What are the chances of Thai wife apologizing?

[Pravda]

Just now, Spidey said:

Thanks for revealing that you are a very uptight, "up your own anus" guy.

 

It's clear now why you have such difficulty in forming lasting relationships with women. You probably don't have any genuine male friends either.

 

 

So, I am uptight because I am not cheating on my wife with low class Thai bargirls?

 

 

I'm glad that your paying arrangements work just fine for you in Thailand. However, this thread is for serious people with real relationship issues ????

 

See ya

 

 

 

[Andyfez]

Hormone change?

How old?

[transam]

6 minutes ago, tingtongtourist said:

I heard so many Thai women that dont even work in a bar say stuff like this, so many times.

But for sure you will cap flock on here saying most Thai lady think like this!!

To many TV warriors like to pretend and fool themself that it is not so!

 

 its true, maybe a few lucky guys tapped into the tiny pool of Thai women that arent like that

but they are hard to meet for the average farang.

But even then they will still have other problems with the expectation of a lady expecting the living standard of a hi-so.

houses, cars, bikes, expensive holidays, "loans" for family members..it goes on and on if you let it.

 

my advice to this OP, same as i always said 2 things.

 

1. never get married

 

2. you need to go live back home occasionally, or at least leave Thailand and travel for some times.

 

you must learn them of the possibility you can dissapear at any time.

 

if live in Thailand full time and the lady knows you got no other options and are cut-off from home..

well you are sitting duck ready for milking and basically fบcked!!! 

What a load of rollox...????

[stephehr]

You can either carry on with what you are doing or get out of Dodge.  The decision is yours nobody can make it for you.

[Vacuum]

12 hours ago, Pravda said:

But, does she ever say I'm sorry?

Why should she? Farang always wrong, don't no nothing.

[Spidey]

2 minutes ago, Pravda said:

 

So, I am uptight because I am not cheating on my wife with low class Thai bargirls?

 

 

I'm glad that your paying arrangements work just fine for you in Thailand. However, this thread is for serious people with real relationship issues ????

 

See ya

 

 

 

"So, I am uptight because I am not cheating on my wife with low class Thai bargirls?"

 

No. It makes you extremely judgmental. Never a good thing, especially with a woman. It also equates with uptight and anally retentive.

 

"I'm glad that your paying arrangements work just fine for you in Thailand. However, this thread is for serious people with real relationship issues"

 

I guess you are right there, I don't, and never have had, insolvable relationship issues. Also, I don't take life too seriously, particularly when commenting on a Thai expat board.

 

Good luck with the rest of your life, I suspect that you're going to need it.

[Pravda]

2 minutes ago, Spidey said:

"So, I am uptight because I am not cheating on my wife with low class Thai bargirls?"

 

No. It makes you extremely judgmental. Never a good thing, especially with a woman. It also equates with uptight and anally retentive.

 

"I'm glad that your paying arrangements work just fine for you in Thailand. However, this thread is for serious people with real relationship issues"

 

I guess you are right there, I don't, and never have had, insolvable relationship issues. Also, I don't take life too seriously, particularly when commenting on a Thai expat board.

 

Good luck with the rest of your life, I suspect that you're going to need it.

 

What it boils down to is this.

 

You are just one in a million guys in Thailand paying for sex. You know nothing about relationships, but must know a lot about customer service.

 

Like I said.... totally irrelevant to this thread as anyone who pays can be a success in Thailand - just like yourself.

[Boon Mee]

The word 'sorry' isn't used too frequently by Khun Thai. 

[baboon]

12 hours ago, Pravda said:

 

Yeah.... I'm just curious if anyone ever received an honest apology. Like the ones you see in Thai dramas and romcoms. Or are these apologies only reserved for Thai men?

 

 

Just so f$&*%% immature. I tried being quiet and saying nothing like she does and she won. I couldn't last more than 2 days. I will be starting again tonight and let you know the results.

Very unfortunate on your part. The old silent treatment? Mrs baboon stops talking to me for 3 days, but 10 days later is going mental when she realises I can do that too. I am perfectly happy with my own company, have a circle of friends outside and Pornhub inside.

Just keep practicing...

[Spidey]

10 minutes ago, Pravda said:

 

What it boils down to is this.

 

You are just one in a million guys in Thailand paying for sex. You know nothing about relationships, but must know a lot about customer service.

 

Like I said.... totally irrelevant to this thread as anyone who pays can be a success in Thailand - just like yourself.

I have never paid for sex with anyone that I'm in a relationship with.

 

TiT. In the UK, I may have watched a sex show when on a boozy night out with my mates. In Thailand I may go upstairs for an hour with a lady. Just a bit of fun.

 

Fun. Something that is clearly alien to you. Try it sometime, you may enjoy it.

 

Hot tip! Try toking on some ganga. It may help to loosen that tight little anus of yours.

 

 

Edited February 25, 2019 by Spidey

[Kaopad999]

Take a step back, by spending some time apart for a week or two, which will give you both some time to reflect on what has gone wrong. Nothing worse than being around each other when tensions are high. A cooling off period might really hep both of you. 

[4MyEgo]

12 hours ago, Pravda said:

Yeah.... I'm just curious if anyone ever received an honest apology. Like the ones you see in Thai dramas and romcoms. Or are these apologies only reserved for Thai men?

It all boils down to the individual, e.g. my x (western wife) of 12 years, NEVER apologised for anything, that is why she is my x.

 

My Thai wife of 12 years, ALWAYS apologises, naturally she doesn't care about "losing face" to her husband or anyone else for that matter.

 

If you have these ill feelings as I did with my x, best you get a new wife and a new life, you deserve it.

