77 OLD man will be married with a 20 y/o young girl

[Gecko123]

Do some of you imagine that this marriage will be socially acceptable either in her village or his home town of Bath? They'll be laughing stocks. If the money spigot isn't turned wide open or she doesn't respond on demand to his romantic overtures it's gonna end in tears or worse. I wonder what Burmese 20-something men in her village have to say about all this. Sorry, but I don't see this type of relationship as healthy from a social fabric standpoint. Her likely interest in exploiting him financially is just as damaging as his likely interest in exploiting her sexually, and two unhealthy motives do not somehow cancel one another out and make for a healthy relationship.

[xylophone]

32 minutes ago, 473geo said:

He could be well taken care of in his Twilight years, and she could be well set up for life 

Nothing wrong with that ????

 

 

That's the way I look at it, and will probably do the same if I have to, especially when I become older and more decrepit.

 

The old expression, "mutually beneficial" comes into the equation for me, and one has to realise that this old guy probably doesn't think he's the most handsome man or the sharpest catch, but has thought this through and realises that this is an option he should pursue, and provided he keeps an eye on his pennies, and doesn't mistake her care and attention for the oft mis-used word here, "LOVE", then he should be fine.

 

Good luck to them both.

[Kwasaki]

1 hour ago, FruitPudding said:

To be fair though, the old guy obviously wants companionship, otherwise why get married? Why not just try a different 20 year-old each night - I am sure he knows where to go for that.

 

It is likely her intentions that are more predatory here.

 

Poor guy could end up on the streets or worse (if she gets impatient).

Who knows as in Thailand "up to you". 

I hope I still have my Thai wife at his age and my God forbid losing her but a companion at whatever age I am would be better than nowt.

[OneMoreFarang]

How many old guys want to marry old women - if they have the chance to marry a young woman?

 

Maybe he is a nice guy. Maybe he is not even interested or able to have sex. Whatever.

And what are her alternatives? Maybe a young guy from her village? Or sex with a couple of strangers every week?

Maybe in 10 years she has money and a UK passport and maybe that is what she wants.

Live and let live and all that.

[FruitPudding]

3 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

How many old guys want to marry old women - if they have the chance to marry a young woman?

 

Maybe he is a nice guy. Maybe he is not even interested or able to have sex. Whatever.

And what are her alternatives? Maybe a young guy from her village? Or sex with a couple of strangers every week?

Maybe in 10 years she has money and a UK passport and maybe that is what she wants.

Live and let live and all that.

Exactly, for the low class women the only choice is: village bloke or farang. The upper classes don't marry down.

 

Of course, they could remain single and support themselves, but for many low class women (with the education and rearing they have had), the only choice they have is: minimum wage or sex work.

[4MyEgo]

Who cares if it works out or not, as long as they have fun trying, and they both make each others lives happier, age has nothing to do with it, period.

 

My wife is 21 years my junior and we have both been very happily married for 15 years, although I do tell her I might have to trade her in as she is getting older, with her reply being, when you can't rise to the occasion, your time will be up old man, now that ain't never going to happen unless she puts on some weight and can't fit into those school girl outfits anymore..........giddy up ????

 

 

 

Edited December 7, 2021 by 4MyEgo

[OneMoreFarang]

I think the only people who have problems with such relationships are old women.

[Gecko123]

1 hour ago, 4MyEgo said:

Who cares if it works out or not

I would argue society has an interest in whether it works out or not.

 

If he sinks his life savings into building a house, and things don't work out, and he returns to the UK penniless, he's either out on the street homeless or being cared for by some tax payer-funded social service. Either way, society has to pick up the tab. If he kicks the bucket while she's still pregnant with his kid, society suffers when the nuclear family breaks down, with increased risk that the kid will get in trouble with the law down the road. Obviously, if either one of them ends up murdering or severely injuring the other, society has to pick up the tab for incarceration, loss of economic potential, rehabilitation, etc.  Furthermore, the ingrained mentality that a girl can "always go turn a few tricks down in Pattaya" undermines academic achievement and work ethics in village communities.

