"Thai Women don't feel Love"

[Nick in Thailand]

Is this true? I've read this a fair bit. I am quite an idealist/romantic at heart, so I'm a little saddened by this theme. 

[expatjustice]

No idea. Never dated a Thai girl, and my wife is not Thai.

 

But, it is said that love is something which lies within the human species, regardless of race or nationality. So I would say they do just like anyone else.

[seajae]

my wife says a lot of thai women marry foreigners because they want real love and not the way thai men treat their wives, she says several she knows wont marry a thai man or have anything to do with them, could be why they are selling so many sex toys these days

[CharlieH]

Their approach to relationships is certainly different and very succesful (mostly), just ask anyone whose married to one.

 

As for love, every human being is capable, with some it just needs nurturing more than others. Takes TWO to play and win at that game.

[GinBoy2]

Well, love is very subjective, and how anyone experiences love is specific to them.

 

And, maybe you only really experience real love the older you get, when the hot passion diminishes and true intimacy kicks in.

 

I think that is true in almost every culture, including Thai's.

 

Me and my Thai wife are probably way past the hot passion of 20 years ago, but she still loves to snuggle up as we watch a movie together, loves our walks around the lake, meals with our kids and their boyfriends and girlfriends.

 

That sounds like my definition of love for an older couple, and yes one of them is Thai 

[Kwasaki]

48 minutes ago, Nick in Thailand said:

Is this true?

Never heard or read that, I've been married to my Thai wife for 18 years and she still looks after me too much for my liking sometimes.  

[richard_smith237]

Perhaps those who suggest this are the ones who tried to buy rather than to nurture through mutual feelings... 

[ravip]

2 minutes ago, richard_smith237 said:

Perhaps those who suggest this are the ones who tried to buy rather than to nurture through mutual feelings... 

Absolutely correct.

Thai people are also normal human beings with natural feelings. Any and all races have their bad eggs - none can claim they are 100% good, correct or honest.

When a relationship gets sour, both parties should take equal blame. Attracting partners with money and prosperity can easily end up in disaster and bitterness.

[GinBoy2]

4 minutes ago, ravip said:

Absolutely correct.

Thai people are also normal human beings with natural feelings. Any and all races have their bad eggs - none can claim they are 100% good, correct or honest.

When a relationship gets sour, both parties should take equal blame. Attracting partners with money and prosperity can easily end up in disaster and bitterness.

Well, thats the dirty rotten truth about many Farang/Thai relationships.

 

It's not based on love, or indeed attraction but much more a financial transaction. In that toxic relationship the idea that 'love' comes in to the equation is nonsensical.

 

If anyone is delusional enough to believe that the 60 somethings farang and the 20/30 something Thai relationship is based on anything but money and not love, you need help!

 

Thats a brutal truth, which I know will <deleted> folks off and I expect the blowback, but truth hurts

[giddyup]

47 minutes ago, GinBoy2 said:

Well, thats the dirty rotten truth about many Farang/Thai relationships.

 

It's not based on love, or indeed attraction but much more a financial transaction. In that toxic relationship the idea that 'love' comes in to the equation is nonsensical.

 

If anyone is delusional enough to believe that the 60 somethings farang and the 20/30 something Thai relationship is based on anything but money and not love, you need help!

 

Thats a brutal truth, which I know will <deleted> folks off and I expect the blowback, but truth hurts

That's the truth with any big age disparity, be it Thai/Falang or Falang/Falang, but does a rich guy in his 60's or 70's really care if his stunning, young trophy wife loves him or not? Might be true of wealthy women and their toy boys as well. They are just buying young flesh, not love.

Edited April 18, 2021 by giddyup

[OneMoreFarang]

Thai women don't feel love and all farang women don't like sex and all farang men are hansom and have lots of money. Is there anything else to report that is all the same for millions of people?

 

[1FinickyOne]

There are many different types of love and love between spouses goes through changes as time goes along... 

 

With that in mind, there is a practical side to relationships that will overshadow an emotional/romantic side... 

 

mostly, love fades in a romantic sense and compatibility becomes most important... and when you have kids, you stop asking these types of questions... 

 

Caring and respect are probably more important in the long run...

 

 

[TC17]

I have found the entry ticket to be transactional, either directly or embedded.  But once you get past that, Thai woman are the most loving, nurturing, encouraging,  passionate and erotic women I have ever known.  

[Leaver]

5 hours ago, richard_smith237 said:

Perhaps those who suggest this are the ones who tried to buy rather than to nurture through mutual feelings... 

 

Quite the opposite.

 

The ones that buy have no problems.  It's a financial transaction. 

 

It's the ones that try to nurture through their own feelings, rather than mutual feelings, are the ones that come to grief here.  In most of the cases, these guys still lavish "gifts" on their Thai partner anyway.

