I'm 83 so know my time left is short, I accept the inevitable, but don't dwell on it. Be nice to die in my sleep without pain.

54 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Mine were both dead by 65, and my few uncles/aunts that managed to break 70 all had dementia.

I remember my uncle and his wife were both in the same care home, didn't know each other or that they were married.

It sounds funny but it's tragic and sad 

Just now, giddyup said:

I'm 83 so know my time left is short, I accept the inevitable, but don't dwell on it. Be nice to die in my sleep without pain.

That's my dream too. I hope I can manage it by myself if necessary

Death will come for us all, sooner or later.  If you have a way of avoiding that please let us know! 😉

 

Until then, there's really no need to discuss it further.

9 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

Yes, their daily diet consists.... too many beers, pizza and KFC. 

 

 

 

KFC is tasty..........and relatively healthy if you stick to chicken.

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

Almost everyone posting on this forum is over 65, almost everyone I encounter is over 60.

The next major act in all our lives is death, but nobody dares talk about it, and everyone seems to think they've got lots of time left.

 

At 70 I freely admit I'm almost dead, all I have in front of me is increasing aches, pains, odd and more frequent illnesses, my mobility reducing and my body failing.

Is it a form of delusion or fear that stops people thinking about their soon to come death?

Death is great. No worries. No hassles. 

Are you sure that talking about it and saying you'll be dead shortly is not another way to put it arms length and avoid it .. for now. 

11 minutes ago, Henk Langeweg said:

For a dead thread this has many posters ....

More a Death Thread

Just now, Callmeishmael said:

Death will come for us all, sooner or later.  If you have a way of avoiding that please let us know! 😉

 

Until then, there's really no need to discuss it further.

 

Yes there is.

 

 

Anyone wishing to consider the bereaved will talk about what will/what they want to happen after their demise.

 

Only this week I was encouraging a friend to make a nomination for his partner on his occupational pension. It is probably one of the best 'gifts' we can make to those we care about and it does not form part of the estate and can only nominate a spouse or partner (not offspring for example). He is hesitant citing the fact that he has a Will benefiting his kids - this is separate from estate matters and could be worth up to 40k p.m. to his partner. Do nothing and the money gets absorbed into the pension fund.

55 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

I've always found accepting reality, whatever it is, makes me happier than trying to live in denial.

Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and wisdom to know the difference.

73 soon, for my wife's pension I need another 3 years.  Don't need much more than that. Food and sex having less traction and the future is bleak, objectively.

17 minutes ago, hotandsticky said:

KFC is tasty..........and relatively healthy if you stick to chicken.

I have at least 1 Zinger Burger every week.

They're great.

Death. What's there to talk about after you've made your exit plans?
I'll be 79 in a few weeks. People guess my age to be around 65, but, actually, I'm not the healthiest guy around. I only have a few more good years (I play sports three or four mornings a week), but I am certainly slowing down.

I will not wait to be a burden on my family. I will not live my last months in bed. If I get too sick, too infirm, or in fact, just too tired of living in pain, I've got my exit strategy in place. I'll pass over when I'm ready, rather than lying in bed for months waiting to die.

Death? Just another part of the cycle.

58 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

No one knows when their time will come, unless you have a terminal illness and you have a general idea. My two parents passed at 79, Dad, who smoked 3 packs a day for 60+ years, and Mom, at 84 who never smoked. My brother passed at 67, but had Diabetes and didn't lose weight when it was recommended by the doctor, so a heart attack came his way. Genetics is a lot of it but not everything. Why talk about it? We all know it comes, so live the best you can, as you can make it to 100, or not. Why bring others down because you think your time is coming soon? I have a bucket list of many things, so that's what I look forward to.

So far no one has mentioned accidental death.  Just saying.

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

Almost everyone posting on this forum is over 65, almost everyone I encounter is over 60.

The next major act in all our lives is death, but nobody dares talk about it, and everyone seems to think they've got lots of time left.

 

At 70 I freely admit I'm almost dead, all I have in front of me is increasing aches, pains, odd and more frequent illnesses, my mobility reducing and my body failing.

Is it a form of delusion or fear that stops people thinking about their soon to come death?

First, you live in an illusion. I am pretty sure that 25%, minimum, of the members here are under 60. besides that, did you mean almost everyone 65 or 60? That´s just confusing!

