Popular Post Kinnock Posted March 28 Popular Post Share Posted March 28 2 hours ago, Dolf said: Why is he asking guys on the internet? ..... Because some of us have had the same predicament, so we can share learnings based on experience. He's not asking some random guys on the Internet .... this is supposed to be a forum about life in Thailand (and about Trump .... and EV's) 😃 1 1 1 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Keeps Posted March 28 Share Posted March 28 6 minutes ago, Liverpool Lou said: Exactly, why are you concerned about other members posts that do not affect you in any way? They did affect me, that's why I posted. What bit of that do you not quite grasp? I am about to solve my issue by using the ignore button for three members including yourself. No need to reply although I know just how much you need to get the last word in. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post ChaiyaTH Posted March 28 Popular Post Share Posted March 28 If you help the mother, the next thing is new debts or the uncle who now needs urgent help too. To then still leave you if you finally stop paying those things. 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kinnock Posted March 28 Share Posted March 28 1 minute ago, Dolf said: Well I wouldnt ask people whether I should spend 1m baht or not. Well yes ..... and I think there's a consensus amongst the learned forum members on that .... No! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Celsius Posted March 28 Share Posted March 28 4 hours ago, Aust24R said: I know family is at the core of Thai society Who told you this lie? Your wife? 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dolf Posted March 28 Share Posted March 28 2 minutes ago, Celsius said: Who told you this lie? Your wife? Thais are expected to support their parents. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Celsius Posted March 28 Share Posted March 28 3 minutes ago, Dolf said: Thais are expected to support their parents. Thais, not a Farang mug. Everyone is supposed to help their parents when they are old. it's a human thing to do. Or do you care more about your wife's parents than your own? 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pub2022 Posted March 28 Share Posted March 28 Run away. Start new life. Now you know it better. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post NorthernRyland Posted March 28 Popular Post Share Posted March 28 4 hours ago, Aust24R said: Gday. Seeking advice from those more knowledgeable than I. I know I'm required to help pay wife's debts incurred during marriage, I even help her pay off her Education debt incurred before we were married. I'm ok doing that. I've given my wife about 170,000 over the years for your previous debts because the bank called and threatened court. It's makes me angry as hell and make sure to make a big fight out of it so she knows I'm not ok with it. Paying her parents debts is a bridge too far though. If it came to that I think I would just move away for a while and let her decide if it's worth a divorce or not. 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post NorthernRyland Posted March 28 Popular Post Share Posted March 28 4 hours ago, Aust24R said: 1 million I believe that's totally unreasonable. Before they ask the question they better have sold all their property and done everything they can. If the mom owns a nice house and car yet still wants your help then she's taking advantage. 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dolf Posted March 28 Share Posted March 28 1m baht buys a small condo in your name or pays your rent for 8 years. Or buys 30 scooters. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sidjameson Posted March 28 Share Posted March 28 3 hours ago, TallGuyJohninBKK said: Here's an idea for those reading here... When I was getting serious about my then future Thai wife, I made sure we sat down together to discuss our future. I made a proposal to her, and she accepted it, and we've almost never had an argument or dispute about money things in the 10+ years we've been together now. I told her, I'd financially support her and our married life together fully, and whatever money she made from her job was hers to keep and she could spend her earnings on her family/parents as she wished. And in exchange for that, she (the wife) would never ask or expect me to provide any money for her parents, relatives, acquaintances, etc. It's an agreement and solution that's worked out well for both of us thru the years. And it's been a good incentive for my wife to do what she's done, and that's been to advance to a pretty successful, well-paying business career of her own (with some consulting help from me along the way). I hope she's significantly younger and better looking than you. Why el se agree to those terms! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PJ71 Posted March 28 Share Posted March 28 4 hours ago, save the frogs said: when you start dating someone, the first and most important thing to ask is "how much is she going to cost me?" How well has that chat up line worked for you?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dolf Posted March 28 Share Posted March 28 24 minutes ago, PJ71 said: How well has that chat up line worked for you?? It isnt a chat up line. You ask yourself that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PJ71 Posted March 28 Share Posted March 28 1 minute ago, Dolf said: It isnt a chat up line. You ask yourself that. It's certainly 'a starter for ten' if you ask me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aust24R Posted March 28 Author Share Posted March 28 (edited) Thank you all Edited March 28 by Aust24R 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BritManToo Posted March 28 Share Posted March 28 12 hours ago, Aust24R said: I'm grateful for the chance to listen and learn from others here. Regards Tell her you're broke. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BritManToo Posted March 28 Share Posted March 28 8 hours ago, Dolf said: Thais are expected to support their parents. I think all children should be required to support their parents for as long as their parents supported them. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hellfire Posted March 28 Share Posted March 28 In Thailand one should marry an orphan. I was stupid enough to dump one when I met her. Now all regrets. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hellfire Posted March 29 Share Posted March 29 25 minutes ago, BritManToo said: I think all children should be required to support their parents for as long as their parents supported them. The OP is not that woman’s child 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JimTripper Posted March 29 Share Posted March 29 What's your question? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hummin Posted March 29 Share Posted March 29 40 minutes ago, BritManToo said: I think all children should be required to support their parents for as long as their parents supported them. Biased BritMan? Convient and lucky to have kids in Thailand? 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stupidfarang Posted March 29 Share Posted March 29 My GF had a 100,000 debt when we meet, only found out about a year after we meet. I told her I would not pay it; my view was if I paid the debt then she would not learn the lesson about money and loans. She had to arrange to pay the debt off, the 100,000 was spread over 5 credit cards. She did a deal with the banks said she only had x amount and they reduced the amount. All clear now, she has learnt the lesson. Lucky for me her family are financially well off so no worries of them asking me for money. If you lend any money to the family do not expect to get it back, do expect they will be back with their hand out. If you and your wife own land, be careful the wife doesn’t take a loan out to pay the mother. If the mother has no assets, no land etc. Then file to be bankrupt, easy way out. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aust24R Posted March 29 Author Share Posted March 29 (edited) I wanted to say thanks again to those replying with constructive help thank you. The mother's demands to help pay off her debt has almost become a moot point overnight. I'm working in China until July, my wife went back to Thailand in November as she wanted to try a job. I've been absorbing her anger for months from a distance. Overnight (after I started this post), I managed to talk with her on video. It wasn't good. She admitted she'd been with other men in these last months on Samui since she left here. Again, the mothers demands have almost become incidental compared to the bigger picture. We are still married. I have a right to see my wife and talk. But now it'll be limited to knocking on her door as she's refusing to talk and has blocked. Yet she still happy took this months salary a few weeks ago. No more i can tell you. I'm trying to keep my head above water with it all. Regards Edited March 29 by Aust24R 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Celsius Posted March 29 Share Posted March 29 that's what happens when you pay to be in the relationship. Married 3 times in Thailand, never paid 1 baht. But but that's why you divorced so many times some sexpat loser is about to say. But I still have my money. 1 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post marin Posted March 29 Popular Post Share Posted March 29 19 minutes ago, Aust24R said: Yet she still happy took this months salary a few weeks ago. 19 minutes ago, Aust24R said: She admitted she'd been with other men in these last months on Samui since she left here. Wait a minute here. You are paying salary to a woman who is sleeping with other men, "men plural"? Are you out of your mind? Don't even think about mama and her million anymore. You have way bigger active problems than that. Damn Dude!! 1 1 1 1 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Aust24R Posted March 29 Author Popular Post Share Posted March 29 4 minutes ago, marin said: Wait a minute here. You are paying salary to a woman who is sleeping with other men, "men plural"? Are you out of your mind? Don't even think about mama and her million anymore. You have way bigger active problems than that. Damn Dude!! Marin thanks, I only found out the truth last night, although I've suspected it. It was a pretty awful video call I can tell you. You are absolutely right, all has stopped now 3 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
0ffshore360 Posted March 29 Share Posted March 29 The dilemma seems to have resolved itself albeit in a sad way. I am still left wondering how a woman with no assets such as land etc gets to 1 million bht in debt in the first place? Even loan sharks need some degree of collateral ! 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aust24R Posted March 29 Author Share Posted March 29 (edited) 4 minutes ago, 0ffshore360 said: The dilemma seems to have resolved itself albeit in a sad way. I am still left wondering how a woman with no assets such as land etc gets to 1 million bht in debt in the first place? Even loan sharks need some degree of collateral ! I don't know either OS360, at first I was a bit nieve but I learn fast. I have always been steadfast in saying I won't pay her mother's debts. It's not right and I didn't incur them. I'm flying down to Samui next week in Chinese holidays. I have a right to see my wife, not just be passively accepting of all this from 6000 kms away. I'm a nice guy you know, I do my best, but I expect this to be confrontational. But she's my wife, I have a right to see her and talk Edited March 29 by Aust24R 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post rexpotter Posted March 29 Popular Post Share Posted March 29 Nice Story, but its a very old story that I do not believe at all. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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