 

To the extent that a comparatively wealthy foreigner can tempt a village girl into entering into a largely mercenary marriage in preference to marrying someone from the local community, or away from furthering her education or otherwise endeavoring to improve her earning potential this has an impact on the social fabric which shouldn't be swept under the rug. The clichéd pseudo-libertarian battle cries of "age is just a number", "live-and-let-live", "who are we to judge?", and "77 year-olds have needs too" are all just attempts to rationalize away and turn a blind eye to the cultural and societal damage these relationships more often than not cause.

Edited December 7, 2021 by Gecko123

[4MyEgo]

10 minutes ago, Gecko123 said:

I would argue society has an interest in whether it works out or not.

That is where had to stop reading, who gives a flying fk about society these days, just look at the mess the world is in today.

 

Stop worrying about society and live your life and let others live theirs, it's that simple really.

[Andre0720]

Looks like to me that his fellow, at 77 years of age, has not spent time learning much, now did he?

Buy her time, no need for a marriage certificate.

Is he afraid that she will run away quickly. Marriage will prevent her from running away will it?

She already agreed to sell her time, so relax now...

[Tarteso]

2 hours ago, TheScience said:

Like how you inserted YOUNG into the title lol. As if she's 13 or something.

 

She's nothing special.

 

It will never work for dozens of reasons.

A 20-year-old girl is exactly that;  A young girl.  Anyway, but a 20-year-old girl from a village in Myanmar, in any western country, it is likely that she does not have the psychic and mental preparation to compare herself to another 20-year-old European girl .. nothing wrong with my word in OP.

[zzaa09]

3 hours ago, Kwasaki said:

Hope she ends up better off like so many Thai ladies I would say. 

Goodluck to her. 

Yep. That would be my extended pleasantry as well.

Good on 'er!

[Gecko123]

12 minutes ago, 4MyEgo said:

That is where had to stop reading, who gives a flying fk about society these days, just look at the mess the world is in today.

 

Stop worrying about society and live your life and let others live theirs, it's that simple really.

You're talking to me as if my concern was with societal approval. My concern is with the societal COSTS, not societal approval. If you had bothered to read beyond the first sentence of my post you would know this. 

[BangkokReady]

2 hours ago, TheScience said:

I'm especially pleased to know that.

It's such a bizarre insult.  "Oh, this random man on the internet prefers absolutely any woman over me?  I'm OK with that."

[BangkokReady]

11 minutes ago, Tarteso said:

A 20-year-old girl is exactly that;  A young girl.

A 20 year old is not a "young girl".  Possibly a young woman.

 

This misrepresentation of the facts suggests a bias on your part.  I.e. you don't like it, so you're trying to make it sound worse than it is.

[Tarteso]

Thanks for your opinions.  It seems that I share most of your opinions.  My first wife sadly passed away a few years ago very young in my country of origin (Spain).  I have daughters from that marriage.  I have lived in several countries since then and have had several experiences as a couple, I finally met my current wife in Thailand and happily married 4 years ago, she is 16 years younger than me (61).  I am not one to judge marriages X years apart.  Everyone is free to choose their future and relationships.

 

[Neeranam]

3 hours ago, Pravda said:

She told him she's 20

Why would she? 

If I was 77, I would rather a 30 year old. Less chance of people thinking I am a pervert. 

 

I find it sad seeing this kind of relationship, both are desperate and normal people would be black affronted walking down the street together. What does their families think! 

[BangkokReady]

3 hours ago, Tarteso said:

Is this ethic, Moral or logical ? ????

Logical: yes.  Ethical or moral: depends on the motivations of each party and how they feel about it.

 

If they both feel happy to put up with the negatives in order to gain from the positives, then it's fine.  If either one is deceiving the other, or one of them is being coerced, then it isn't.

