How can I assimilate myself more into Thai culture?

[sirineou]

22 hours ago, bob smith said:

want to be a better Thai person

Why are you now a worse Thai person? 

23 hours ago, bob smith said:

I want to try to assimilate as much as humanely possible into this culture.

To do that you need to understand it more.

23 hours ago, bob smith said:

Maybe one day I will renounce my citizenship of birth and become 100% Thai.

you will never become 100% Thai . Imposible .

23 hours ago, bob smith said:

what can I do to be the best Thai that I can currently be?

Understand the culture, dot feel supperior , only different. There is no such thing as a supperior culture. Some cultures are better at some things and worse in others. and other cultures are better at other things and worse  and better than other . A superiority complex that many expats seem to have is simply Ethnocentrism. This superiority complex of expats manifests its self in many small ways and some big, and Thais know it. No one like a better than thou person. 

Thai culture is what works with in the different dynamics of this society Same as your culture back home , and is dynamic. As conditions change so does culture adjusts to compensate. 

23 hours ago, bob smith said:

should I become a monk?

You certainly should. please take pictures and post , we all need a good laugh.

23 hours ago, bob smith said:

help those in need?

why don't you now?

23 hours ago, bob smith said:

study Buddhism? 

Anything you study makes you a better person. But if I was you,  I would start by studying myself, if you do it honestly you might be surprised what you will find. 

"An unexamined life is not worth living" it is simply a waste of time and skin." 

You did not think I could improve on Socrates? did you? 

well how do you like them apples?

[FruitPudding]

23 hours ago, bob smith said:

 

I want to be a better Thai person.

I want to try to assimilate as much as humanely possible into this culture.

 

Don't give up your Western values. They are worth more, IMHO.

 

23 hours ago, bob smith said:

Maybe one day I will renounce my citizenship of birth and become 100% Thai.

 

Good luck with that. 

 

Probably more chance of winning the lottery.

 

23 hours ago, bob smith said:

Has anyone got any pointers?

what can I do to be the best Thai that I can currently be?

should I become a monk?

help those in need?

study Buddhism? 

 

Become a monk for 3 days. 

 

And it's not about helping those in need. This is Thailand. It's all about you. The correct terminology is "make merit" for yourself. 

 

Buddhism? What's that? Study lucky numbers and have a fear of ghosts.

 

 

23 hours ago, bob smith said:

 

any info from anyone that has extensive experience of assimilating into Thai culture would be greatly appreciated.

 

Does supporting your local happy ending parlor count?

 

You could drink lao kao or Leo with your breakfast. Gamble a little. Take a nap. Ask someone to give you money

 

Try driving up the wrong side of the road from time to time. 

 

Never willingly stop at a pedestrian crossing. 

 

Edited March 15 by FruitPudding

[FruitPudding]

10 minutes ago, sirineou said:

This superiority complex of expats manifests its self in many small ways and some big, and Thais know it. No one like a better than thou person

 

You mean like the superiority complex most Thais have over:

 

Cambodians

Laotians

Burmese

Indians

Nepalis

Pakistanis 

Muslims in general 

Everyone in Africa

All black people 

Anyone poorer

Anyone younger

Probably all farang in Thailand 

 

Didn't you know the Thai social structure is entirely based on social class and hierarchy??

 

Why shouldn't we feel superior?

 

 

[wombat]

23 hours ago, bob smith said:

try to assimilate

maybe you could stop wearing a condom?☻

[sirineou]

1 minute ago, FruitPudding said:

You mean like the superiority complex most Thais have over:

two wrongs never made a right

 

[tjintx]

20 hours ago, Old Croc said:

Also known as NoHo it's the arts and LGBT... center of LA.

Perhaps someone thinks it would suit you.

West Hollywood is the LGBT++++ center.   North Hollywood has Thai Town which is, perhaps, where the poster was suggesting BS could assimilate.  You know, lots of Thais and way the hell away from us here.

[FruitPudding]

7 minutes ago, sirineou said:

two wrongs never made a right

 

 

Well, now you are going against Thai culture entirely. This is your Western values showing through.

 

You must get revenge to save face.

 

Edited March 15 by FruitPudding

[Old Croc]

1 minute ago, tjintx said:

West Hollywood is the LGBT++++ center.   North Hollywood has Thai Town which is, perhaps, where the poster was suggesting BS could assimilate.  You know, lots of Thais and way the hell away from us here.

