Lucky old you in Thailand with a young wife

[Lucky Bones]

1 hour ago, Silencer said:

A lot written here is true (I resemble several of the things mentioned by OP), with exceptions aplenty. Mine is 25 years younger, high school drop-out, beauty from the north that worked in a bar 3 weeks (where I met her). She converted to Christianity before I met her (which is only mentioned because she believes lying, no matter how small of a lie, is a terrible sin), had a kid just a year before I met her, and we have been together 4 years now. We will be building a large house soon for the three of us. I did the design, planning, picked the company to build, had the drawings made and permit in hand. I was planning on paying for the house (with a good chunk of my savings) but the business I helped her start last year resulted in her making over 7M baht recently. She said she will pay for the house (about 6.5M) and we can use my money for traveling around the world occasionally, maybe a new car. I also get a decent pension so I will always have my own money no matter what happens in my life. Your mileage may differ, but there are good ones out there that love to cook, clean, great in bed, don't take advantage of you, don't lie and cheat, and do everything happily for you which just makes it delight (or at least much easier) to do everything for them (and their future). I could care less what anyone thinks of our relationship. Maybe I was lucky, I knew there was a chance of making a wrong choice and I knew I could make a life of renting a girl each week/month/year but that is not what I wanted. The unexpected new kid in my life was not in my plans but she is wonderful and now learning English well and likely keeps me young as well.  Many fail, many do not. Choose wisely. 

...."worked in a bar for 3 weeks"

Errrrr....worked in "a" bar, or "that" bar for 3 weeks.

Heard that one before????????

[Isaan sailor]

2 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Those rules seem to apply to village life. But who wants to live in a village?

Well, if you spend most of your time in the village with your beautiful, much younger wife—at least you won’t have to worry about her running away to the family village.

[George Aylesham]

6 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Guys of any age want pretty (healthy) young girls.

Girls want guys with resources.

That's nature.

The beauty of Thailand is that men and women still accept these facts and don't pretend otherwise.

Many men in farang-land are so brainwashed from all that feminists <deleted> that after a while they actually believe they prefer old women. 555

What a sensible, non-judgemental comment. Many older farang, often bruised by divorce or widowhood, are simply looking for a companion to to look after them in their old age and this does not exclude the development of genuine affection. Both sides accept the financial obligation to care for the wife after he is gone.

[Nemises]

Move to pussy paradise to get married?? <deleted> that 

[Neeranam]

17 minutes ago, Lucky Bones said:

I don't think you are being cynical.

Once alcohol and testosterone enter the mix things can get ugly quickly.????????

 

60 year old guy walks into a bar in Leith, Torry, or any place in Scotland I've lived, with a 25 y/o Thai girl, there's going to be violence. 

 

 

 

 

Edited August 16, 2022 by Neeranam

[Dmaxdan]

3 hours ago, rwill said:

I'm one of the weirdo's.  My wife is older than I am.

My wife is 3 years older than me.

I've always joked that in our relationship I'm the young, good looking one!

 

[Neeranam]

Once I was in an infamous bar in Aberdeen where a 20 year old guy walked in with a 60 year old woman. He had to leave before he was thrown out. It was repulsive watching them snogging. 

[teelac777]

Watch out for those with disproportionately  large feet and hands 

[ThailandRyan]

31 minutes ago, huangnon said:

If you can make an age disparity work in a marriage, good on ya.

 

The other disparities; language, culture, education, etc, can create a yawning crevasse of difference that can only be bridged by serious amounts of moolah..

 

Sometimes it's better just to rent.

How about having your spouse get her degree, or having open discussions about things in general.  Of course you would have to have a partner that was willing and Interested in learning and reading like mine does.  While also learning about my country as well as learning about hers. Something that has shocked her when seeing her country or mine as it truly is.  Mine of course is not Thai and Thailand is our adopted main residence.

 

How many people, Thais included,  truly have learned about their own countries and the rest of the world. Having this as a talking and discussion point creates daily dialogue between my partner and myself.

