At what age did you actually start feeling old?

[seancbk]

2 hours ago, Kinnock said:

They are great fun and good excercise too.  Low impact compared to running (unless you fall ????) and they help with balance and agility.  I can put on my trousers without falling over now ????.

 

Yes, bought it here, and then my wife wanted one, so now we skate together.

 

I started with a cheap Chinese one from a skateboard shop - it was OK to learn on, and I see Supersports now stocks them.

 

Then I ordered a Yow Malibu - nice and long which suits my height, and it's more stable if you hit a bump.

 

And surfskating has toned my wife's legs too!

 

 

Fantastic thanks!   I've not been to Mega Bangna in a while, my next question was where do you skate, but that pic answers that question!

 

[seancbk]

Last Sunday I was round at a friends house and one of their kids wanted to show me their new trampoline.  I hadn't been on one for a long time but it was great fun, just a little small so with the little kid in there I didn't think it was safe to try doing any flips.  But just seeing how high I could bounce was a blast!  

[VocalNeal]

4 hours ago, 4MyEgo said:

here is truth in that old saying, "your only as old as those you feel"

 

The correct expression is:- "You are only as old as the woman you feel". However yours is more gender neutral! 

[Ebumbu]

5 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

 

When I moved to NYC in the 1980's, a rather beautiful woman I had befriended looked at me and said "when are you going to remove that horrendous thing from your face?" I said huh? She said do you plan on dating? I said yes of course, I am divorced and single again. She said do you plan on sleeping with these women you date? I said of course. She said it is not going to happen with that terrible thing on your face. Not here, not now. I shaved the next morning! 

 

Are you sure she was referring to your beard? 

[connda]

5 hours ago, toofarnorth said:

At 74 he was knackered but maybe because he worked in the city of London and started there as office boy when he was 15.  And during WW2 he still had to go to London every day.

There's a lot to be said for taking full retirement early.
I left the rat-race at 55.  It was the best move in my life. 
I had another really good 10 years of living.  I see others working until they are 65 or beyond.  Like my dad.  Worked into his 70.  Took retirement, bought snow-bird house in Tucson, bought a new car and other stuff for retirement - died two months later. 
I took the last chunk of the best years of my life and had fun and enjoyed.  Now I'm very happy with a quiet live out in the sticks with little or no drama. 

[Kinnock]

7 minutes ago, seancbk said:

Fantastic thanks!   I've not been to Mega Bangna in a while, my next question was where do you skate, but that pic answers that question!

 

Both Supersports and, oddly, B2S in Mega Bangna have the low cost surfskates.

 

Unfortunately the skateboard area in Mega is currently closed due to COVID.

 

Central Village near the airport is open, plus I use the 'green' cycle path that runs between Lumpini and Benjakitti Parks.

 

And Bangsaen has many good places.

[Lacessit]

3 hours ago, seancbk said:

 

 

I do not get beards and my father had one all my life so the only time I saw him without one was pictures of him in his 20's

I really don't get these hipster types who seem to want to look like a sodding old lumberjack when they are only in their 20's and 30's  

Why anyone would do anything that makes them look older is beyond me!

You may get to understand beards are time and labor-saving devices.

I have a short nautical-style beard, shave the rest three times a week.

Why anyone would want to shave every day is beyond me.

[connda]

5 hours ago, Sticky Rice Balls said:

As a Seaman, I also realized my age when I could no longer inflate my dinghy! ????

But I try to remember its not thesize of your dinghy but the motion of the ocean! Avast Ye Mateys!

Even at my age my dinghy as the habit of inflating itself in the middle of the night.  The 60+ year old second-mate in the next bunk isn't too interested in deflating dinghies. 
It really is a pain hauling an over-inflated dinghy to the bathroom in the middle of the night and then hauling it back to bed.
"Yo! Dinghy.  The popular opinion is that you should be permanently deflated at my age.  What's up?"
I never got that memo dude.  Where's the hotties?
"In your dreams.  Now go away so I can get back to sleep!"

[Rampant Rabbit]

I  look  way  younger than I am  full head o  hair but in the last 18  months ive really  noticed a  change, Im 58 in 4  months, things are  getting harder to do, stiffer  less  flexible, seem more  sleepy, eyesights  gone to krap  in the last 5  years.

[Lacessit]

2 hours ago, Kinnock said:

 

(And how do Thai girls wear nothing but a towel without it falling off?)

Most are slim or small enough to be able to make a full foldover with the towel.

[Rampant Rabbit]

3 hours ago, connda said:

64.  It's genetics.  You're body simply wears out no matter how you exercise it or feed it good food or give it supplements or care for it.
At some point the machinery wears and fails to function like it did before.
Then comes the mental perspective:  Is the decline of your body dragging your mind down with it.  It doesn't have to although at some point your mind and memory go too. 
So you develop compassion and acceptance.

If you have read both Britmantoo and my take on the future, neither of us plan to hold off the inevitable. I know people who want to live to be 120 in an aging body.  Why?
Fear of death?  Enjoy your present life too much to let go of a hunk of flesh that is falling apart slowly but surely. 
It's been a good run.  I'll take whatever comes next with as much grace and acceptance as possible. 

