Should tell him? Or not?

[Goat]

Him.

53 year old, from UK, overweight, average, works at company. No kids. He loves her. Not really social, plays internet all day.

Her

38, from Petchabun, 22 year old son, only ever job is "bar girl". Tattoos and drunk. She loves money. She plays social media all day.

 

They met together before covid. In Pattaya bar.

He sent money for 3 years. A lot.

Now he will marry her and build the house in Petchabun.

She already buy land. His money. He will live in Petchabun.

Not work but think they will have business together. He can not speak Thai.

Tell his UK family he meet her at 7.11. Obvious 7 not employ this type. Big wedding soon.

He want to have kids.

 

Should we tell him he is stupid? Think.

Or let him do it?

 

 

 

 

[BritManToo]

4 minutes ago, Goat said:

Should we tell him he is stupid? Think.

Or let him do it?

Let him do it .......

not your business, and if you say anything he will hate you forever, and still do it.

 

PS

You could point out that at age 38 a Thai lady probably can't have kids.

Asian women lose fertility much earlier than western women.

[jastheace]

Let him do it. The rest of us have. He has a 50/50 chance of the relationship going well or having another aseannow sob story.

[sidjameson]

If you are walking thru a desert even brown water will look appealing. He knows what she is, let him drink.

 

[transam]

I have known of many chaps who have done the same thing, but, I think they all knew what they married, and it doesn't bother them or me, so.....

[roo860]

It's you though isn't it.????

[Myran]

Calling him stupid will only cause him to dig in his heels. Better to offer honest advice regarding not transferring all his money to the wife's account, putting eventual cars in his name, making large purchases (like houses) after they're married, so at least he'll have a sliver of a change of getting half of it if the marriage goes south.

[transam]

2 minutes ago, Myran said:

Calling him stupid will only cause him to dig in his heels. Better to offer honest advice regarding not transferring all his money to the wife's account, putting eventual cars in his name, making large purchases (like houses) after they're married, so at least he'll have a sliver of a change of getting half of it if the marriage goes south.

May not go south, we all know someone who has wed, perhaps a lady with colourful youth, that have been together for decades...

[Elkski]

It sounds like your contemplating action 3 years to late. What is a lot of money?  What % of his holdings? You could ask him to look at a fertility chart and how high the risk for the mother or birth defects 8scat 40 because she probably isn't 38. 

[brewsterbudgen]

It's really none of your business!

[Myran]

1 minute ago, transam said:

May not go south, we all know someone who has wed, perhaps a lady with colourful youth, that have been together for decades...

Of course, plenty of people lead happy lives with former bar girls. But you might as well take precautions.

[transam]

Just now, Myran said:

Of course, plenty of people lead happy lives with former bar girls. But you might as well take precautions.

Then you/we should take precautions with any bird, from any background, nobody knows their future, in fact I have the T-shirt from my last UK ex.....

 

[observer90210]

Always be worth more when alive, then dead....

 

Don't buy....hire !!

 

 

[Myran]

1 minute ago, transam said:

Then you/we should take precautions with any bird, from any background, nobody knows their future, in fact I have the T-shirt from my last UK ex.....

 

Thanks for the input, Captain Obvious.

[proton]

Going to relative of Mrs wedding on Friday. He does not live here, bought his gf land, house, condo in Ekami Bkk (she sold it) bought her a new Benz and reportedly has been giving her almost 100k baht a month. I wont be putting much in the envelope ????, up to him, at least she was not a tart.

[Sandboxer]

It's not polite to call a retard "stupid" these days.^^

 

[ThailandRyan]

Life is circular, and he can't fall off the edge if it all goes pear-shaped...well he could if the house has many stories...maybe she has more kids then she us letting on...is her name Nom.....

[transam]

1 minute ago, Myran said:

Thanks for the input, Captain Obvious.

You're welcome......

[Celsius]

52 minutes ago, Goat said:

Should we tell him he is stupid? Think.

I would tell him.

 

I don't want dumb people areound me.

[Peabody]

59 minutes ago, Goat said:

Should we tell him he is stupid?

Are "we" his only friends in Thailand? Perhaps when the "we" group is together with him a broad discussion not focused specifically on that guy.

[Skallywag]

<deleted>, why marry her now?  He is only 53, must have to work another 10 years or so.  Is he going to work from Thailand after marriage?  I doubt it

 

He sounds like a glutton for punishment as the old saying goes.  Doubt anyone can change his mind.  This 38 year old Thai lady has hit the lottery !   5555

[Saphan]

Most marriages fail. Sit back and watch it crumble. Be a good laugh after. 

[Neeranam]

1 hour ago, Goat said:

Should we tell him he is stupid? Think.

Or let him do it?

He won't listen, so no point. 

 

Ridiculous when he could get a woman with no kids. NEVER hook up with  Thai woman with a son from previous marriage. 

[Neeranam]

38 minutes ago, proton said:

Going to relative of Mrs wedding on Friday. He does not live here, bought his gf land, house, condo in Ekami Bkk (she sold it) bought her a new Benz and reportedly has been giving her almost 100k baht a month. I wont be putting much in the envelope ????, up to him, at least she was not a tart.

Good news for you, he can look after your missus's family. 

[BostonJoe]

Will her Brother be moving into the new house ? Thai Brother in-laws can be so helpful 

[transam]

6 minutes ago, BostonJoe said:

Will her Brother be moving into the new house ? Thai Brother in-laws can be so helpful 

Glad it worked for you...............☺️

[Skallywag]

11 minutes ago, Neeranam said:

NEVER hook up with  Thai woman with a son from previous marriage. 

And sometimes the "son" end up to be he lover or

 

9 minutes ago, BostonJoe said:

Will her Brother be moving into the new house ?

Her "brother" could really be a husband (not legally) or lover as well, as we have all seen on this forum in other tales of true love with a Thai woman

[LaosLover]

My neighbor is 70 and being pressured to have a 3rd kid with his 32 year old wife.

 

She owns my condo. He bought it for her. My 25K baht a month is her mad money.

[CharlieH]

No one has any right to sit in judgement, nor do you know what goes on behind closed doors.

It his life his choice and his mistakes to make.

Interfereing in relationships never ends well for the person interfereing.

 

Mind your own business unless he asks you for your opinion.

 

He wont be the first nor the last to walk that path.

 

 

 

[ozimoron]

Once they've spent "a lot" of money nothing will change their mind because, like a gambler, they will chase that money with more money. They can't just walk away.