[jak2002003]

7 hours ago, richard_smith237 said:

Perhaps those who suggest this are the ones who tried to buy rather than to nurture through mutual feelings... 

Or they were ugly mean dumb nasty dirty old guys that it would be impossible for a woman of any nationality to love. 

[chicowoodduck]

12 hours ago, BritManToo said:

I experience the love of a woman every time I have a spare 1,500bht in my pocket.

I experience the love of my children every time I buy them a bag of Kanom Lay.

I experience the love of my rabbits for 30bht/week of rabbit food.

 

It doesn't matter how you experience love, but it's never free.

Oh boy, every Monday I feel the love....no matter what the cost! ????????????

[1FinickyOne]

8 hours ago, Leaver said:

 

The ones that buy have no problems.

I thought you were all in a twist abt emotional blackmail by young lasses draining their customers? 

 

 

[BoganInParasite]

Been with my Thai wife more than thirteen years now. We've done the international travel and living/work overseas things and have now settled to a quiet life in remote rural northern Thailand. She treats and looks after me way more than I think my limited wealth, looks and modesty deserve so I'm thinking it is definitely love. BTW, she also swore off Thai men after she discovered her long time Thai boyfriend was rooting anything that moved for most of the years they were together. Thai mens loss has been my gain and couldn't be happier.

[vandeventer]

I know a Thai guy with 3 wives and many kids and they all seem to be happy, broke but happy?

[GinBoy2]

On 4/18/2021 at 5:16 PM, giddyup said:

That's the truth with any big age disparity, be it Thai/Falang or Falang/Falang, but does a rich guy in his 60's or 70's really care if his stunning, young trophy wife loves him or not? Might be true of wealthy women and their toy boys as well. They are just buying young flesh, not love.

Well, thats the difference.

 

In a farang trophy wife, thats the Trump/Melania type couple, where the man is so rich he doesn't really care so long as she's eye candy on his arm, and he's free to go <deleted> whatever woman thinks she can get a piece of the wealth.

 

In the Farang/Thai scenario, it tends to be regular guys with some income, probably more than the Thai woman, but not that significant that should the 'trophy' wife find a better deal she won't dump the 60+ faster than a pair of dirty underwear for a better deal 

[Deli]

They all feel love for... the Benjamins.

[thailand49]

Love?  They don't feel Love?  In general,  same everywhere since the topic is about Thailand here is my take.  You more you give the more they love you, Thai women say "I'm done with Thai men looking for Love"  but like everyone you say what is needed to get what you want after you get it feel secure, comfortable you go back to what is comfortable to them which is being with their own kind. Sure plenty of good relationships but just not enough a minority. 

Don't feel Love?  Now they know how I feel.????

[GinBoy2]

6 minutes ago, Deli said:

They all feel love for... the Benjamins.

Careful there Buddy, don't use a broad brush.

 

I'm not denying that a bunch of the old guy/young girl relationships are based on the mighty greenback, British pound, Aussie dollar, or Euro.

 

But there are some of us, close in age, who have what you might describe as a normal male/female relationship.

 

As it turns out my wife now makes a heck more money than I do, and I relish the fact that I am now a 'kept' man

[Kaopad999]

I think this applies to all women, does it not? 
They love what we do for them, or what we provide for them.
But whether they love us for who we are is another question..

[Locked in Oz]

I once heard a Thai lady say very seriously "No I do not love him but he take me and I take care him.  And therein lies your answer.  Having said that I like you are a romantic at heart and believe in the love.

[robblok]

16 hours ago, richard_smith237 said:

Perhaps those who suggest this are the ones who tried to buy rather than to nurture through mutual feelings... 

Really good point too many guys give salaries to their wives or GF's and expect them to love them for it. Just accept it if you pay the chances for love are a lot lower. Attract a woman with money (because you want a young cutie) and then expecting that young cutie not to love your money is foolish. If you chances of having one that ONLY loves your money are much higher.

 

If you get one without involving money too much and she stays with you its more likely that she actually likes you. Also you read a lot about guys just having a wife for the cleaning and sex. Maybe if you get one that likes similar things and become a friend too do things together love is easier.

 

I had one that was attracted to money.. after that never again. It is just a selection process and accepting that the younger super hotties are usually in it for the money. Unlike what people say big age differences are a problem. Sure some woman like older but the majority does not. Its like winning the lottery everyone thinks they will win but only few win the lottery to have a much younger woman that actually loves you not the money.

 

The Thai woman I have been were just like the foreign woman, if they have similar interests and if you treat them well they will love you. If your not a good match but its your money that attacks them.. tough luck.

 

Its a choice you have to make that super hot cutie that you pay a salary or a woman closer to your age that wants you. Everyone wants something different if you want love. Then don't rent her find one that likes things you do, do things together normal things like watching TV together (instead of you watch thai TV i watch sports) How can you find love if your not compatible on many things. Then your just satisfy her need for safety (money) and not the rest. Then dont expect love.