 

I would hazard a guess that the OP is probably of the opinion that the girl is being exploited, while the guy is doing the exploitation.  I'm not sure that I necessarily agree.

[Tarteso]

5 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

I would hazard a guess that the OP is probably of the opinion that the girl is being exploited,

Wrong again, is not my opinion, just a question for share and comments. BTW.. I don’t think the young girl is being exploited, so that it is clear to you

[4MyEgo]

1 hour ago, Gecko123 said:

You're talking to me as if my concern was with societal approval. My concern is with the societal COSTS, not societal approval. If you had bothered to read beyond the first sentence of my post you would know this. 

Perhaps you should read your first sentence again and take note.

 

Regardless of societal COSTS, do you not realise governments waste millions of dollars on other stuff, so if the guy falls back on society, so what, I take it at 77 years of age he's more than likely worked and paid his taxes as opposed to others who come from other countries, pay no taxes and are a burden on societal COSTS, see my point ?

 

Life is short and at 77 he ain't got much left in him so let him take whatever it is as I am sure his burden on societal COSTS would be shorter lived than others and I won't mention any races because that would be deemed discriminatory suffice to say if governments throw it away to them, then why not him who would have earned the right for society to throw something back to him.

 

That is all I am saying.

 

Edited December 7, 2021 by 4MyEgo

[LoeiI]

4 hours ago, GrandPapillon said:

I wonder what those pretty eyes are really seeing in the video chat ????

 

18 months relationship and never met? that's not a relationship ????

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[vinci]

nobody is being exploit, they both wants something out of each other, who are we to judge, let them be

[LoeiI]

4 hours ago, BritManToo said:

Reminds me of the joke,

 

65 year old guy walks into a bar with his new stunning 20 year old wife.

Barman says, "Cor mate, how did you score that one?"

Old guy replies, "I lied to her about my age"

Barman says, "Wot, like you said you were 40?"

Old guy, "Nah, I told her I was 93"

Bloke says to his mate "took the Mrs out for a meal last night we got in the restaurant and people were shouting Peado, beast, sex case just because I'm 69 and shes 19 it completely ruined our 10th anniversary"  ????

[4MyEgo]

22 minutes ago, LoeiI said:

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One goes with the other, this is the price one has to pay to be with a younger woman which of course has it's many benefits, especially to the eye of the beholder. 

[BritManToo]

3 minutes ago, 4MyEgo said:

One goes with the other, this is the price one has to pay to be with a younger woman which of course has it's many benefits, especially to the eye of the beholder. 

It's the price one has to pay to be with any woman.

[4MyEgo]

3 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

It's the price one has to pay to be with any woman.

It all depends on what your preference is of course, the younger the better IMO.

[BritManToo]

12 minutes ago, 4MyEgo said:

It all depends on what your preference is of course, the younger the better IMO.

I've always been attracted to small, slim women in their early 30s.

Women younger than that didn't ever really interested me.

Thailand is great for me, because there are too many like that to choose from.

Edited December 7, 2021 by BritManToo

[blackprince]

5 hours ago, CharlieH said:

Consenting adults, who is anyone to judge anothers relationship.

Up to them. ????

Consenting adults implies a relationship of equals. But would she consent if she had money herself?

 

When 1 of the parties is coerced by financial circumstance, and the other party is paying for the relationship, either by the hour, or by the decade etc, that doesn't suggest a relationship of equals. It's still coercion of sorts.

 

Put more simply. If the young woman in the pic had money would she be with the guy in the pic?

Or, if the guy in the pic had no money, would the young woman be interested?

 

Maybe, love works miracles they say. Or maybe not.

 

 

[BangkokReady]

40 minutes ago, blackprince said:

If the young woman in the pic had money would she be with the guy in the pic?

If the guy had access to sex, would he be with the girl in the pic?

[blackprince]

6 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

If the guy had access to sex, would he be with the girl in the pic?

Not sure, what do you think? Assuming his wrists work he has access to sex.

 

At 77 maybe he's hiring a nurse?