Edited August 16, 2022 by ThailandRyan

[Rimmer]

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[mikosan]

6 hours ago, KIngsofisaan said:

I feel fortunate I was able to marry.

 

But I am never going to kid myself about the truth.

 

The age differences are accepted in Thailand, however, NOT normal.

 

Sooner or later the man gets to a point where he is just plain to damn old to do anything except wait to die.

 

In this stage, a good man spends all his time financially planning for his eventual demise, so that his young wife will be rich and be able to find the life she really wanted in the first place.

 

Some women are greatful for their new house, land, car, gold, money, status.

 

They earned it for taking care of the old man for the years they were together.

 

Hopefully they will be left enough to find the life they really wanted, after the geezer kicks the bucket.

 

 

 

 

 

 

How true is that and I absolutely agree and am doing the same myself.

[connda]

8 hours ago, webfact said:

Bob, an extremely wealthy 70-year-old widower, shows up at the Country Club with a 25-year-old knockout on his arm.

And that 25 year old knockout probably has a Thai boyfriend as well as other farang that she services.  I've know too many girls in this business as just friends back when I use to live in cities.  If you can take your eye's off the eye candy and see how the game is actually played here? Most guys don't have a clue and are only fooling themselves.
Imho most guys in a November-January relationship think with the wrong head.
A few may be able to make it work, but I believe they are a minority.

My wife is 8 years younger than me which makes her 62.  I prefer living with a woman close to my own age as we have more in common.

If I wanted to bonk a 20 year old?  I know where to find them.  Ok for a couple of hours of carnal fun, but beyond that?  No thanks.
But?  Whatever trips your trigger. 

Edited August 16, 2022 by connda

[Neeranam]

9 minutes ago, ThailandRyan said:

How many people, Thais included,  truly have learned about their own countries and the rest of the world.

Quite a lot I would have thought, apart from maybe those from USA who seem not to learn world Geography.

[jerrymahoney]

2 hours ago, Neeranam said:

Don't do it!!! 

 

Remember my golden rule. 

 

Don't get married until you've lived in Thailand for 5 years. 

Don't build a house until you've been married for 5 years. 

 

That cousin builder is probably the father. 

My wife's family bought the house. I help with the mortgage payments.  Also I paid for an extra air con, refrigerator, 2 shower water heaters, etc.

[NoshowJones]

1 hour ago, CockneyGit said:

Utter drivel. Just peddling the stereotypical view of Thailand.

Get out of the bars chaps, go and meat some 'real' Thais in the 'real' Thailand.

But the 'real' Thai girls are not going to be interested in the old, fat bellied. tattooed, heavy drinking type, are they?

 

[Neeranam]

1 minute ago, connda said:

My wife is 8 years younger than me which makes her 62.  I prefer living with a woman close to my own age as we have more in common.

If I wanted to bonk a 20 year old?  I know where to find them.  Ok for a couple of hours but beyond that?  No thanks.

What does your wife say about bonking 20 y/os for a couple of hours. Sorry if you are being hypothetical. 

 

I'm amazed at the number of guys that think their Thai wife wouldn't mind them getting hand jobs by massage ladies or shagging prostitutes. 

 

I've been married over 20 years and never been unfaithful. Maybe this is the reason we are still together, I only know a couple of guy who have been married here longer, and they also don't screw around. 

 

[shackleton]

Pays your money takes your chance 

Especially if you meet a girl in a bar ???? 

Some times it works out for some it does not ????

Majority of single or ex married guys  come to Thailand mainly Pattaya looking for young girls and  companionship ????

Money talks ????

[Neeranam]

3 minutes ago, jerrymahoney said:

My wife's family bought the house. I help with the mortgage payments.  Also I paid for an extra air con, refrigerator, 2 shower water heaters, etc.

They bought it and you paid the mortgage? Confused. 

[Nemises]

18 minutes ago, Neeranam said:

Once I was in an infamous bar in Aberdeen where a 20 year old guy walked in with a 60 year old woman. He had to leave before he was thrown out. It was repulsive watching them snogging. 