[robblok]

15 hours ago, BritManToo said:

I experience the love of a woman every time I have a spare 1,500bht in my pocket.

I experience the love of my children every time I buy them a bag of Kanom Lay.

I experience the love of my rabbits for 30bht/week of rabbit food.

 

It doesn't matter how you experience love, but it's never free.

If that is your definition of love then your set for life.

I certainly did not love my parents for money and the stuff they bought. Good to see you bring your kids up just to love you for money. I loved my parents when they brought me to the beach or forest. I loved my dad when we did things together.

 

I think you and I are fundamentally different but we knew that already. But just like you and i are total opposites its stupid to think all that woman / girls are the same.

[GinBoy2]

2 minutes ago, robblok said:

If that is your definition of love then your set for life.

I certainly did not love my parents for money and the stuff they bought. Good to see you bring your kids up just to love you for money. I loved my parents when they brought me to the beach or forest. I loved my dad when we did things together.

 

I think you and I are fundamentally different but we knew that already. But just like you and i are total opposites its stupid to think all that woman / girls are the same.

I agree with all that you say.

 

When it comes marriage, Thai or whatever, you need to be able to enjoy things together, it's not all just about sex.

 

We love going out to dinner, hiking in the Black Hills, spending times with our kids, and then just hanging out together watching TV, tending the flowers and just doing home stuff.

 

Maybe that sounds boring to the Pattaya horn dog community, but for me thats real Thai love

[robblok]

1 minute ago, GinBoy2 said:

I agree with all that you say.

 

When it comes marriage, Thai or whatever, you need to be able to enjoy things together, it's not all just about sex.

 

We love going out to dinner, hiking in the Black Hills, spending times with our kids, and then just hanging out together watching TV, tending the flowers and just doing home stuff.

 

Maybe that sounds boring to the Pattaya horn dog community, but for me thats real Thai love

That is just real love, its about doing things together sharing stuff. Not paying a girl to stay with you have sex and tell her what to do. 

 

You often read it that the guy that pays tells the girl what to do and what not too. That is not an relationship, that is a her fulfilling a contract like an employee.

 

I have always found girls that liked similar stuff (diving, sports) and I would do stuff i did not always like 100% but knew they would. Its give and take. 

 

I think its an attitude problem for many guys, they don't know how relationships work and think money is a fix it all. (wont deny you need money to live)

[4MyEgo]

Thai women don't feel love.....WOW that is a big statement.

 

I think all women want to feel love, as do all men, defining what love is, is determined by those in it.

 

My marriage of 14 years to my Thai wife have been the happiest years of my life and of course hers, I know when people hear others say, she is or he is my bestie, they cringe, and I would say that is because they haven't reached that level yet, and may not in this lifetime, but when you have a bestie, you'll understand, if your ever so fortunate and I know there are a few here on TVF that also have one.

 

From my experience, when you have had relationships that have failed, you have to ask yourself why, and then once you accept the truths as to why they failed, you will then learn to be aware of those flaws in the beginning of your next potential relationship/s, therefore providing you with an out before it starts to get trappy, e.g. communication, understanding and acceptance are key for any relationship to survive as opposed to beating each other about the head.

 

We all carry baggage from our childhood and the way our parents raised us, noting that there is no manual on how to raise kids, and that they probably did what they thought best at the time of raising their kids, so no parent blaming here, it's a generation thing and sometimes you have to break the cycle and not blame yourself and then put yourself first, and do your best not to pass that down to your kids.

 

To be able to be perfectly honest in a relationship and your partner accepting you for who you are you her, the fear has to be removed and once you are both yourselves, you will find that, that is the formula for a very happy relationship in my opinion.

 

I have found in past relationships that the women I had been with could not accept certain things and would use the emotional rollercoaster for whatever reasons they thought were best to deflect the truth as opposed to accepting whatever was the issue at hand, never growing as a person and living behind a façade, suffice to say, I decided before I met my wife that I would never allow emotional rollercoasters to supress core issues and I was therefor not going to be unhappy in a relationship ever again, otherwise I would remain single. I got very lucky meeting her, she is one in a trillion.

 

The above said, I believe my wife of 14 years suffered enough in her life to appreciate that life is and threw out her baggage as she grew before meeting me, i.e. if she had any, as I haven't seen any in those 14 years of marriage, having moved on and accepts me for who I am and what I want out of my life, now that takes a brave woman to think outside the square in my opinion, but it also works both ways, after all, we are all growing, life is short, and we must make the most out of being happy and in love, arguments, negativity and emotional abuse destroy.

 

If anyone wants the link to my Mills and Boon novel, just let me know ????