Head or Heart.

[tanner]

returned to UK in March this year, glad to escape the heat, hate the long flights and airport hassle plus the regular fiasco at Jomtien immigration. 

But miss my wonderful Thai lady and feel I'm letting her down because I've decided not to go back, she lives and works in Sattahip, not many farangs there so doubt she'll find a replacement!.

I'm  88 years old in 2 weeks so sadly it's head over heart !!. 

would like to hear comments. 

[rattlesnake]

Plenty of farangs in Sattahip.

[Dan O]

Hard decision to make but you have to weigh all the factors pro and con and make the choice thats best. You don't mention how long your together with the lady or the deciding factors of why your not going back. If its due to advanced age, have you thought of bringing her with you? Plus for her going as she knows you and could (I hope) help take care of you. 

[rocketboy2]

You escaped, well done. 

[scubascuba3]

Plenty of older farangs about so she'll find another

[Gsxrnz]

At 88, I wouldn't be deferring too many decisions until tomorrow.

[Lacessit]

A sad choice to have to make, good luck.

[bunnydrops]

Soon to hate the cold and damp? I know a guy from the UK that has told me a number of times he isn't coming back. So far he always has. Now he says he won't be going back to the UK. Time will tell.

[KhunLA]

Lucky her, as I'm thinking she's far better off without you.  Replacing you should be easy & pleasurable.

 

Nothing says I love you, like 'one day at Imm is too much'.   Enjoy the crappy weather.

 

 

[impulse]

Which head?

 

[Eff1n2ret]

10 hours ago, tanner said:

glad to escape the heat,

I'm glad to escape the cold. Good luck in whatever hellhole of a care home you're consigned to - unless you're filthy rich.

[1FinickyOne]

hand?

[n00dle]

1 hour ago, impulse said:

Which head?

 

at 88 how much can that matter?

[impulse]

5 minutes ago, n00dle said:

at 88 how much can that matter?

I'm crossing my fingers he confirms that I'll still be making bad decision with my little head in 20 years.

[n00dle]

4 minutes ago, impulse said:

I'm crossing my fingers he confirms that I'll still be making bad decision with my little head in 20 years.

more likely to find yourself crossing your legs.

[Fat is a type of crazy]

Depending on how long you’ve been with her and your financial situation you could consider leaving her something in your will and letting her know. Make you feel good and her feel good about the relationship you have had. 

[richard_smith237]

6 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

Plenty of older farangs about so she'll find another

4 hours ago, Gsxrnz said:

At 88, I wouldn't be deferring too many decisions until tomorrow.

2 hours ago, KhunLA said:

Lucky her, as I'm thinking she's far better off without you.  Replacing you should be easy & pleasurable.

Wow..... a number of toxic responses...  You guys should be ashamed of yourselves. 

 

 

[rocketboy2]

Oh i'm so offended

 

[richard_smith237]

3 hours ago, Lacessit said:

A sad choice to have to make, good luck.

Indeed it is... particularly when age is married with the lack of medical care here at that age unless paying extortionate premiums for insurance. 

 

One of the things which may prevent me from living here well into old age is the absence of reasonably priced medical care - insurance premiums for the over 70's is huge.

If someone has a secret, please let me know !!!...

 

 

I wonder how closely the Op looked at brining his partner to the UK. OR, is he a realist and knows that her status may prevent such travel. 

 

Its an awful decision to have to make - leaving someone he cares about, I'm sure it was a significantly more difficult decision than some of the insulting and flippant comments suggest.

 

 

[patman30]

1 hour ago, richard_smith237 said:

Wow..... a number of toxic responses...  You guys should be ashamed of yourselves.

why are they toxic?
without any details, one could easily assume a poor woman who has been in a faithful relationship for who knows how long
will now be facing life alone, as he decided to go home and not come back
now things could be very different but lack of details leads one to assume
personal i hate the common farang attitude of making sure she cannot get my money so i have the option to jet off whenever i want and leave her stuck, penniless or holding debts attitude many have here, but thats just me.

Edited September 1, 2023 by patman30

[richard_smith237]

3 minutes ago, patman30 said:

why are they toxic?

One comment suggest she'll (GF) be off with another foreigner soon.

Another advises not to defer decisions reminding the op that he'll die soon.

Another suggest she (the GF) is better off without the op and replacing him will be easy.

 

Nothing other than toxicity in any of those comments. 

 

 

7 minutes ago, patman30 said:

without any details, one could easily assume a poor woman who has been in a faithful relationship for who knows how long
will now be facing life alone, as he decided to go home and not come back
now things could be very different but lack of details leads one to assume
personal i hate the common farang attitude of making sure she cannot get my money so i have the option to jet off whenever i want and leave her stuck, penniless or holding debts attitude many have here, but thats just me.

