5 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

Not like a cow or car which can be re-sold.

That's not quite right.

If worn out you can't resale them.

As I realized you see woman as cleaners, pampering you in any aspects, cooking for you, and making you feeling as a small, little King?

And therefore 500 Euro ist enough?

Pathetic. Sorry.

End of discussion.

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1 minute ago, Ralf001 said:

Bit exxy.. but if shes <25yrs <35kg <5ft..... maybe maybe.

 

Well, I'm assuming your'e choosing her, so she brings the 8 to 10 looks and is no older than 25.

 

The reason I say only 8000 is because you DO NOT want the girl that's been dating a 45 year old accountant who was sending her 28000 a month. Because she's spoiled in more ways than one, but also financially.

 

The girl who says she's worth 40,000, guess what....she's not. Here's why, there are many many thousands of 18 to 25 year old girls who make no more than 8000 baht in the most brutal work. This is the girl you want, or even better one who's not working at all.

 

For she is not spoiled, and for her 8000 is a lot, she'll appreciate it.

 

You shouldn't lead with the wallet, so if you pay out 40,000 because you can, you're getting a whore who'll jump ship when some guy pays 500000.

 

If she's with y ou, she should be with you at least in part for your lifestyle and for you. If money is the most important to her, just ditch her and get a decent girl. She's for the streets.

I object to the objectivization of women

And the monetisation of men 

34 minutes ago, Negita43 said:

I object to the objectivization of women

And the monetisation of men 

There will always be men who objectify women. It's a learned behavior from childhood. Money being a man's motivation to pay is again only for those who have to pay for women, which this topic is about,  whereas providing isn't near the same thing. 

59 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

There will always be men who objectify women. It's a learned behavior from childhood. Money being a man's motivation to pay is again only for those who have to pay for women, which this topic is about,  whereas providing isn't near the same thing. 

Too true Fred.

Always great to hear your feedback.

So how much do you think would be an appropriate sum to provide her with?

1 hour ago, Cameroni said:

The reason I say only 8000

Yeah, she could be blind or/and deaf or disabled.

You're aiming to special parts only, isn't it?

1 hour ago, Cameroni said:

 

Well, I'm assuming your'e choosing her, so she brings the 8 to 10 looks and is no older than 25.

 

The reason I say only 8000 is because you DO NOT want the girl that's been dating a 45 year old accountant who was sending her 28000 a month. Because she's spoiled in more ways than one, but also financially.

 

The girl who says she's worth 40,000, guess what....she's not. Here's why, there are many many thousands of 18 to 25 year old girls who make no more than 8000 baht in the most brutal work. This is the girl you want, or even better one who's not working at all.

 

For she is not spoiled, and for her 8000 is a lot, she'll appreciate it.

 

You shouldn't lead with the wallet, so if you pay out 40,000 because you can, you're getting a whore who'll jump ship when some guy pays 500000.

 

If she's with y ou, she should be with you at least in part for your lifestyle and for you. If money is the most important to her, just ditch her and get a decent girl. She's for the streets.

 

Yeah I top out at 1000 a week.

19 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

Your comprehension is quite poor, like i said, it depends

Subsidizing the income of prostitutes is a very bad idea, They made their choice, now they have to live with it. If I were inclined to live with a hooker, my offer would include free rent. If she requires more she can get a job babysitting or whatever she is "qualified" for. Admittedly, that wouldn't be much.

5 minutes ago, Felton Jarvis said:

Subsidizing the income of prostitutes is a very bad idea, They made their choice, now they have to live with it. If I were inclined to live with a hooker, my offer would include free rent. If she requires more she can get a job babysitting or whatever she is "qualified" for. Admittedly, that wouldn't be much.

 

The thread is about paying a girl if she stops working.  

11 minutes ago, Felton Jarvis said:

If she requires more she can get a job babysitting

I don’t think too many parents would be keen on having a prostitute look after their kids.

Most of them can’t or don’t even look after their own kids.

21 minutes ago, newbee2022 said:

Yeah, she could be blind or/and deaf or disabled.

You're aiming to special parts only, isn't it?

Deaf could be a plus.

And with a head like mind blind would probably be another plus.

1 minute ago, MalcolmB said:

I don’t think too many parents would be keen on having a prostitute look after their kids.

Most of them can’t or don’t even look after their own kids.

 

Why would you need a prostitute though, civilian girls not mercenary enough for you?

22 hours ago, MalcolmB said:

Maybe you want to spend more time with her or maybe you are not comfortable with the job she is in.

How much is fair for both sides?

You are delving in the realms of fantasy, poking a fire with a stick can get you burnt.

2 hours ago, Negita43 said:

I object to the objectivization of women

And the monetisation of men 

 I hate reality as well

4 minutes ago, soalbundy said:

You are delving in the realms of fantasy, poking a fire with a stick can get you burnt.

Over 50% of expats give an allowance to their WAGS

21 hours ago, BritManToo said:

1,000bht for an hour seems fair.

I won't be needing her longer than that.

It's more likely you will only need her for 90 seconds.

2 hours ago, Cameroni said:

 

Well, I'm assuming your'e choosing her, so she brings the 8 to 10 looks and is no older than 25.

 

The reason I say only 8000 is because you DO NOT want the girl that's been dating a 45 year old accountant who was sending her 28000 a month. Because she's spoiled in more ways than one, but also financially.

