Why many Thai girls go with tomboys? Your opinion

[zhounan]

My daughter-in-law, after two failed relationships with two guys, decided to start a new relationship with a tomboy.

 

What do you think is the reason why many Thai girls choose tomboy? Tired of men, afraid of getting pregnant or something else?

 

Interested to know your opinion about this phenomenon.

[stoner]

have you seen how many single mothers are around ? 

[bbko]

10 minutes ago, zhounan said:

My daughter-in-law, after two failed relationships with two guys, decided to start a new relationship with a tomboy.

 

What do you think is the reason why many Thai girls choose tomboy? Tired of men, afraid of getting pregnant or something else?

 

Interested to know your opinion about this phenomenon.

Why not ask your DIL?  All you'll get here are guesses, she'll give you the "straight" (no pun intended) answer.

[retarius]

They go for better sex.

[MangoKorat]

39 minutes ago, zhounan said:

My daughter-in-law, after two failed relationships with two guys, decided to start a new relationship with a tomboy.

 

What do you think is the reason why many Thai girls choose tomboy? Tired of men, afraid of getting pregnant or something else?

 

Interested to know your opinion about this phenomenon.

Its an interesting subject and its very common for Thai girls to do this after a bad relationship with a male. However 'normally straight' girls, usually return to males after a year or so.

 

Oddly, many girls who do this don't consider themselves either lesbian or bisexual.

[Sametboy2019]

Better educated,  better jobs and no risk of pregnancy 

[NativeBob]

Well, our neighbor had failed relationship with girls (2 are very hi-so, one was a colonel's daughter - very nice, cute and spoiled rotten). Did he turn to boys? Nope! He just reduced importance of "relationships" and now having fun with friends at karaoke bars with hostesses.

Tomboys are very edgy, angry and often freaky (bad experience at work) 

[zhounan]

1 hour ago, bbko said:

Why not ask your DIL?  All you'll get here are guesses, she'll give you the "straight" (no pun intended) answer.

 

She said she's tired of men. Men like to flirt, men are not honest, men take no responsibility and things like these. 

 

[TallGuyJohninBKK]

13 minutes ago, zhounan said:

 

She said she's tired of men. Men like to flirt, men are not honest, men take no responsibility and things like these. 

 

 

All of that sounds about right from a typical (modern) Thai young woman's perspective...

 

Plus (though I confess to NOT having any personal experience with this) there's a line of thinking that says a woman is more likely to best know how to please another woman in bed.

 

[zhounan]

6 minutes ago, TallGuyJohninBKK said:

 

All of that sounds about right from a typical (modern) Thai young woman's perspective...

 

Plus (though I confess to NOT having any personal experience with this) there's a line of thinking that says a woman is more likely to best know how to please another woman in bed.

 

 

So, why don't choose a beautiful lesbian woman?

Do they believe that short hair really can make them think they are engaged to a feminine guy?

 

 

[Liverpool Lou]

2 hours ago, zhounan said:

What do you think is the reason why many Thai girls choose tomboy?

Fanny.

[Liverpool Lou]

1 hour ago, Sametboy2019 said:

Better educated,  better jobs ...

Toms are better educated and have better jobs than girls?  Where did you pull that from?

[grumpyoldman]

Maybe it's the person and not the gender? Relates with similar, music, soc media etc? Conversation better? Not overthinking it just hangin with a friend?

[TallGuyJohninBKK]

24 minutes ago, zhounan said:

 

So, why don't choose a beautiful lesbian woman?

Do they believe that short hair really can make them think they are engaged to a feminine guy?

 

 

The tomboys here tend to be more aggressive and assertive (man-like) than regular women or lesbians, giving them a more masculine aura for their partner. It's about much more than just their hair cut.

 

[zhounan]

48 minutes ago, TallGuyJohninBKK said:

 

The tomboys here tend to be more aggressive and assertive (man-like) than regular women or lesbians, giving them a more masculine aura for their partner. It's about much more than just their hair cut.

 

 

It's like decaffeinated coffee, it has the black aura, but it has no caffeine?

Or like lactose-free milk, you can drink it with cornflakes in the morning and it doesn't make you run to the toilet 

[NativeBob]

2 hours ago, zhounan said:

She said she's tired of men. Men like to flirt, men are not honest, men take no responsibility and things like these. 

TBH, I've heard this "excuse" since last century: manifesting own inabilities to someone's faults.
The "secret" beyond this is simple: all good guys are engaged with good and decent girls, good, humble and sweet girls are taken too. What's left is (sorry) leftovers. Dumb office bimbos, mommy little boys, boys2girls and vicious toms. kinda natural selection.

