If you were looking for a new relationship today what age gap would you aim for and why?

[Hummin]

4 minutes ago, NextG said:

Now you are trying to tell me that I meant ‘short term’. Do you see what I meant by you thinking you know it better?

NONE of my relationships have been financially based. That is my choice. If a woman doesn’t offer to pay by the third date and I know that she has the means to do so, that will be the last time we go out together. That’s my choice. 
If you want to keep putting your hand in your pocket, that’s your choice. 
I get to see a different side of life than you. 

If you talking western girls, I appreciate them share the bills, or at least contribute when out dining and drinking, but in Thailand, I would not expect any woman paying if dating! 

 

Thats how it is in Thailand, and many other countries in the world.

 

Now my wife pays everything anyway, but Im the main provider anyway, since she is a farming housewife, and being egoistic, I do not want her to work anywhere, because it would limit our freedom to do what we want, when I want to. 

[Hummin]

5 minutes ago, NextG said:

From nature? Which nature? In some species the woman is bigger than the male. Some will even kill the males after mating. In humans we have matriarchal society. In big cats the lionesses do the hunting. 
I know what you meant, but it doesn’t mean that I agree with you or that you are right. I’m certainly not deriding you. If you are a good person then good should befall you. 

Primals like you and me, the men are the dominant one ????

[NextG]

6 minutes ago, Hummin said:

If you talking western girls, I appreciate them share the bills, or at least contribute when out dining and drinking, but in Thailand, I would not expect any woman paying if dating! 

 

Thats how it is in Thailand, and many other countries in the world.

 

Now my wife pays everything anyway, but Im the main provider anyway, since she is a farming housewife, and being egoistic, I do not want her to work anywhere, because it would limit our freedom to do what we want, when I want to. 

I understand everything and criticise nothing. I tried the same in my ‘home’ country; to find a girl to support that would have more free time to spend with me. It turned out that she is from a wealthy, connected family. If it works, it works. That’s what’s important. 

[NextG]

7 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Primals like you and me, the men are the dominant one ????

I think you mean Primates ☺️ and again you are back with the macho nonsense. Some who imagine they are dominant are being dominated. The harder you try the easier to be bested. I don’t worry about who is dominant unless it’s not good for me. Sometimes I take charge, sometimes I lay back. No problem. 

[NextG]

18 minutes ago, Hummin said:

If you talking western girls, I appreciate them share the bills, or at least contribute when out dining and drinking, but in Thailand, I would not expect any woman paying if dating! 

 

Thats how it is in Thailand, and many other countries in the world.

 

Now my wife pays everything anyway, but Im the main provider anyway, since she is a farming housewife, and being egoistic, I do not want her to work anywhere, because it would limit our freedom to do what we want, when I want to. 

I do not deign to judge. You decide the life you want to lead and you live it. That’s what makes you a man. 

[sidjameson]

1 hour ago, Hummin said:

If you living with one lady who made 15k - 30k a month, would you ask her to share the expenses? 

 

You live in Thailand and bring your western standards? Ironic

Thai women don't agree with you. 99% choose a Thai guy who couldn't afford or want to pay for everything. 

Very few Thai women want a foreigner.

[buddyy]

1 hour ago, Petethefeet said:

Is this question directed at men or women? 

Sorry, for guys.
I know im in the minority, just meant to ask are there similar out there.

[NextG]

1 minute ago, buddyy said:

Sorry, for guys.
I know im in the minority, just meant to ask are there similar out there.

Sometimes, even when I was the older one, I felt like the younger one. Age isn’t an indicator of maturity. 

[buddyy]

1 minute ago, NextG said:

Sometimes, even when I was the older one, I felt like the younger one. Age isn’t an indicator of maturity. 

Its not important to me anyway, when im happy with someone im happy, just curious as its not the norm obviously.

[NextG]

5 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Here is a hint: Most guys don't care how much money their gf/wife makes. It is irrelevant - not just in Thailand.

Personally, I agree with you. 

[khunPer]

On 7/28/2023 at 3:22 PM, sidjameson said:

A perennial favourite topic. 

I'm 55. If I were single I know I should aim for a compatible 40 year old. I fear id be aiming for the nearest to the hottest 25 year old I could find.

When I was early 50s my age gap was 30 plus a little; i.e. actually 32-33 years age gap...????

 

Today I'm older, so the age gap i would look for would gap will be larger...

[NextG]

5 minutes ago, buddyy said:

Its not important to me anyway, when im happy with someone im happy, just curious as its not the norm obviously.

Important is compatibility. 

[ravip]

53 minutes ago, Hummin said:

If you talking western girls, I appreciate them share the bills, or at least contribute when out dining and drinking, but in Thailand, I would not expect any woman paying if dating! 

 

Thats how it is in Thailand, and many other countries in the world.

 

Now my wife pays everything anyway, but Im the main provider anyway, since she is a farming housewife, and being egoistic, I do not want her to work anywhere, because it would limit our freedom to do what we want, when I want to. 

but in Thailand, I would not expect any woman paying if dating! 

Thats how it is in Thailand, and many other countries in the world.

 

I beg to differ. Please do not generalise. 

 

It ALL depends on the character of the woman.

 

It's pure bad luck that you've met the wrong type in Thailand and wherever... - the normal day to day Thai lady is good as any other found in the East or West. 

Edited July 31, 2023 by ravip

[3NUMBAS]

thai women dont age well ,so a spinner at 45 wont look to hot

 

and gone off the boil       in bed

[buddyy]

43 minutes ago, ravip said:

but in Thailand, I would not expect any woman paying if dating! 

Thats how it is in Thailand, and many other countries in the world.

 

I beg to differ. Please do not generalise. 

 

It ALL depends on the character of the woman.

