Handicapped foreigner conned out of ten million baht by sweet talking Thai woman

[spidermike007]

59 minutes ago, FarangULong said:

Ladies and Gentleman...

 

If you have ever heard the term "fremdschämen", THIS story is the perfect example for it. And it is what I, a "fellow" Austrian (Austro-German), am experiencing at this very moment.

 

I honestly do not get it. I can understand people, both men and women alike, feeling lonely. I can understand, that it's nice to finally get some attention. I can understand, that if you do not get it a lot, and generally have trouble bonding with the opposite sex (or same sex, if that's the way one swings), this might make you feel all warm and fuzzy and what not.

 

What I cannot understand, and I am not sure I really want to either, is that I would then go ahead and spend all this money (I assume it's his life savings, and while it's not rich man's wealth, it's by no means a little amount, especially for someone who isn't even remotely close to Austrian retirement age) on someone I've only just met a few months or so ago, give money for a house (with no proof of purchase, no paper/money trail and apparently not even any serious attempt at confirming if and where the money went to etc.) and not one but TWO (that's where the alarm bells should have gone of at the VERY LATEST) cars, etc. ?!??!?!??!?!?!

 

HOW can someone be this stupid and naive??? To be honest I would already be extremely hesitant to purchase a house in Thailand as it is (since I am not a citizen and thus would be totally at the mercy of the significant other), let alone for some female I hardly know. In a country, that has a long history and many told and untold stories of this kind of <deleted> happening to farangs. And no, I'm not trying to bash Thailand here. It's probably very similar all over the region, and getting involved into a Western marriage, or even in some countries/states it's enough to be just LIVING TOGETHER for a certain amount of time (as in "common law marriages", which can cost you as much as a divorce without ever having gotten married), is also a hazardous affair.

 

I am sure he is the type of guy, that has heard those stories. Maybe even knows someone personally, who this has happened to. Maybe not 1:1 the same situation, but similar. "I know the dangers. THIS could NEVER happen to ME!", must be going through these peoples' heads...

 

Same with those women, who get themselves some boytoy in Algeria, Tunisia, Jamaica, etc. Or from some online dating portal, and send all their money with western union.

 

 

Can someone PLEASE explain it to me?? I've seen plenty of documentaries on stuff like that ("guy finds love with bar girl, believes she is quitting for him, she candidly says in her interview - when alone - that she has 3 to 4 other 'boyfriends' on the side", " 'Middle aged' Australian woman falls for handsome, successful 'white man from the US' working in Asia - who turned out to be a Nigerian operating out of Thailand, like how the f-word can you not tell by the guy's thick accent, that he's NOT American and that 'Keith Miller' is more likely Jolly Hopeful Omorogwo-JaKwanBongo aka Mistah 419 gon chop yo dollah ??!?!?!? - on some dating portal, sends thousnds every month, even though they haven't yet met a single time" etc.), and while they keep insisting they were so lonely, they made them feel special etc. I just cannot even begin to comprehend.

 

I don't want to claim getting scammed could never happen to me. Everyone is susceptible to some kind of fraud, and susceptible to being emotionally manipulated. However, when it comes to stuff like meeting the suspiciously hot, funny and fun to be around, almost to good to be true and oh so suspiciously perfect for me woman, especially when travelling abroad and places KNOWN for this kind of stuff (not just Thailand either, plenty of places in Eastern and even Central Europe, parts of Spain, etc.), let alone someone I met ONLINE and have never seen in person..... I just KNOW not to fork out cash/wire transfers/bank transfers, particularly large sums.

 

This happens so much. I'm in my 30s, and even before internet being wide spread, I've heard of stuff like this. Romance-scams have to be among the oldest in the World.

 

How does it keep happening?? Why do people act with so little care, and make themselves slaves to their emotions? Which more often than not, are nothing but infatuation anyway?!

 

I know, I know. Stupid rant. And I'm even stupider, for wasting my time typing this comment + trying to wrap my head around it. Usually I just shrug and/or comment something like "What an idiot".

 

But especially thanks to Corona and not getting out much, I#ve been reading about and seeing stuff about it (ABC Australia, etc.) much more so than usual (not trying to say it'sh appening more now, just that I am seeing it more, as I'm so bored out of my mind at times, that I'll watch ANYTHING) and the sheer and utter amounts of imbeciles is really starting to get to me, and not in a good way.

 

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P.s.: If someone could try to maybe help me understand these people, in a nut shell, I appreciate it. If not move along, nothing to see here ^^

It is a combination of extreme emotional vulnerability (which alot of guys have after escaping the romantic horrors of the Western world) and low self esteem, coupled with impatience and a gullible nature. 