I did check before my statement and found some evidence to back up my assertion, but am prepared to concede to someone with more practical knowledge than I. 

Thanks for the correction.

[FruitPudding]

4 minutes ago, wombat said:

maybe you could stop wearing a condom?☻

 

A helmet, that's the one. 

 

Plenty of Thais are afraid enough to use a condom,  but then they hop on a motorcycle (with their children even) and zoom off down the road (sometimes into oncoming traffic) without a helmet on at 100km/hr.

 

The mind boggles at the logic

[sirineou]

Just now, FruitPudding said:

 

Well, now you are going against Thai culture entirely.

 

This is your Western values showing through 

Not at all , we are not talking about Thais we are talking about Farangs who want to become more Thai. 

Do you agree  that people do not like those who act supperior to them? If you do and you want to be liked . then don't do it. 

The Op wants , (at least fakes that he wants). to accepted by Thais and assimilate. Well if that's true then he can't act supperior to them.  The fact that Thais feel supperior to others in immaterial.

In fact if what you say about Thais is true, the OP would score points with Thais if he also thought that Thais are supperior to others and showed it. 

[FruitPudding]

5 minutes ago, sirineou said:

Not at all , we are not talking about Thais we are talking about Farangs who want to become more Thai. 

Do you agree  that people do not like those who act supperior to them?

 

It's accepted and expected in Thai society.

 

Almost everyone has someone else below them that they can be superior over. 

 

5 minutes ago, sirineou said:

If you do and you want to be liked . then don't do it. 

The Op wants , (at least fakes that he wants). to accepted by Thais and assimilate. Well if that's true then he can't act supperior to them. 

 

Right, they don't like foreigners acting superior to them, cos to them, we aren't. 

 

5 minutes ago, sirineou said:

The fact that Thais feel supperior to others in immaterial.

 

Lol. How?

 

5 minutes ago, sirineou said:

In fact if what you say about Thais is true, the OP would score points with Thais if he also thought that Thais are supperior to others and showed it. 

 

This is pathetic. 

[Drumbuie]

There are many things you could do and there'll be plenty of facetious suggestions on here but if this is a serious question, sign up for a language course and learn to speak Thai properly. 

 

(And good luck in your recovery - it's a hard road, but it's worth it)

 

[Gottfrid]

3 hours ago, cowellandrew said:

11. Only eat rice,

12.only shower using small bucket and cold water,

13 only ride your motorbike when totally plastered on lao khao 

14. Only order som tam at the restaurant/ market 

15. Pay sin sot when getting married 

Thanks for you great contribution. 🙂 

[2baht]

Be careful Bob, keep them at arm's length. You cannot become Thai, you are BORN Thai, that's it!

[2baht]

On 3/14/2024 at 10:02 AM, bob smith said:

I want to be a better Thai person.

You are not Thai and never will be!

 

On 3/14/2024 at 10:02 AM, bob smith said:

Has anyone got any pointers?

Keep them at a safe distance Bob, we are but aliens with money, but hey, you already know that Bob, you need a good holiday!

[rwill]

In social groups make 3 types of posts everyday.  Good morning,  this is what I ate today, Good night.

[Stevemercer]

I agree with the other posters about staying in a Wat for 3 months. There must be some in Chiang Mai that cater for westerners with reasonable accommodation etc. I say this becasue all Thais assimilate Thai Buddhism and precepts as they grow up. Understanding and experiencing this thinking helps understand Thai culture and behaviours.

 

Having said this, a westerner can never fully assimilate into Thai culture. Thainess is like a cult and you have to be born into it. The downside is once you join the cult you can never leave.

 

 

[herfiehandbag]

On 3/14/2024 at 10:28 AM, bob smith said:

I'm actually asking a serious question,. due to severe changes over the recent days.

 

I am an alcoholic and I have had a moment of clarity.

 

I now know what I want.

You do seem to have these moments of clarity on a monthly basis.

 

If you are an alcoholic and really want to address it: 1) you have my support, 2) there are organisations which will help you, why not go to them.

 

If you are just a piss head who enjoys posting <deleted> to wind people up then...

[Dan O]

On 3/14/2024 at 10:02 AM, bob smith said:

Some recent developments have happened at the smith household.

