record, I wouldn't be surprised if there is also someone in the background, just keep a wider eye open.

[scammed]

she is a keeper

[eyup]

Just shoot off and leave them all to stew! 

[steven100]

Sad situation and happens alot in Thailand unfortunately.

The police are not interested in your complaint, her text, or anything else about your family.

She hasn't committed any real crime yet so they will just laugh at you, believe me. 

Until something seriously criminal happens ... the police won't and can't really act. 

I wouldn't even worry about her threat,  as she was the drug addict and I expect the police were or at some time knew this, they may have a file on her so why would she even try something stupid like that.  imo

Just keep the copy of the text...  and forget it.

[OzFlyer]

Nothing will happen to you. Obviously if she plants it don't touch anything.

 

Set up CCTV around the house if you can, fairly cheap there I would have thought.

 

She sounds like a real piece of work so look to be exiting fairly rapidly. 

[nicelee808]

Thanks for the replies. My plan is to get my youngest too, he already prefers to be with me and my daughter, it's just before bed he asks for his mum. My kids are all I need in this life, I'm not sure if a custody battle will happen, because I don't think my wife is that interested in having them, but I hope to remain in the house, only I have a salary if that would influence a custody battle. We also have farm land all in her name.

Edited July 23, 2020 by nicelee808

[mr336]

Bring her to Lumpini Park and wait for a Volkswagon bus to pick her up?

[BritManToo]

13 hours ago, nicelee808 said:

but yesterday an arguement escalated as they usually do and she threatened to plant drugs in the house, call the police and said they would arrest me, the crazy thing is she did it via text message which I have taken screenshots of.

 

Any advice appreciated.

Presumably it's her house, so they would be her drugs, and it would be her arrested and charged.

[BritManToo]

13 hours ago, 4MyEgo said:

I think you both need to cool down, sit, discuss, and look at amicable options, if at all possible.

Yep, that always works with angry Thai wives.

[Grumpy one]

13 hours ago, scammed said:

she is a keeper

But where to keep her?

[pacovl46]

Mate, you’ve got nothing to worry about! She’s got a history of drug addiction, not you! Also, she was stupid enough to send you that threat via text message!!! Go to a lawyer and press charges, make it official that she has threatened you won’t planting drugs. If it ever happens in the future no one is going to believe her, plus you’ll probably get sole custody for the kids as well. Win win situation for you! 

[1FinickyOne]

22 hours ago, eyup said:

Just shoot off and leave them all to stew!

You know - some people actually love their children, even if they have problems w/their wife. 

[Jack Hna]

Win her affection again, convince her to sell house move AWAY from the environment she has been festering in, including as far from her family as possible. 

 

Mend the relations with her children and her. If you love the children that much you will do it.

 

 

[spiekerjozef]

I praise your wife's inventiveness.

[ChakaKhan]

9 hours ago, Grumpy one said:

But where to keep her?

At arms length..or further..  certainly not cheaper to keep her...she sounds nice tho

[crazykopite]

Report her threat to the police and get a report drawn up and then change the locks on the doors to the house your excuse would be to show the the text with the threat . Maybe it’s time you told your wife that she needs to get a job hope things work out for you and your daughter and you can get on with your lives.

[thailand49]

Depending on where you are it will be tough to find a lawyer who can speak decent English in Bangkok or near I have one if needed? 

Regardless of whether she is serious or not blowing smoke which many Thais like to do I would start to plant the seed and protect yourself this will also help with custody of the other child if necessary.

[Jack Hna]

She is just venting in the heat of the moment. Unless you got proper concerns relax. If your kid is with her then you must trust her somewhat and this is not as serious as it's being made out to be.

 

 

[ChipButty]

9 hours ago, Grumpy one said:

But where to keep her?

6 foot under ground 

[sead]

Now is the time for you to debate and record everything she says

 

[thequietman]

10 hours ago, nicelee808 said:

Thanks for the replies. My plan is to get my youngest too, he already prefers to be with me and my daughter, it's just before bed he asks for his mum. My kids are all I need in this life, I'm not sure if a custody battle will happen, because I don't think my wife is that interested in having them, but I hope to remain in the house, only I have a salary if that would influence a custody battle. We also have farm land all in her name.

Divorce. Then house and property will be divided up. Push for house only. Once agreed, put house in kids name. Sell house, and take kids and move somewhere else. 

[cooked]

My son in law lost some business to another person that opened up a similar place about a hundred metres down the road, in a small town that only really has place for one such business.

Customers eventually came back to him and the competition threatened, among other things, to do just that, plant drugs.

The SIL secretly installed cameras and managed to get a shot of the lady poking around in his back yard. He showed this to the police, in full knowledge of the fact that he had CCTV would then become public, both businesses were then visited and searched.

End of story since a year now.

[ChipButty]

I knew of a farang some years ago who something similar happened where the bitch planted some dope in his house, he got 5 years

[ChipButty]

6 minutes ago, thequietman said:

Divorce. Then house and property will be divided up. Push for house only. Once agreed, put house in kids name. Sell house, and take kids and move somewhere else. 

Not as easy as you think, Yes you can put the house in the kids name but you cannot sell it until they are 18 years old correct me if im wrong

[kingdong]

23 hours ago, steven100 said:

Sad situation and happens alot in Thailand unfortunately.

The police are not interested in your complaint, her text, or anything else about your family.

She hasn't committed any real crime yet so they will just laugh at you, believe me. 

Until something seriously criminal happens ... the police won't and can't really act. 

I wouldn't even worry about her threat,  as she was the drug addict and I expect the police were or at some time knew this, they may have a file on her so why would she even try something stupid like that.  imo

Just keep the copy of the text...  and forget it.

easy to be so blase when its not you !ooking at getting banged up,personally if shes unstable to talk about and actually report you i would have it on my toes or trust thai justice.....up to you.

Edited July 24, 2020 by kingdong

[steven100]

1 minute ago, kingdong said:

if shes unstable to talk about and actually report you i would have it onmy toes or trust thai justice.....up to you.

I don't understand this part .....  what do you mean ?   if she's unstable to talk about  ?  

do you mean if she's unstable and actually reports you  ?   

you would have to onmy toes   ?    do you mean be aware at all times   ?