Being Single VS Marrying a Thai Lady

[Hummin]

On 7/3/2023 at 5:45 AM, liddelljohn said:

All humans are potentially toxic , male or female ,, i starts with parents , then teachers , then bosses, fellow workers, friends, lovers, wives , your kids ,,

education makes little difference , neither does race  ,  

 

Best to be a castle to yourself and be careful who you let through the gates

Or open yourself up and find a wonderful woman.

 

In most cases the mirror effect is a strong power working both ways 

[OneMoreFarang]

32 minutes ago, novacova said:

As for me, I never hung out at bars and never dated a bar girl.

That is obviously fine and your choice.

 

What I find sometimes disturbing is that some smart and/or educated people think that no smart and educated person would go to bars. And no smart and educated person would play with bar girls.

There are lots of smart, well educated, and rich guys who (regularly) go to bars. And many of them play with the girls. 

I didn't try to analyze scientifically why they do what they do. I guess part of it is that they just want to relax and have fun. Have a beer, (maybe) have a girl, listen to music, talk with the guys and relax.

It seems especially the relax part is much easier in a bar than somewhere else.

[stoner]

25 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Happy married men live longer ????

 

 

you know him ? :)

[Hummin]

22 minutes ago, stoner said:

you know him ? ????

I know a few who is happy married, and of course more men who is unsatisfied out of several reasons.

 

Common with those unsatisfied men, they put themselves and their needs first solely, and have no what so ever no social skills or empathy with other people than themselves, and their own feelings. Also tends to choose the same type of women again and again, and continue to blaim everyone else than themselves.

 

Nothing learned, just keep on doing the same over and over again and again 

[OneMoreFarang]

10 minutes ago, Hummin said:

I know a few who is happy married, and of course more men who is unsatisfied out of several reasons.

 

Common with those unsatisfied men, they put themselves and their needs first solely, and have no what so ever no social skills or empathy with other people than themselves, and their own feelings. Also tends to choose the same type of women again and again, and continue to blaim everyone else than themselves.

 

Nothing learned, just keep on doing the same over and over again and again 

I think part of the problem is that we have to decide how good is good enough. I.e. I would say I am happy with my long-term gf maybe 90% of the time. In parts of the remaining 10% I really think I don't need this s#$%. But she is smart enough to behave again sometime soon.

I never asked her about which percentage of my behavior she likes or not...

I don't think there are perfect relationships. We have to decide when good enough is good enough and if it makes sense to chase for something better which maybe doesn't exist. 

[bkk6060]

I think bar girls make the best lovers and conversationalist as many speak some English.  I would never marry anyone anywhere.

[billd766]

55 minutes ago, stoner said:

you know him ? ????

Well I am still happily married (for the second time) and I am 79.

 

It seems to work for me.

[LaosLover]

19 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

Even though my wife is very smart, I do not get much intellectual stimulation from the relationship. But, I get so much else.

 

You like your deal and you've made your peace.  Good for you. 

 

I see a lot of Hell is getting what you want in this thread.

[Yellowtail]

3 minutes ago, LaosLover said:

You like your deal and you've made your peace.  Good for you. 

 

I see a lot of Hell is getting what you want in this thread.

"Happiness is not getting what you want, it's wanting what you have."

[LaosLover]

4 minutes ago, Yellowtail said:

"Happiness is not getting what you want, it's wanting what you have."

I wish that the two sides here -faithful marrieds and happy mongers- could somehow bubble up in the general consciousness. It's always gloom and doom, pedophile meets trafficked teen-slave.

 

No one is more misunderstood and villainized than the white man (or his dusky brethren) in Thailand -and no one cares less. People just living their lives as they see fit are an inspiration to me.

 

The sex angle is just a peg to hang a bunch of generic outrage on. Or disappointment in people's own lives. Any other theories?

[spidermike007]

20 minutes ago, LaosLover said:

You like your deal and you've made your peace.  Good for you. 

 

I see a lot of Hell is getting what you want in this thread.

Relationships barely get any better when you both get what you want!! 

