Would you ever marry a bar girl? If so, why?

[SAFETY FIRST]

Just now, bob smith said:

So do I.

 

And you didn't like it when I did...

 

Can give it but can't take it, right?

I didn't antagonize you.

I never replied with hostility to your comments as you have with mine.

 

What are you talking about? 

[fredwiggy]

6 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

My loser, fat, balding, smelly, no personality friends reply with the same hostility and anger when we have the same conversation. 

 

I reckon it's a mental health issue, lonely guys, average Joe's, can't get the pretty girls 

Actually I'm an average Joe, and I've always been with pretty girls. I'm not lonely when I'm alone. I just prefer a woman's company. Do your loser, smelly friends know you think about them that way?

[bob smith]

2 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

What are you talking about? 

I think i'm going to leave it right there.

 

You just aren't worth any more of my time. Sorry.

[NextG]

1 hour ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

World wide, across the planet all females are bar girls, bloody stupid if they're not.

 

I've encouraged my daughter's to be gold diggers. 

Find a wealthy guy. 

 

 

Look at the Thailand bar girls, for God's sake, what beautiful, attractive woman would want an old, fat, smelly, man inside and on top of them. 

A beautiful woman needs rewarding, she needs to be well remunerated.

 

I miss being back at school, school girls so stupid, due to pier pressure they get involved with boys, get a boyfriend and start having sex, giving it away for free, school boys getting it for NOTHING, wish I was back at school, free sex. 

 

You appear to have some unresolved issues. 
“All females are bar girls”? Another sick puppy…passing on his disease. 
 

[n00dle]

On 8/5/2023 at 8:15 AM, bob smith said:

the girls dont even look at me when i sit on my stool.

im well dressed, not too old and speak thai.

they know that I know their game like the back of my hand. 

and your personal mythology grows

[NextG]

28 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

My loser, fat, balding, smelly, no personality friends reply with the same hostility and anger when we have the same conversation. 

 

I reckon it's a mental health issue, lonely guys, average Joe's, can't get the pretty girls 

This doesn’t read as if you are describing friends. One might extrapolate some anger and hostility…. possibly a mental health issue?

[NextG]

28 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

I'm not sure who it is you're referring to. Some here have said it's not a good idea to marry a bar girl, with intelligent replies, and others have said it's okay, and if they are happy, that's fine. We can't be the ones who judge them because we don't live with these girls. There are normal women who come from good families that take advantage of men and are greedy, a lot because they think there is a standard way of living they need to conform to, a lot because of media or peer pressure. They think it's okay to use men, although deep down that's not the way they were raised. Then there are bar girls that only did it for a very short time, and were hoping to find a prince to sweep them off their feet and give them a future, and they found it. Then there are those that have been with many men, and will never look at their partner as anything but a more permanent john. Everyone has to live with their choices. I've made some bad ones based on attraction that have hurt me and gotten me stuck in a place I don't want to be, at least for the time being. Only thing you can do is move on.

Some of the men appear to fit the bill of a long term ‘John’. In fact, it was likely their intention in the first place. 
Obviously a bit of a shock for them when realise that their time is up. 
 

[SAFETY FIRST]

28 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Actually I'm an average Joe, and I've always been with pretty girls. I'm not lonely when I'm alone. I just prefer a woman's company. Do your loser, smelly friends know you think about them that way?

Yep, I call a spade a spade. 

 

I'm not a fake person 

[bob smith]

Just now, SAFETY FIRST said:

I'm not a fake person 

the very fact that you keep harpin on about how real you are is ringing alarm bells for me.

 

somethings not right with you.

[SAFETY FIRST]

8 minutes ago, NextG said:

This doesn’t read as if you are describing friends. One might extrapolate some anger and hostility…. possibly a mental health issue?

No second prizes. 

 

Typical fake guy, plagiarizm 

[NextG]

1 minute ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

Yep, I call a spade a spade. 

 

I'm not a fake person 

But being obnoxious isn’t a virtue either..

[SAFETY FIRST]

Just now, bob smith said:

the very fact that you keep harpin on about how real you are is ringing alarm bells for me.

 

somethings not right with you.

Always replying with hostility 

[NextG]

Just now, SAFETY FIRST said:

No second prizes. 