[baboon]

1 minute ago, Kaopad999 said:

Take a step back, by spending some time apart for a week or two, which will give you both some time to reflect on what has gone wrong. Nothing worse than being around each other when tensions are high. A cooling off period might really hep both of you. 

I am afraid we are in a somewhat less than ideal country when it comes to introspection, no matter which strata of society we are involved in...

[OmarZaid]

In general, women never say 'sorry' ... but Thai women in particular --- so get over it.

On the other hand, if your not supporting her funancially and financially, expect things to get worse

[soalbundy]

12 hours ago, scorecard said:

 

Did you ever ask her: what's wrong / is she unhappy / why she's unhappy?

That would open the way to a new argument. Accept what is. No they never say sorry.

[Spidey]

12 minutes ago, Boon Mee said:

The word 'sorry' isn't used too frequently by Khun Thai. 

In all my time in Thailand, I've never heard that word from anyone outside of my immediate family.

 

My wife says it.....very occasionally. My son says it regularly, because I have taught him to. If I bump into a Thai in the street, I always say a quick, "Kor tod krap", never, ever had it returned.

 

It's Thai culture, never admit that you have done wrong, Thai face. Up to them, it doesn't stop me from being polite. Long ago, I realised that I just had to accept it, it ain't gonna change.

[mokwit]

Best piece of advice on Thai women: You can spend three years trying to work through the issues but at the end of three years she will be just the same and you will have wasted three years of your life. Yes, I had to spend three years finding out for myself.

[LazySlipper]

12 hours ago, Pravda said:

But, does she ever say I'm sorry?

No,

My Students... Thai kids... have to be threatened with detention and lines if they don't say it.

 

It is a cultural thing. Unless you tell them to say it they won't. And when you tell them it is a total insincere apology at best.

 

I had to teach my wife to say it. So, goes to show their knowledge of right and wrong.

 

However, foreigners and that good at it either. 

[Pravda]

22 minutes ago, mokwit said:

Best piece of advice on Thai women: You can spend three years trying to work through the issues but at the end of three years she will be just the same and you will have wasted three years of your life. Yes, I had to spend three years finding out for myself.

 

Are you still together ????

[mokwit]

4 minutes ago, Pravda said:

 

Are you still together ????

No, but (perhaps unusually) we are friends after 20 odd years since our breakup. She had many fine qualities but ultimately the attempts to keep me under house arrest and coming home from work to someone who wanted an argument made it impossible to stay with her.

 

You might want to reflect on the fact that my relationship with her was held up by other farangs as an example of a Thai-Farang relationship that seemingly actually worked. There were any problems we did not have.

Edited February 25, 2019 by mokwit

[BritManToo]

43 minutes ago, Spidey said:

If I bump into a Thai in the street, I always say a quick, "Kor tod krap", never, ever had it returned.

I've retrained myself to say 'f% you'.

[catman20]

 I am starting to think she is just sick of my presence.

 

you hit the nail on the head 

[1FinickyOne]

13 hours ago, Pravda said:

But, does she ever say I'm sorry?

 

So much abuse and never an apology. Just quiet.

I have not seen it be part of the culture to apologize verbally... my wife might make a favorite meal or something like that... 

 

But, I doubt this is one sided... do you have any idea what you might be doing to provoke her? 

[Suitcase]

13 hours ago, Mavideol said:

Easy said than done, start to apologize and she will start a new argument, try make up sex but didn't work either, she goes to sleep at sister house

Sounds like you should have gotten rid of her a long time ago!

Why so many guys want to own or marry a Thai woman

is beyond me.

All the problems you guys create for yourselfs must come 

from a somewhat sadistic mentality.

Rent, don’t buy in Thailand.

Ownership guarantees you nothing but headaches

and an empty wallet!

[JRG23]

13 hours ago, Pravda said:

She snaps easily and probably thinks she is the best wife on the planet.

Haha! I reckon this is every single Thai wife!!!!!

[1FinickyOne]

41 minutes ago, LazySlipper said:

I had to teach my wife to say it. So, goes to show their knowledge of right and wrong.

or could it be a cultural difference? Apologies and thank yous amongst family seem to be assumed and the other person not made to grovel.. oh sorry sorry... I have found the same with 'thank you' - - 

 

And yet, when my wife came to USA she quickly figured out that our custom was to say 'thank you very much' and she would respond that way, in our culture, when appropriate... 

 

There are cultural differences beyond saying 'same same' and writing 555... 

[wreckingcountry]

 
I am sorry, but I don't take any advice from someone who openly admits in other posts to have sex with prostitutes in Thailand. your opinion in this thread is irrelevant. Very much doubt your "happiness" or the real reason why your wife puts up with you.

Nailed Spidey Hypocrisy ! Married 30 years now another marriage ...-
and whores in between ..


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[seajae]

thais will rarely admit fault and apologize, something that has to be accepted when living here. What throws me is the fact you say your wife will not look you in the eyes, usually a good sign of guilt for some reason and a possible loss of face. Your sex life has stopped as well so there may well be possibilities she has found someone else or had a fling and feeling the guilt from it. Not saying this is what has happened but you are looking for reasons and this may be one of them. Hopefully it isnt what is happening, maybe she has realized she doesnt like married life or feels restricted, maybe she doesnt like having to work or she has friends that dont have to work because their husbands take care of them, then again maybe the love has gone from the marriage for her, mate, lots of reasons for it to happen but the only way to find out is to talk about it, if she refuses than maybe moving out is the only answer, at least you will find out is there is anything left in the relationship

[catman20]

13 hours ago, oldhippy said:

So I'm not the only one in this situation?

without being personal or rude to anyone, i dont understand why all you guys put yourselves in these positions 

[catman20]

13 hours ago, oldhippy said:

So I'm not the only one in this situation?

without being personal or rude to anyone, i dont understand why all you guys put yourselves in these positions