Today I visited and office with 3 women. I know them since some time. Today one of them asked me if I have a farang friend who is looking for a Thai wife.

I said no.

And then I thought about: Where would I recommend such a woman should look for a guy. 

In this specific case the woman is maybe 30 years old, and she has a boring office job. She doesn't look great (according to my taste), and she also doesn't look so bad that every guy would walk away right away.

Obviously, she wouldn't complain if her future husband would make a lot of money or be rich. But somehow, I guess she would settle for just a "normal guy".

 

Where do you think would be a good place for her to look for a guy? Online? Offline? What can she expect?

 

I don't know if I will tell her any answers which will come here. But maybe it's interesting and I will let her know.

 

Over to you.

 

A thread on TV started two hours ago on a Friday evening and not a single reply. . . I can deduce from this that there are no normal guys on ThaiVisa (present company excepted).

 

 

I reckon hotel receptionists have the best shot at normal farangs. This is where I met my wife i.e. she was a hotel receptionist where I was staying for a couple of months for work. We just hit it off.

Incidentally, the opposite is true, I fail to comprehend guys that marry some trash from a bar where Thailand is wall to wall nice girls, HOT nice girls, literally everywhere. Just open your eyes, banks, 7Elevens, hotels, just everywhere. . . If you're not raining sweat, beetroot coloured and smell like used socks, just ask them to lunch. What's the worst that could happen?

 

 

 

Seriously, when I first started posting on TV back in 2003, a topic like this on a Friday night would be two pages long at least. All the interesting characters are long gone.

48 minutes ago, Led Lolly Yellow Lolly said:

What's the worst that could happen?

One could end up married to a hotel receptionist??? ????

11 minutes ago, Led Lolly Yellow Lolly said:

All the interesting characters are long gone.

Are they hanging around hotels waiting for the receptionist to knock off work ??? 

Well since you asked, a lot of them are dead. A lot were banned (banning posters like Bluecat was just beyond stupid) and I guess the rest are no longer in Thailand. The internet was all new and wild back then.

 

AFAIK I'm the only one marrying a receptionist.

 

 

 

1 hour ago, Led Lolly Yellow Lolly said:

I fail to comprehend guys that marry some trash from a bar where Thailand is wall to wall nice girls, HOT nice girls, literally everywhere. Just open your eyes, banks, 7Elevens, hotels, just everywhere

I think the main reason is, because they are all shy.

If a guy arrives in Thailand and that nice hotel receptionist smiles at him, will he ask her out? Probably not, because he thinks it's her job to smile at him and what if she says no? How dare you? She, as the receptionist, would obviously also not ask him. Good girls don't do that, especially not at work.

 

And then the guy goes somewhere to a bar. Maybe a girly bar, or maybe to what he thinks is a "normal bar", which is still full of hookers. The girl on the next table smiles at him. Maybe he had already his 3rd beer and he feels lucky and he walks over to her.

Or she, let's call her part time hooker, walks over to him and ask him some stupid question. They are in a conversation and then things develop...

 

It won't be long that he talked to many girls who are not shy. And they are so nice, and easy to get, and they are fun in bed. By then he forgot already about that shy receptionist...

4 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Today I visited and office with 3 women. I know them since some time. Today one of them asked me if I have a farang friend who is looking for a Thai wife.

I said no.

And then I thought about: Where would I recommend such a woman should look for a guy. 

In this specific case the woman is maybe 30 years old, and she has a boring office job. She doesn't look great (according to my taste), and she also doesn't look so bad that every guy would walk away right away.

Obviously, she wouldn't complain if her future husband would make a lot of money or be rich. But somehow, I guess she would settle for just a "normal guy".

 

Where do you think would be a good place for her to look for a guy? Online? Offline? What can she expect?

 

I don't know if I will tell her any answers which will come here. But maybe it's interesting and I will let her know.

 

Over to you.

first the obvious:

if she wants a farang, she isn't a "normal Thai woman".

and from there, all unravels, because once someone starts "looking for farang", 90% of what they will find won't be "normal farangs".

so...

2 hours ago, Led Lolly Yellow Lolly said:

A thread on TV started two hours ago on a Friday evening and not a single reply. . . I can deduce from this that there are no normal guys on ThaiVisa (present company excepted).

 

 

That's what you make of it. What I make of it is that there aren't many desperate guys on this forum, who are waiting for an offer, but can make their choice on their own.

 

I have seen posts on this forum from foreigners who met someone online, travelled to Thailand, and married the very next day.

 

I rather commit suicide than being that desperate to get a <deleted>

4 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Today I visited and office with 3 women. I know them since some time. Today one of them asked me if I have a farang friend who is looking for a Thai wife.

I said no.

And then I thought about: Where would I recommend such a woman should look for a guy. 

In this specific case the woman is maybe 30 years old, and she has a boring office job. She doesn't look great (according to my taste), and she also doesn't look so bad that every guy would walk away right away.

Obviously, she wouldn't complain if her future husband would make a lot of money or be rich. But somehow, I guess she would settle for just a "normal guy".