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-11112855/Meet-couple-47-year-age-gap-determined-world-love-no-age-limit.html

 

[internationalism]

41 minutes ago, mark5335 said:

Additionally, the demographics in Thailand whereby the proportion of females far exceeds that of males is an added bonus.

only 51.4%, hong kong 54%, Qatar 25% (and many arab countries close to it)

https://data.worldbank.org/indicator/SP.POP.TOTL.FE.ZS?locations=TH&most_recent_value_desc=true

[dallen52]

I think we all know the bottom line.

A few friends have had good fortune to meet women who have government jobs.

And obviously a better family and status. 

I worked here several years and was fortunate enough to have time doing volunteer work.

One organisation was involved with victims of abuse, trafficking and prostitution, etc.

Interest waned when the family sells the rights to the girl to others.

Maybe as young as 14.

Or expectations are the girl goes away and pedals her wares to send the family money. 

A lot of farang say they don't give.

Maybe not, but the lady takes anyway..

 

Cynical? No..

Reality. 

 

Three saying I've come across. 

 

Farang has, thai has not.

Ok to take. 

 

Its just a <deleted> for money.

Not mean anything. 

 

The speech a mother gave her daughter on the wedding day still rings true.

It doesn't matter what we do as long as we do for money..

 

Bottom line is.

Get your kit off and stand in front of the mirror. 

Then ask yourself what your 25 year old sees in you?

 

I've had one partner in 9 years.

Poor Issan family. 

She had 2 kids.

Usual story. 

Ones a boy. 24.

With all the thai male problems. 

But it's her son.

From a thai man who found a different model. 

 

Living the dream.!!!

 

[dallen52]

I think we all know the bottom line.

A few friends have had good fortune to meet women who have government jobs.

And obviously a better family and status. 

I worked here several years and was fortunate enough to have time doing volunteer work.

One organisation was involved with victims of abuse, trafficking and prostitution, etc.

Interest waned when the family sells the rights to the girl to others.

Maybe as young as 14.

Or expectations are the girl goes away and pedals her wares to send the family money. 

A lot of farang say they don't give.

Maybe not, but the lady takes anyway..

 

Cynical? No..

Reality. 

 

Three saying I've come across. 

 

Farang has, thai has not.

Ok to take. 

 

Its just a <deleted> for money.

Not mean anything. 

 

The speech a mother gave her daughter on the wedding day still rings true.

It doesn't matter what we do as long as we do for money..

 

Bottom line is.

Get your kit off and stand in front of the mirror. 

Then ask yourself what your 25 year old sees in you?

 

I've had one partner in 9 years.

Poor Issan family. 

She had 2 kids.

Usual story. 

Ones a boy. 24.

With all the thai male problems. 

But it's her son.

From a thai man who found a different model. 

 

Living the dream.!!!

 

[connda]

4 hours ago, malibukid said:

all women are for sale if you want to invest both the time and the money

Even in the West.

[jerrymahoney]

8 minutes ago, Neeranam said:

They bought it and you paid the mortgage? Confused. 

No. It is their mortgage. My name nowhere appears on the mortgage documents and I have no binding legal obligation on the mortgage payments.

 

And since the house is not in the wife's name, there can be no sin somros type obligation for me if there is any default on payment.

 

So for me it is almost like a rental in which I pay less than 100% of the monthly mortgage payments.

Edited August 16, 2022 by jerrymahoney

[ThailandRyan]

10 minutes ago, Neeranam said:

Quite a lot I would have thought, apart from maybe those from USA who seem not to learn world Geography.

One would hope that quite a lot would, but I have found many that are to busy trying to make a living here and couldn't care less about the rest of the world, except to watch TikTok, Instagram, and look at Facebook.  Glad I met a woman that had traveled for an education in her chosen field and became interested in learning more.  Talking with her is like talking to someone close to my age when we discuss subjects such as homelessness, finances, business and even history.

