Lucky old you in Thailand with a young wife

[off road pat]

9 hours ago, RichardColeman said:

I think most of us went through the candy shop phase when we first came here, 50 odd year old, knocking around with the 20 year old fit slim women. I certainly enjoyed it for many years.

 

But then some sort of reality takes hold for most of us. That 20 year old is not going to be pushing you in your wheelchair or wiping your bum in old age ! 

 

We mostly find suitable partners - yes, after the candy shop - that are nearer to our own age and not 40 years younger. 

 

We all fall apart in old age, going through it on your own and your 20 year old g/f watching it cannot be fun. I'm 58 now, the wife 44, we are slowly falling apart, and it's comforting to know we are falling apart together. I do not feel sad about the odd back pain, grey hair loss or lost tooth, etc, when it's happening to the wife beside me. 

 

I also know the difference now between a loving wife with that will be there to the end, as opposed to a loving g/f that I have nothing in common with that will be there until the money runs out

 

 

Best post on this subject,...

 

[ThailandRyan]

2 hours ago, stoner said:

married for 15 years now thanks. mine is different. 

Yet no one elses is...hmmmm

[473geo]

Interesting thread, I see Thailand and my current marriage as yet another chapter in my life, going well so far

 

Will it be the last......who knows......

 

I wonder how many guys here have ever just packed a bag and left, it's not that difficult, once you know, then it becomes possible to push the boundaries ????

 

[connda]

3 hours ago, stoner said:

scary how many men are in the mine different crew. 

 

you are delusional to think women actually care for you. any of them. they care what you can do for them and how you can provide for them. security children etc.

 

simps will get angry at my post in 3....2.....1

Men are motivated by T & A.
Women are motivated by ATM.

[jerrymahoney]

3 hours ago, stoner said:

married for 15 years now thanks. mine is different. 

Mine is different: A prodigious set of knockers.

[darbyman]

Met mine through dating agency.  She 40 years younger than me; good looking; engineering degree; good job as QS. I asked her why interested in older man. Answer-Thai men completely unreliable, lazy drunkards. Older westerner more likely to be faithful, reliable and more financially secure. First 3 years of marriage spent in Thailand then came back to UK 12 years ago. Wife has her own care business and works hard. Money saved to return to Thailand in 3 years and she need not work again. Great! her experience as carer in UK means she takes care of me in future. Age difference fully accepted by others both in Thailand and UK. One small exception was when we went shopping  when a little girl came up to me and said " my mum says you are a dirty old man" I looked to her mum and thought "yeuk!!)

[hotandsticky]

2 minutes ago, 473geo said:

 

 

I wonder how many guys here have ever just packed a bag and left, it's not that difficult, once you know, then it becomes possible to push the boundaries ????

 

 

I did that, about 14 years ago.  It empowered me, it gave me independence and I knew after that I could live anywhere in Thailand with having to depend on a Thai lady.

 

 

We actually got back together again a month later and have been together (ish) ever since.

[hotandsticky]

15 minutes ago, jerrymahoney said:

Mine is different: A prodigious set of knockers.

 

 

A Pound says his passport says 'Somchai'........

[jingjai9]

It is the norm that elderly farang men will have a Thai girlfriend half their age or less. As normal as it is here, don't expect the same thing if you take the girl back to farang land. It may be awkward for both of you and people close to you will shake their heads. Some ladies within a year of two after arriving in your home country may very well trade you in on a younger man with more dough. Often the family back in Thailand will not deride the daughter for divorcing, they may very well accept or praise the move as good business. In my experiences I think many Thai

women look at marriage as a business and think sentiment merely fogs the vision. Many girls face pressure from the family back home to fork over the loot each month, especially when their dear daughter gets a raise.

I knew a fellow in the States married to a Filipino woman. The family back in the Philippines know the man's pay date each month and faithfully ring up the daughter to see if the money will be on its way as scheduled.

 

Having said this, would you be any more honorable if your family was poor, your opportunities limited and the onus of support was upon you?

 

[jerrymahoney]

9 minutes ago, hotandsticky said:

 

 

A Pound says his passport says 'Somchai'........

You lose. Somchai rarely gets pregnant.

[hotandsticky]

7 minutes ago, jerrymahoney said:

You lose. Somchai rarely gets pregnant.

 

Fair comment.........

 

 

Send your bank details and will send over the Pound.......

[jerrymahoney]

7 minutes ago, hotandsticky said:

 

Fair comment.........