Birth, youth, ageing, sickness, and finally death.
Look around.  It's the way of it.  Nothing escapes. 
So live fully in the time you have left.  Enjoy the dance.

I'm  just thankfulI wasnt  born at a time when I got draged into a war or such like.

[Rampant Rabbit]

20 minutes ago, connda said:

There's a lot to be said for taking full retirement early.
I left the rat-race at 55.  It was the best move in my life. 
I had another really good 10 years of living.  I see others working until they are 65 or beyond.  Like my dad.  Worked into his 70.  Took retirement, bought snow-bird house in Tucson, bought a new car and other stuff for retirement - died two months later. 
I took the last chunk of the best years of my life and had fun and enjoyed.  Now I'm very happy with a quiet live out in the sticks with little or no drama. 

I'm  glad  I  quit at 42 then just did a  bit  in the summertime and came here  in the winters.

In the working years though I did work  like a dog  well over 12  hours a  day to save for this.

Spent the last 10  years working on our  land and garden projects.

[atpeace]

This will make many gag but dating women your age or in my case a few years older might help.  Trick is finding an older woman that makes you happier than a younger lady.  Nearly an impossible task here in Thailand and honestly I just stumbled into it.  She is wise, kind and beautiful beyond belief.  Young women just make me feel old or worse make me old.   I'm sure there are many younger women exceptions but for me that ship has sailed.

 

Writing the above is definitely a sign of aging.  My young self would have laughed incessantly at me finding a 57 yo old woman the sexiest thing on earth.  Hell, a couple years back the thought would just have been insane.

 

As for feeling old, it will happen but not as of yet.  Still capable of beating my running PR's of 5 years ago and want to break 2:44 this year for a marathon.  Probably won't happen but fun goals are part of staying young.

[Rampant Rabbit]

3 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Count yourself as having won the lottery of life then. If I were the ruler of the world I'd ban marriage as it is now.

You  just need to wait until your older, I didnt marry  first  until I was 42, here I am 15  odd  years  later with the same Wife. Must dig  her  up sometime!

[connda]

3 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

The whole "beards are suddenly hip thing" is beyond bizarre. I get it if you are an Oregon lumberjack. But, otherwise? 

I was a Washington State lumberjack back in the day.  Never had a beard.  In fact, I don't remember anybody with a beard on the slack-line crews. 
Beards, tats, piercings.  They are about expressing your individuality right?  How are you expressing individuality when everyone else your age is growing a beard to show their uniqueness.  <laughs>
I stay clean shaven and dress business casual when I'm out.  Run around the house half-naked.  I course I have had my moments when I dress in shorts, shirtless, and walked around Chiang Mai to troll the moralistic farangs in the community.  That's unique.
"Your not respecting Thai culture!!!"
Real Thai culture was cotton pants or a towel around your waist and shirtless up until 1942.  Women too.  <laughs>
Now to think of it.....Mercilessly poking fun at the status quo - that's what keeps me young at heart.  <laughs>

[kynikoi]

First time when I felt old I was 23. I was chatting with a girl about 17-18. She said...you know, you'd be cute if you weren't so old.

 

At 28 I attended a university party (I was just finishing, I started late). Lots of young people I couldn't relate to. It wasn't age it was their clique and culture.

 

At 45 my eyes went. My eye sight was always keen. It was the first time I personally felt old.

 

Having married a woman 15 years my junior keeps me young and active.

 

Working with teens and the hustle and chaos of school keep me young.

 

Travel keeps me young.

 

I don't so much ever feel old but I do look back and reflect on the fact 2/3 of my life is gone and I probably have at best 20++ years of reasonably good health.

 

When I'm dressed well I still catch women's eye/s half my age or more on occasion (MRT/BTS).

 

But I'm <deleted> old 5555

Edited June 10, 2021 by kynikoi

[Rampant Rabbit]

2 minutes ago, kynikoi said:

When I'm dressed well I still catch women's eye/s half my age or more on occasion (MRT/BTS).

Be  thankful, men still age  better than women.

[George Aylesham]

4 hours ago, bert bloggs said:

My mind isnt old,but after my heart attack my body can no longer do what it used to do, still i can walk,drive,laugh with the wife.why should i complain,i never thought i would reach my age anyway.

Me, started to feel old at 78. But I was mightily cheesed off when a hairdresser gave me the pensioner price for a haircut at 59!

[Ventenio]

Test:    I've done it, and FAILED.

 

Thailand has many places to play football.  Kids play all the time.  Play with them.    

 

After a few minutes you will understand this "speed" is way over your head.  Their dexterity is leaps above yours, and your age will show when your ankles break, back collapses, legs give up, and heart explodes.   hahahhahahahahahha

 

well, at least that happened to me.   