Now, over to your need to talk about death. Hell yeah! No problem to talk about it, and it has nothing to do with being scared for most of us. It does exist people that are scared of death. That is mostly the ones who feel the need to talk about it all the time. I am not sure how many threads you have opened about this. Also, the real reason why most of us don´t talk about death, is likely to be that it´s not a very enjoying conversation, as most of us like our life as it is, and instead want to feel good, have fun and make the most of the time left. Dribbling and talking about death, will just be a waste of time for us. It´s just a fact and will come or be delivered to all of us.

Yep, it's inevitable, so not much to really talk or think about.   Just hoping to make it to 80, and a possibility, given gene pool and my blood work.   If make it to 80, then will decide if the smiles out weigh the aches, if wanting to go for 90.

 

Relish in the thought I haven't killed myself ... yet, though did abuse my back a wee bit too much, so restricts some activities, as don't want to risk aggravating it, to the point of needing surgery .... again.

 

Stated in previous threads, bucket list fairly checked off, and now just realize, at this age, to appreciate the little things, and not try the thrill seeking adventures of the past.  Bouncing is off the play list, as breaking bones at this age isn't a good thing.  So paragliding is out, motorized or not.  One thing I haven't tried.

 

Reassuring in the fact, I'm not in the state of many I see strolling around, look like they are ready to keel over any day.  And many younger than myself.

 

Enough about ME ME ME ... Y'all hang in there, and get in as many smiles & chuckles as you can.

 

TICK TOCK

If given the chance would you want to see how the world turns out in 10 or 20 years britman?

15 minutes ago, Gottfrid said:

First, you live in an illusion. I am pretty sure that 25%, minimum, of the members here are under 60. besides that, did you mean almost everyone 65 or 60? That´s just confusing!

Now, over to your need to talk about death. Hell yeah! No problem to talk about it, and it has nothing to do with being scared for most of us. It does exist people that are scared of death. That is mostly the ones who feel the need to talk about it all the time. I am not sure how many threads you have opened about this. Also, the real reason why most of us don´t talk about death, is likely to be that it´s not a very enjoying conversation, as most of us like our life as it is, and instead want to feel good, have fun and make the most of the time left. Dribbling and talking about death, will just be a waste of time for us. It´s just a fact and will come or be delivered to all of us.

 

Yesterday I was travelling at 70 km/h on my scooter and on a sharp curve I found myself facing an oncoming car because the car was trying to turn right, like many motorcycles sometimes do. I braked with ABS, but the impact was inevitable, and luckily the driver of the car turned hard right.

 

So, my life may have been over. I agree with you: if we don't know what our tomorrow will be like, why worry, even if you're lucky enough not to wake up one morning?

 

Anyone else had a 'death scare' ?

 

Thinking this is it, and did a quick reflection, while being wheeled into the the operating theater, and came to a happy conclusion, 'damn, life was good, no regrets, if this is the end, so be it, I'm ready'.

 

Then when wake up, think, 'damn, that was cool'.  Appreciate your past life a bit more, and think, hmm, 'let's not F'up what time is left', and try to squeeze in some more smiles & chuckles.

 

"Honey, pack the car, I found a cool looking coffee shop with awesome view.  It's only 700 kms away"  

1 hour ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

We are all dying from the day we are born. 

 

I often see foreigners, younger than me (some much younger) , on soi Buakhou, Tukcom, around town looking like death warmed up. 

 

It seems some have not received quality DNA but most appear like they have no respect for themselves, their bodies, so OBESE, hobbling around in pain, unable to ascend or descend stairways without aid etc. 

Recently a foreigner fell from the back of a stationary baht bus, he was trying exit using 2 walking sticks WTF 

 

 

 

Wondering at what point your soul left your body. Did you grow up without a father?

12 minutes ago, angryguy said:

Wondering at what point your soul left your body. Did you grow up without a father?

Ha, ha, another stupid comment from the angry guy. 

 

Keep it up mate 😂

11 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

Ha, ha, another stupid comment from the angry guy. 