 

There are women here who are trained to sniff out these traits. Some see you coming from a long ways off. Yet, there are some very good and quite worthy women here. You need to exercise patience and take your time. And do it on your own schedule and timeline. Not hers. She gets impatient and demanding too early? Honey, you see that door? It serves a wide variety of functions. I think you should use it!

[natway09]

He is very dumb & (or) she is very smart 

[yankyoakum]

Sorry but who says you can't fix stupid>.....live an learn, there are many Thai women who would not do that, but not where he is looking...

 

[Bangkok Barry]

6 hours ago, Canuck1966 said:

????????????????

 

Only in this cesspit do you have to physically pay the police to get off their fat ârses

Absolutely right. I also once described the country as you have and was warned here for stating the obvious. Now let's see if the same happens to you as well ☹️

[TheAceFace]

He aint the first and wont be the last unfortunatley, many on here may be getting had too. These people do not give a f%¤k.

[TheAceFace]

Took me 17yrs to realise, and I thought I knew it all

[bkk6060]

Sorry for his disability and his victimization.

But, the guy is a total idiot.

The "it could happen to anyone" comments are appropriate for people who come here so naive and careless and insecure.  That is not everyone.

Sadly, I bet the guy recovers nothing.

[SW Happy]

7 hours ago, Misterwhisper said:

With all due respect, this man acted like a bumbling twit.

Thats putting it politely.????

[murraynz]

8 hours ago, colinneil said:

Crazy man, thinking with the small head, instead of using his brain.

Sad story,but it always amazes me how naive many 'mature' men seem to be....

He has accumulated a reasonable amount of money,so cant be too stupid ??

[Silent Number]

5 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

What can one even say? Many of us tend to use a great deal of discrimination when it comes to lending money to our close friends. Not sure how to even respond to the idea of lending money to someone you have never even met. Desperation knows no bounds. 

 

Do real men do something like this? I think a real man would call for patience. And face to face meetings. Get to know someone. Take your time. Get ahold of your anxiety. Let it unfold in a rather organic fashion. There is nothing natural about meeting anyone online, and you know virtually nothing about them, until you have spent some real time together. Months, even years. 

 

For some of us, who are not millennials, the whole concept of striking up a relationship online, then chatting and spending dozens or hundreds of hours getting to know someone online, and texting to death, without ever meeting them, just reeks of desperation, and isolation. The few times I ever engaged in online dating, my rule was two emails or chats, then a Skype type video call, then an actual meeting of 20 minutes for a cup of coffee. Lets see where it goes from there. You do not want to meet so quickly? OK. Find another pen pal please. Homey don't play that game.

 

The biggest part of the problem here, is the extreme emasculation that is taking place in the West. Most men, in the US, Europe, and Oz, are no longer real men, when it comes to dealing with their women. Their women have made their lives so difficult, and alot of women have gotten so far away from their innate femininity, and have become dominant, and super controlling, and men just go along with it. Most men have become so hungry for love, or emotionally desperate for some kindness, and TLC. And most are so desirous of being around a real woman, who knows how to act like a woman, and manifest the dignity, within femininity. So, it is easy for the con artists, like this worm Jariyaporn, to take advantage of emotionally wounded men, who seem to be willing to do anything to regain a semblance of normality in their lives, with a decent woman. 

 

When my friends ask, I tell them, always remember, if it is good, it is only going to get better. If there are problems, they will reveal themselves over time. Take your time getting to know a woman here, or anywhere. Time is your ally. It is rarely their ally. They are usually trying to step up the timetable. We need to push back. We need to assert control. An environment like this allows us to do so. Take advantage of that. Be a man. Step up. Pay tribute to the gender. Refuse to lay down anymore. Refuse to be a doormat. Refuse to check your cajones at the door. Start making the decisions! I have so many friends, who come here, and from the very start, make the same mistakes they made back in the West. Except here, they do not need to make those mistakes. The environment does not dictate that they behave like lambs. Many do not know, or realize that, or they succumb to "force of habit". Every ship needs a captain. If the man is not willing to be the captain of the ship, the woman will take over, here in Thailand. Most women here seem to want a strong man. But, if they end up with a wimp, they will take if she is a big baby, who only looks like a real woman, but in reality is a 13 year old, or if she is a con artist, if she is only in it for the money, those realizations will manifest themselves over time. Time allows clarity. Never, ever move too quickly. That is the undoing of most of these guys. Man up. Do yourself proud. 

 

 

Really I wasn’t asleep I was just resting my eyes 

[colinneil]

3 minutes ago, murraynz said:

Sad story,but it always amazes me how naive many 'mature' men seem to be....

He has accumulated a reasonable amount of money,so cant be too stupid ??

Yes you are correct, but he is not the first man to let his small head rule his big head.

Many of us have done stupid things when women were concerned.

[Anant72]

One can only feel sorry for this poor handicapped man but one cannot help wondering how he could fall for such a scam! On the other hand, when one see how many love scams are perpetrated by Nigerians (with the help of locals) in this country and the amount of money naive Thai women send to their “boyfriends” one stops wondering. 

