3 minutes ago, DezLez said:

I agree with many of his posts politically but a few times I have disagreed and the ensuing temper tantrum was hilarious vitriolic for no reason.

Are you okay Dez Lez? You seem a bit obsessed with me. 

11 minutes ago, Yellowtail said:

Trying to "empathize" by asking the mods to kick me off the board permanently? that sounded a bit angry to me, albeit understandably. 

 

 

 

Dude, I'm over it.  Rant on if that is what floats your boat.  I get that way myself but try not to make a habit of it.

58 minutes ago, newbee2022 said:

Even Hulk would find someone here

 

 

The question is not about availability, it is about finding someone who makes your life better, and not worse. One you miss when you leaving, and you cant wait to see each other again. That’s when you have found gold

1 hour ago, atpeace said:

Why not single? It has its benefits.    I was really satisfied with life while single but seem to eventually find myself in love and eventually living with one woman.  In many cases I would have been better off single 🙂  It's funny how we seem to be programed to hookup with one woman and most relationships aren't really that happy.  How many friends have you had that endlessly speak of the benefits of being single and are now in relationships ( mostly bad -555).  

I had my time travelling for sport and work, and do not miss my time as single for one second. 

 

For some single life is best for themselves and the other part, but for others who thrive to be two, why on earth should you change that, when you have found someone who contributes great to your life?

1 minute ago, Hummin said:

 

 

The question is not about availability, it is about finding someone who makes your life better, and not worse. One you miss when you leaving, and you cant wait to see each other again. That’s when you have found gold

Don't underestimate silver and bronze.

20 minutes ago, newbee2022 said:

Don't underestimate silver and bronze.

Whatever makes your boat float 

11 hours ago, atpeace said:

He saying many would be highly critical.  

 

No.  He said, " In the West they ARE highly critical"
Best to not try and speak for him, he has no idea what hes talking about

7 hours ago, SLOWHAND225 said:

 

No.  He said, " In the West they ARE highly critical"
Best to not try and speak for him, he has no idea what hes talking about

Yep, that is what I meant 🙂  Many in the west would be critical.  Doesn't bother me in  the least other than possibly being mildly curious. You think many wouldn't be critical?  

 

There are actual forums like AseanNow in west that discuss the MANY challenges.  Most of the members in these forums had positive and long relationships but don't ignore reality.    They experience social, family, and work related challenges but in the end got over it.  Weird how many here being the older man just don't see it  - go figure 🙂 

 

Maybe insecurity plays a role.  IMO, if they are happy, then others think what they want.  A couple posters seemed compelled to actually validate the relation by posting pics of their beautiful wife on this thread.  I would never as an older man use my wife's beauty to garner respect from this forum's members.

On 7/6/2025 at 3:57 PM, sidjameson said:

Thais love gossip. 

We have a few here who love gossip. 

 

15 hours ago, newbee2022 said:

Sure, these old farts - almost leftovers, kicked outs, outcasts - will find a poor girl - often half age of their daughters -  who saw a way out of poverty, caring for her family.

In simple words: HE bought HER. It's life time prostitution. HE pays.

That is just your hi-so bigoted opinion, but, it could be that you are probably one of those you are trying to trash, eh....................

23 minutes ago, transam said:

That is just your hi-so bigoted opinion, but, it could be that you are probably one of those you are trying to trash, eh....................

Since Trump.... nothing is impossible 

36 minutes ago, newbee2022 said:

Since Trump.... nothing is impossible 

What is blatantly obvious to everybody but you is that you don't have game.  You in the west trying to talk to a woman socially would be entertaining.  Assume you moved here and suddenly became a lady magnet and now with your assumed lofty stature look down on other as others did to you back home. 

 

Very few things are exposed by your surface based type  logic, other than your deficiencies,  and with age you might figure this out but think it is always going to be a struggle for you.  I gather you don't think fat old men are worthy of relationships here.  What age gap is appropriate and what about dorky youngsters here dating tens?

On 7/6/2025 at 3:03 PM, SoCal1990 said:

I’m curious how local Thai communities perceive these relationships. Are these foreign retirees accepted and viewed as a normal part of Thai village life now, or do they spark gossip or social tension? Do locals see them as providing security and opportunities for the women, perhaps admiring the foreigners for their contributions, or do they view these relationships as exploiting economic disparities?