 

Where do you think would be a good place for her to look for a guy? Online? Offline? What can she expect?

 

I don't know if I will tell her any answers which will come here. But maybe it's interesting and I will let her know.

 

Over to you.

 

How many frogs is she willing to kiss before she find mr right? 

 

I think that is the major issue with good girls, they expect first and best will stay if she just give him a taste, just to experience they will leave her just because she was to easy. Of course the opposite is also most likely, no test run, no commitment.

 

Today, best thing is internet dating, no doubt, 

 

Last option, start working at restaurants, bars or any other place where foreigners visiting, and play hard to get!

6 minutes ago, tgw said:

first the obvious:

if she wants a farang, she isn't a "normal Thai woman".

and from there, all unravels, because once someone starts "looking for farang", 90% of what they will find won't be "normal farangs".

so...

 

2 hours ago, Led Lolly Yellow Lolly said:

I reckon hotel receptionists have the best shot at normal farangs. This is where I met my wife i.e. she was a hotel receptionist where I was staying for a couple of months for work. We just hit it off.

Incidentally, the opposite is true, I fail to comprehend guys that marry some trash from a bar where Thailand is wall to wall nice girls, HOT nice girls, literally everywhere. Just open your eyes, banks, 7Elevens, hotels, just everywhere. . . If you're not raining sweat, beetroot coloured and smell like used socks, just ask them to lunch. What's the worst that could happen?

 

 

 

I find it quite remarkable you calling other working girls trash, when the same women working at hotels, 7/11 and restaurants do the same as the other trash girls after working hours. 

 

I was going to like your post right up until you lashed out negative on women you see as lower class than your own. 

31 minutes ago, tgw said:

first the obvious:

if she wants a farang, she isn't a "normal Thai woman".

Can you explain that please.

Maybe she had bad experience with a Thai guy, or two, and somehow she thinks farangs are better.

This is a woman who works in the middle of Bangkok. Farangs are not really exotic here. 

4 hours ago, Hummin said:

 

I was going to like your post right up until...

I don't know how I can post here without your affirmation. I think it's over.

3 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Farangs are not really exotic here. 

I think a farang Lothario carrying your Tops bags in Bangkok is slightly less reputation destroying than, say, in Surin? 

 

I know what people think when they see me in town with my pretty 22 year old stepdaughter, presently in Uni digs in Asoke. People are really dumb generally speaking. I'm not sure which is worse, Thai misconceptions, or falang, nor do I care.

 

... And here's the problem for the OP, a girl specifically seeking a farang IS the problem.

 

 

 

6 hours ago, Led Lolly Yellow Lolly said:

I reckon hotel receptionists have the best shot at normal farangs. This is where I met my wife i.e. she was a hotel receptionist where I was staying for a couple of months for work. We just hit it off.

Incidentally, the opposite is true, I fail to comprehend guys that marry some trash from a bar where Thailand is wall to wall nice girls, HOT nice girls, literally everywhere. Just open your eyes, banks, 7Elevens, hotels, just everywhere. . . If you're not raining sweat, beetroot coloured and smell like used socks, just ask them to lunch. What's the worst that could happen?

 

 

 

There are some very nice girls amongst the "trash" as you put it.

The answer to this question is so obvious I'm surprised no one has answered correctly!

 

The young lady in question should take a stroll down the beach front of Pattaya, and she can have her pick of the bar stool dwellers who hang out there from 9am, Chang in hand. Like shooting fish in a barrel.  

5 hours ago, BenStark said:

That's what you make of it. What I make of it is that there aren't many desperate guys on this forum, who are waiting for an offer, but can make their choice on their own.

 

I have seen posts on this forum from foreigners who met someone online, travelled to Thailand, and married the very next day.

 

I rather commit suicide than being that desperate to get a <deleted>

Yeah not all guys are looking for a GF or wife, I'm not, happy being single.

 

As for where she can meet a farang, try thaicupid, but one problem is she may be looking for children now and again some men aren't looking for that. Not thaifriendly which is 95% sex workers

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8 hours ago, Led Lolly Yellow Lolly said:

Seriously, when I first started posting on TV back in 2003, a topic like this on a Friday night would be two pages long at least. All the interesting characters are long gone.

Joined June 2016 hence the 'confused'.

7 hours ago, Led Lolly Yellow Lolly said:

 

 

AFAIK I'm the only one marrying a receptionist.

 

 

 

Sounds like a cashier if you say it fast! 

2 hours ago, Led Lolly Yellow Lolly said:

I know what people think when they see me in town with my pretty 22 year old stepdaughter, presently in Uni digs in Asoke.

Do you know what they think?

Or do you think you know what they think because you project your (dirty) thoughts on them.

Personally, I don't know what they think, and I don't pretend I know what they think.

1 hour ago, AlexRich said:

The answer to this question is so obvious I'm surprised no one has answered correctly!

 

The young lady in question should take a stroll down the beach front of Pattaya, and she can have her pick of the bar stool dwellers who hang out there from 9am, Chang in hand. Like shooting fish in a barrel.  

