Girl I married wants car and house money

[kingofthemountain]

1 minute ago, roo860 said:

If the condo was bought after marriage can't she claim 50% ?

He will have the time to sort out all this mess with a lawyer

when he will be back in Thailand.

For now his priority is to stop to send money to the girl

and to cut all the ways possible for her to contact him. 

As long as she will be able to talk to him, he will be in trouble

he is far stuck in sad and cold UK and still in love with her and Thailand

so she has all the cards in her hand at the moment as long as she can contact him

[NCC1701A]

5 hours ago, Nees Shah said:

how can someone do this to another human being !

hold on a second I will ask her. 

[RichardColeman]

My wife of 6 years is a school teacher, well educated, and very good with money.

She has never asked me to buy a house , a condo or a car.

Being stuck away I can really only send her about 23,000 baht to support her and our daughter (due to having to stay in B and B), which she does quite comfortably with money left after rent, food, etc.

She'll budget, use stamps, pick a few baht up if she sees it. She's happy, be grew up poor and would be happy poor or rich.

In my mind this 'new' Thai lady is not the sort of person you should be with. Unfortunately I think you need get out now - but also you are about to lose half of everything your bought during the marriage - and that could mean a nice payoff for her.

 

 

 

 

 

 

[orchis]

6 hours ago, Nees Shah said:

she is really kind and lovely

 

6 hours ago, Nees Shah said:

she threatens to burn my condo documents

kind and lovely.

[EricTh]

4 hours ago, EVENKEEL said:

7K a month wouldn't even cover my 7-11 tab.

7K per month is enough if you have your own house/condo without paying rental or bank loan.

Most Thai people live less than 10K per month because their average salary is around there.

 

Edited March 13, 2021 by EricTh

[Nees Shah]

1 hour ago, RichardColeman said:

My wife of 6 years is a school teacher, well educated, and very good with money.

She has never asked me to buy a house , a condo or a car.

Being stuck away I can really only send her about 23,000 baht to support her and our daughter (due to having to stay in B and B), which she does quite comfortably with money left after rent, food, etc.

She'll budget, use stamps, pick a few baht up if she sees it. She's happy, be grew up poor and would be happy poor or rich.

In my mind this 'new' Thai lady is not the sort of person you should be with. Unfortunately I think you need get out now - but also you are about to lose half of everything your bought during the marriage - and that could mean a nice payoff for her.

 

 

 

 

 

 

I tried to be a good husband sir but clearly I went wrong somewhere. As a husband, I wanted to support her financially as I didn’t want her working in massage shop. I rather she is at home than slaving away.  She is young at 35, so yeah possible she is one of the new Thai lady type. Apart from the money issue, we don’t have any other marital problems. I just wish I had more money to give . 

[FritsSikkink]

1 hour ago, EricTh said:

7K per month is enough if you have your own house/condo without paying rental or bank loan.

Most Thai people live less than 10K per month because their average salary is around there.

 

Enough for cigars and that's it.

[jak2002003]

7 hours ago, Nees Shah said:

Sorry I deserve all the laughing at. I accept I made some bad choices (gullible farang). 

Is your post a real story? 

 

If you are joking then well done..

 

If you are serious you are too nice and dumb. 

[kingofthemountain]

28 minutes ago, Nees Shah said:

I tried to be a good husband sir but clearly I went wrong somewhere. As a husband, I wanted to support her financially as I didn’t want her working in massage shop. I rather she is at home than slaving away.  She is young at 35, so yeah possible she is one of the new Thai lady type. Apart from the money issue, we don’t have any other marital problems. I just wish I had more money to give . 

You went wrong as soon as you picked your wife in one of the happy ending massages in Pattaya

i don't say they are 100% bad wife material, but most of the ''working girls'' in Pattaya have a bunch

of problems (Financials debts. multiple child, broken family often with physical abuses, mental illness, alcool or other drugs addictions and so on)

She is young at 35 if you are yourself in your 60-70

in Thailand a 35 year old girl is out of date since at least 5-10 years for any decent Thai man

''Apart from the money issue, we don't have any other marital problems''

You are kidding right? I remember you she is actually involved in an extortion attempt against

you using a blackmail with the threat to burn your condo deed 

[Meat Pie 47]

Why do you people keep feeding that troll is beyond me

[kingofthemountain]

2 minutes ago, Meat Pie 47 said:

Why do you people keep feeding that troll is beyond me

There is a probability (Not a very big one, but still) that the story is true

 

[Meat Pie 47]

8 minutes ago, kingofthemountain said:

There is a probability (Not a very big one, but still) that the story is true

 

come on, nobody can be that stupid

[kingofthemountain]

14 minutes ago, Meat Pie 47 said:

come on, nobody can be that stupid

Pattaya has never been known for attracting Nobel prizes

[Nees Shah]

30 minutes ago, kingofthemountain said:

You went wrong as soon as you picked your wife in one of the happy ending massages in Pattaya

i don't say they are 100% bad wife material, but most of the ''working girls'' in Pattaya have a bunch

of problems (Financials debts. multiple child, broken family often with physical abuses, mental illness, alcool or other drugs addictions and so on)