[Harveyboy]

6 hours ago, KIngsofisaan said:

I feel fortunate I was able to marry.

 

But I am never going to kid myself about the truth.

 

The age differences are accepted in Thailand, however, NOT normal.

 

Sooner or later the man gets to a point where he is just plain to damn old to do anything except wait to die.

 

In this stage, a good man spends all his time financially planning for his eventual demise, so that his young wife will be rich and be able to find the life she really wanted in the first place.

 

Some women are greatful for their new house, land, car, gold, money, status.

 

They earned it for taking care of the old man for the years they were together.

 

Hopefully they will be left enough to find the life they really wanted, after the geezer kicks the bucket.

 

 

 

 

 

 

same here married a nice girl almost half my age ..she works hard got a good job..now we have kids its normal family life ..as you say they deserve what's left we cant take it with us eh..and for looking after a old sod like me definitely earned 

[Freddy42OZ]

Been here 14 years.  After dating two Thai girls, one from the bars and one from a rich family I decided that I would never waste my time trying to be in a relationship with a Thai who hadn't spent at least some time living outside Thailand. 

But as meeting one of them proved difficult my second option was simply never date a Thai. 

It took me a few years to find the ideal girlfriend, but eventually I met a very attractive European women.  She's 19 years younger than me and even though I barely have a pot to <deleted> in we've been together for 20 months and I couldn't ask for a nicer GF.  Will probably marry her next year.

 

[OneMoreFarang]

3 hours ago, GinBoy2 said:

Interesting perspective.

 

So you would pick the partner with the outlook of her being your care giving while not wanting to reciprocate.

So your 40 something still capable of caring for you gets in a car wreak, and ends up in the 'chair'

You dump her, for a more chair pushing worthy replacement?

 

I'd like to think in any loving long term relationship it doesn't matter which one of you needs caring for.

I am in a long term happy relationship. She is 15 years younger than me. I choose her because she was hot and we had fun together and I stayed with her. Now she is not so hot anymore. I still love her and I would care for her including in a wheelchair. That's just the way it is after a long term happy relationship. 

[connda]

8 hours ago, webfact said:

Families are very close, often with everyone working, eating, and even sharing the same bedroom.

What utter jingoistic tosh.  I live in a rural Thai village in Northern Thailand and I can assure you that the majority of the villagers are not "eating, and even sharing the same bedroom."  Now 50 years ago? That may have been true.  But Thailand is fueled by debt.  Most villagers where I live have land and a modest to rather lavish homes. Are these like Western homes?  No, most are not.  And they are just in hock to the local bank up to their eyeballs.  There are some very poor people here living in one bedroom teak or cement houses, but they are a minority in this day and age.  And my own stepson lives in Chiang Mai in a gate community and has a home that rivals anything built in the West.  Debt!  It drives the economy.

[dallen52]

I think we all know the bottom line.

A few friends have had good fortune to meet women who have government jobs.

And obviously a better family and status. 

I worked here several years and was fortunate enough to have time doing volunteer work.

One organisation was involved with victims of abuse, trafficking and prostitution, etc.

Interest waned when the family sells the rights to the girl to others.

Maybe as young as 14.

Or expectations are the girl goes away and pedals her wares to send the family money. 

A lot of farang say they don't give.

Maybe not, but the lady takes anyway..

 

Cynical? No..

Reality. 

 

Three saying I've come across. 

 

Farang has, thai has not.

Ok to take. 

 

Its just a <deleted> for money.

Not mean anything. 

 

The speech a mother gave her daughter on the wedding day still rings true.

It doesn't matter what we do as long as we do for money..

 

Bottom line is.

Get your kit off and stand in front of the mirror. 

Then ask yourself what your 25 year old sees in you?

 

I've had one partner in 9 years.

Poor Issan family. 

She had 2 kids.

Usual story. 

Ones a boy. 24.

With all the thai male problems. 

But it's her son.

From a thai man who found a different model. 

 

Living the dream.!!!