I see and understand your interest in these questions, however, you ask them on a forum where "local Thai communities" are vastly underrepresented. To get meaningful answers you should ask the intended target group: rural Thai villagers...

On 7/6/2025 at 3:14 PM, nick supreme said:

Are you looking to justify your exportation of a 18 year old bride? 

18 is still a kid,  way to young! 21 is where its at!

So call1990 you posted something the other day that I thought was pretty ridiculous and now you’re asking what Thai people think in these rural villages do you stay home all day and dream of stupid crap how do you think a group of ex-pats know what Thai people think in some faraway village and who cares you need to get a life go experience some real life things quit acting so stupid on this forum I mean why don’t you worry and think about things that directly affect you there’s an old foreign man living with a young woman in a real village in Thailand is are these things you think about really get a life you’re so boring TIT

Younger wife longer life...

I retired to Thailand 22 years ago, when I was 64, and a year later, I married a Thai woman who was twenty years younger than me. We built a house on her land in a rural area of northeast Thailand in Phetchabun Province and have lived there ever since. In fact, we just celebrated our 21st wedding anniversary.

In the mountains of northeast Thailand, many Thai men have younger wives, and some even have multiple wives. There is no problem with a man marrying a woman who is younger than him. 

 

If the falang tao  is jai dee  & has money he gets the honey.

 

Im older than her relatives!

Age hardly ever matters!
 

Yes absolutely they look down on you, we had a bit of a party last week, My wife is 36 and I am 78...

 

People looked at me in disgust, completely ruined our 20th anniversary!

1 minute ago, Satcommlee said:

Yes absolutely they look down on you, we had a bit of a party last week, My wife is 36 and I am 78...

 

People looked at me in disgust, completely ruined our 20th anniversary!

 

 

OMG...seriously???

 

We have regular 'dos' and have never encountered anything like that.......but maybe that's because many are the wife's relatives?

 

I find them extremely warm and friendly, a little OTT at times.......hugs and holding hands!!

On 7/6/2025 at 10:03 AM, SoCal1990 said:

Apparently, quite a few older foreign men have retired to rural Thai villages where they marry local women who are often much younger than them. The retirees are said to often speak limited Thai, and typically settle in areas with few other foreigners. To outsiders, these relationships might appear imbalanced due to differences in age, finances, or life experience.

 

I’m curious how local Thai communities perceive these relationships. Are these foreign retirees accepted and viewed as a normal part of Thai village life now, or do they spark gossip or social tension? Do locals see them as providing security and opportunities for the women, perhaps admiring the foreigners for their contributions, or do they view these relationships as exploiting economic disparities?

Elder men with younger wives/girlfriends are generally accepted, as it is not uncommons in Thai-Thai relationships.

 

If you as a foreigner is accepted in the local community depends generally upon your own behavior and how you treat with other villagers; language – i.e, speaking Thai – is not a major subject.

On 7/6/2025 at 4:06 PM, short-Timer said:

So you were 28 when she was born. 👍🏼

I will be 80 next year and I was 31 when my Thai wife was born. Our son is 23. 

One possibility is younger Thai males in the village will be sniffing around your lady. Their assumption is she has money, you’re unable to satisfy her like they can both emotionally and physically. 

On 7/6/2025 at 4:14 AM, nick supreme said:

Are you looking to justify your exportation of a 18 year old bride? 

I wouldn't feel like I had to justify anything.  But yes,  I do lust after 18 year old's.  555  

If there is plenty of money involved they  will accept any age gap, ....you love the woman u must love the family, and extended family...

I'm 84 and she is 43.  We've been together ten years.  Initially I often asked what others think of us (read me) and she always said it was about jai dee not age.  By now I've learned that the overwhelming response from those who have and have not met me is "lucky girl."  It should have been "lucky guy."  We bought our first house  in January and plan to get married in December.

On 7/6/2025 at 10:09 AM, transam said:

Is that you Goat.................😂

 

A Thai lady I know runs a small beer bar near me, been there for decades, her now deceased Thai husband was probably 40 years older than her..........😉

 

So to answer your question, locals don't give a sh_t about age differences, Thai or Farangy........

How about western ladies with Thai husbands ?  I know them and they get on very well, very happy. 

Thai's, especially outside BKK tend to be very transactional

 

Young girl brings back the old guy from Pattaya or Phuket, builds her a house, they are thinking good for her, lag it out until he dies and  just keep the boyfriends outta sight

 

Sounds harsh but pretty much reality