She is young at 35 if you are yourself in your 60-70

in Thailand a 35 year old girl is out of date since at least 5-10 years for any decent Thai man

''Apart from the money issue, we don't have any other marital problems''

You are kidding right? I remember you she is actually involved in an extortion attempt against

you using a blackmail with the threat to burn your condo deed 

I guess coming from a western society, we look world in a different naive way. So my wife previously had a failed marriage and she has never once asked for a penny for her daughter who lives with the husband in Korat. I am 55 years old and yes she is 35 (looks very nice for her age). She has tendency to see red when we have an argument. I believe most Thai girls have a problem with emotional stability. Yes, you are right. She has threatened to burn the condo deeds if I don't fork out. I am just finding it hard to let go of her because I have invested so much in her and I am scared to cut losses and being alone again.  

[Nees Shah]

1 minute ago, Nees Shah said:

I guess coming from a western society, we look world in a different naive way. So my wife previously had a failed marriage and she has never once asked for a penny for her daughter who lives with the husband in Korat. I am 55 years old and yes she is 35 (looks very nice for her age). She has tendency to see red when we have an argument. I believe most Thai girls have a problem with emotional stability. Yes, you are right. She has threatened to burn the condo deeds if I don't fork out. I am just finding it hard to let go of her because I have invested so much in her and I am scared to cut losses and being alone again.  

She is worried that I will leave her for some beautiful young lady and that she wants 3 million bhat for her security.  I can see the world from her pt of view as possibly she is getting old but how can I support her every month at 40k and then bring back to her 3million. I have already re-mortgaged my house in UK to buy a condo (in my name only) so that she can live in their rent free and do not have to work at all. What more I can do as a husband?

[kingofthemountain]

4 minutes ago, Nees Shah said:

I am just finding it hard to let go of her because I have invested so much in her and I am scared to cut losses and being alone again.  

Whatever the money you throw in Thailand it's never an ''investissment''

it's ''lost'' money. An investisment is supposed to give you a return on it.

What sort of return do you expect? Some affection? Sex? The illusion to be

important for someone? Do you know the ''syndrom of the white knight''?

The famous foreign guy in his shiny armor of moral and principes coming here

to ''save and rescue'' with his money a poor thai girl working as a sex slave in a bar or a massage ?

Google it, read all about it and thank me later

[kingofthemountain]

6 minutes ago, Nees Shah said:

She is worried that I will leave her for some beautiful young lady and that she wants 3 million bhat for her security.  I can see the world from her pt of view as possibly she is getting old but how can I support her every month at 40k and then bring back to her 3million. I have already re-mortgaged my house in UK to buy a condo (in my name only) so that she can live in their rent free and do not have to work at all. What more I can do as a husband?

She is in your condo so she doesn't pay a rent, and she doesn't send money to her daughter

do you know what she is doing with 40k baths monthly? it's totaly insane, I mean most of the Thais live with a monthly income of 10k-15k. Very few people in Thailand earn 40k a month, it's basicaly the salary

of a bank agency manager 

[wn78]

8 hours ago, PatOngo said:

Give her some face!

She lost face while giving head... typical story.

(not making jokes hard to resist on this thread)

[Lacessit]

6 hours ago, kingofthemountain said:

Don't blame yourself

i am sure a lot of us have done already 

a lot of stupid things in the name of love

The good point is the condo is in your name

the bad point is a girl (Pretending to be your wife) is inside

and try to use it to pressure you. 

My advice, as you are far at the moment and you can't do anything

against her is to cut all the way she could use to contact you, phone, facebook

line and so on, cut or change all of it, Act exactly as if you was dead.

Don't worry for your condo, she is not going to burn it, she is probably stupid

but she doesn't want to end in jail.

When you will be back in Thailand, your priority will be to divorce with her

good luck anyway

 

 

Er - they are not married, divorce does not come into it.

[Lacessit]

2 hours ago, Nees Shah said:

She is worried that I will leave her for some beautiful young lady and that she wants 3 million bhat for her security.  I can see the world from her pt of view as possibly she is getting old but how can I support her every month at 40k and then bring back to her 3million. I have already re-mortgaged my house in UK to buy a condo (in my name only) so that she can live in their rent free and do not have to work at all. What more I can do as a husband?

First you say you are not married in the OP, then you are asking what can I do as a husband. Which is it?

[6lover]

 

Also had a relationship for 1 year, sent 30,000 THB every month, but flew to Thailand every 6 weeks and spent 4 weeks with her. After 1 year she wanted more and more, almost every day 2000 THB shopping when I was with her in Thailand, invite friends, always go out for expensive meals, buy gold, buy land and cars, Sinsod to get married, and one-time payment of financial security. She didn't think much of work, even though she had a Bachelor of Business degree in Thailand.

