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It depends on the individual woman.

Not where she is from .

Women want security for the most part. Maybe Thai women would think a western man with minimalist income is a good catch.  But a western woman would not.  
It’s not because a western woman is a gold digger.  It’s because a  western woman for the most part wants someone that succeeded in life. 
If you want someone subservient hire a maid.  

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I love women, but some of us are just meant to be alone and not develop relationships.  I have tried it 3 times. 2 wives (one mid-western white & one Thai) and 1 'girlfriend' from Louisiana (suppose to stay friends, I fell, but never had sex, just my heart was hers, it broke????????).  I think I'll not make those mistakes anymore... to old for that nonsense... unless she's got money (and I'm not shopping). ????????

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Divorced in USA in 2007. She had a sign on her desk that read, “A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle”. Here in Thailand, I confess, it is like stepping back in time. Male is responsible for financial security, woman takes care of her man. At my age (76) having a wife 26 years my junior works for me.

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On 2/28/2023 at 9:11 AM, BobBKK said:

Why buy when you can rent?  no point coming here then having a farang wife or GF is there? Thailand is a playground - enjoy it!

I've lived in Asia for 49 year and after dating quite a few Asian woman and knowing lots of friends who've dated and married them, I am happy to say that my GF (who I met in Bangkok) is not Asian. 





 

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On 2/28/2023 at 9:13 AM, RamenRaven said:

But if you rent, then that's a GF, even if it's short-term. Note that I deliberately said wife/GF.

 

No. Renting a bar girl  is a ST or LT pro

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Never had a farang wife so I really can't comment from personal experience.  Met my Thai wife when she was a graduate student at the university we were both studying at.  Married for many years until she passed away much to early from cancer.

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hmmm... at the end of the day the ability to distinguish between reality and fantasy is the key to this question

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A bargirl I have know for many years is pressing me to be her boyfriend. A tough decision.

 

She lies about everything, and drinks herself into oblivion every night. She has a full time Farang customer who pays her by the month. She tries to ignore him. She has a Thai husband who makes 330 baht a day (she lives with him).

 

One time I left Thailand for a few weeks, she professed her undying love as I left. Within a week, she was engaged to a new customer.

 

Needless to say, I don't take her seriously. In fact, I am going with her sister, which makes her crazy.

 

The lesson: no need for a Thai girlfriend, you can have 2 or more.

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On 3/5/2023 at 11:30 PM, rose33 said:

Won't cause psychosis. Won't cause a sex crime rampage thru the streets. Won't cause pedophilia overnight. 

 

May contribute to a lot of divorces, failed relationships, and depression in the long term (for men and also for the women trying to have intimacy with them). 

 

Subtle downstream effects. 

 

Don't you think?

Do you think only men use porn? ????

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20 hours ago, shackleton said:

Let's be honest most guys come to Thailand to find young girls 

Or companionship 

As probably had bad experiences in the UK  divorced or can't get  a girlfriend 

Thailand easy option money counts for a lot ????

U.K.?? Freudian slip?

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On 3/5/2023 at 11:30 PM, rose33 said:

Won't cause psychosis. Won't cause a sex crime rampage thru the streets. Won't cause pedophilia overnight. 

May contribute to a lot of divorces, failed relationships, and depression in the long term (for men and also for the women trying to have intimacy with them). 

Subtle downstream effects. 

Don't you think?

I think,

Those of us who moved to Thailand have no further need for porn, as we can do the real thing ourselves.

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After several goes with both Thai and Western, I'd rather have neither and play the field as long as I'm able. Much cheaper too - you can get a maid for less than a wife costs and some maids come with benefits. When you want a change or a newer model, you just get a new one. ????

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13 hours ago, KhaoYai said:

After several goes with both Thai and Western, I'd rather have neither and play the field as long as I'm able. Much cheaper too - you can get a maid for less than a wife costs and some maids come with benefits. When you want a change or a newer model, you just get a new one. ????

The problem is that Thai ladies are bored with a Farang after a few days unless a pot of big money is imminent.

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The FACT is... it is an exchange. There is no way a beautiful girl 20 or 30 year younger than the old farang is going to be with him if there is no security or money. Any farang who thinks she's chosen him over the much younger and fitter Thai guy because she loves old men is fooling themselves. Having said that - who cares? 

enjoy it but it IS what it IS.

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21 hours ago, KhaoYai said:

After several goes with both Thai and Western, I'd rather have neither and play the field as long as I'm able. Much cheaper too - you can get a maid for less than a wife costs and some maids come with benefits. When you want a change or a newer model, you just get a new one. ????

That's what I do - why not? as long as you are honest and respectful they expect it and enjoy it (just don't lie) and compensate them.

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On 3/12/2023 at 10:18 AM, Danderman123 said:

A bargirl I have know for many years is pressing me to be her boyfriend. A tough decision.

