My wife is getting fat.

[tmd5855]

2 hours ago, Old Croc said:

Why on earth are you the cook?

One of the reasons I married a Thai was to avoid these tiresome household chores that Thai woman still regard as their territory!

 

But seriously, some observations.

Most Thais I know wouldn't touch that western style meal you expect her to enjoy. They much prefer their traditional rice and spice themed dishes. She is probably binge eating separately.

 

Thais consume more sugar in their food than most other cultures (US is one major exception) They either over sweeten or over salt most of their food with little thought of the health risks. Liver, kidney disease and cancer are rife in Thailand. 

I think this diet catches up with many as they age. Most of the older women I see in my part of Thailand are spreading.  It's disappointing to see, they should retain their youthful figures in the same way as we western men! 

Disagreed with all you had written until your last sentence....... So true.....  We Adonis lookalikes 

[n00dle]

2 hours ago, Old Croc said:

Why on earth are you the cook?

And silly me thought the dinosaurs were all dead.

I cook because it is something I enjoy and it allows me to control what goes into my body

[Dolf]

5 minutes ago, n00dle said:

indeed, just as it is his choice to cut her loose if he no longer finds her attractive. 

Then she keeps the house. Well done to her.

[newbee2022]

16 hours ago, advancebooking said:

Have been married for 10 yrs. We have a daughter and so glad to have this experience in life, living the dream here etc.

 

When I married my wife she was slim. Her body was tight. Even after giving birth she stayed in shape. For example, she still had that gap between her upper inner thighs when standing up. 

 

Now 10 yrs on and she is getting rather large in the lower half of the body. 

 

Last night my child ran downstairs at 6pm to get mummies grab delivery. I inspected and found it was a sugary chocolate looking drink with round jelly balls floating inside. I was thinking what the hell. I go upstairs and she is drinking it and eating 2 min noodles from the original packaging that one can buy at the supermarket (full of palm oil and MSG). She wasnt eating my dinner that I cooked for us all. Grilled steak, roast potato/ pumpkin, steamed carrots and coccus. Cherry tomatoes on the side. 

 

Later that night I had to chat with her. No more sugar for a month etc. No more sugar drinks. 

 

It seems she doesnt respect her body anymore and this concerns me. 

 

I noticed when I purchased some strawberries at the market recently,  they include a small bag of sugar with each punnet. If one orders food from some restaurants using grab they often give a free bottle of coke with the delivery. Eat out at restaurants and the chefs add sugar to the food all the time. 

 

It might come to the point where Im not attracted to my wife anymore the way things are going. Ive never really been into big girls. Whats going to happen in another 10 yrs if she doesnt care about her bod. 

 

Thoughts?

Think about that she doesn't respect you? Or sit together and tell her the same what you did here. Possibly she didn't know yet. Talk to her but don't ignore her

[NorthernRyland]

You think you're too good for a fat wife?

[retarius]

17 hours ago, advancebooking said:

Have been married for 10 yrs. We have a daughter and so glad to have this experience in life, living the dream here etc.

 

When I married my wife she was slim. Her body was tight. Even after giving birth she stayed in shape. For example, she still had that gap between her upper inner thighs when standing up. 

 

Now 10 yrs on and she is getting rather large in the lower half of the body. 

 

Last night my child ran downstairs at 6pm to get mummies grab delivery. I inspected and found it was a sugary chocolate looking drink with round jelly balls floating inside. I was thinking what the hell. I go upstairs and she is drinking it and eating 2 min noodles from the original packaging that one can buy at the supermarket (full of palm oil and MSG). She wasnt eating my dinner that I cooked for us all. Grilled steak, roast potato/ pumpkin, steamed carrots and coccus. Cherry tomatoes on the side. 

 

Later that night I had to chat with her. No more sugar for a month etc. No more sugar drinks. 

 

It seems she doesnt respect her body anymore and this concerns me. 

 

I noticed when I purchased some strawberries at the market recently,  they include a small bag of sugar with each punnet. If one orders food from some restaurants using grab they often give a free bottle of coke with the delivery. Eat out at restaurants and the chefs add sugar to the food all the time. 

 

It might come to the point where Im not attracted to my wife anymore the way things are going. Ive never really been into big girls. Whats going to happen in another 10 yrs if she doesnt care about her bod. 

 

Thoughts?

What a hypocrite you are.

[Bobthegimp]

 

OP is justified in his concerns. If he's taking the time to prepare healthy meals for his whole family it's a safe bet that he hasn't let himself go.  I bet he pays the bills and has provided a good life for his family. His wife has to hold up her end of the bargain or hit the bricks. 

 

Lay down the law and mean it. Your wealth is more portable than a fat woman's ass.  No need for a mia noi and the associated expenses and sneaking around. 

 

[n00dle]

I find this whole topic pretty funny given the number of times I have heard men on here disparage Western women for being fat and sing the praises of nubile Thai womanhood.

I have developed a pretty widespread acquaintance here in the last 20 or so years, and I can tell you the number of men  who married slim women who gained significant weight far outstrips those who have married women who stayed thin. 