After 1 year of relationship, I saw no point in continuing this expensive relationship on my departure

6 weeks later, very tired immediately after arriving, I went to eat, then took a bar girl with me for short time. She thought it was pretty funny that I told her that I was very tired from the flight and wanted to sleep, Short Time 6 with her , since I have been a long-term Thai girlfriend for 1 year and receive 30,000 Baht a month.

The Bargirl only wanted a fraction of the cost of having 6 with her every day for the whole month if she continues to work in the bar and comes to my apartment every day after work. She made a lot of money with clients.

Of course, after a few days I was having fun with her, wanted to take her with me from Thailand and have 6 with her every day, what their price would be. She just said that she stop at the bar immediately and leave Thailand if I'm serious.She immediately stopped working in the bar and left Thailand 4 months later.

Are now 7 years together, 

Everyday a stupid man comes, Thai men laugh at such stupid farlangs

never buy a house and a car for a woman, always make sure a woman goes to work.

A woman who sits at home and doesn't work is no good, runs far away.

Every woman laughs at such a cash cow that enables her to live without work.

My ex bargirl works 40 hours a week in Europe and is very popular at work.

At the time I was doing business in China, my Chinese business partners had clearly told me that if your girlfriend doesn't want to work, just look at your wallet, enjoy it and have fun, don't take her with you from Thailand, but if your girlfriend does is economical with money, willing to work hard and learn, take it with you, you will hardly find a better one

 

[Artisi]

9 hours ago, kingofthemountain said:

He will have the time to sort out all this mess with a lawyer

when he will be back in Thailand.

For now his priority is to stop to send money to the girl

and to cut all the ways possible for her to contact him. 

As long as she will be able to talk to him, he will be in trouble

he is far stuck in sad and cold UK and still in love with her and Thailand

so she has all the cards in her hand at the moment as long as she can contact him

She doesn't have all the cards in her hand, and doesn't even have the thing that started this supposed nonsense, if she did there would be trouble ahead. 

[Artisi]

3 hours ago, Lacessit said:

First you say you are not married in the OP, then you are asking what can I do as a husband. Which is it?

Don't get too concerned, it looks like, sounds like and smells like BS

[kingofthemountain]

6 hours ago, Lacessit said:

Er - they are not married, divorce does not come into it.

From the OP first post

''Hi folks, I don’t know how to say this but it straight out of Dear Deidre Column for folks who are familiar. i married a Thai girl last year, she is really kind and lovely. Before I met her, she was doing massage....''

[ThailandRyan]

6 minutes ago, kingofthemountain said:

From the OP first post

''Hi folks, I don’t know how to say this but it straight out of Dear Deidre Column for folks who are familiar. i married a Thai girl last year, she is really kind and lovely. Before I met her, she was doing massage....''

Was it am Amphur marriage or a village ceremony.  Makes a big difference.

[OneMoreFarang]

9 hours ago, Nees Shah said:

She is worried that I will leave her for some beautiful young lady and that she wants 3 million bhat for her security.

Maybe give 1 million THB to a young and beautiful lady. Basically you saved 2 million and you will have a young and beautiful girlfriend. Why would you give 3 million to an old women who gives you headache everyday?

[OneMoreFarang]

10 hours ago, Nees Shah said:

I tried to be a good husband

At least you realized already what you did wrong. ???? 

[Lacessit]

32 minutes ago, kingofthemountain said:

From the OP first post

''Hi folks, I don’t know how to say this but it straight out of Dear Deidre Column for folks who are familiar. i married a Thai girl last year, she is really kind and lovely. Before I met her, she was doing massage....''

You're right, my bad. Although I could have sworn he used the term GF in the initial OP, maybe he's gone back and edited it. Quite a few responses pointing out the GF? can't claim title to the condo.

[BangkokReady]

16 hours ago, fangless said:

So why does she "need" another condo in "her" name?

Her friends and family explained to her that if the condo is in his name, she can't keep it when it all goes to <deleted>.  She has to stay with him to stay living in it and that doesn't fit in with her plan to get rid of him in the near future.

One of the repeating themes with these types of relationships is that the girls clearly see it as a short term con, for whatever reason, and try to get as much as possible as early as possible.

Possibly they have no faith in the guy, or they are so repulsed by them that they don't want to play the long game.  They want to get in, get as much as they can and get out.

There are obviously some long-gamers that are happy to stay with the man long-term and be supported.  Presumably they are slightly more balanced mentally or they are more into the guy.

[Nees Shah]

1 hour ago, kingofthemountain said:

From the OP first post

''Hi folks, I don’t know how to say this but it straight out of Dear Deidre Column for folks who are familiar. i married a Thai girl last year, she is really kind and lovely. Before I met her, she was doing massage....''

Thank you for pointing that out. But then again, I am just ignoring the unnecessary jibes from certain folks. I have made a stupid mistake but  I was in a bad place when I met her and she did pick me up. I would still like to think she will see sense. I also understand everyone needs money but pressing your husband to depart with 3m is not the right way. It’s going to be difficult for me mentally to get over her. I do love Thailand and planned to retire there but am worried about the loneliness it will bring. I can never trust a Thai person ever anymore. Worst case I will sell the condo and stay here in Blighty.