 

Keep it up mate 😂

Well i didnt notice your posts for the longest time and then you made that comment to the guy with his daughter in the car who experienced a crazy dude pounding his window and you had the audacity to call him out as a father. The more i read your posts since then the worse it gets. Feel bad for your kids

 

…the reputation about australians here seems to be true. You and goat/malcolmB. Horrible

 

 

why are you guys here trolling old people? Leave them alone..

2 hours ago, BritManToo said:

I've always found accepting reality, whatever it is, makes me happier than trying to live in denial.

But if you take that too far it's called wallowing in your own misery. And misery loves company, so are you here now looking for others to wallow with you?

I went on a 10 day meditation retreat about contemplating your death. The great stoic philosophers said you should contemplate itevery day.
 

Obviously, extensivedeath contemplation means that you really have a pretty short to do list in your life.
 

On the other hand, I want to really contemplate a cheeseburger that I’m sinking my teeth into, rather than grand philosophical discussions. 

 

Be light, un angry, and grateful. As many times in a day as you can.

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

Agree,

I rather die without the vomiting and baldness and financial ruin for my family.

Different for us because we would have to pay for chemotherapy, radiotherapy and the cocktails of tablets plus oncologist/radiologist fees etc. My Thai wife was diagnosed with breast cancer in October 2024. I went with her to her chemotherapy and radiation sessions. True, as she was warned, her hair fell out after the first chemo session. However, no vomiting whatsoever. She only complained of feeling sleepy. The chemo drugs infused dated from 1950s and 1960s. One nicknamed 'red death' and 'drug of last resort' because of it's colour and also being the strongest available. It must be that the tablets prescribed to combat the symptoms have improved and/or that her cancer doctor was good at fine tuning her doses?

Yeah, don't really want to talk about it except when necessary about estate planning, wills, etc.

I think at least for Americans a big taboo. 

I remember the first dead body I saw at age 15 oddly on the Rialto Bridge in Venice.

Channeling Death in Venice / Tadzio vibes.

Here's something -- on my first trip to Thailand as a purely fun seeking tourist took me to Pattaya. My first impression was that it was the most horrible (and very STINKY) place I had ever seen but at the same thing I had this uncomfortable cosmic feeling that it was my destiny to end my days here. Very strange.

I like it better now BTW.

Americans are often forced to seriously think about death at age 62 when you need to decide whether to take social security early or wait longer. A strong majority take it at 62. What that means if they think about is that they are betting that they won't live past about age 78. Those who wait to start a claim at age 70 are much more optimistic. 

 

11 minutes ago, Jingthing said:

Yeah, don't really want to talk about it except when necessary about estate planning, wills, etc.

I think at least for Americans a big taboo. 

I remember the first dead body I saw at age 15 oddly on the Rialto Bridge in Venice.

Channeling Death in Venice / Tadzio vibes.

Here's something -- on my first trip to Thailand as a purely fun seeking tourist took me to Pattaya. My first impression was that it was the most horrible and at that time STINKY place I had ever seen but at the same thing I had this cosmic feeling that it was destiny to end my days here. Very strange.

I like it better now BTW.

Americans are often forced to seriously think about death at age 62 when you need to decide whether to take social security early or wait longer. A strong majority take it at 62. What that means if they think about is that they are betting that they won't live past about age 78. Those who wait to start a claim at age 70 are much more optimistic. 

 

For some, retirement age is determined by immediate needs, that is, are they relying entirely on SS benefits to survive.

9 minutes ago, Hawaiian said:

For some, retirement age is determined by immediate needs, that is, are they relying entirely on SS benefits to survive.

Yes I totally understand the complexity of the decision. But I simplified it to address the aspect of people estimating their longevity. Obviously not everyone thinks about it that way.

17 minutes ago, Hawaiian said:

For some, retirement age is determined by immediate needs, that is, are they relying entirely on SS benefits to survive.

Agree, and I determined it, when work had enough of me, and I had enough of them, along with, having enough finances, that I didn't need to work any more.  Kind of lost interest in other money making ventures, so now, I'm a LPOS.

 

If work or a hobby was enjoyable enough, and money motivational enough, I might still be doing something, at least a few days a week.  Being anti schedule, it wouldn't  be brick & mortar customer service.  Seriously thought about building drones for people, but they mass produce better, cheaper ones now, so that would be a niche market to idiots.

 

Think I need a new hobby or perfect being a LPOS