 

The girl who says she's worth 40,000, guess what....she's not. Here's why, there are many many thousands of 18 to 25 year old girls who make no more than 8000 baht in the most brutal work. This is the girl you want, or even better one who's not working at all.

 

For she is not spoiled, and for her 8000 is a lot, she'll appreciate it.

 

You shouldn't lead with the wallet, so if you pay out 40,000 because you can, you're getting a whore who'll jump ship when some guy pays 500000.

 

If she's with y ou, she should be with you at least in part for your lifestyle and for you. If money is the most important to her, just ditch her and get a decent girl. She's for the streets.

True.Just pass the bridge near rangsit in the afternoon.Alot of beautiful girls going home from work from the factories.I meet one and she asked if i could buy her new shoes and that's the only thing she wanted.Of course she get that and refused money.We took a dinner and she wanted to pay her share but i didn't allow that.

6 hours ago, save the frogs said:

 

But it's probably not only girls in bars that would prefer to stop working and be taken care of.

Keep in mind women not working was common not too long ago. 

And lots of women have low paying jobs in Thailand. 

 

 

yes... but not in Pattaya or other bars in Thailand... And not with foreigner bars setup for them to get paid for sex.

3 hours ago, MalcolmB said:

Might be beyond your thing but the poll is indicating about 40% of us believe between 15-20,000 is pretty much the figure.

Dont spoil them but don’t make it hard for them either.

They make that just off of their salary plus the money they get from every drink they get you to buy them. that does not include their time away from the bar or their commission from the bar fine the man pays or the actual fee to take her home and screw. So the 40% are way off

3 hours ago, MalcolmB said:

I think you are wrong.

Many people take them out of the bar and they last longer than a month.

And a simple DNA test can prove a baby is yours or not.

You sound a bit naive.

Fine... I am not naive... Take them for the 9 months pregnant.. Then after supporting her you will pay the thousands for DNA testing and then throw her butt out the door when finding out the baby is not yours? I do not think so. 

I know an American who took in a bar girl he was seeing frequently. She claimed pregnant so he moved her into his home. Had the baby, i suggested DNA testing but he would not consider it. He claimed he knew sure already the baby was his even though the girl screwed many other men while screwing him too. Then the baby came. He pushed away all his friends that suggested the baby might not be his. Now, 2 years later, the girl has gone back to work selling herself and drinking everyday and the baby is with him and he still has not gotten a dna test. So don't say I am naive, it happens. This guy was a millionaire as well. Not some stupid drunkard tourist. He is well-versed on bar girls. But still wants to believe what she saids about his being the father. 

11 hours ago, norsurin said:

True.Just pass the bridge near rangsit in the afternoon.Alot of beautiful girls going home from work from the factories.I meet one and she asked if i could buy her new shoes and that's the only thing she wanted.Of course she get that and refused money.We took a dinner and she wanted to pay her share but i didn't allow that.

did you try to get sex from her? 

 

1 hour ago, soalbundy said:

I hate reality as well

I don't hate reality but that doesn't mean I have to approve of parts of it.

3 hours ago, soalbundy said:

 I hate reality as well

I accept reality for what it is, and have learned to plan my life around it.

 

Women pretend to love us in order to manipulate us and extract money from us.

Pay them what you think the sex is worth, and expect nothing more.

3 hours ago, MalcolmB said:

I don’t think too many parents would be keen on having a prostitute look after their kids.

Most of them can’t or don’t even look after their own kids.

Alternatively,

Make sure you have one that won't try and keep the kids when the inevitable break comes.

3 hours ago, Lacessit said:

It's more likely you will only need her for 90 seconds.

Bit extreme,

If you'd said 3-5 minutes that would have been fair.

3 hours ago, Felton Jarvis said:

Subsidizing the income of prostitutes is a very bad idea, They made their choice, now they have to live with it. If I were inclined to live with a hooker, my offer would include free rent. If she requires more she can get a job babysitting or whatever she is "qualified" for. Admittedly, that wouldn't be much.

i see sex work as just another job, are you religious ? maybe a bible basher?

9 hours ago, actonion said:

Pay her nothing, when she's left the bar she can go get a  decent job, then you will know if she really wants to be  with you

Sounds good in theory , but how many girls would actually agree to this arrangement  ? Maybe less than 1 % .

Another thing to consider - the market for these girls is quite competitive - there are lots of foreign retirees on big pensions who can easily afford 50 - 100 k / month . Just look at some of the houses they build in every corner of the kingdom , many must have cost 10 million ++

17 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

i see sex work as just another job

I certainly wish you all the best in your career.

With all the cases of guilable falangs being wiped out of their savings, getting Aids or sometimes far worse, how can people still be so naive to expect a normal relationship in such a context ? Not saying that it cannot happen, but the stakes and risks are far to high.

 

Is it really worth to "buy" in Thailand ?

 

Safer to only "rent" and not to be stuck with the same option for the remaining years to enjoy, 

On 8/13/2025 at 3:29 AM, MalcolmB said:

Maybe you want to spend more time with her or maybe you are not comfortable with the job she is in.

How much is fair for both sides?

depends on how much her Thai bf/husband wants to raise the kids, drink, gamble, etc.