[PeterNescio]

I'm appalled at the lack of compassion shown here. I am impressed too that none of the commenters would ever be dumb enough to get conned out of that much money, or rich enough as the case may be. 

[thaiThai1970]

All men that visit Thailand are basically suckers waiting to be conned by Thai women. The chances of you getting a good one is like finding a needle in a haystack....Most women are on the game just wait for their prey..

[4MyEgo]

7 hours ago, pixelaoffy said:

Love maybe blind but it ain't LOVE in Thailand 

I suppose it's the luck of the draw, for me, been happily married 13 years, still very much in love with the Mrs, and my finances are totally separate, when I cark it, then see collects, however if the love dies, well, as Boz Scaggs would sing, "what can I say" ????

 

[kidneyw]

No pictures of this "keeper?"

[Destiny1990]

I doubt a thai would ever do such a terrible thing so there has to be somewhere a Nigerian connection.

[Silencer]

I bought my Thai gf (we live together) a used car last month, 55,000 baht. Does not do hills well though.

[ICELANDMAN]

1 hour ago, murraynz said:

Sad story,but it always amazes me how naive many 'mature' men seem to be....

He has accumulated a reasonable amount of money,so cant be too stupid ??

Heritage maybe ?

[metisdead]

Offensive troll posts have been removed.

[ICELANDMAN]

12 minutes ago, Silencer said:

I bought my Thai gf (we live together) a used car last month, 55,000 baht. Does not do hills well though.

Who pays frequent expensive visits from the garage for this cheap car ?

[Berkshire]

1 hour ago, thaiThai1970 said:

All men that visit Thailand are basically suckers waiting to be conned by Thai women. The chances of you getting a good one is like finding a needle in a haystack....Most women are on the game just wait for their prey..

Some farang men come to Thailand thinking that money alone can make Thai women fall in love with them.  They tell these women how wealthy they are and throw money around like confetti.  And when they realize that the women were never in love with them, only their money, they act all surprised.

 

If you've been in Thailand long enough, surely you've seen young Thai women madly in love with Thai men who are dirt poor.  Can't you figure out what moves Thai women? 

[ukrules]

10 hours ago, rooster59 said:

He contacted the Chiang Mai police and a lawyer. They both needed paying to act on his behalf. 

How much do the Chiang Mai police charge per hour for their services?

 

Can anyone hire them?

[josephbloggs]

1 hour ago, thaiThai1970 said:

All men that visit Thailand are basically suckers waiting to be conned by Thai women. The chances of you getting a good one is like finding a needle in a haystack....Most women are on the game just wait for their prey..

Oh dear, someone has had a bad experience haven't they.  Made you a bit angry hasn't it.

Most prostitutes are on the game though, you're right, maybe best you stay away from them and then you wouldn't get burnt.

[josephbloggs]

5 hours ago, briand said:

 

Some ignorant men would tell us MINE IS DIFFERENT,  lol. Even the one that loves u , WHY DO YOU STILL PAY THEM ?

What are you talking about?  Who pays their wife?

[3NUMBAS]

there has been a few over the years who ended up potless cos of some woman and a buffalo

[Kadilo]

6 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

Yes. I am implying a "real man" has self esteem, is able to recognize his emotional vulnerability and proceed with caution, and is capable of pushing back against an artificially stepped up timetable. Essentially, he is able to say NO! We are doing this my way or not at all. He realizes just how many choices he has, and behaves accordingly. He is always ready to show her the door or walk away, and is ready and willing to verbalize that.  That is real power. 

 

He does everything in his power to take his time to get to know a gal, and avoids deep feelings until they are deserved and warranted. That could mean spending months and years with her and not chatting incessantly online and assuming " he now knows her". 

 

Otherwise he is a weak sort of half man, half boy. It is all about self esteem and a realization that some women just do not warrant the attention and devotion. It takes time to figure out exactly who she is, what she is made of, whether or not she has a really good family, whether or not she is sincere and not a con, etc. We owe it to ourselves to follow a judicious, conscious, and thoughtful path in life. Right?

Maybe she was just a good <deleted>. 

[Kadilo]

5 hours ago, condobrit001 said:

Ever heard of  the long con?

Someone had to 

[473geo]

13 minutes ago, 3NUMBAS said:

there has been a few over the years who ended up potless cos of some woman and a buffalo

Not quite true, you see on most occasions the lady just asks, it then depends on the person concerned if they choose to 'give' (There are of course exceptions) no body is responsible for your actions other than yourself if the result is not as intended....well....such is life

[Kadilo]

2 hours ago, Silent Number said:

Really I wasn’t asleep I was just resting my eyes 

<deleted> Mills and Boon some of this sh.it