 

I have now resigned myself to a life in Thailand,

and failing that a life in South East Asia in general.

 

I have some questions.

 

I want to be a better Thai person.

I want to try to assimilate as much as humanely possible into this culture.

Maybe one day I will renounce my citizenship of birth and become 100% Thai.

 

Has anyone got any pointers?

what can I do to be the best Thai that I can currently be?

should I become a monk?

help those in need?

study Buddhism? 

 

any info from anyone that has extensive experience of assimilating into Thai culture would be greatly appreciated.

 

bob.

Well based on your past post where you were giving up drink, that last a week. You were in love with the Mrs for tolerating your sorry A$$, which lasted a week. Giving up womanizing, last a week. Your decision to leave because you had enough of the country and thais, last a week.  I give you zero chance based on your view of what is acceptable behavior toward thai women and the way you talk to and about thais. Your only chance is to shave your head and go to the nearest temple and see if they will accept you, at least for a week. 

[bob smith]

2 minutes ago, Dan O said:

Well based on your past post where you were giving up drink, that last a week. You were in love with the Mrs for tolerating your sorry A$$, which lasted a week. Giving up womanizing, last a week. Your decision to leave because you had enough of the country and thais, last a week.  I give you zero chance based on your view of what is acceptable behavior toward thai women and the way you talk to and about thais. Your only chance is to shave your head and go to the nearest temple and see if they will accept you, at least for a week. 

don't thai men cheat on their wives regularly here?

 

I thought that was an integral part of assimilating into the culture as a male.

 

bob.

Edited March 15 by bob smith

[sirineou]

1 hour ago, FruitPudding said:

t's accepted and expected in Thai society.

again

Not towards them.

1 hour ago, FruitPudding said:

Right, they don't like foreigners acting superior to them, cos to them, we aren't.

Why you like foreigners acting supperior to you? 

1 hour ago, FruitPudding said:

Lol. How?

When you stop laughing , I will explain it to you 

 

1 hour ago, FruitPudding said:

This is pathetic. 

What is pathetic is me trying to talk logic with you 

[Kinok Farang]

On 3/14/2024 at 10:28 AM, bob smith said:

I'm actually asking a serious question,. due to severe changes over the recent days.

 

I am an alcoholic and I have had a moment of clarity.

 

I now know what I want.

 

sorry if this comes across as trolling but my mind has been in a thousand different places at the same time over the past few days.

 

bob.

Alcoholic my arse.

Spilt more down my tie.

[Dan O]

2 hours ago, bob smith said:

don't thai men cheat on their wives regularly here?

 

I thought that was an integral part of assimilating into the culture as a male.

 

bob.

Thinking was where you went off track Bob. 

[bob smith]

3 minutes ago, Dan O said:

Thinking was where you went off track Bob. 

what?

[Gecko123]

Some of this might help you blend in.

 

[ExpatOilWorker]

You need to eat until you are sleepy, then sleep 😴 until you are hungry, then eat until.....well you get it.

[mrwebb8825]

On 3/13/2024 at 10:02 PM, bob smith said:

Some recent developments have happened at the smith household.

 

I have now resigned myself to a life in Thailand,

and failing that a life in South East Asia in general.

 

I have some questions.

 

I want to be a better Thai person.

I want to try to assimilate as much as humanely possible into this culture.

Maybe one day I will renounce my citizenship of birth and become 100% Thai.

 

Has anyone got any pointers?

what can I do to be the best Thai that I can currently be?

should I become a monk?

help those in need?

study Buddhism? 

 

any info from anyone that has extensive experience of assimilating into Thai culture would be greatly appreciated.

 

bob.

You can't Bob. Let's face it, you'll always and forever be known as the foreigner that was groped by the mailman while trying to bang his wife's' friends.

You're a legend, settle in and enjoy the role you studly guy you.

[Dolf]

On 3/15/2024 at 2:59 AM, swissie said:

Seems to me that Bob is caught in a downward spiral.

We all are. Fast or slow. Pick your slot.

[bob smith]

10 minutes ago, Dolf said:

We all are. Fast or slow. Pick your slot.

This is your Life and it is ending one minute at a time..

 

bob.

[Dolf]

2 minutes ago, bob smith said:

This is your Life and it is ending one minute at a time..

 

bob.

Trainspotting?