[spidermike007]

9 minutes ago, connda said:

I was a Washington State lumberjack back in the day.  Never had a beard.  In fact, I don't remember anybody with a beard on the slack-line crews. 
Beards, tats, piercings.  They are about expressing your individuality right?  How are you expressing individuality when everyone else your age is growing a beard to show their uniqueness.  <laughs>
I stay clean shaven and dress business casual when I'm out.  Run around the house half-naked.  I course I have had my moments when I dress in shorts, shirtless, and walked around Chiang Mai to troll the moralistic farangs in the community.  That's unique.
"Your not respecting Thai culture!!!"
Real Thai culture was cotton pants or a towel around your waist and shirtless up until 1942.  Women too.  <laughs>
Now to think of it.....Mercilessly poking fun at the status quo - that's what keeps me young at heart.  <laughs>

A very good point about the tats and the beards. It is kind of a dress by numbers routine, if you ask me. I want so badly to be a hipster. Oh a beard, some tats, boots, or sneakers, the right jeans and a black tee shirt. There you go. Check me out, can you believe how hip and unique I am?

[spidermike007]

39 minutes ago, Ebumbu said:

 

Are you sure she was referring to your beard? 

Yeah, she pointed right at my beard, with this look of disgust on her face. I am not much of a follower, but when a beautiful woman offers to show you what works in a new environment (I had just moved to NYC, as an adult, as I lived there as a kid), to help you attract chicks and get some action, only a fool says no to that. 

 

Beards may be hip and acceptable now, but back then, especially in NYC, they were ridiculous. The same day I shaved it off, the reaction from woman was night and day. It worked. 

[connda]

4 hours ago, holy cow cm said:

I hope you turned around to her and said I hope you shave it too. No fun looking at a bearded taco.

I hear that bearded tacos are back in style in some circles nowadays.  Of course, personally I'm just happy as a clam to have an occasional taco salad of any style on my menu.  ????

[BritManToo]

1 minute ago, connda said:

I hear that bearded tacos are back in style in some circles nowadays.  Of course, personally I'm just happy as a clam to have an occasional taco salad of any style on my menu.  ????

Extra helping of salad cream on mine please!

[GreasyFingers]

I retired at 62 so that I could do all of the things I wanted (Thailand holidays, travel Oz in a caravan) to do before I got old. The body gradually slowed but could do what I needed so it was only a matter of getting old. Then one day when I was 70 I realised I could not do the things I could when 68. It was then that I was old, not just getting old.

[connda]

29 minutes ago, Rampant Rabbit said:

I'm  just thankfulI wasnt  born at a time when I got draged into a war or such like.

I was but was fortunate enough to get a sky-high lottery number.  I saw enough of my acquaintances returning from Nam about 50 years older than when they left. 
Yeah, war ages people fast.

[dlclark97]

Will let you know when it happens.  Only 81 now and still SCUBA diving.

[earlinclaifornia]

3 minutes ago, GreasyFingers said:

I retired at 62 so that I could do all of the things I wanted (Thailand holidays, travel Oz in a caravan) to do before I got old. The body gradually slowed but could do what I needed so it was only a matter of getting old. Then one day when I was 70 I realised I could not do the things I could when 68. It was then that I was old, not just getting old.

I too felt old at 70. I recall three Japanese girls walking past me down hill from Monk's trail in CM. Having never been passed by a female was a new experience. Since then I stopped competing altogether. In the last two years it has taken a while to adjust to my new reality.

[GreasyFingers]

1 minute ago, earlinclaifornia said:

I too felt old at 70. I recall three Japanese girls walking past me down hill from Monk's trail in CM. Having never been passed by a female was a new experience. Since then I stopped competing altogether. In the last two years it has taken a while to adjust to my new reality.

I was a fast walker as well, but now back with the crowd and even my wife can keep up. Sad, isn't it.

[OneMoreFarang]

1 hour ago, connda said:

There's a lot to be said for taking full retirement early.
I left the rat-race at 55.  It was the best move in my life. 
I had another really good 10 years of living.  I see others working until they are 65 or beyond.  Like my dad.  Worked into his 70.  Took retirement, bought snow-bird house in Tucson, bought a new car and other stuff for retirement - died two months later. 
I took the last chunk of the best years of my life and had fun and enjoyed.  Now I'm very happy with a quiet live out in the sticks with little or no drama. 

I think work is not the problem

I like my work and if I wouldn't get paid to work with computers I would still play with computers.

Personally I think it's important not to stress ourselves with work we don't like and responsibilities.

I make less money than a top manager. And I have a lot less stress. I have time for long lunches and coffee breaks and I take it easy. No grey hair and no ulcer.

Even if I would have an accident today I could think in my last minute that I had a good life.

[FalangJaiDee]

5 hours ago, The Cipher said:

 

Nah I had those pulled years ago.

 

I realize this probably sounds dumb, but it's small things that weren't issues before. I'm noticing quality differences in food and drink a lot more than before. It's getting harder to roll out of bed in the morning and go from 0-100, especially after a late night. Muscles feel slightly tight or slightly more sore slightly more often. Etcetera.

 

It's not affecting performance in a big way yet, but then you look at the runway ahead and realize that it could just be downhill from here, it does make you feel kind of old, yeah. The weight of time is there in a way that it wasn't before.

I turned 30 last month and I agree.