[Jenkins9039]

Just point out attractive thin thai's when out, she'll get the hint.

[kingstonkid]

15 hours ago, JensenZ said:

You can nag her to death - she won't change. She'll just keep on getting fatter. You didn't say anything about age, as it makes a big difference to how fast you pile on fat.

 

It is possible that she's not happy in the relationship and food has become a way to overcome the stress of it. A lot of people eat for comfort. The problem could be you. Maybe you're too demanding?

 

Another possibility could be that she is seeing someone on the side who prefers some meat on the bones and she's catering to his (or her) preferences. Not everyone likes their partners skinny.

You might consider counseling although thais really don't like it.

 

Unless you are with her 24/7 she is still going to do it.

 

Does she have any friends does she go out.

 

What does daughter think.

[Hamus Yaigh]

18 hours ago, advancebooking said:

she still had that gap between her upper inner thighs when standing up.

Just tell her to walk around with a wider gait or the marriage is over. Lets hope the kids understand.

[Kwaibill]

Fairly typical for menopausal women to put on a little avoir du poids, including my wife, sisters, etc. They are still the women I love.
Ain’t exactly a greyhound myself these days.😃

[lexxy]

It aint about the fat, its the fact she just eats processed food, pure refined sugars.

[HauptmannUK]

20-30 years ago it was rare to find a chubby Thai woman of any age. Now they are everywhere.  Its the abundant availability of sugary and ultra-processed foods.  My wife doesn't like anything sugary and eats a very healthy traditional diet with lots of green leafy salad and vegetables.  Her 14 year old niece eats masses of snack foods from 7-11, likes KFC and pizza - she is very slim at the moment, but that won't last.

[connda]

Yep!

[connda]

19 hours ago, advancebooking said:

Have been married for 10 yrs. We have a daughter and so glad to have this experience in life, living the dream here etc.

 

When I married my wife she was slim. Her body was tight. Even after giving birth she stayed in shape. For example, she still had that gap between her upper inner thighs when standing up. 

 

Now 10 yrs on and she is getting rather large in the lower half of the body. 

 

Last night my child ran downstairs at 6pm to get mummies grab delivery. I inspected and found it was a sugary chocolate looking drink with round jelly balls floating inside. I was thinking what the hell. I go upstairs and she is drinking it and eating 2 min noodles from the original packaging that one can buy at the supermarket (full of palm oil and MSG). She wasnt eating my dinner that I cooked for us all. Grilled steak, roast potato/ pumpkin, steamed carrots and coccus. Cherry tomatoes on the side. 

 

Later that night I had to chat with her. No more sugar for a month etc. No more sugar drinks. 

 

It seems she doesnt respect her body anymore and this concerns me. 

 

I noticed when I purchased some strawberries at the market recently,  they include a small bag of sugar with each punnet. If one orders food from some restaurants using grab they often give a free bottle of coke with the delivery. Eat out at restaurants and the chefs add sugar to the food all the time. 

 

It might come to the point where Im not attracted to my wife anymore the way things are going. Ive never really been into big girls. Whats going to happen in another 10 yrs if she doesnt care about her bod. 

 

Thoughts?

She gave you a wonderful gift - a child.  Be happy. 

[khunPer]

Global obesity pandemic, virus spread by all the Western foreigners visiting Land of Smiling Slim Ladies...

[Will B Good]

This is salt in the wound.....my wife has been harvesting sugarcane and yams for weeks now.....and she is as fit as a butcher's dog.....38kg

 

We walked round Nana/ soi 7 area recently and I was disappointed in a way that she was the fittest, most attractive female I saw.

[Will B Good]

Bit extreme....you could move to Middlesbrough.....she'd look skinny and stunning there.

[Lacessit]

19 hours ago, advancebooking said:

. 

 

Last night my child ran downstairs at 6pm to get mummies grab delivery. I inspected and found it was a sugary chocolate looking drink with round jelly balls floating inside. I was thinking what the hell. I go upstairs and she is drinking it and eating 2 min noodles from the original packaging that one can buy at the supermarket (full of palm oil and MSG). She wasnt eating my dinner that I cooked for us all. Grilled steak, roast potato/ pumpkin, steamed carrots and coccus. Cherry tomatoes on the side. 

 

 

Your wife is not much better off eating the meal you cooked for her. Potato and carrots are both high carb foods. pumpkin is low carb.

 

Best way to lose weight is protein ( meat, fish, eggs ) plus low carb vegetables such as broccoli, cauliflower, cabbage and green beans. For fruit, strawberries and blueberries.

[billd766]

I have known my Thai wife for 30 years and been married to her for 24 of them.

 

She is no longer the slim long dark haired beauty that she once was.

 

So what.

 

We have a 19 year old son and a reasonable life together, and as I get older she is  taking care of me more as my health is slowly deteriorating. If I want to know what she looked like back then, I can turn my head and look at a small photo of her, or go to the fridge and look at a bigger picture.