 

She lies about everything, and drinks herself into oblivion every night. She has a full time Farang customer who pays her by the month. She tries to ignore him. She has a Thai husband who makes 330 baht a day (she lives with him).

 

One time I left Thailand for a few weeks, she professed her undying love as I left. Within a week, she was engaged to a new customer.

 

Needless to say, I don't take her seriously. In fact, I am going with her sister, which makes her crazy.

 

The lesson: no need for a Thai girlfriend, you can have 2 or more.

Probably just a phase she's going through. A bit harsh that, you need to give her a chance, she could eventually be a keeper.

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On 3/4/2023 at 12:57 AM, rose33 said:

 

 

Especially since around 2000, when high speed internet brought digital pornography into the home of every western couple. Pornography kills the relationship, and women know it. Governments turn a blind eye.

 

Many women prefer to be single and self supporting than to try to relate to a partner with this digital junk in his head. Statistics on male pornography use in the west are astounding. Used in the last month, 86%. In the last week, 46%. In the last day, 25%.

 

So, government response to pornography is an important element, in addition to what you mentioned... no-fault divorce, welfare state, and asset stripping in property settlements.

 

Interestingly, educated young THAI girls notice the way my generation of western women live, and they want the same thing. "I'll never get married"... Several gorgeous Bangkok girls in their 20s have proudly told me this.

 

Does that mean it's time for tax hikes in Thailand?

If you switch out pornography for Instagram and Tik Tok and FB, you nailed it.  

It's not the junk in mens head.  That's been there since the dawn of time. Pornography too. 

 

However, females, seem very susceptible to believing the fakeness of IG lives as real life and think they should get to live the life of a queen (without realizing that while a queen has immense power, it comes with immense work and responsibility.). They don't want to put in that effort.  Or to give in order to get.

And while they have the looks, their DM's are filled daily by boys and men continuing to sell that dream, offer the world (fake promises), and while also deriding the current partner with 100% complete blind agreement and falsities thrown at the reigning man...so that they always have that back door escape even BEFORE marriage and all the financial rewards of marrying and divorcing as you mention.

I'm not advocating porn, but I'm saying that's not the variable that's changed, social media and the smart phone are the new ingredient that's, frankly, made the entire world worse imo, not just dating.

Think back you can to about only 8 years ago ish...how many less problems the world seemed to have, less hate, less adversity.  And that was when smartphones starting becoming popular.  FB already existed.  Even then, it took a few years for it to go from being a fun combo into a wicked combonation eliciting such hate a despair and division amoungst all people.


 

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On 3/4/2023 at 6:49 AM, GinBoy2 said:

On a somewhat serious note, I do worry about the effect of pornography today, but not for men, more for boys.

 

I don't think it's a stretch to say that for many of us sex ed was rooting through Dad's sock draw for his porn stash.

 

Thing was back then it was a lot more vanilla and for a lot of it even the teenage male brain could tell it was staged.

 

Not so sure about that today, and I fear that what a lot of what those boys watch online gives them a very misleading idea of what is regular sex versus fantasy.

 

It's not that I would want to restrict porn, I think as an adult I can distinguish reality and fantasy, but not so sure a 15 year old boy can make that distinction

according to Llisa shlesinger, a comedian...she can't stand being with the younger guys as they ask permision for everything like a dog begging for a treat and wimpering lol.  (She's late 30's I think?). Good looking woman.

she says that society has sucked the masculinity out of them and it's severly depressing to experience.

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23 hours ago, KhaoYai said:

After several goes with both Thai and Western, I'd rather have neither and play the field as long as I'm able. Much cheaper too - you can get a maid for less than a wife costs and some maids come with benefits. When you want a change or a newer model, you just get a new one. ????

That math hits me a lot while living here lol.  

But I'm not built that way.  I prefer a relationship.

However, it  Doesn't mean I can't envy the lack of complexity in your life though.

Cheers to freedom of decisions.

 

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14 hours ago, Dart12 said:

That math hits me a lot while living here lol.  

But I'm not built that way.  I prefer a relationship.

However, it  Doesn't mean I can't envy the lack of complexity in your life though.

Cheers to freedom of decisions.

 

Yes but I'm not saying there isn't a price to pay.  It would have been nice if one of my past relationships had worked but there comes a time when you have to say enough is enough and find a different way.  It took me far to long to learn that.

 

At the moment I'm enjoying it but who knows what will happen next week, next month or next year? I doubt it though ????.

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On 3/11/2023 at 10:47 AM, Dexxter said:

By the way, she is younger than all 4 of my children from my farang ex-wife.

All 4 put together? Jeez, how old is she? Is it legal?

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On 3/11/2023 at 7:04 AM, Hummin said:

and most here was teenagers then. You loved to do them, but you could not bee together with them. 

Never, I have never 'done' a teenager, honest guv ????.

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