[Hummin]

45 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

I think part of the problem is that we have to decide how good is good enough. I.e. I would say I am happy with my long-term gf maybe 90% of the time. In parts of the remaining 10% I really think I don't need this s#$%. But she is smart enough to behave again sometime soon.

I never asked her about which percentage of my behavior she likes or not...

I don't think there are perfect relationships. We have to decide when good enough is good enough and if it makes sense to chase for something better which maybe doesn't exist. 

There is no perfect relationships, I can agree, but still it takes two to tango, and if both have same ideas of how a good relationship is, and voth is willing to give and take, you are closer to manage to live happily together. 

 

Still take some effort to succeed, and for some it is worth it, for others not. I thrive when I can make my wife happy, and I feel the same way around. Not one way happiness, and of course, is she is sad or angry, I also feel sad, and sometimes angry, but somehow, I get less and less upset and angry vy the years, and that feels good. I have less stress and discomfort in life, so why be angry, even wife sometimes get angry? 

 

Still I manage to adress bull pie if necessary, and thw few times I do, she know Im serious, and thats the end of  the bull pie, she is smart enough to understand that.

[stoner]

2 hours ago, billd766 said:

Well I am still happily married (for the second time) and I am 79.

 

It seems to work for me.

good job. :)

[khunPer]

On 7/3/2023 at 5:02 AM, Danderman123 said:

But, take the same lady out of her bar environment, and there is nothing to talk about.

Might be a question about picking the bar-lady that don't talk about "who broke up with their Thai boyfriend, who is marrying a customer," and who is not "borrowing money from everyone"...

[BritManToo]

3 hours ago, Hummin said:

Also tends to choose the same type of women again and again,

I always choose under 35 years old and weighing less than 50Kg.

Works again and again for me.

[Goat]

14 hours ago, richard_smith237 said:

One of the issues with this forum is that there is a significant degree of cynicism towards those who'd suggest they are dating well educated women from a 'well to do' background....

It is because there are not any female rocket scientists. Rockets were invented by men. Women really havent contributed much to mankind.

I am writing this message to you on a computer made by man on the man made internet. I flew to Thailand on a man made plane and am about to get a cold beer from my man made fridge.

 

I am so sick of the pro feminist woke claims that weaker men have been bullied into believing.

 

[phetpeter]

They are Catering specialists, and PR managers who are in the entertainment industry. Some are even care assistance's and counsellors. Many also have the skills of health carers and hygiene officers. A few skill therapists dotted amongst them too. plus a few are aspiring actors waiting for the next big break! But, None are BAR GIRLS

[proton]

1 hour ago, Goat said:

It is because there are not any female rocket scientists. Rockets were invented by men. Women really havent contributed much to mankind.

I am writing this message to you on a computer made by man on the man made internet. I flew to Thailand on a man made plane and am about to get a cold beer from my man made fridge.

 

I am so sick of the pro feminist woke claims that weaker men have been bullied into believing.

 

Made by white men at that ????

[billd766]

2 hours ago, BritManToo said:

I always choose under 35 years old, and weighing less than 50Kg.

Works again and again for me.

I was lucky enough to choose a 28 year old with long black hair weighing around 44kg.

 

Now she is a tad less than 50 kg, going grey gracefully (not dying it black all the time) and will be 58 this year.

 

I only needed to choose once and was lucky enough to get it right the first time.

[Fat is a type of crazy]

2 hours ago, Goat said:

It is because there are not any female rocket scientists. Rockets were invented by men. Women really havent contributed much to mankind.

I am writing this message to you on a computer made by man on the man made internet. I flew to Thailand on a man made plane and am about to get a cold beer from my man made fridge.

 

I am so sick of the pro feminist woke claims that weaker men have been bullied into believing.

 

So what do you believe? That men are smarter? Based on what criteria? Is number of inventions a reasonable criteria to measure intelligence? It is surely a form of creativity that may not encompass all aspects of intelligence. Could you be wrong? Could a factor be opportunity over the last few hundred years too?  What are the implications of your belief for the way you go about your day and life? Do you think you personally are more intelligent than most or all women because you are a man? Or for other reasons? Maybe your post is meant to be humorous. 