Assume - thats all you have done there.

 

Did you assume that the op needs medical care which cannot be provided here in Thailand ?

 

No... you've allowed your negative bias to influence your thoughts and the project your negative hyperbolae. 

 

The Op made it clear that he had to make a decision with his head rather than follow his heart... that already sounds tough. 

 

 

[scubascuba3]

1 hour ago, Eff1n2ret said:

I'm glad to escape the cold. Good luck in whatever hellhole of a care home you're consigned to - unless you're filthy rich.

True, I don't see how a carehome is considered a life 

[patman30]

1 minute ago, richard_smith237 said:

One comment suggest she'll (GF) be off with another foreigner soon.

Another advises not to defer decisions reminding the op that he'll die soon.

Another suggest she (the GF) is better off without the op and replacing him will be easy.

 

Nothing other than toxicity in any of those comments. 

 

 

Assume - thats all you have done there.

 

Did you assume that the op needs medical care which cannot be provided here in Thailand ?

No... you've allowed your negative bias to influence your thoughts and the project your negative hyperbolae.

The Op made it clear that he had to make a decision with his head rather than follow his heart... that already sounds tough.

maybe you dont read my words correct
i said, without details one could easily assume......
i am making a point, just like you assume there must be some other option
and to me you injected your negativity into others comments

you see one guy commented

7 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

Plenty of older farangs about so she'll find another

implying she would not have to be alone and sad

 

another

5 hours ago, Gsxrnz said:

At 88, I wouldn't be deferring too many decisions until tomorrow.

meaning, live for today and enjoy the now while you can

and last

4 hours ago, KhunLA said:

Lucky her, as I'm thinking she's far better off without you.  Replacing you should be easy & pleasurable.

and this one is obviously referring to the fact the guy has just gone home and left her to fend for herself,
long distance relationships are possible even at 88 and clearly the guy is not in a position to continue to support her financially so the poor lady may be better off finacially with someone else.

you are assuming the guy is a saint, i dont see any toxicity in those comments

[fvw53]

5 hours ago, bunnydrops said:

Soon to hate the cold and damp? I know a guy from the UK that has told me a number of times he isn't coming back. So far he always has. Now he says he won't be going back to the UK. Time will tell.

Yes but OP is 88 and at that age health care should also be a factor / one of my British friends who is 84 came back after a stay of 3 years in the UK but now he had a stroke and the health care in Hua Hin private hospitals costs him a fortune...

[scubascuba3]

1 hour ago, richard_smith237 said:

Wow..... a number of toxic responses...  You guys should be ashamed of yourselves. 

 

 

Obviously went over your head

[Jimjim1]

3 hours ago, richard_smith237 said:

Wow..... a number of toxic responses...  You guys should be ashamed of yourselves. 

 

 

My thoughts exactly, I know there are a lot of s - - -s in Thailand but I did not realise so many of them were so freaking heartless.

[ignore it]

Please PM age, photo, phone number and Only Fans accout number. 

 

Thanks 

Edited September 1, 2023 by ignore it

[LukKrueng]

16 hours ago, tanner said:

would like to hear comments. 

Why?

[circa02]

16 hours ago, tanner said:

returned to UK in March this year, glad to escape the heat, hate the long flights and airport hassle plus the regular fiasco at Jomtien immigration. 

But miss my wonderful Thai lady and feel I'm letting her down because I've decided not to go back, she lives and works in Sattahip, not many farangs there so doubt she'll find a replacement!.

I'm  88 years old in 2 weeks so sadly it's head over heart !!. 

would like to hear comments. 

There must be more to this?  Get some new aircons, and make use of early morning and late evenings for exercise or gardening or whatever else you do. Invest in your castle if you haven't already - so many people here just don't, get a nice sofa, a reading chair, decent furniture, make a hobby room etc.. - meet a few people staying in 7k / month condos with back breaking furniture but sitting on empty 250-500k gbp properties in the UK, madness.

 

Immigration is something we all have to do, just do it, and moan about it tomorrow, use an agent if you want to make it easy.  Aside from healthcare I can't see what the UK will offer you that's so good to leave it all behind.

[bunnydrops]

7 hours ago, fvw53 said:

Yes but OP is 88 and at that age health care should also be a factor / one of my British friends who is 84 came back after a stay of 3 years in the UK but now he had a stroke and the health care in Hua Hin private hospitals costs him a fortune...

The one I am talking about is also over 80. I am mid 70's and have been spending half my time in Thailand and the US. This is planned to be my last year to return to the US. Not a easy decision. I'm on fixed income. The cost to live in the US is really high. Just looking at menu prices from 3 years ago, now twice as high. Food from the market at least 50% higher.