 

Typical fake guy, plagiarizm 

Aren’t I just ‘calling a spade a spade’? I’m just telling what I see. Would you prefer that I lied and agreed with everything that you are writing?

[SAFETY FIRST]

1 minute ago, NextG said:

But being obnoxious isn’t a virtue either..

Obnoxious probably.

I'm not here to be pleasant. 

 

If you want pleasant go have a conversation with a snowflake, plenty of them here. 

 

 

 

[NextG]

Just now, SAFETY FIRST said:

Obnoxious probably, I'm not here to be pleasant. 

 

 

So then you understand that you might not be being pleasant right now. Perhaps even hostile…

[NextG]

2 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

Obnoxious probably.

I'm not here to be pleasant. 

 

If you want pleasant go have a conversation with a snowflake, plenty of them here. 

 

 

 

I can trade, no problem. Is that what you want?

[fredwiggy]

15 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

Yep, I call a spade a spade. 

 

I'm not a fake person 

There's a word that describes what you might want to do. It's called restraint, especially if you want to keep friends.

[BritManToo]

18 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

There's a word that describes what you might want to do. It's called restraint, especially if you want to keep friends.

What if he's never had any friends?

[fredwiggy]

4 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

What if he's never had any friends?

That would explain his replies more

[Hummin]

8 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

If she is your friend you are a lucky man and a rarity.

 

Why should it be your responsibility to turn her on every time? Does she only want sex if you make the moves? Why isn't it up to her to turn you on too?

I guess Im kucky, and I believe Im lucky as anyone should be. 

 

It takes both to cultivate each other, and as I say, Interest in each others happiness. 

 

Im not complaining much, neither does her, and if she speaks, I try to listen, even its not that interesting, and I do go shopping with her sometimes, even I hate it, but it makes her happy ????

 

What I think is the main essens and the most important, we have small farm, garden and animals we care for, and I truly believe thats the essens of our life.  Also her parents and family is great people, and always willing to support and help their daughter with the farm, and take care when we/Im not there.

 

Nr one important factor in a relationship with a thai, will always be her family. 

[Bangel72]

Huge amount of prejudice and stereotypes within the opening statement, curious as to why you need to create a massive negative stereotype to then ask as question, do you feel the need to feel superior in some way?

 

Do you feel superior? Is that what's bothering you, your way of thinking is the right way and you cant grasp that others would look at things differently without the baggage of of a prejudice complex?

 

What about a burger girl, a teacher girl or maid girl, perhaps a bar boy? Are there other types of jobs that unnerve you or is it just your put in a box catch all reference of what you think a bar girl is? 

 

What about the really handsome guys that marry girl outside your love norms, are they even harder for you to get your head around.

 

We all have our prejudices, I don't really get why people get married at all for example and whilst I could speculate looking for some confirmation of weakness for those who do if I felt the need to convince myself my own prejudice was right.

 

If I was actually curious, I don't think the starting point would be to burden those who get married with massive negative stereotypes and then ask the question for others to speculate, I'd just openly ask those who are married and get balanced informed varied view. My own view may even change as a result, it has not to date but at least I would not pre-bias any responses.

[SAFETY FIRST]

3 hours ago, BritManToo said:

What if he's never had any friends?

Sadly the the thing I hate about Thailand is some of the foreigners, scumbags. 

 

Thailand has been my home for decades, I have a big family, I work on an offshore drilling rig, on rotation get paid a monthly salary, paid USD, occasionally working Songkla. 

 

I really don't want to associate with your type. I'm an Aussie but sadly disappointed with the Brits, bloody bad attitude. 

 

[bob smith]

6 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

I really don't want to associate with your type. I'm an Aussie but sadly disappointed with the Brits, bloody bad attitude. 

funny that, most brits also think the same about aussies.

 

Especially the ones I know that live there.

 

They do nothing but complain how cocky the locals are.

[BritManToo]

24 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

I really don't want to associate with your type. I'm an Aussie but sadly disappointed with the Brits, bloody bad attitude. 

That's OK, we sent you to OZ because we didn't like your kind either.

Even if it was only a loaf of bread!