 

 

Send your bank details and will send over the Pound.......

That's OK. I've heard worse on here. Usually about her 'brother'.

[jerrymahoney]

27 minutes ago, jingjai9 said:

I knew a fellow in the States married to a Filipino woman. The family back in the Philippines know the man's pay date each month and faithfully ring up the daughter to see if the money will be on its way as scheduled.

Then there can be something like this (1995):

 

A gunman killed his pregnant mail-order bride and one of her friends and critically wounded another woman as they waited to testify against him yesterday in a marriage annulment hearing, police said.

 

Timothy Blackwell met and married Susana Remerata Blackwell in the Philippines two years ago. They separated two weeks after she came to the United States.

 

https://www.sfgate.com/news/article/2-Women-Shot-Dead-in-Seattle-Courthouse-3043509.php

[joecoolfrog]

11 hours ago, Gecko123 said:

Dated stereotypes and hackneyed clichés too numerous to mention. Interacting with bar girls does not make one an authority on village life. These days most foreign men and Thai women in relationships are more savvy and realistic than the article suggests. Couples with extreme disparities in age are also far less common than in years past.

 

May I suggest an upcoming article topic: 40-50 year old digital nomads discovering that their dreams of supporting themselves by becoming a travel blogger or vlogger may not have been very realistic.

 

Precisely !

My initial reaction on reading this ' article ' was that I had stumbled on a ' newbie ' guide from 25 years ago.

[jerrymahoney]

13 minutes ago, joecoolfrog said:

Precisely !

My initial reaction on reading this ' article ' was that I had stumbled on a ' newbie ' guide from 25 years ago.

When you see the word OPINION now in the topic header, that generally means Michael Bridges.

[473geo]

Life with a Thai lady is easy if one is open to compromise 

 

Leave them to enjoy home made pla raa ridden somtam 

 

I am left to enjoy coffee and home made banana muffins 

 

Age difference irrelevant ????

 

 

 

 

[Lucky Bones]

3 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Let's say you are 60 and you have a 60 year old wife. Do you think she gets horny when she looks at you?

People of all ages and body types and even people with disabilities love each other.

Many of us like to look at sexy young bodies. But that doesn't mean it's impossible to love a person with not such a young and sexy body.

Hey Bloke. You lost me at the "she gets horny" bit.????????

[Kinnock]

20 minutes ago, joecoolfrog said:

Precisely !

My initial reaction on reading this ' article ' was that I had stumbled on a ' newbie ' guide from 25 years ago.

Yes, such a stale cliché that's been recycled so many times it smells like expired pla raa.

 

After reading many posts from ex-pats who've been happily married for 10, 20 or even 30 years, I reckon the success rate of 'asymmetrical' marriages in Asia is better than the rate for conventional falang/falang marriages in the West.

 

[ChasingTheSun]

Young hot chicks with YOUNG UGLY rich guys. See it all the time in the west.

 

Its almost always all about the benjamins.

 

Funny how relative financial success makes a man look much more hansum than he is, in all cultures all over the world.

 

Very few young hot women want a LT relationship with any man(regardless of the mans age) who has significantly less earnings potential than they do.
 

Now it’s even a trend for many young less-attractive girls to call themselves “lesbians” rather than have to settle for a LT relationship with low-income/“loser” guy.

 

 

 

 

[Kwasaki]

40 minutes ago, joecoolfrog said:

Precisely !

My initial reaction on reading this ' article ' was that I had stumbled on a ' newbie ' guide from 25 years ago.

Only 25 years ago. ????

[silver sea]

1 hour ago, darbyman said:

Met mine through dating agency.  She 40 years younger than me; good looking; engineering degree; good job as QS. I asked her why interested in older man. Answer-Thai men completely unreliable, lazy drunkards. Older westerner more likely to be faithful, reliable and more financially secure. First 3 years of marriage spent in Thailand then came back to UK 12 years ago. Wife has her own care business and works hard. Money saved to return to Thailand in 3 years and she need not work again. Great! her experience as carer in UK means she takes care of me in future. Age difference fully accepted by others both in Thailand and UK. One small exception was when we went shopping  when a little girl came up to me and said " my mum says you are a dirty old man" I looked to her mum and thought "yeuk!!)

Congratulations. I hope it continues well for both of you.