 

I am more than happy with my wife and would never consider replacing her with some younger and better looking woman.

 

Why would I even need to think about it?

[spidermike007]

Losing weight is usually something someone does because they are very motivated to do so. Your desire for her fitness seems to be of little importance to her. So, you either accept it, or move on. We have choices in this life. 

[ABCDBKK]

19 hours ago, advancebooking said:

Have been married for 10 yrs. We have a daughter and so glad to have this experience in life, living the dream here etc.

 

When I married my wife she was slim. Her body was tight. Even after giving birth she stayed in shape. For example, she still had that gap between her upper inner thighs when standing up. 

 

Now 10 yrs on and she is getting rather large in the lower half of the body. 

 

Last night my child ran downstairs at 6pm to get mummies grab delivery. I inspected and found it was a sugary chocolate looking drink with round jelly balls floating inside. I was thinking what the hell. I go upstairs and she is drinking it and eating 2 min noodles from the original packaging that one can buy at the supermarket (full of palm oil and MSG). She wasnt eating my dinner that I cooked for us all. Grilled steak, roast potato/ pumpkin, steamed carrots and coccus. Cherry tomatoes on the side. 

 

Later that night I had to chat with her. No more sugar for a month etc. No more sugar drinks. 

 

It seems she doesnt respect her body anymore and this concerns me. 

 

I noticed when I purchased some strawberries at the market recently,  they include a small bag of sugar with each punnet. If one orders food from some restaurants using grab they often give a free bottle of coke with the delivery. Eat out at restaurants and the chefs add sugar to the food all the time. 

 

It might come to the point where Im not attracted to my wife anymore the way things are going. Ive never really been into big girls. Whats going to happen in another 10 yrs if she doesnt care about her bod. 

 

Thoughts?

It's always better to rent than to own to avoid situations like these. But now you got two Thai women for the price of one. So just p0rnhub it and chill bro. 

[proton]

8 hours ago, fredwiggy said:

Will she leave you when you get fatter?

 

She loves my white skin, as long as I don't get brown I should be OK😁

[HugoFastor]

I would speak with her Thai boyfriend (whom she is giving money to) to see what he thinks about it all. 

[khunPer]

Obesity seems to be a global problem, and there also seems to be no generally approved answers to why. I have an old friend who are one of the world leading professors in obesity, and I often reads what he share.

 

Some studies conclude that obesity is caused by wealth, when people can afford to eat enough food, which might include "unhealthy" food. Other studies claim obesity as a disease; I can suspect the medical industries to wish and support that, so they can sell obesity medicine supported by government funds.

 

Some gets fatter from carbon hydrate (sugar), others from fat. That might be a good reason why some diets like pasta works for some, and not for others, while eating non-fat then works for others, but not for some.

 

Studies have shown that there different ways for obesity depending of blood sugar level. It's depending of insulin sensitivity of how fast you feel full; which might be why diabetes medicine works to reduce obesity.

 

In general it might still be down to that if energy intake is larger than energy consumption, the excess energy is stored, which in humans is stored as fat. From that point of view it's primary a question of change in life-style – both amount of food and snacks, and what to be eaten, and level of exercise, which is an important factor when slimming to burn the right fat – which can be difficult and might require some strong will.

 

My own lovely girlfriend seems to have same kind of problem – however, still a bit from the level for finishing the relationship – but she finally try to face the change of life-style; she was also still slim after giving birth to our daughter, now some 18 years years ago.

 

A way to help might be to in a kind way convincing that a life-style change is necessary – obesity can lead to a lot of diseases and shorter life.

[ABCDBKK]

All kidding aside, the increased weight is a result of a sedentary lifestyle, slowing of metabolism with age, and bad dietary choices. Going to the gym will probably change very little if anything. 80% of weight loss results from making the right food choices and creating a caloric deficit. There are also serious health risks associated with her current lifestyle if her weight continues to increase. Type 2 Diabetes is the number one threat from high sugar diets that plagues a huge percentage of the Thai population already. Followed by possible coronary related issues.
 

The best thing you can do is hire a maid to cook the kind of things she likes to eat, but in a healthier way with less calories and less sugar. Or order multiple meals every 3-4 days from one of those healthy-meal online meal delivery services. That is probably your only chance in getting her to lose a noticeable amount of weight. If you can get her to start doing some exercise, that would be a good thing though. It probably won't change her appearance much, but it will help prevent other issues in the future such as heart disease. 

[Kinok Farang]

Just give her a slap like we do back at home in Switzerland.

[GinBoy2]

I'm a little disturbed by some of the attitudes here.

 

We all start off with physical attraction, thats how nature works. But if you truly develop affection and love that becomes secondary.

 

How many of us are the adonis we were when we were 20 or 30?

 

Beer Belly?

 

How many of you have lost your hair?

 

Trouble with living in Thailand is sometimes, 60 year old men revert to High School locker talk when talking about women without having a look in the mirror

[Dolf]

22 minutes ago, Kinok Farang said:

Just give her a slap like we do back at home in Switzerland.

Like in the supermarket?