[Kwasaki]

36 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

Sadly the the thing I hate about Thailand is some of the foreigners, scumbags. 

 

Thailand has been my home for decades, I have a big family, I work on an offshore drilling rig, on rotation get paid a monthly salary, paid USD, occasionally working Songkla. 

 

I really don't want to associate with your type. I'm an Aussie but sadly disappointed with the Brits, bloody bad attitude. 

 

You certainly don't sound like my Oz mates and I'm English.

[Kwasaki]

2 hours ago, Hummin said:

I guess Im kucky, and I believe Im lucky as anyone should be. 

 

It takes both to cultivate each other, and as I say, Interest in each others happiness. 

 

Im not complaining much, neither does her, and if she speaks, I try to listen, even its not that interesting, and I do go shopping with her sometimes, even I hate it, but it makes her happy ????

 

What I think is the main essens and the most important, we have small farm, garden and animals we care for, and I truly believe thats the essens of our life.  Also her parents and family is great people, and always willing to support and help their daughter with the farm, and take care when we/Im not there.

 

Nr one important factor in a relationship with a thai, will always be her family. 

Spot on many westerner vilify Thai girls culture way of life.

A story though my best holiday was on Koh Sumai with 2 girls staying in my beach chalet, it was off season and they stayed with me for the 2 weeks I would of happily married both of them. So that would a 2 bar girl marriage. ????

[SAFETY FIRST]

1 hour ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

Sadly the the thing I hate about Thailand is some of the foreigners, scumbags. 

 

Thailand has been my home for decades, I have a big family, I work on an offshore drilling rig, on rotation get paid a monthly salary, paid USD, occasionally working Songkla. 

 

I really don't want to associate with your type. I'm an Aussie but sadly disappointed with the Brits, bloody bad attitude. 

 

Me and my family have been living in the same house for 20 years now in Pattaya. 

 

I have an English neighbor who is elderly now. He occasionally asks me to accompany him in his car to go shopping to different venues because he's not sure about directions etc in Thailand.

 

He drives aggressively, always on the horn, I ask him why he continually sounds his horn, his reply is stupid Thais.

 

I don't like his aggressive driving so I don't accompany him anymore, he is childish, his attitude is poor, he really hates the Thais.

 

 

I've worked, trained and traveled to over 40 countries. 

I have found the Thais to be the happiest, nicest, most pleasant, friendliest people on the planet.

 

Sadly, I see so many negative, hateful comments from members towards the Thais, it hurts me to see this nastiness.

 

I know many Brits here in Thailand, some good ones but strangely most are the very negative towards the Thais, why are the Brits so bitter, they seem to think they are superior 

[Kwasaki]

9 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

Me and my family have been living in the same house for 20 years now in Pattaya. 

 

I have an English neighbor who is elderly now. He occasionally asks me to accompany him in his car to go shopping to different venues because he's not sure about directions etc in Thailand.

 

He drives aggressively, always on the horn, I ask him why he continually sounds his horn, his reply is stupid Thais.

 

I don't like his aggressive driving so I don't accompany him anymore, he is childish, his attitude is poor, he really hates the Thais.

 

 

I've worked, trained and traveled to over 40 countries. 

I have found the Thais to be the nicest, most pleasant, friendliest people on the planet.

 

Sadly, I see so many negative, hateful comments from members towards the Thais, it hurts me to see this nastiness.

 

Ever heard of compassion for elderly people wherever they come from.

[SAFETY FIRST]

1 minute ago, Kwasaki said:

Ever heard of compassion for elderly people wherever they come from.

Good point but compassion to those that deserve it. 

 

I've known the guy for 20 years, he was middle aged when we met but he's always had the same bitter attitude 

[NextG]

2 hours ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

Sadly the the thing I hate about Thailand is some of the foreigners, scumbags. 

 

Thailand has been my home for decades, I have a big family, I work on an offshore drilling rig, on rotation get paid a monthly salary, paid USD, occasionally working Songkla. 

 

I really don't want to associate with your type. I'm an Aussie but sadly disappointed with the Brits, bloody bad attitude. 

 

Don’t get yourself all wound up. You should understand that some are already wound up. They might not even know it. It’s infectious. Be careful. Misery loves company.