 

Can work the other way too with a 40 year age difference. A 17 year marriage so far. She’s not Thai but it is another story with a UK background:

 

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-11115545/A-couple-40-year-age-gap-celebrate-17th-wedding-anniversary.html?ns_mchannel=rss&ico=taboola_feed_article&ns_mchannel=rss&ico=taboola_feed

 

 

 

Daily Mail reader has their say:

 

[Rocking Robert]

My last marriage in the states,the cost in money property and pension. These girls will never come close to getting that much

[Lucky Bones]

3 hours ago, malthebluff said:

Sounds like your another who been stung and out witted by a thai girl. No brother she us an only child and family have never asked for anything from me in the 7 years I've known them.

67 million people in thailand 52% of them female but if you stay in pattaya/ patong or any tourist bar scene  then you dont know Thailand and sat listening to bar flys will never give you a true insight to make a true comment 

Sorry to crash your party but no,  never been stung etc, nothing to be  bitter about.

Your wild assertions are just that....assertions.

I spend 1/2 my time (of 9+ years) in East Pattaya & the other 1/2 in the wifey's village, Central Plains.

Don't do bar stools these days and have seen a couple of my 2 week millionaire mates "stung".

They just say no, he is her brother and her old husband died in m/c crash, hence the kids.

Possibly their girls are "different".

Sound familiar?

Oh yeah. I like to think I still have a sense of humour (warped maybe)????????

[BangkokReady]

15 hours ago, webfact said:

With no support from the father of the child, often their mother or even grandmother will look after the baby, while the girl travels south to earn money to send back home. 

What they can earn in the north is a fraction of what they can earn in the south.

 

I thought it was normally girls from the North-East, who then headed South-West?  Is it really girls in Chiang Mai that get knocked up and head to Pattaya?

[KIngsofisaan]

9 hours ago, Neeranam said:

You seem to think that all choices are dependent on money. 

 

She might fall for a broke farang because of love,  mine did ????

Good thing I know her and you don't.

 

She won't every fall for a broke anyone.

 

To many scars from growing up dirt poor, with no running water or electricity.

 

Yours did because you obviously didn't measure up.

 

Not sure why so many of you always think the worse, just because it happened to you?

 

Maybe look in the mirror

[NanLaew]

15 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Guys of any age want pretty (healthy) young girls.

Girls want guys with resources.

That's nature.

The beauty of Thailand is that men and women still accept these facts and don't pretend otherwise.

Many men in farang-land are so brainwashed from all that feminists <deleted> that after a while they actually believe they prefer old women. 555

You've obviously never had a big-haired, blonde <deleted> from Dallas on the cusp of her menopause. Now that's what I call a proper rodeo.

 

Apart from a cuteish, 30-something hostess from Maduro, Indonesia (with the "snapper" organs), nothing and I mean NOTHING has ever come close.

[Neeranam]

2 minutes ago, KIngsofisaan said:

Yours did because you obviously didn't measure up.

Mine did what?

 

 

 

[KIngsofisaan]

6 minutes ago, Neeranam said:

Mine did what?

 

 

 

Your wrote this, did you forget what you wrote 5 minutes ago?

 

She might fall for a broke farang because of love,  mine did 

[TonyFromItaly]

7 hours ago, Hanuman2547 said:

Welcome to the club.  However, my Thai wife passed away many years ago.  Oh, and I met her in my country where she was a graduate student.  

I've heard that if the Thai wife die, It's a big problem with the Marriage Visa for a foreigner, because the marriage Visa expires consequentially.
How was your experience?
Thanks

[billd766]

14 hours ago, ChaiyaTH said:

It's a fun thing to see with all those live webcam streams, a few on Samui for example. You can often see how their faces and body language really works out, right after the guy does not look at her or when she turns around / talks to friends.

 

Same thing I always love to watch people from bars in real life too. I have to say, first I didn't like to see it, then I adjusted but the longer I live here, the more I see how disgusted (and disgusting) both of them usually are. 

 

I sometimes feel sorry for the guys, who do not seem to notice at all, how their beloved wife behaves when they go to the toilet, look away etc. That is even often when they are of the same age tho, just the majority of all couples here I see.

The exceptions there are, beautiful relationships sure, but very few (lasting ones).

Sorry. but I am 21 years older than my wife and this year we celebrated our 22nd wedding anniversary and we knew each other for 7 years prior to that. Of the 20 or so foreign friends that I have, most of us have been married 15 or more years and some for nearly 30 years. To my knowledge only 2 have been divorced and one died recently.