6 hours ago, simon43 said:

I have found that walking stark-naked with a sunflower tied to the end of my todger usually works quite well....

 

Seriously, if you pretend to be a nutter, then almost everybody (Thai and farang) will steer well clear of you.  I've found thatit also works with aggressive dogs.

 

yes, getting your cock out is often a deterrent to unwanted andvances.

of course if the OP just stayed home this would be a non issue. 

i reckon OPs issues run deeper thant thais "coming at" him, 

Judging by the appalling examples of transliterated Thai in this thread, all you need to do is to copy some of these suggested pronunciations I I can guarantee that almost all Thais will avoid you....

Just lock yourself in your mum's basement and stay on AN 24/7 while pretending that you have ever really visited Thailand when you haven't, just like Susan does.
 

This way you will ensure you continue to have no life, no real friends, and never interact with any real people.

 

If you need any further pro tips on how to fully achieve success with this necessary undertaking then feel free to send a DM to Susan directly. Thank me later. 

4 hours ago, Mark1969 said:

I want to be invisible because I find other people's energy draining and distracting.

 

I can't "hear" my true will when it's mixed together with someone needing something or wanting to connect for some reason.

 

When that happens my energy and attention is directed towards them and not me, or it's directed on just something other then my own goals and needs.

this reads like a combination of new age waffle and some sort of mental issue. Perhaps its time to have someone check to see where on the Autism spectrum you land

I don't hate people, i just feel alot better when they are not around.
-- Mickey Rourke as Bukowski in Barfly 

7 hours ago, Mark1969 said:

They don't usually say. They just gain my attention through eye contact, facial expression or being to close in personal space. I can just keep walking but the interaction/distraction has already occurred. That's the same as someone asking for something in that it diverts me energy into a distraction I don't want.

So they dont actually come up and talk to you, they just look at you or happen to be next to you? Seems you may have some mental conditions that you could discuss with an appropriate doctor. 

23 minutes ago, Dan O said:

So they dont actually come up and talk to you, they just look at you or happen to be next to you? Seems you may have some mental conditions that you could discuss with an appropriate doctor. 

It's not just looking or seeing me or glancing over, it's people that notice me then appear to want to interact, or that are kind of eliciting like they want a response back.

 

For example, nodding or maintaining direct eye contact, or kind of just noticing me but not moving on and lingering and being in my way in a strange manner. I have no problem being in a large crowd where I'm left alone.

 

13 hours ago, Mark1969 said:

They don't usually say. They just gain my attention through eye contact, facial expression or being to close in personal space. I can just keep walking but the interaction/distraction has already occurred. That's the same as someone asking for something in that it diverts me energy into a distraction I don't want.

Paranoid or a Troll. 

Falang, mai sa baai wan nee. You don't feel good today

 

11 hours ago, Mark1969 said:

I want to be invisible because I find other people's energy draining and distracting.

 

I can't "hear" my true will when it's mixed together with someone needing something or wanting to connect for some reason.

 

When that happens my energy and attention is directed towards them and not me, or it's directed on just something other then my own goals and needs.

You sound like a typical, if quite extreme, introvert?  Maybe also a little way up the spectrum.

 

Some people just don't need company and find it stressful and distracting.

 

But I don't think the Thai people you mentioned in the OP really want to talk to you, as most Thai people don't want to engage with foreigners as they find it difficult to communicate.

 

However, Thai people do tend to make much more eye contact and have less 'closed' body language than us falangs.  We tend to have that 1000 yard stare and 'don't mess me with me' body language; cultivated from a lifetime spent in unfriendly Western cities.  By contrast, Thai people naturally make fleeting eye contact out of politeness, but it does mean they want to talk to you.

 

Avoiding the natural eye contact and staring at your phone may be making you look distressed or in need of help, which make prompt further engagement.

 

Just try to act 'natural' and relaxed, don't try to avoid the eye contact and go about your own business, and they will leave you alone ..... as they didn't want to speak to you either.

 

Apart from South Asians trying to sell fake watches, Nigerians selling drugs, hookers and of course tailors, nobody tries to speak to me, but I do see a lot of polite/curious eye contact.

19 hours ago, Mark1969 said:

can avoid foreigners most of the time with avoidance body language, but the cues don't seem to work with Thai's.