[Hummin]

2 hours ago, BritManToo said:

I always choose under 35 years old and weighing less than 50Kg.

Works again and again for me.

A better choice than 35kg and 18, even some here will disagree 

[save the frogs]

17 minutes ago, Fat is a type of crazy said:

So what do you believe? That men are smarter? Based on what criteria?

women weren't even in the workforce once upon a time.

and even now, maybe men spend longer hours at work. 

aren't there more women than men in most universities these days?

never underestimate women. 

 

[scorecard]

On 7/3/2023 at 4:18 PM, Goat said:

Beautiful story.

Also shatters the myth that they have no choice.

RIP

Yes, but not all have the same level of determination and drive. Their choice of course.

[Dexxter]

10 hours ago, Walker88 said:

Anyone accessing this Forum on a cell phone, give thanks to Hedy Lamarr.

Not a very good example for this topic. She was married and divorced 6 times, the last husband she married was her own divorce lawyer, and then she divorced him as well. ???? Most of her marriages lasted less than 4 years. ????

My mother was Hungarian and looked very similar to Hedy.

My mum without makeup (top) and Hedy (bottom)

Edited July 4, 2023 by Dexxter

[billd766]

1 hour ago, Fat is a type of crazy said:

So what do you believe? That men are smarter? Based on what criteria? Is number of inventions a reasonable criteria to measure intelligence? It is surely a form of creativity that may not encompass all aspects of intelligence. Could you be wrong? Could a factor be opportunity over the last few hundred years too?  What are the implications of your belief for the way you go about your day and life? Do you think you personally are more intelligent than most or all women because you are a man? Or for other reasons? Maybe your post is meant to be humorous. 

In addition to your response to @Goat

 

https://www.usatoday.com/story/money/2019/03/16/inventions-you-have-women-inventors-thank-these-50-things/39158677/

[novacova]

7 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

We have to decide when good enough is good enough and if it makes sense to chase for something better which maybe doesn't exist. 

Right ???? Most likely doesn’t exist, after awhile it’s the same. 

[sidjameson]

20 hours ago, richard_smith237 said:

Most of us probably couldn't even if 'she could'....

 

... the reality for most is perhaps far more depressing....  Many men just don't have the game to attract incredibly intelligent women who are also incredibly attractive....  'thats a level of game' that most older expats here just don't have.....   

 

It used to be our 'looks' (part of which is age) that gets us in the door and our 'game' (intelligence, charm, humour) etc takes the rest of the way with such intelligent & attractive women....  as we age that door is hardly ajar.....  For others, that door was locked cards stacked against them... its just life. 

 

So... after your  5 minute or 2 hour romp or whatever it is with a stunner.....   what you do ???... talk about which shop has the best som-tam ???...

 

 

 

 

 

Yea, I like that.

Looks open the front door, but it's game that gets them to the bedroom.

 

Guys who've never experienced either think it's all about pushing money thru the letterbox. 

[Felton Jarvis]

Every woman I have dated in the eight years I have lived here had a normal job. One even had a college degree. I found little difference in their behavior regarding money. More, more, more was all they thought about. I have lived with a 46 year-old woman for three years now. (I am 73). She was employed in traditional massage until Covid hit. She is extremely reasonable and not bad-looking.  Like all of the others, I’m sure she will leave me at some point. That’s life. I really don’t care anymore.  ????

[bignok]

6 hours ago, BritManToo said:

I always choose under 35 years old and weighing less than 50Kg.

Works again and again for me.

Try 80kgs and 70yo for a change. Good for biceps.

[Walker88]

11 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

There are lots of smart, well educated, and rich guys who (regularly) go to bars. And many of them play with the girls. 

 

The novelist Graham Greene and the Nobel Prize winning physicist Richard Feynman were fans of the sort of things on offer in Nana Plaza.

 

If it's good enough for them.....