[soalbundy]

I think most women have bisexual tendencies, but the social norm is to be heterosexual so the bisexual part is pressured away but is still latent. Sex isn't especially important for women, at least not in the same way it is for men, they prefer a more emotional attachment and a woman can provide that better than a man, if sex is then part of the deal as a sort of partnership contract then that is OK as well, indeed the sex is better than a man can provide since penetration isn't that important. Women will dress sexy because they like to be admired, it isn't for men especially, it's mostly for their own self esteem. I've seen women flirt with men and women at the same gathering, it isn't meant to lead to sex, it's a 'feel good' situation.

[bradiston]

Cos most guys are total losers that a girl can definitely live or do without. And yes, I guess I'm speaking for myself, though I think there's life in the old crock yet. Toms are real tough, and provide a lot of stability I think. I've met girls who have a tom boyfriend. It seems quite natural. Makes a lot of sense in a place like Pattaya. Many girls will tell you how sympathetic ladyboys are too. Always lend a helping hand, a few quid or whatever.

 

 

[mfd101]

20 minutes ago, bradiston said:

Cos most guys are total losers that a girl can definitely live or do without.

Yes, certainly the proportion of feckless, hopeless, drunken males I see in my village far outweighs their numbers in my former Falang life. And no-show fathers very common too.

[chiman]

Some Tom's will even take on the father figure roll, providing house, money, etc for a single mom.  I do agree with some other posts, they can be angry and edgy, give their Dee a looking over and watch the Tom's face :D 

[sirineou]

On 2/26/2024 at 4:17 PM, zhounan said:

Interested to know your opinion about this phenomenon.

nont you think it's a bit of a stretch from your nice to a "so many? 

[fondue zoo]

On 2/26/2024 at 9:21 PM, Liverpool Lou said:

Fanny.

 

sheesh, do you kiss your mama with that potty mouth?

 

 

_teehee

[Elkski]

I still get pangs of lust when i picture this lovely, innocent beauty i saw on the ferry to Koh Samui.  I sat a few rows back and could hardly stop glancing her way.  She was in a dress so I could only imagine how perfect that figure must be to match that angelic face.  She dressed like marry poppins or Dorothy from wizard of oz.  With a CFM  face.     She sat and moved so prim and proper.   She was with a Tom, dressed well who looked like  the pickpocket Oliver.  Maybe even had a hat on.  I was with a Thai lady and she explained this Tom, Dee thing to my naive mind.   Not sure how I could fit in the bedroom, if asked, but i would give it a go. 

[Shetraveler]

On 2/26/2024 at 6:15 AM, zhounan said:

 

So, why don't choose a beautiful lesbian woman?

Do they believe that short hair really can make them think they are engaged to a feminine guy?

 

 

 

It seems you're the type of male that they are avoiding.
Who cares what people do sexually, or any other way, if it doesn't directly affect you?

[Stevemercer]

I think the OP answered his own question.

 

After a pattern of failed relationships, or a disasterous marriage, many Thai woman get friendly with a Tom, try to meet a farang or want to travel overseas and (hopefully) start a new life.

[Shetraveler]

On 2/26/2024 at 8:54 AM, NativeBob said:

TBH, I've heard this "excuse" since last century: manifesting own inabilities to someone's faults.
The "secret" beyond this is simple: all good guys are engaged with good and decent girls, good, humble and sweet girls are taken too. What's left is (sorry) leftovers. Dumb office bimbos, mommy little boys, boys2girls and vicious toms. kinda natural selection.

I would believe all women would run from you and your attitude.

[Elkski]

1 minute ago, Stevemercer said:

I think the OP answered his own question.

 

After a pattern of failed relationships, or a disasterous marriage, many Thai woman get friendly with a Tom, try to meet a farang or want to travel overseas and (hopefully) start a new life.

Yes i met several divorced thai women who had sworn off thai men. 

[mfd101]

It was only when I mentioned years ago to my b/f that I thought so many Thai girls but particularly older women (such as his mother) look awful with their straggly long hair hanging down that I learned that short hair on a woman in Thailand is a sure sign of a tomboy.  I still got him to cut his mother's (then in her early 70s) long straggly & thin hair and give her a more Western matronly look. She looked so much better and she liked it, but it still got grown out and back to straggles ...

[khunPer]

On 2/26/2024 at 10:17 AM, zhounan said:

My daughter-in-law, after two failed relationships with two guys, decided to start a new relationship with a tomboy.

 

What do you think is the reason why many Thai girls choose tomboy? Tired of men, afraid of getting pregnant or something else?

 

Interested to know your opinion about this phenomenon.

To my knowledge it's quite normal that young Thai girls have relationship with toms, as they are still "virgins" when they find a boyfriend or a fiance. Furthermore a tom-relationship might be less difficult than a boyfriend. And of course, they likely won't get pregnant with a tom.

[AlexRich]

She was probably always bisexual. Fed up with boys she gives TomBoys a go. It happens a lot in women’s prisons, but when released they revert to their default position … cock.