I am assuming these Thai people you are wanting to avoid are vendors, wanting to sell you something. What I do is put my phone to my ear and start talking, guaranteed to work 100% for me. If they persist, I'd start yelling, aggressively into the phone, it should scare the pesky people away. 

 

14 hours ago, Mark1969 said:

For example, nodding or maintaining direct eye contact

 

The only way you can know this is if you are also maintaining direct contact.

 

You're probably freaking them out and misreading the body language...

You tink too mutt

The odd angry Fart hurled into a group of Thai, or any nationality will leave you with your own space.

Alas you really need to work hard to get the perfect eye watering explosion without the follow through lumps or worst, a wet arse 

18 hours ago, Mark1969 said:

It's not just looking or seeing me or glancing over, it's people that notice me then appear to want to interact, or that are kind of eliciting like they want a response back.

 

For example, nodding or maintaining direct eye contact, or kind of just noticing me but not moving on and lingering and being in my way in a strange manner. I have no problem being in a large crowd where I'm left alone.

news flash, just because someone looks at you for any length of time but doesnt speak to you or address you it means nothing,  its all in your head. you're either trolling a bs post or need some mental health advice.  

26 minutes ago, Dan O said:

news flash, just because someone looks at you for any length of time but doesnt speak to you or address you it means nothing,  its all in your head. you're either trolling a bs post or need some mental health advice.  

Yes, it does. It's called looking ssshhhiiittt usually.

 

People do it to distract you, because they want something, anger, envy, etc or for all kinds of reasons. It's usually because they want some sort of response back. It could also be positive, goodwill, etc.

 

Whatever that energy is, it's getting transmitted to you mostly through eye contact.

 

We are talking about odd prolonged looking, not just casual glances.

@JimTripper @Mark1969 should you be walking around unsupervised? This is something we've talked about before. Is it getting worse or is it much the same?

3 hours ago, Mark1969 said:

Yes, it does. It's called looking ssshhhiiittt usually.

 

People do it to distract you, because they want something, anger, envy, etc or for all kinds of reasons. It's usually because they want some sort of response back. It could also be positive, goodwill, etc.

 

Whatever that energy is, it's getting transmitted to you mostly through eye contact.

 

We are talking about odd prolonged looking, not just casual glances.

 

Get help

35 minutes ago, JayClay said:

Get help

You're probably just not real observant. Take a look around you right now. You can probably find at least three different people staring right at you. Ask yourself why they are staring at you and why you should care what they are thinking.

6 minutes ago, Mark1969 said:

You're probably just not real observant. Take a look around you right now. You can probably find at least three different people staring right at you. Ask yourself why they are staring at you and why you should care what they are thinking.

 

Yes, you need serious help.

 

Urgently.

On 9/16/2025 at 9:37 AM, Mark1969 said:

Any expats here who are not approached by Thai people much in daily life but still live in a densely populated area?

 

Please post tips on how you behave, interact or not, etc. Things I can do if I just want to be left alone in peace. I can avoid foreigners most of the time with avoidance body language, but the cues don't seem to work with Thai's.

 

I can't seem to get rid of Thai's "coming at me". I have tried various things, like no eye contact, just not responding, responding politely but superficially, not smiling, looking at the phone, etc but nothing seems to work particularly well consistently. Even tried some new age visualization aura shielding stuff.

 

The best technique so far is staring at the phone and not responding, but I can't do that all the time. Trying to avoid people is actually making it worse...??

 

Sorry if the post seems a tad anti-social...

 

Good grief, this is abject and repugnant.

You should not be allowed to leave your house!

On 9/16/2025 at 5:05 AM, novacova said:

A tad? Very is more like it.

Very sad. I can’t imaging going through daily life avoiding people or any interaction.I think that the OP has  a big psychological problem.

1 hour ago, geisha said:

Very sad. I can’t imaging going through daily life avoiding people or any interaction.I think that the OP has  a big psychological problem.

A lot of people don't like the idea because they get their energy from other people. Usually, they have learned to take in more then they give out (unless it's a balanced relationship).

 

A person who is building their own energy for themselves is very threatening to those who are accustomed to siphoning off energy from others. They will need to either find other victims, learn to harness their own energy or find a suitable partner that gives as much as they receive.