And she can be sure some of them will entertain her for an hour or maybe two. And then?

11 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

I guess she would settle for just a "normal guy".

  What is a normal farang? Like thai people  there are also all types of farangs, Back in the US where me and the wife lived together for about ten years before I retired and we came back to Thailand, In our area there was a large Thai community and a Thai temple, We often had to rescue Thai women from  all over the US. You should hear the horor stories. 

   And the same thing applies to many "Farangs" coming to thailand. 

 Some of us come here to teach , jobs, or business, and as such we get to meet a varied type of Thai person, an like everywhere in the world, some are good others are bad , but for the most part "normal" by the standards of Thai culture. 

  But most of us come here on vacation , and  as such head for a vacation local, and frequent bars and such.Consequently such person would be exposed to a different type of Thai person.

Not necessarily  all bad, but  with a higher probability , I don't want to say bad,but a lifestyle not conducive with wife material. 

And I want to emphasize , plenty of people have met wifes in bars who turned out to be wonderful wifes and people. 

   The point is that if  your primary point of contact is of a particular type, then chances are that you will meet a particular type of person .

7 minutes ago, sirineou said:

  What is a normal farang? Like thai people  there are also all types of farangs, Back in the US where me and the wife lived together for about ten years before I retired and we came back to Thailand, In our area there was a large Thai community and a Thai temple, We often had to rescue Thai women from  all over the US. You should hear the horor stories. 

   And the same thing applies to many "Farangs" coming to thailand. 

 Some of us come here to teach , jobs, or business, and as such we get to meet a varied type of Thai person, an like everywhere in the world, some are good others are bad , but for the most part "normal" by the standards of Thai culture. 

  But most of us come here on vacation , and  as such head for a vacation local, and frequent bars and such.Consequently such person would be exposed to a different type of Thai person.

Not necessarily  all bad, but  with a higher probability , I don't want to say bad,but a lifestyle not conducive with wife material. 

And I want to emphasize , plenty of people have met wifes in bars who turned out to be wonderful wifes and people. 

   The point is that if  your primary point of contact is of a particular type, then chances are that you will meet a particular type of person .

Good post.

 

What I mean with "normal guy" is a guy who eventually wants to have a long-term gf or wife and live together with her. Maybe kids and all that.

She is realistic enough that it's unlikely that she will get the most handsome guy who is also rich and does everything for her. So at least her expectations, as far as I know, are reasonable. 

21 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Good post.

 

What I mean with "normal guy" is a guy who eventually wants to have a long-term gf or wife and live together with her. Maybe kids and all that.

She is realistic enough that it's unlikely that she will get the most handsome guy who is also rich and does everything for her. So at least her expectations, as far as I know, are reasonable. 

I now what you meant. I have been following your posts for a few years now, and for the most part you are a reasonable guy. Except of course when you disagree with me ...... can't say what I think you are those times without getting suspended ????

The way, unless you are willing and able to vouch for a friend you know, a Thai lady has three options,

   A professional environment where her chances to meet a "normal" farang are better but not guaranteed .

The bar scene with mixed chances. 

and online where she can meet a Kee Not farang who will not even afford  on a vacation to Thailand LOL. but some diamonds in the rough ate there to be found. 

Ant then there is me, who at any environment you take your chances, often I even  want to get way from me. ????

 

Normal farang is a myth in Thailand... that said I initially met my wife on Thaiflirt.com and we met up after chatting a few months... tell her to be honest and do not believe everything she hears from the normal farang... do not be in a hurry.

Barring match making, No need to 'look', just go about your everyday life, but as a loner.   Situations will present themselves, though you can't be an introvert.

 

Actually have to talk to people.  At the night market/food court, see a gent having a meal, hopefully without an alcoholic beverage (though not completely a red flag), pull up the bench, seat across, ask 'If anyone sitting there?'  The look & reaction will tell you everything you need to know.

 

The conversation begins ... 'How is it, any good?'  Food conversation are great, as everyone is interested.  Just don't ask the same silly questions;  How old, how long here, how much money you make ? ????

 

At the market, same opportunities present themselves, or anywhere.  If at an event, then you know anyone there is already like minded, and have a topic to start the conversation.

 

Life is easy, no need to complicate by over thinking.

10 minutes ago, Skipalongcassidy said:

tell her to be honest and do not believe everything she hears from the normal farang... do not be in a hurry.

Absolutely right

otherwise she could be jumping from the frying pan  into the fire. 

There are Thai FB groups in the US,  You can't believe the number of Thai women we helped "rescue" with our Thai community in the US, from many bad situations , help them relocate, find a job, get their driver's licence  and or citizenship papers. From guys who kept them as maids with benefits, locked up, totally dependant on them to even go to the store, in remote areas. You meat a guy who promise you the stars, unless you visit a couple of times  you take a big chance going. Of course , good luck trying to get a tourist visa to go check the guy out. 

 

19 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Obviously, she wouldn't complain if her future husband would make a lot of money or be rich

Obviously! ????