 

It's pure bad luck that you've met the wrong type in Thailand and wherever... - the normal day to day Thai lady is good as any other found in the East or West. 

I agree.

My SO has a lot smaller salary than me, but she always insists on paying for various stuff (taxi, some meals or support electric bill etc) even when i say its not necessary.

She just wants to contribute and i appreciate it.

 

 

[Hummin]

2 hours ago, sidjameson said:

Thai women don't agree with you. 99% choose a Thai guy who couldn't afford or want to pay for everything. 

Very few Thai women want a foreigner.

I answered that earlier, most Thai girls wants a thai man who provide for them! 

[Hummin]

1 hour ago, buddyy said:

I agree.

My SO has a lot smaller salary than me, but she always insists on paying for various stuff (taxi, some meals or support electric bill etc) even when i say its not necessary.

She just wants to contribute and i appreciate it.

 

 

She is a smart woman, and knows you still provide alot more than her. 

 

 

[Hummin]

1 hour ago, ravip said:

but in Thailand, I would not expect any woman paying if dating! 

Thats how it is in Thailand, and many other countries in the world.

 

I beg to differ. Please do not generalise. 

 

It ALL depends on the character of the woman.

 

It's pure bad luck that you've met the wrong type in Thailand and wherever... - the normal day to day Thai lady is good as any other found in the East or West. 

The majority Im talking about, even some few think they are different. Most Women marry higher than themselves if they have what a man wants. 

 

However desperation goes often both ways

[Hummin]

2 hours ago, NextG said:

Personally, I agree with you. 

His woman is also a house wife ????

 

 

[Hummin]

2 hours ago, NextG said:

I think you mean Primates ☺️ and again you are back with the macho nonsense. Some who imagine they are dominant are being dominated. The harder you try the easier to be bested. I don’t worry about who is dominant unless it’s not good for me. Sometimes I take charge, sometimes I lay back. No problem. 

Look up primals 

 

A man’s primal drive is to provide.

 

A man’s primal drive is to be strong.

 

A man’s primal drive is to be a strong sexual being.

 

A man’s primal drive is to be emotional, whether that be in emotion, or centering that channel of energy into a passion of yours.

 

A man’s primal drive is to be the best man they can be. To do the work necessary to be a complete person.

 

To be loyal.

 

To be loving.

 

A man’s primal drive is to rid himself of the ego, and concentrate on consciousness

[bignok]

8 minutes ago, Hummin said:

man’s primal drive is to rid himself of the ego, and concentrate on consciousness

Yes Yogi

[Hummin]

8 minutes ago, bignok said:

Yes Yogi

Whatever suits you ????

[buddyy]

23 minutes ago, Hummin said:

She is a smart woman, and knows you still provide alot more than her. 

 

 

That might be the case sometimes, but overall id say thats quite a cynical view.

Not everyone is out there to "get you" or milk you. I know her almost a decade, she is just a good person who wants to help. I remember i was in a <deleted>ty spot some years ago temporarily. She got lucky with a lottery and won like 4k B, she called being very excited that she can contribute more in tough times.

World is not black and white.

Edited July 31, 2023 by buddyy

[Hummin]

Just now, buddyy said:

That might be the case sometimes, but overall id say thats quite a cynical view.

Not everyone is out there to "get you" or milk you. I know her almost a decade, she is just a good person who wants to help. I remember i was in a <deleted>ty spot some years ago temporarily. She got lucky with a lottery and won like 4k B, she called being very excited that she can support our relationship more in tough times.

World is not black and white.

Same for me, my women doesnt want to get me either in anyway. I know because we know each other 7 years now, and she appreciates me, as I do appreciate her. We help each other in the best way we can for each other, and have alot of freedom because we both agree how things should be.

 

If I was in a western relationship, things would have been different ad it was when I had a western girl

 

[buddyy]

12 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Same for me, my women doesnt want to get me either in anyway. I know because we know each other 7 years now, and she appreciates me, as I do appreciate her. We help each other in the best way we can for each other, and have alot of freedom because we both agree how things should be.

 

If I was in a western relationship, things would have been different ad it was when I had a western girl

 

I agree yes that a general consensus how a relationship should look like is different than in west. But its not something that bothers me when my partner is a genuine good person.

[Paris333]

What about of boy/girl 20 years old looking for 60 years old partner?

[Hummin]

18 minutes ago, Paris333 said:

What about of boy/girl 20 years old looking for 60 years old partner?

I did look for older partners when I was younger, but only one older than 50. Most partners I had have been 30 +

[thaibeachlovers]

On 7/29/2023 at 1:22 AM, sidjameson said:

I fear id be aiming for the nearest to the hottest 25 year old I could find.

Why would you fear that?

It's not often in this brave new woke world that average guys get to indulge their fantasies. Make the most of it while you can.

[thaibeachlovers]

8 hours ago, Hummin said:

Look up primals 

 

A man’s primal drive is to provide.

 

A man’s primal drive is to be strong.

 

A man’s primal drive is to be a strong sexual being.

 

A man’s primal drive is to be emotional, whether that be in emotion, or centering that channel of energy into a passion of yours.

 

A man’s primal drive is to be the best man they can be. To do the work necessary to be a complete person.

 

To be loyal.

 

To be loving.

 

A man’s primal drive is to rid himself of the ego, and concentrate on consciousness

LOL. IMO a man's ( that is an alpha man ) primal urge after eating and finding shelter is to screw as many fertile women as possible.

 

Provide

emotional

loyal

loving

 

IMO all that is for betas that end up looking after other men's children.

[BritManToo]

8 hours ago, buddyy said:

But its not something that bothers me when my partner is a genuine good person.

I don't believe I've ever had sex with a 'good person'.

Not sure I'd like it if I found one either.

Edited July 31, 2023 by BritManToo