I am invisible to Thai girls when Korean are near. So I'd say if you want to become invisible you should call over some Koreans.

1 hour ago, Mark1969 said:

A lot of people don't like the idea because they get their energy from other people. Usually, they have learned to take in more then they give out (unless it's a balanced relationship).

 

A person who is building their own energy for themselves is very threatening to those who are accustomed to siphoning off energy from others. They will need to either find other victims, learn to harness their own energy or find a suitable partner that gives as much as they receive.

 

What absolutely pathetic nonsense.

 

"A person who is building their own energy for themselves" isn't a whiny wimp who cries that some people occasionally look at him each time he gathers up the courage to venture outside.

There are tougher challenges in life than someone throwing you a glance.

 

"is very threatening to those who are accustomed to siphoning off energy from others." --- You are only threatening to yourself with your victimhood attitude, and no sane person is interested in siphoning off such weak energy. No one cares.

 

Seek help urgently.

20 hours ago, Mark1969 said:

Yes, it does. It's called looking ssshhhiiittt usually.

 

People do it to distract you, because they want something, anger, envy, etc or for all kinds of reasons. It's usually because they want some sort of response back. It could also be positive, goodwill, etc.

 

Whatever that energy is, it's getting transmitted to you mostly through eye contact.

 

We are talking about odd prolonged looking, not just casual glances.

you may be a nutter if simple eye contact causes you such distress. you do realise you are a foreigner and depending on location many rural thai's may have never seen a foreigner in person. I suspect you're just troll posting this but if you are serious, you should see a qualified doctor 

The Keyboard Warriors have stepped aside to make way for the Keyboard Psychiatrists on this thread. Just type a few lines and they render a diagnosis and treatment plan. Very efficient!

19 minutes ago, ColeBOzbourne said:

The Keyboard Warriors have stepped aside to make way for the Keyboard Psychiatrists on this thread. Just type a few lines and they render a diagnosis and treatment plan. Very efficient!

 

I don't see many if any diagnosis on this thread.

 

I mostly see posts advising the OP that he should seek professional help.

29 minutes ago, JayClay said:

I don't see many if any diagnosis on this thread.

 

I mostly see posts advising the OP that he should seek professional help.

Just the few posts before this one have diagnosed him as a 'nutter', a person of 'absolute pathetic nonsense', 'very sad', 'having a big psychological problem', 'abject and repugnant', 'in need of a qualified doctor', 'need some mental health advice', 'seek help urgently', 'in need of serious help', and etc.. That's just a few examples from page three of this thread. Some are diagnoses and some are conclusions, all extrapolated from a few short paragraphs by Keyboard Psychiatrists. I don't have the time or desire to sift back through pages one and two for evidence.

1 hour ago, ColeBOzbourne said:

Just the few posts before this one have diagnosed him as a 'nutter', a person of 'absolute pathetic nonsense', 'very sad', 'having a big psychological problem', 'abject and repugnant', 'in need of a qualified doctor', 'need some mental health advice', 'seek help urgently', 'in need of serious help', and etc.. That's just a few examples from page three of this thread. Some are diagnoses and some are conclusions, all extrapolated from a few short paragraphs by Keyboard Psychiatrists. I don't have the time or desire to sift back through pages one and two for evidence.

If you did a research study all those people would likely be extremely extroverted (people who feed off the energy of others) or needy in some way.

 

It's similar to vampires getting angry. They can sense one of their potential victims pulling away. These are the guys that get weird when they are ignored and probably walk around nagging people at the condo pool area who don't want to be bothered (or nagging patrons at the bar to get attention, ie bar nags).

 

Anything to get others attention and energy. Without that attention and distraction they would have to actually listen to themselves and find alternative energy sources and find their own true will inside themselves.

 

They are looking for something in others but are never satisfied because the solution is not there. Staring is just the tip of the iceberg. Getting small amounts of attention  and responses throughout the day to top up depleted reserves. It makes no difference if the attention is positive or negative as long as some response or eye contact is directed their way.

 

That's one of the theories behind the evil eye stuff. Jewelry or charms made to reflect back this continual bombardment of weird energy other people are directing at you. Mirrors are also used, often placed above doorways, etc to get rid of this stuff entering the home and confusing and distracting you, or worse, irritating you.